The agenda must agend

I am in love with the mum

Nia69:
We've been friends since 2021. She acts clingy, I don't like it, but I've been enduring it so I won't hurt her feelings. I've told her more than twice, but she doesn't stop.

Those kind people have trauma.Tell her to love herself first.

You don enter trap already,the moment she started putting it on loudspeaker you should have cleared her immediately.When you picked the girl when she went to drop the kids you for clear the nigga.Tell him you know what he is trying to do and laugh.

Lastly your wife is a hoe.Them wan marinate her pussy.A 50 years old man without family lol.

Your wife too desperate or she is planning something.They were probably sex chatting while you were hitting the bell.

haekymbahd:
I need your advice guyz. I am a master students who never wanted to fall in love because I believe I have to look after myself/make money before going after ladies. In recent time things are beginning to change for me the money is gradually flowing in and I am living comfortable already.

A fresh student (lady) came to rent one of the vacant apartment which I stay in she didn't come from a wealthy home. In the blink of an eye we got together started doing things together like me giving her money to cook for us, she sleeps in my room then romance set in she starts manipulating me to love her I never knew it was all a game.

To be honest I knew about the red pill but I have never had a situation where I will make use of it. I fell for her I didn't even know how it happened I think when you spend a lot of time with someone and you get intimate love is bound to happen. I just fell inlove with my neighbor who happened to be a fresher. We started talking about relationships goals.

For like a month she acted nice and showed me love for me we were dating everyone around knew about it. She sleeps in my room every night.

When other returning students came because the were on holiday I realize there was a particular guy who happen to be a close friend of mine who also stays in that same house she flirts with and this affects me emotionally like while will she flirts with another guy in the same house I told her to stop that and she agreed.

There was recently a festive break in school and she went home for like 2 weeks she calls me everyday. I am someone who hardly call people even my parent when I realized she calls me 3times a day I returned the gesture by calling her too everyday I started falling I love with this girl.

To my surprise she came back from festive break and she stopped me from touching, hugging she didn't even sleep in my room again. I thought it was all because she felt she was loose when she first came or maybe she felt I am playing her but i didnt let that stop me from doing what I normally do for her like giving her money to cook for us and me trying to impress her that I love her and not there to play games, take her out to have fun. She was trying to turn me to a simp.

This girl didn't stop flirting with that friend of mine despite my warnings and she calls other guyz on phone in my presence even though she doesn't bring any home I ask who they are she claims they are just friends I felt like I was the one over reacting so I decided to calm down a bit and free her to see what she really had in mind.

Due to the fact that I have about the red pill already so I understood the games and how to play it with her. I knew i was to leave her at that point but we stay in the same house I will be seeing her everyday how possible can I use this knowledge of redpill moreover I am already inlove and I don't think I will be able to stand her bring another guy to that house I think she is trying to manipulate and control me which I don't want.


I only ask you guyz to advice is it possible for me to just leave this girl and focus on other things but we stay in the same house I feel she make me jealous by manipulating me and flirts with guys I could do the same too but I don't think I have the heart and to watch her do that to me.

The only option I have right now is to pack out of that house to avoid seeing her for good and focus on other things. The problem is I love that house and I have been there for a long time I can't believe a girl will make leave that house.

I want to ask you guyz is there a way I can stay in that house and ignore her but I don't wish to leave despite the fact that she will want to make me feel jealous by flirting with other guys I think she has gotten the upperhand over me right now cos I have fallen inlove already.

I feel like I am okay financially and I can get any girl of my choice but I don't think I can stand her bring another guy to that house she stays opposite of my room.

Number one rule never run parole with a girl in your neighbourhood or apartment

Number two.You can run parole if you plan on packing out after one year(I did this bro,I didn't let her know).And have a lot of bannies.Might not necessarily be Bleep buddies just female friends. So that she will see the competition.


See bro,you go question your sanity e go be like say you wan mad.Jealousy go choke you.If you have other girls it will favour you but if you only have her sorry ooh ...oga sorry ooh.

Mraphel:
You didn't won Atiku you're shouting you won Tinubu in election. Is it even possible? It will sweet me for Peter Obi to end up in Jail as soon as possible like Nnamdi kanu to serve as a warning to others like him up east. He has a plan thats IPOBIC plans.

I see him crying inside Jail within a year before he escape the country.

