jclassiq:

I blame low self worth. She is overcompensating for her perceived inadequacy -- her average physical look.

Exactly, funny how girls think because niggas will Bleep her means she is hot or beautiful.My gender fit Bleep anything so far e be woman.

Ehinjuola:


See complete grown up man in 2023, chai we have lost it.

Na sarcasm.Read before you comment

ibkayee:

Has the OP confirmed this?

He didn't say rape.It is not hard to say.You want to take the blame of her or what?

There are women who sleep with their sisters husband most times it isn't rape

Nigga tell her to go and fix herself and all before she enters a relationship with you.So many baggage omo.

ibkayee:
Just sounds like she’s been through hardships, to be honest most of the things listed don’t actually have anything to do with her directly as an individual

When you say her sister’s husband ‘slept’ with her, it’s not clear whether it was consensual or rape

Don’t think people should be penalised for bad things happening to them or people around them that they had no control over.

If you can’t move on from these things however, cut the relationship and don’t waste her time

Nobody is blaming her.Life dealt her a bad hand.He didn't rape her,I think it was consensual.Women like her dey quick looseguard.Any form of love like this dem don open leg.
If they don't love you,and you love them you go suffer.Their choice of men is usually trash.
She should go and fix herself first before she enters a relationship with him.

It is mostly the ugly ones that do these sha

pimplucious:


Does it actually matter? I really don’t see anything unusual in all of these really. One thing I hate and won’t do when she’s around is sweeping and dishes. Not like I can’t do it I just hate it. Those I like doing I do without being forced.

I am just saying...I want learn from you.If the habit is sustainable because you might later turn to your duty instead of hers.Once once looseguard and see her reaction.

Preciousgirl:



He knows very well I am married
I wear two rings

Give in to him.He might be a better bedroom master than your husband and you will get promotions like water.

And you are not the only one he is kpanshing in thar office sha

pimplucious:
No ish in this. I’m the one mostly doing the buying of foodstuffs cos my wife can’t drive. I do the cooking too a lot of the times cos I love cooking while my wife sits watching tv sometimes

I don’t think there’s an issue with this at all.

How long are you married?

blazepascal:
Why not i will buy it and still cook the meal my self

He said buy not cook.Na people like una be simp.Overdo

But a good wife will feel disturbed that she is sending you on an errand.Except you tell her not to worry.

That is her turf or kingdom..you might not run it well.

questioner:
@ peedeeasobie and jimmychang
Thanks for your responses.
I am so happy with the quality of responses I am getting.

@ jimmychang
What do you mean by the part - someone will control if for you.
care to explain better

Your life as a man ,you don't need permission to do certain things.Always trust your guts or instinct,if something is wrong then it is.If your gf is telling you that the house you rented your neighbour is dangerous why don't you check yourself.If she wasn't in the picture,won't you get to know your neighbour?

Take charge,ask him,talk to him be his gee.He can be your eyes when you are not around.Life is a game play it well.

Nigga no looseguard.You are the man,take charge of your life or someone will control if for you.

jamesversion:
I spent over N15M on my ex gf last year. So what??

Lesson I learnt was never to spend such amount again on any lady im not married to.

Shame no go allow you talk am if you really do am.

Saintmary:


You will continue in your endless search for submissive women until you realize what you need to do.


Keep wailing.

I will get a submissive woman definitely no cap.

muyico:
O tun de laro yi?? God wil nt let women mata kill U?

Amen

.

Saintmary:



So, your opinion is that women should not have money.


Because you insecure, immature man-babies need someone to rub your fragile ego for you.


It's such a pity that you had to drag such a responsible woman who chose to focus on her children after her husband's demise, and refused to remarry into such an unnecessary online banter, I'm talking about your mother.


Can't you see that you're the ungrateful one?


She sacrificed her financial prospects and the possibility of becoming richer on her own because she didn't want to share you and your siblings for your extended family to turn you to house helps.


She didn't do it because of respect for your dad, she did it for you.



You need to use your brain better, women have the power and right to make choices, and your mother's case is not the same for all women. Some women are fortunate to have money, some chose to struggle to have money, and they end up rich, if you can't swallow the reality, look for a poor woman and marry her jejely.



Stop crying in our ears, pick your type of woman and face front okay?




Now, don't you ever mention my Father anymore unless you want me to change it for you.

Like I said she did it for my dad LOL.she said it herself.You think you know better.You haven't answered my question.If you made money as a wife and you think you are now bigger than your husband then you should divorce him.You don't need to disrespect him at all.

