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Most relationships that began in secondary school was not marriage-driven. Infact most of them just didn't know what they were doing and they were not properly guided. They just continued communicating on family friends basis or thereabouts until they intensified their intentions as grownups about five years before marriage.

Secondary school is not the basis for any serious relationship. Only infatuations occur there. In fact anyone who does not have a career prospect solidly founded has no business with relationship. It's when you know what you want to achieve in life that you'll know who best suit your life's purpose

But have you considered that this true love you're talking about may not give you the peaceful home that this one has given you. You only loved her at that moment, you had not walked through life with her as a family for 10 years

Lol. Werey wife

I still don't know why these whites go into marriage when they know they can't give it what it takes

You don't have responsibilities. That's why. When you think of the shame that comes with inability to pay up your rent, children school fees, medical bills or loan repayment, your penis will be tamed without any drug

"mad person" not "mad man"

Stop being a contributor to gender abuse

It could be caused by stress and anxiety amongst other causes

Stale on TikTok. Maybe news here

Give your life to Christ and he'll help you overcome sexual immorality. The ignorance of humans is 'how can it be easy to overcome sexual sins in this generation where it is easy to have sex and pornography is free on the net?'

The fact is, you need God to help you. The human flesh and nature, motivational quotes etc are too week to help you stay off sin. If you acknowledge and tell God you can't help yourself live holy as a man made of flesh except he helps you, then you have engaged him to make it possible for you to stay away from fornication and adultery.

How do you think some men (christians) just don't get freaked out about sex despite the salacious dressings of ladies and temptations they see everyday? A divine power is responsible. You too can get it

Lol. True!

The girls with real substance don't have funny and complicated bios. They keep it simple.

They're plenty on fb and TikTok too, not only on dating sites. Some call themselves Jesus baby after three abortions

It's the local, unexposed, unenlightened, poverty-stricken girls whose hope is to get a financial Messiah as boyfriend on social media that post such bios and it's really funny.

You didn't talk about them snapping pics with rich people's gate as background. Some are living with their elder sister somewhere, some in face-me-i-face-you apartment while others are house helps at lekki.

I like your analysis of the bible

Lol. You're the ones giving yourselves marks? Where's the instrument you all used to measure your faith in God

Maybe I'm the only one who thinks this way...

When you have the real experience with God; a deep one, there are some pastors you'll hardly believe in. But if you're still a mediocre who seeks God for just miracles and blessings, then all pastors who have crowd becomes your daddy in the Lord including obvious Odumeje

You saw your husband's social media account making a comment that you find offensive and you acted without seeing him, neglecting that there's need to talk engaging in conversations to really know him beyond who you think he is without letting him know the evidence you found about him online or that his account could have been hacked a few minutes ago. You have not heard from him after seeing the post and have not in real life initiated occurrences related to such so as to study his reaction and know who he really is, compared to what you saw online knowing well that people live a pretentious life on social media where many pastors, choir leaders, alfas and even turban-sheiks share nude pics and are engrossed in porn.

Maybe he's even been a victim of abusive motherhood or negligent upbringing among many other predisposing factors that may lead to why he wrote such and you never knew despite the two month closeness to wedding or perhaps he's just showcasing a social media attitude. You know how many frustrating comments content creators get online? Comments that those who post it can't do in real life. Wait o, hope you're not a social media novice who believes everything online.

You ignored doing all that's necessary and just vanished immaturely from a nurtured relationship. Perhaps your immaturity and misunderstanding nature is one of his major mind battles that pushed him to write such and you don't even know. Perhaps you've not shown him the deep love of a woman and you're probably one of those women who considers themselves first in anything and only expect that the man loves you deeply while you just receive care and gifts. You should learn to know your role in his life and play it more. He's not a happy man.

You were not dating a girl, you were dating a baby. Next time, relate with a woman

Samantha125:
What's stopping you from approaching ladies in public?🤭🤭🤭

Are you still this traditional? Do you understand temperament at all?

Not all people love to start up with public approach as you love it. Both male and female. So you could reduce the African belief of walking up to a woman like one maazi-odogwu of the village. Everybody can't see things like you see it.

There are chances of meeting varieties of people at distant locations and overseas online than limiting oneself to only the people physically present where you are

You can't get your ordained life partner with your own knowledge or someone's idea posted on the internet. You need prayers or a deep relationship with God to marry right!

Ignore crazy advices and just find the way forward. You should use this opportunity to get closer to God so he can heal your battered soul and empower you against such insulting evil. Living life outside Christ is worthless. I understand the suicide feeling, you don't need it because God loves you and you should cry your heart out to him

If you were a christian, there's just one prayer you would pray that such people will regret their actions. You will find a loving person soon. It is well

Mine is the opposite. I grew up with someone who's so stingy in the midst of plenty, who would spend a lot on herself and hardly give any family member. Such is life, what turns the front view to one person turns the back view to another. We're all to learn from each other's experiences.