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gard9ner:
I never realised that alcohol can be this enjoyable, all my life I’ve always detested ppl that drink, whenever the topic comes up I always remember a certain wealthy man when I was younger, even with all his wealth he would drink himself to stupor every night and vomit, his driver would have to carry him, it was a very bad experience as neighbours to witness those nights especially as a young boy. So I concluded that drinking is unacceptable and I grew up with that ideology, not until recently I’ve started having a rethink.

For sometime now, especially couple of weeks ago leading to last Saturday’s election, I’ve been having a difficult time, I feel like I’m drowning sometimes, maybe it’s midlife’s crisis I don’t know, I don’t know how that feels but what I know is that I was gifted a bottle of expensive vodka last week and I accepted knowing fully well what I was getting into, I knew I was going to step into another phase in my life, I could have sold the drink but no, I kept it.

Like I said already, it’s been rough with me lately, the current cash crunch in the country isn’t helping, the last strew came when last Saturday’s election was announced by 4am, I was awake watching, it struck me like a bolt of lighting, I felt speechless physically but this deep hurt like my soul was groaning. Fast forward to date, I’ve consumed a couple of bottles like bloody mary, VSOP and other spirits which I mix in chilled soft drinks. I so much enjoy this new habit, I can never drink to stupor, I just lock up myself in my lounge, play some music and sip away or lock myself in my car at night and sip with music, I stop when I start feeling a bit sleepy, I just sleep quietly and peacefully. My wife just smells the stuff on me but hasn’t said anything, as I still talk reasonably and even engage her with more humor in those hours, I’ve also noticed that the house is stress-free, no arguments or hard conversations when I consume too.

Here’s my problem guys, deep inside me I know I’m doing something wrong, which is why I’m posting this anyway, even though I feel peaceful when I consume. I wasn’t raised this way, my father was never an alcohol person. I feel something is wrong and somehow I feel like I’m drowning and need help (laughs). I don’t know if this will get worse overtime or if I might be tempted to do more than this in future. I know I can never do drugs, smoke etc but this highness things is eating me, I just finished the last bottle of Strumbras spirit now which I shared with a visitor, I now think it’s even more pleasurable sharing a drink with someone. I’ve ran out of bottles now and I’m considering restocking but I’m led by the spirit to post this, I don’t want preaching, I just want to read other ppl’s comment and experience and how they navigated this phase of life (midlife crisis), preferably elders in the house if any, if you’re 40 and below and have no useful contribution pls don’t comment. I need this to get to FP. Thanks.

Sir in short, deep down you are not happy.

That drowning feeling omo.I have experienced it and I start smoking not weed but cigarette.I just smoke till my body gets hot and I bath them boom sweet sleep.

Search deep down sir or just take a break or vacation, this is for your mental health ooh.No loose your sanity before you turn drunkard and transfer aggression to your wife.

Or just learn to drink responsibly.

Reliableman:
If you have a wife or girlfriend working with male colleagues,please be very vigilant. The rate at which women are sleeping with colleagues or even customers to their offices is alarming.Some even go as far as going to hotels and lie to their men about their condition and go ahead to commit the act.Men please be very vigilant. The worse women who do this are the ones who look quiet like they can't hurt a fly or even serious church goers and Muslim girls too.I have seen and I have been told by my friends what this women do even in the office.Trusting women this days is hard, be vigilant.The cheating and tag on men as not been smart is too much and it hurts me

It is normal na.In work environment, it is not excluded to only Nigerians.If you know the amount of Bleep,adultery or cheating wey dey happen for offices ehhnn

IyaebeTheGreat:
All we need now is to pray for a better Nigeria and ask God to lead our incoming government right. We don’t need violence

Pray pray pray.....everything pray,ask God.Even God don tire for una self.

Never a fan of tatoos.If e like make e fine.....Nothing sexier than a skin without blemish or ink.

Prechgold1180:



That’s your own problem

Not mine but yours.

Ab025:


Okay, do something...

Test her loyalty. Tell her to stop hookup and be with you for now. Meanwhile, after 2 weeks, pass her phone number to a male friend of yours, let that good friend of yours chat her up and offer to pay her 50k for hookup....let's see if she falls for the bait ..

During this time, tell her you are down on funds..

The way she go take fail ehhhhhhhhhhh ....