Most Nigerian women aren't submissive,if they have money they will show their true colours.A submissive woman is a woman who has money or can be dangerous and choose not to.She still obeys her husband even if she has the money or capability to go.That is why I date girls who have something going for them lol.

On the part that she suffered and raise the children and bla bla bla.The husband didn't raise the children too right?.She was the one that impregnated herself I guess When she had nothing, didn't he provide for her or sacrifice his time for her and the kids lol.He never said he was irresponsible.She is the ungrateful one.All the times he sweated to provide food on the table is now nothing right?


Who cares if women have money Most times they don't give it to their husbands it is for themselves.While the husbands money is for the family.Some are so stingy that they still ask their husbands for detergent money even if they have millions.

Men like me don't give a Bleep if their wife have money

Saintmary:



You were so much in a hurry you just pulled out a response from your anus.



You didn't bother to read the original post properly, neither did you understand my response.


You didn't see the part where the man said his wife informed him about the event before attending.


You just want to vent your frustrations on someone abi

I am not frustrated, I was only frustrated at your shallow and slow mindset.Mind you I didn't say backward because I still think you can learn.

Girl calm down and think slowly.

Saintmary:



You this ant, what is your problem?


If I have a father, a responsible, honorable man who taught me that you and your types are the kind of men to avoid, how is that your problem?

If your own father never valued your mother, how is that my own problem?


If your mother never stood up for herself and she was treated like a rag by your father and his family, how is that my own problem?


If you cannot get a quality, intelligent woman and all you have is broken, emotionally unstable women who don't know their left from right, how is that my own problem?


Stay in your filthy environment, roll with your dirty low lifers, and maintain your lane, okay?

You don't have a father with this above statement I have concluded.The fact that you tell someone before hand doesn't automatically mean you have been given permission.Use your head.

Funny thing is that he has been allowing her go out since without problem.Just this once he has his reservations she disobeyed.Isn't that a red flag to you?(ungrateful)

My mum was humble and submissive and she never remarried again.You see the love and respect.Even in death my dad is respected.

Like is said most women are too emotional and ungrateful.Once they have money their husband becomes their houseboy.Shalom.

Amasimichael:
U better take dis issue very serious. It's really a strong negative sign. Blatant disregard to ur authority in dat manner is so so wrong. At least she wud have tried to convince u for ur approval. Is it that her journey is more important than her husband and marriage? This is a reflection of lack of respect for her husband and value for her marriage. Take this matter very serious Oga. U can tell her u wanna end the marriage and watch her reaction. Cos apparently she does not even care.

He shouldn't threaten her with divorce.He should scale back and observe her well after communicating his feelings.Then if there is no improvement,he should divorce her straight up.

Saintmary:



Why don't you lock her up in the house?


This woman has kids in the university, so she will be above 40. She has her own businesses, a fully matured elderly woman.


You want to be ordering her around like a 16 year old?


You people are not ready.

So the fact she has a business,above 40 and has kids in the university gives her the right to disrespect her husband


Women will neve have sense.So if I am a man and I am 50,I have kids in the university and i am wealthy.
If u want to go out ,i shouldn't inform my wife or explain to her the reason I need to go If she doesn't want me to.

Women can't handle power or money, they will burn everything to the ground .So it mean you won't have respect again.


MEN MARRY WOMEN WHO RESPECT YOU.WOMEN DON'T LOVE MEN.THEY ONLY RESPECT YOU

Saintmary:




If you're not cheating on her, and she's not cheating on you, the only solution is to hold your peace.


If you need someone to flex your muscles on, face your kids.



At that age, you shouldn't even think of controlling your wife. She has sacrificed so much to give your kids a stable childhood, the least you could do is let her have some peace in her life at this stage.


She didn't steal money, she didn't beat your Mom, she only attended a party, why are you looking for trouble where there's none?

You obviously don't have a father in your life.You won't be spouting nonsense if you had.You sound like a teenager.

funkmrflexx:
There's a lady in my street that's always talking about how her husband is always buying her new hair and new things (I actually think she wants to make my wife jealous) so yesterday both of them were gisting and my wife got an sms alert (from mtn), she saw the text and said "wow baby u sent me money, thanks so much" the lady was like "God when, see love"

I remembered she always tries to intimidate my wife with her story of her husband buying this and that, a lot of women will probably tell her she's lucky and wish it was them but not my wife

If your wife be mumu she for join her friend and start disrespecting you or comparing you to her husband.Thank God say your wife na angel.