I think he needs a therapy as it's likely psychological. If he's been through an abusive upbringing before, he'll find fulfilment in being helpful or empathic about other people's hardship. It's one of the effects of abuses on male children especially when the abuse has reached a high level.

If it's spiritual, he should go for deliverance prayers or you should intercede for him. I assure you, God will answer genuine prayers that comes from the heart.

1. To avoid further minute stains like the stains on the line

2. Very yes. We accept it as it is cus we were all born to met it colorless. Any color we were born to meet it as would still have worked fine.

3. Erythrocytes (Red blood cells)

4. Especially in the morning after waking up. Inactivity of the mouth over the night breeds multiplication of bacteria which is best removed that swallowed

5. It's been confirmed scientifically that oxygen is a content of air but it's not the only content. Other contents that we breathe in are Nitrogen, inert gases, and some carbon dioxide. The respiratory membrane in the alveoli/lungs are selectively permeable to oxygen only. Others are breathed out in minor quantities while carbon dioxide is the major.

6. Seminal fluid makes sperm whitish. Lactate makes breast milk whitish. If it was any other color, breast milk would still be drinkable as in the case of water.

R for Reverse

The factors that causes such are not far-fetched.

1. It could be that you married the wrong person

2. It could be that you married the right person but facing the early years syndrome which is not abnormal for about 5 years. It happens in many marriages as you both are just beginning to blend together after about 30 years of living totally different lives before meeting each other. You should also bear in mind that courtship or boyfriend-girlfriend dating is totally different from living together as husband and wife

You must have heard that until your marriage is 10 years, you are not ripe to celebrate marriage anniversary... it's true. It is when you have blended with each other well, with children living with both of you and there's peace which usually takes about 10 years, it is then that you are fit to start giving marital advice to younger or impending couples. Until then, you should expect to work hard to make it work. Sadly, many marriages don't survive that 10 years.

So I hope yours is number 2 not number 1

AlphaMale666:
You just open your mouth and start spewing rubbish. Where do you know me from that you know I've gone through some post traumatic experience? Please don't talk like you know me from somewhere. I'm single and very happy and never gone through any traumatic shit in my life!

No happy person just hate people for being couples. You're not happy and that's what you call alpha... Very funny. Your style of talking sef is faulty..sorry but it's true

Lol. Alpha male. You're reacting to some emotional trauma you've gone through in the past. Nothing is wrong with couples doing their thing. Even if it's obvious they're so wrong for each other, your own life goal is your focus in life. Having hate for people around might not make you achieve that goal

Both Abuja and Port Harcourt are expensive areas to live in. But I'm sure in that Abuja, there will be affordable places if you cut your coat to your size. 190k isn't much of money but good to start up life as a young man.

Get a side hustle or a second source of income. Marry a working wife or who does business to complement you financially

None of the above for me.

It's the high prices of foodstuff, petrol and transport fare that's eating deep into my pockey

You mean you acquired so much goods as a student that you need a whole truck motor to pack them. What would have happened if you were a woman or would happen when you start up a family.

Stop being afraid and stop winning her heart by giving her money and gifts at least for a moment. I'm sure her real person will surface

Gandrova:
Forgive her you said?
I hail oo

Yes. If it's not possible, I won't have said it. I've seen it happen before

yomi007k:
Bro I got nothing to prove.

If my woman goes on cheating and we have kids, I will leave the union. She will be the one doing the DNA tests to prove that they are mine because I won't even want anything to remind me of her.

If the children are eventually yours, you will lose more as it will be too late after many years to breach the gap between you and your children who would have developed strong emotional attachment to their mom despite her flaws.

At old age, when your kids are supposed to live your legacy and your wisdom and patience has increased, there will be regrets of you taking a rash decision over someone else's mistake

Incomplete information. Who are you staying with? If it's your parents house with many flats. You're already in your own apartment. That's why I said there's need for more information

Does your fiancee also work? What work does she do. You lack self-control in which aspect?

For you to sit down and evaluate your life like this shows you're thinking properly and you're tending towards self development. Do you know there are men of 35 who don't even take time to think about their life following the right channel?

As much as it is tolerable, a woman still stands a better chance of having more sexual affairs than men cus they don't have to spend a dime. All they need do is expose a little body part and many no-future-ambition men will troop in a competitive way to get her number with promises to spend on her.

It comes luxuriously for women without asking for it. Men have to work for everything they get including women. Hence the huge maturity gap between both genders. Only women who have been in positions of having responsibilities or younger ones to cater for usually measure up to the level of maturity that most men have

Therefore, the body count of women at a young age in any society is averagely twice the number for a man her age. They're only experts in hiding the truth about their body count when it's time to marry while the men who have had only a few body count would be lying that they've dated numerous women just to hype themselves and make the girl think high of him in handling women matters

Deceit upon deceit