Prechgold1180:
Bro before the simp calling nairalanders come online
I would tell u my own take on this
Bro if she is good then go for her
You can change her since she is willing to change


Life is deep
Don’t allow poor nairalanders tell u what to do
Majority of them wake up every morning with nothing to eat only to log in with their borrowed 50 mb from mtn get into Nairaland and start dishing out insult calling people simps online

Bro go for your heart
Find out about the circumstances that led to the birth of that child ask about the father

Get first hand information about everything if its all good den go for her

Nothing left in the street after all
Naija girls are all excourts Only few has less than 10 body count

Na only oloshos and mumu men go like and share.

Kokorokomaster1:
This girl accepted to date me in the condition that we will not have sex but we can have only romance and kiss, I accepted now we are dating, but I usually sub her I give her money sometimes to repair her phone and other things, but now I do not have money like that because of the situation of this country, I promise her that I'm going to sub her,but right now there's no money than after some days if I didn't sub she will start to act some how, she no longer tell me that she love me and she will stop calling me onless if I call, please help me, is she a play girl

Come look at this !!!!!

efficiencie:


Guy hear wetin you dey talk. You talk sey one fk is all it takes to turn some to nymphomaniacs. Well is it not better to marry a virgin and she turns to a nymphomaniac to satisfy you than to marry a hoe that is already a nymphomaniac needing the dks of multiple men? Virgins are conditioned to the first man and can easily be conditioned not to cheat but you cannot condition a hoe that has tasted the dks of hundreds of men. So bro, if you like marry olosho. As for me and my sons, we shall marry virgins and virgins only.

Read my last paragraph gee.You talk too much.

seborrhic:

Oponu.
They will try educating dumb skulls like you,yet your dense brain can still not process things
Just read the gibberish you quoted,read it again and see if it makes any single sense to you!
You just paint the picture of an almajiri that can make a call with a phone but doesn't understand jerk of what else the phone does.
I ask again,did you complete primary school?

If you dey read you no go det answer me OGA.Deep down you know say you no sabi anything.Na person like you go dey vex say why he wife go get wet if them rape am...say she enjoy am

You have Google on your phone use it.

seborrhic:

Her body will respond when she doesn't have feelings and is feeling pains?
Did you complete primary school?

You think it is feelings that make your dicks stand or get wet.Go and read rape stories from the victims and learn how they hate themselves after the whole act.Their body respond to it even of they don't respond.


Na you no even sabi anything ode!!!

seborrhic:
One thing I am always curious about:
How does a man have sex with a woman that is not sexually aroused or artificial lubricant applied,how do such men cope with the bruises on their pe nises that may even become sores and how do they manage to bear the pains they feel as they thrust in and out against the gritty surface of a dry vagina?

Her body will respond and get wet,they have no control over it.

Thegoodone13:
. Four men

Serial cheater!!!!!!!!

Ahhhhhhh.You have kids with her?

Omo,you dey try ooh.

frozen70:


No mater how e bad for woman, so far she done born children she no loose

Babymama mentality.Why give birth to children when you know you will mess up their lives with your cheating.You think it is just to have children lol.No father figure in their life while you keep jumping from man to man.You think you are a good example to them.Lastly they will end up like you and show you pepper.


Lastly men too gain more.I get married to her in her twenties and she later leave in her 40. I WILL NEVER REGRET BEACAUSE I WAS THE ONE THAT ENJOYED HER YOUNDG BODY AND STANDING BREAST.whoever is with her is now is with the LEFTOVERS

Thegoodone13:
. Thank you. I'm still with her but she refused to change. You can't change them when they started sleeping around unless if they want to stop it which is very hard for them

She refuses omo.If you are sure deep down you did everything a man should.I know no one is perfect but at least you go score 60 percent as a husband bro you have tried.

Bro,I don't know you but I just wanna say thank you for being a man for so long.E no easy.

Is it multiple affairs with different persons or a single person over a long period of time?

efficiencie:


Your wife has been cajoled by someone else and she is dancing to that person's tune. I always warn. Never marry a lady that is not a virgin. Ladies that have extensive sexual experience are more likely to be disloyal, swayed by circumstances and become a thorn in the flesh. I can guess that you did not meet your wife a virgin and her marriage to you was conditional on circumstances. If she decides to leave, you have to let her go, heal, focus on your goals and never make the mistake of getting sexually involved with the leftover of other men.

Rest your virgin talk my gee.Na small pikin dey worry you.Virgins cheat too ; .One Bleep is all ot takes some turn nymphomaniacs.All these virginity na cap.Marry Virgin if she wan cheat she go cheat when she meets a man than has more game than you.What you need to is marry a mature wife or woman.Someone that has sense.