BigYash:
The next time now she will start deleting the chats,and if op catches her again,she will have a private sim for the game.. That's how they upgrade. So,when you suspect,you don't just start reacting. You're to wait ,be in detective mode,and gather good evidences. Her answer to you ,when you asked her about the chat means a lot. Ordinary sorry baby,and blocking the idiot missing someone's wife in your presence, would have saved us this noise. Who even know,if she told him,she was still single

Exactly, just gather a lot of evidence and shut her up with ot when she wants to gaslight him and form there he knows what to do.

spice123:

My brother, I hardly comment on issues on this simply because of wrong perception but I will share my own experience.
My wife chats with her ex from time to time which I am fully aware right from the time we started dating till we married (her ex is married now). I've equally had a WhatsApp call with the guy in one or two occasions (friendly talk). I've come to build some rapour with him.
When this guy came to Naija I and my lovely wife went together to visit him. You see eh, everything in marriage is maturity. As it is we're planning vacation to the States sponsored by this guy. I'm a PROUD SIMP but I'm still in control.
With the way you're going with full blown Alpha male attitude, you will loose your wife. Thread carefully!

Bro you think you are in control . My guy you are not.He is the one in control.Your wife even respects him more that you.Deep down i know your wife wished they were still together.

Playfully ask your wife If her ex ask her to see him and you tell her not to go who will she listen to?


If you get the answer get back to me

This one wife don use this one brain do moimoi

dontrulee:


You go give yourself hypertension!
I have many married women on my WhatsApp that call me darling, sweetheart and my Love. I just use to wonder how their husbands will feel like if they come across such chats??

Many married women that are caged physically become wild online especially WhatsApp. I try and avoid married women as much as possible, many of them are starved of sex and emotional Love. It's so sad

Caged physically? What sort of dumb assumption is this.You people will be supporting irresponsibility

You will get married and your wife go dey call people baby,love for your presence lemme see how you will react.

When you know that women can never be satisfied and will always be loyal to their feelings or emotions and not to your sacrifices you go wise up.

Give her all the freedom in the world,she will misuse it.

MRAKPORS:
I read my wife's chat with another guy, apparently an old school mate
In the chat, the guy said he misses my wife
And my wife said she misses him too

Please is this proper?

From EA e go graduate to PA

See bro,you shouldn't have confronted her at all.Now she will get better at hiding it.Keep calm and pretend,watch them and gather your evidence then bombard her with it.

If she says you are Insecure or flare up and blames you then my guy she is cheating.Women get aggressive when they are caught cheating.Just get better evidence next time and plan your next move.

Why is it that some guys don't get it.They will never get it until they see shege.That girl go play you, you go cry come here come dey swear for yourself.

You even showed the girl how much you are earning also showed her how much you saved.Nigga you dey on a long thing.

You dey show woman your account balance.

inspirator1:
Acting cool when the other person annoys you, is good at upsetting their plans. I react only when I want to get more viles revealed through you, if not

Presently my Director acted wrongly to me, he expected my other reactions rather I feign like I am not in the known and nothing happened. Every minute the man keeps asking me, "What did I do wrong?". I will reply "Sir please, I do not really understand" , accompanied with a good smile. The man go just weak, walka enter office. I recently japa from duty; out of the blues I asked for unofficial leave even when leave calendar never start , he granted it o

You see.Everything is not gragra

Samantha123:
What are you talking about

Stale,I will pass.

inspirator1:


Good thing you said you are not married. This works during dating period not in marriage, trust me. For some women, once you do this, you just released brimstone and hell.

The wife of op to have this kind of effortenry means the fight have a higher degree of violence which she is ready for. The moment op does anything that aligns to her expectations, she will now flare up because she had planned this for a while.

To the op, I advice you to act as if not happens but first just tell her straight up, prior to her coming back that you are definitely disappointed in her (not with quarrelsome voice ni, just feign indifferent).

Let me use this story to buttress my point. A married man discovered that the four kids birthed in his house are not his after DNA test, he didn't shout at the wife or did any harm, rather he pleaded that the woman should not tell anyone about the situation since he has accepted the kids as his and have bonds with them. Few days later, the story was known in the neighbourhood...how? The woman was scared to the teeth and went to an older woman to tell her the secret; reason was that she is scared that the man was upto something sinister for him to act cool in the midst of this scam.

Now this works for me on my wife...I will definitely act cool, even become more romantic, do stuffs I have long stop doing..as in she will be trying to understand my moves which I keep multiplying with reverse psychology. However, I will be firm and regiment most of her moves. The apologies will just follow and I will still feign nothing has been wrong. If she brings up the topic, I will shove it and say not ready for it now since we are cool.

This is true happened to me with a female friend.She was expecting me to shout and stuff.I just walked away.She later called me to apologise and said she was amazed at my maturity.

But I was planning my revenge sha.I am at worst anger when I am silent.