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I can't say. As hot-angel said, love does crazy stuffs but hummm ordinarily, I wouldn't. It'll be disrespectful to my friend or relative and if the break up had a devastating effect on my friend or relative, dating their ex could open their wound by bringing back memories and it may be too hard for them to deal with. A friend of mine dated my ex and i didn't feel bad though cos i was really over the relationship and wouldn't have taken him back. i just prayed she enjoyed it while it lasted!

In my case, it goes on and off. sometimes for over a couple of years, i'll be ok and then all of a sudden it comes back. the last time it occurred was like a couple of months ago. i had been diagnosed with malaria and put on a drug called athesunate. Boy, it was horrible. i don't know what the connection was but i noticed that i started to feel the ulcer pains whenever i take the drug. it was so bad that even after my doctor stopped me from taking the drug, the pain persisted. i was put on a drug called Omeprazole and flaggyl for a couple of weeks. the pains stopped after 3 weeks. My Mum who is a Pharmacist says she thinks my regular intake of diclofenac and ibufen during my period( i have very bad and sever cramps) has agravated my ulcers and advised that i cease to use such drugs, but believe me i can't survive those cramps without them. she says it's because i take them without food cos when i'm on my period i lose my appetite. so Layi and Gp do you think that these drugs could be connected with ulcers? pls comment!

when it comes to sugary substance, people vary.
i have a friend who says dark chocolate helps when she has cramps

Seun:
Yes. And I believe it's only justified if a child is caught in act of violence (such as hitting or pushing another child). There are some children that are beaten so regularly that they can no longer respond to any discipline that does not involve beating. Every morning when I wake up there's a child crying in the next house, and sounds of beating. That's violence. That's sad.

There are a thousand and one ways to discipline a small child without resorting to violence, and once this foundation is strongly built, the temptation to resort to beating diminishes as the child grows up. This approach can only be practiced by parents who have time for their children; parents who don't have time are in the habit of using the little time they spend with their children as cain time. And that is why, when they are old, their children are not interested in taking care of them.

Seun, Seun, Seun,
Spanking or yelling may not always be violence. with kids, you need to be loving, yet firm. you make sure that you address their wrong acts and not their personality. they should be corrected in love. occassional spanking doesn't mean hatred ( note that i didn't say beating them brutally). discipline and being firm is important. you correct firmly with one hand and pull them closer in love with the other hand. there has to be a balance. Kids who grow up with this balance will definately understand that disapproval to a particular action of theirs doesn't mean total rejection. indeed they will love their parents more and appreciate them.

Seun, Seun, Seun, you make it sound like the couple would definately break up

lets give the young couple a chance, though i agree that the real danger will happen if they eventually break up. that is if they would

@allonym,
it's not that easy. we are talking about family here. no one wants to be disowned by their family. we can say it's none of their bussiness who we fall in love with but it's our bussiness to reason with them and understand why they are not in support of that relationship.

i would not be totally happy to know that my family is not in support of my relationship. that would really hurt. but then again, we can't give up the one we love just because they asked us to especially if their reasons are not rational or concrete.

most people are saying it's wrong without giving reasons. it could be wrong, depending on the context or circumstance. it all boils down to motives and the person's intentions.

whats the difference between Miss A, who doesn't live with her boyfriend but sleeps with him when she visit and is pregnant on her wedding day. Miss B, who lives with her boyfriend, sleeps with him and is not pregnant on her wedding day. or Miss C who insists on standing fully for what she believes, she wouldn't sleep with her boyfriend and wouldn't live with him so she's not tempted to sleep with him. or Miss D who stay with her boyfriend occassionally, doesn't sleep with him and is not pregnant on her wedding day. it's all about motives. God sees ones heart but people can't.

for the sake of another person who is not strong enough, it's better not to stay with him.
all thing maybe lawfull but not all things may be expedient. it may not be a sin, but it maybe indescent.

i don't really have a best food but i don't mind poundo and rice in any form. i love amala and tuwo but when i comes to semovita, count me out. i love pepper soup but vegetable soup is the highest, as long as it's made right. hmmmnn

It's not much of age, maturity is the word.
i would marry a younger man if he's mature enough.
maybe just 1 or 2 years younger cos i don't wanna look like his mother by the time i'm 50 just kidding!

I'm happy that my friend is feeling better and I'm happy for K2DaC, whose Mum's feeling better also!

OWEN!!!!!!

@dablessed
@goodguy
@feeding, i say thumbs up! well said!

