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First relax and know that you're in reality.

Don't raise any alarm, keep the evidences you found on her phone.

Conduct DNA tests for your children one by one. Stay away from her sexually henceforth.

If they're your children, then decide if you want to forgive her or you want a separation considering that she might continue later if you don't give her a deep fearsome impression with your actions

If the children aren't yours, then you know what to do.

I wanted to build a palm sandal too. The cobbler told me 10k. I was surprised

Mopeola:
Not by beauty but does she got a good heart

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What a confused man

dominique:
Someone that divorced him in 2016 when he was already a multibillionaire. He impregnated another woman while they were still married, that could have played a part in the divorce.

You alfa males keep getting hopelessly pathetic by the day. You know your target audience are too stupid to carry out simple research, that's why you compose a pile of trash for and they stupidly gobble it down as long as it denigrates women.

You keep calling women fish brains but if you look inwards within yourselves, the realm fish brains is you menfolk!

So has Elon musk stopped womanizing now? Why does she regret her action towards an erring man then? The love she's thinking about now is what she should have thought about before. She acted selfishly and it's too late.

One thing I wish God could change about creation is the huge reasoning gap between male and female gender all over the world.

One is risk-bearing, the other wants only enjoyment without risks

One is thinking about a great future, the other is thinking only about now

One is thinking on great benefits for everyone, the other is selfishly thinking of herself alone

One is working towards providing for his wife and children neglecting his own needs, the other is expecting money and gifts from husband and even children while she does nothing

One is a giver, the other one knows absolutely nothing about giving but always receiving

One gives love, the only thing God mandated for the other to give is submission, yet they don't know how to give it, they even expect men to submit to them

And they're calling for equal rights, please where does the equality come in, I don't understand

The moment i call the 2nd time and she dosent pick up
I block her number immediately

I don't know about whether you're mean to girls or not but I do know that this shows that your short temper is true and you may lose good opportunities due to poor relating capacity with people.

A person has turned down your calls, you don't need to block, you only need to ignore. That's what stable-minded people do. Blocking shows you have emotional instability

Better without

Softmirror:
It is always funny when men think the are strong and powerful lol 😂. IT'S A WOMAN'S WORLD!!!

Small show of your flesh and the lose control.

He's not lost control yet. He's only caught responding to physiological stimuli.

Just like it's no crime to have an erection as a man but following the direction of that erection is bad

It's difficult to convince women. They don't usually understand except they see, witness or experience what will shock them for a change

Fuckallmods:
Why is investing in someone wrong? I want to see her make it too… asin u no go like make ur sister boyfriend still invest in her too?
but ur problem is me investing in my girlfriend? Go and sit down

iamdocToyemi:
Boss I weak for these guys o, is it a crime to help even a stranger talk more of your girlfriend. In as much as it won't hurt your livelihood and it is convenient for you, please help as much people as you can.

Oga it's the truth that will help you that I'm sharing with you.

Your first investment bro, should be to groom her view and attitude towards life to soothe your lifestyle... That's the first thing men do. Where did your own masculinity come from.

Financial investment has a sole unarguable goal...To make profit, irrespective of relationship! So the relationship matter should be well grounded first. Why do you think men don't send girls to school except she's bethrothed to them.

How can you expect her to make profit when she doesn't even understand commitment. You just wasted investment. Imagine! Woman weh you no marry or relate to.. Nawa to you o!

You've invested almost a million and more in a girl whose maturity about life can not secure a relationship.

Your case is like Christmas chicken that's well fed and now thinks it's owner loves him.

This is an American speaking. If it was America, he would have been investigated but here in naija, if you die, your death is personally yours

This generation of christians are the weakest ever existed. Some have never even seen a supernatural miracle before let alone believing one. Some don't know there are angels in every genuine christian gathering hence don't take fellowship seriously. They go to church with open cleavage and butt-tight gowns hoping to get miracles from God in the same gathering where some other people who have been on a long fast for many days come with deep faith to be touched by God.

This question only shows that many nowadays don't understand the factor behind fasting neglecting that any situation that can make you abandon food for a long time or sleep at night for vigil is worth seriously taking your attention from sex especially as the zeal not to stop fasting and praying until something happens takes you over.

You probably have been fasting because your pastor says so, not because you have the personal zealous drive or desperation to see something change about a situation or that you're tired about something and you have only God's intervention as your saving grace. When your passion to fast reaches this level, you won't remember sex at all at that moment cus your flesh will be extremely down and subdued

Maybe you have another option besides God sha. Like if God does not work, you will go and see one of your big uncles or relatives for help or one baba that will conjure magic for you or so. Some people don't have anywhere else to turn. It's either God or they're finished. Its your type that anxiously look at the time about 3 hours before time to break the fast.

If you were a sensitive introvert, I would have suggested online dating for you. Sounds strange but works well. It gives you a variety of girls to meet than physically. Physical first time meeting only works well for super extroverts but it also makes them predictable and vulnerable.

You should be able to ask seriously targeted questions playfully like you don't mean it so she can freemindedly give you true answers and make a girl come see you first than you going to see her. That doesn't mean she's cheap. Likewise a girl insisting you come first does not mean she's a wife material. In fact in my opinion, girls who extremely do the hard-to-get attitude have dark pasts they're yet to get over. Most good girls keep a simple life and approach. You should learn to think outside the box

Pinshuroridonbilivit

You can be likened to Solomon who tasted 1000 women and then called them vanity.