I am not saying you should marry a prostitute or harlot ooh but Virginity is not a criteria.

frozen70:


That's not the meaning of them having opinions

Women value their children than bleeping

Children are options?

Explain.

waice6571:


I will definitely.... But this is not the right time to do so.

I'll definitely reference you when the time is right and I won't hide identities of people involved.

Thanks a lot and you will be better and stronger in Jesus name.

waice6571:



Bro.... What you are seeing is the true picture of things..... Just the way it is!

I hope one day I will have the courage to share my personal story with hard to believe concrete and damning evidences....

All I know is I will never go to prison for the sake of love or marriage.

Baba abeg share make we youngins learn.Tag abeg.

frozen70:


You made me laugh that I sort of manipulated the Op with my mention

The Op said he is confused amd doesn't want her to leave, do you want me to tell the Op to forget about her, will I feel her vacuum for him

A man doesn't need to look good to get a woman, there are more women in the world than men, so you can always get another woman

But will you keep changing women when they start their drama or you will learn how to humble one that you have when her drama starts

A woman can still be under your roof and play out, still returns back to your roof and you will never know
what if you are lucky she speaks out that she wants to leave, what you will do is to find away to bring her back before she finally leaves, especially when children are involve
Unless you are already tired with the marriage, the you pray for her to leave quicker

Lastly you said men have options
Look women have more options because the option a man have is still another woman

If you sell your dog and buy a cat, you are still staying with a domestic animal as a pet

Women don't have options that will keep them,they only have options that want to Bleep them.

Husbands can be stolen by other women
But no man will steal your wife.They will Bleep her and send her back to her husband .Who wants a cheating wife.

frozen70:


Peace is very important to everyone, at times, circumstances will make you to be the one to bring peace to the table

Remember the best and worst side of any human beings are after marriage is done not before marriage, so pray you get the one you can handle

Yeah,that is why I am prepared for anything my dear.I will love my wife and will never make her see any reason to move mad.If later she chooses to due to her own indiscretions and choice I will never beg her.I will let her go and do whatever she wants.Once a woman is gone she is gone.If she later comes back I will never accept her.

Peace is priority mam.Shalom.

frozen70:


Were you told she tasted another Gbola or you want to keep condemning women

If any man doesn't want his wife to look out he should do his job properly

The move will not end in complete failure because you are not a woman and you don't know what makes a woman have a second thoughts when issues like this comes up

Why do you think some men gives women their Mumu button, is because they value peace of mind

When you have your own wife, use her play gamble, that's when she will show you that women are drama queens

Taking advice from a woman on how to get a cheating woman back is a scam


Women are drama queens and bla bla bla.That is why women will never take responsibility even if they are at fault.I won't marry a partner who is emotionally immature.If you can't state the reason why you are angry or mad at me or why you start doing certain thing and you expect me to figure it out and win you over when I don't know what the Bleep I did wrong then you are not ready to be married to me.I am big on communication.

Somebody like you will cheat on your loving husband and still blame him for it

Someone makes you angry you sulk,I make you angry unintentionally,you sulk.You start blamainh everyone and throw a fit.Women are adults too.If I don't get a woman that can communicate cuz communication brings peace.Omo I go rest.

I want peace,I wanna leave longer than my father and grand father man.If she isn't giving me peace well I move.

frozen70:


Well you have to calm down at this point and be ready take it very calm with her

Just keep loving her and assist her at home and where needed

She will notice the improvement in you and that may bring her mind back home

Wake the kids and prepare them for school before leaving and ask her what she is preparing for their lunch

Get things that you are not use to bringing home, hand it over to her and tell her that is for she and the kids, even is she is coming home by 10pm, hand it over to her

This valentine, ask her to pick a place she wants you guys to visit with the children and ask her what time is good for the outing

Keep doing good and loving and definitely she will have a rethink

I purposely don't want to ask you what you did to her or why the sudden change in her
There is no smoke with out fire

Women are drama queens

This move will end in complete failure and his wife will hate him more.

Women and rethink after they tasted another gbola or start having an emotional affair

Thegoodone13:
The moment a married woman allow another man to sleep with her, the things will not be the same again. I'm passing through the same thing now. Your wife has tested forbidden fruit and its very hard for her to change. If the man friend drop her today, she will find another one the next day. It's only her that can make the marriage work again not you. No matter what you did, you can change her.

Sorry bro,are you still with her?

Trying to reconcile?