I've been single most of my life but not lonely. yes, atimes i get bored or something but not really lonely.Whenever a relationship is over, i learn to let go and see it as one of those things that happen in life. most times, people feel lonely cos of misplaced passions. they dump all the love they should put in other relationships like friends and family e.t.c on their boy or girl friend and so find it hard to let go when the relationship is over. it becomes more like an obsession or insecurity, so the moment they get outta one relationship, they jump into another. they are afraid of being alone.

this loneliness really is a state of mind cos you could have the whole world and still be lonely. being single shouldn't mean being lonely....

you're killing me. what a site!

you got me there i must confess...

What a day! may God console all those who are grieving and may the departed souls rest in peace.

JWdayise, I can imagine how you feel. your emotions all acting out. you want something that you really shouldn't have. Matters of the heart can be very difficult to handle and they shouldn't be taken lightly. life itself is a battle. a battle between what's wrong and whats right, what should be and what shouldn't. you must fight my friend. don't let let your feelings rule you. It may be difficult but you may never forgive yourself if you give in cos the consequences may be grave. this is just one of life's hurdle.. jump it and don't look back!

loving someone that doesn't love you as much as you love them. they cannot relate with your feelings, maybe they'll never feel what you feel. at moments like this, i wish i was never in love!

nddy:
i wouldnt be part of this, i have no faith in Nigerian system of GOvernment., The media could have intervened before he killed. They captured it ., why didnt they do something.

i can understand how you feel nddy, but we can't just continue to allow these things happen. lets make an attempt at least. the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. if we keep waiting for someone else to do something, maybe no one will. we are one voice, lets speak out loud. it's really sad

it's okay to tell everything if the relationship is one that will lead to marriage but then again it's not like you have to start confessing your sins or reading out your life like a book. talk when needed and use your discretion. Honesty, they say is the best policy but i say,in addition to honesty, be tactful.

i kinda agree with you, some girls just love bad boys. they know he's a player yet they allow themselves to be decieved. It's a crazy world we live in... i can't fathom it..

it's not okay for me to give in just because he keeps asking. infact i won't give in for that reson. in a relationship, there should be understanding. i shouldn't have sex with my boyfriend just cos he wants it. he should also put me into consideration especially if i'm not ready for sex yet. i can understand that it might be really difficult for him and all that, but then again, true maturity is being able to accept a no. in true maturity, we may disagree but still hold hands. if he goes to satisfy his urge elsewhere, then i'm afraid we're gonna have a little problem.

@ nddy
no you wouldn't sleep with your best friend but that simply shows that one can have a healthy relationship without sex.

@ hot-angel
the truth is most times you get all the crap from your so called boy or girl friend especially if you guys have a wrong foundation or missed the basis of the relationship. people get into these relationships for the wrong reason and having the wrong expectation.
the truth is, your boy friend is the one who first complains about things like weight gain and stuff. it's annoying cos most times he complains for the wrong reasons. not because he's worried that your excessive weight gain is not healthy but because he doesn't want to date a fat girl.
you can be yourself around your best friend, fart( i'm not saying it's decent) e.t.c cos you know they'll accept you for who you really are. no fear of rejection. there's no competition. your best friend takes time to know you, your likes and your dislikes.
your best friend understands the difference between ' i need some space' and ' i don't want you anymore'. i mean they don't read meanings to everything you say.
that's why they are your best friend in the first place.
it's not that easy to find a girl or boy friend who will be that understanding. well, maybe you will if you are dating your best friend or one of your best friends! the truth is, it doesn't really matter, best friend, boy friend or girl friend. just accept and love people for who they really are.

Wow!!!
I'm speechless!

i really get confused about stuff like this. i observed that most of the qualities cut through most or more than one month.

My Dad once told me, learn not to place too much importance on anything(material things), so you don't hurt or have an emotional breakdown when you have to live without it.
those words, i'll never forget.

Tithing is something that most people don't understand. most preachers emphasize the need to thithe because it is believed that the thither is doing his or herself good and not the church. it's a convenant between you and God and that is what makes the rest of your finance or income remain. It kinda acts like a covering for the rest of your income. noone should force anyone to pay thithe as the thither should fully understand the benefits of thithing and willingly agree to partake. It could be referred to as one of the rituals of christianity. it really doesn't cost much to give to Ceasar what is his and to God what is likewise his but we sometimes find it very hard to do.

c'mon men.. do you want to sleep with her?
why didn't you ask your brother for the money afterall he's the one you have the relationship with.
get the money from another source and leave your brother's crib..