Well, you never man up finish o cuz even when you're married, you've still got to master your ability to prevent pregnancy. Men weh no master am don produce dozens they can't cater for

Then the fact that you've had it only a little times and you're already feeling irritated is a good therapy to help stay away from it until you marry. You just might not be able to find a girl like yourself who hasn't gone too far cuz if the mileage of many girls' kpekus can be measured with a meter scale, my brother, the scale go cut especially those churchy girls. No even mention abortion scale, the scale go catch fire

You were looking for a man six days ago and now you've gotten him. Lol

So 3-4 days was enough to verify that he's your man. What if he's married and you've not found out?

Abeg no make me laff too much

Samantha125:
Sometimes is because they don't feel sexually fulfilled in their marriage.

Ok true. Some women have strong sexual needs too but they usually get attached to one cheating partner unlike men.

Samantha125:
Then why do you think there are so many paternity frauds?

Cus women cheat for the reason I mentioned earlier.

Samantha125:
Same thing also applies with women...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

No. Monogamously, women cheat with who loves or gives them material things more.

No monogamy rules of nature for men, men are not obsessed with receiving things and men don't need love

Samantha125:
I've never been tempted to cheat, but I have had some secret crushes here and there.

I think that's just part of life, there'll always be that one person that you find to be very attractive out there apart from your husband or wife... What matters is how you handle that crush.

That one person for women. For men, it's usually not a one person thing. It's anywhere he feels sexually and respectably fulfilled.

A man having sex with his two wives at same time is party, not twosome.

The same way they were convinced to be wives to one man and maintain peace, they can step up their confidentiality and still maintain peace.

The temptation to cheat comes up often. But whether to cheat or not depends on two things.

-Your conscience
-Your partner's emotional sensitivity.

When they say on the wedding day 'don't let a third party intervene into your marriage'. A lot is required to ensure it. You may be mature enough to admit your fault and be ready to make amends but what if your partner does not have that same maturity level and is so insensitive to your needs or desires and he/she is centered around himself/herself, the third party will definitely come in or you may be left to cheat subject to what your conscience tells you.

dierich:
So, what do you think I should do now? Report to someone close to me from her family, like her mom?
Coz this is really bad of her. Imagine it's even once last month. I traveled, spent 6 days in another state, when I came back she don't even try to initiate it as a sign of missing my presence. When I tried to do it, she'll behave as if she don't understand what I need. If not that I have it enough during my 6 days trip, I would be having wet dreams by now.
And I don't like the fact that my wife will be with me at home and I'll be think & missing another lady giving me what I really want.
It's not as if I'm not taking care of her, if I show u her throwback b4 marriage and after marriage, you'll know I give her everything she want.

Yes, tell her mom or dad. If they're no more, tell someone in her family you know she listens to. To me that's the next positive way forward towards a change except you wanna register her for emotional and sex therapy if you can afford it.

Then you who's been pushed out before 25 must be a wild animal

You should have picked up her calls to avoid it becoming this embarrassing. You picking up her call once in a while and telling her to keep to only messages when your wife is around would have stabilized her emotions and keep her stable for when you need her. If she can't keep to messages, block her number when wife is around and unblock her when you're alone.

She has an all-or-nothing kinda emotion. That's definitely the reason for her restrictions earlier. She knows herself. Such people in most cases form hard-to-get extremely to guard their emotions cus once they fall in love, they become helpless and lose their mind totally. She'll depend on you to help stabilize and balance her emotions, meaning you have to be emotionally independent yourself, but it seems you've not met or date such girls before cus her disturbance seems strange to you. They're victims of abusive upbringing

If you want to keep her as side chick, what I said up there is what I think you should do, otherwise, discard her.

dierich:
I don't want to discuss that kind of issues with anyone, especially both my family and her own.
I've spoke to her several times, she'll promise to change but still she won't. I know some people may criticize me that I'm jobless, but hell no. I'm hustling real hard but it's just my libido. Within less than 3 weeks, if I don't, wet dreams will set in.
This makes me to cheat which I want to totally stop this year but I don't think she'll give me the chance to stop cheating.
And if I should take a second wife then that's the end

That's my point too. You shouldn't take a second wife spontaneously. You should let people know the reason for such action especially because offering 3-5minutes sex once or twice a month is very low and bad for any man. Asking beyond that does not mean you have excessive libido. It's rather your wife who has very low sex drive likely inspired by considering only herself or perhaps, hormonal imbalance.

Amidst other issues, my wife n I have it daily. When she's tired, she teases me with a kiss apology (I insistently trained her to do that though) and I'm sure some women do better than that. What I'm grooming my wife to do now which she's not been doing well is initiating sex during the day. I'm usually the one who initiates that when it ever happens. So, many men are enjoying what you think is a libido problem. It's your wife who should work on herself. The problem emanates from her.

3nity7:
funny, very funny Mr Negativity.

'emotional' is not negative
'peaceful' is not negative

I'm sure you know that. Their description is about the pros and cons. Simple!

3nity7:
nawa for you o. You just described the 2 temperaments negatively

On the contrary, it's you who need some education

Introverts get two types. The emotional and vengeful melancholic and the peaceful unemotional phlegmatic