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chubbygal:
God I return all praise to you alone. FTC

macjive01:
http://www.topix.com/forum/uk/london/T9B82FQDHU6OU5G16

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/6/6f/Mercy_Olubunmi.jpg/200px-Mercy_Olubunmi.jpg





why is it always that ugly black women charges to be featured in movies and TV abroad only to be a source of shame and caricature for the black men.

aameyah:
Don't say you will never find anyone like him. You will find better sef.
I remember when my corper boyfriend told me Then he wasn't ready for marriage after 2 years of dating. He was my first boyfriend and I dated him exclusively during service and 1 year after service.
If I had left earlier the first time he gave me an inkling he wasn't ready, I'd have at least had a nice time during my service year.
Instead I was busy cooking and feeling like a responsible wife. I believed in him so much. Mind you, he didn't act the responsible husband by buying the Food or dropping Food money.
I had guys dying for me But I ignored them all.

Fast forward to the 2nd year anniversary of that relationship. He told me he didn't want to tie me down and that We transition into an open relationship whereby I'm dating him But if any guy comes to me for marriage, I should marry. We hadn't even seen physically after service, when I'd tearfully bade him bye.

No one in my family knew him. And this was 2 years after.

For me, that was the last straw. Why didn't you tell me all the time We were at service? Why after 2 years?
It wasn't an easy decision to take But for me, it was all or nothing. I Can't be with you and still be available for another man. I don't roll like that.
So I broke up with him....


TO BE CONTINUED....


NB - I think that was What he expected shaaa

MRBrownJ:
here is another confirmation of women and their low self esteem and insecurities. so, in your little world, a man who does not have the same goals as you "automatically" must be cheating?!

MRBrownJ:
what does love got to do with marriage?! are you saying that if you love someone you MUST marry them whenever YOU (women) are ready or/and desperate?! since when does 7yrs is the new limit for dating? funny how the care and wellbeing only matters when it is for women? (and we shouldnt care about the care and welbeing of men, right?)

MRBrownJ:
have we now become robots that we MUST act like all the other donkeys out there, like sheeps?!

the fact that you believe that a man should marry a lady simply because of her body clock is the most stoopid thing i have ever heard today, and i suggest you go and splash cold water on your face in order to get your senses back. any man or woman should use their HEAD/BRAIN into deciding if it is the right time to marry someone. they should NEVER use any other tool to evaluate whether they want to marry someone (or not). if all the necessary foundations are there, then they should plan on getting married, NOT BEFORE.

people like you have no RESPECT for marriage, and this is why you would think that anyone should get married for no damn reason, forget about their lifelong goals, and instead bring MISERABLE families into this world.

MRBrownJ:
there is no guarantee to that, but if we are now focus on guarantees and desperation because of body clock, INSTEAD OF love and being with someone that you can DIE for, then really....... whats the point of getting married then?



yet, in your mind, if "Gods blessings" dont come after 7yrs, you must look elsewhere?! what if it was "Gods decision" that this union dont have money, does that means this lady should go for greener pastures?



dont you think that a lady should confirm what page her man his on before "assuming" that marriage after 7yrs is INEVITABLE, as the OP wrote?
remember, they never talked about marriage before.



so what you are now saying is that not having money is ok so long as there is marriage? but what if someone DESIRES to have some financial stability before they get married and start a family, would you say it is wrong? why should it automatically be the desperate women's way and nothing else?!

although getting married could be free in 9ja, we all know what "getting married" in 9ja means. you ladies want the big wedding so you can boast to the whole world that you are "seemingly" happy, even if you aint. it is women's insecurity and desperation that have all of you act foolishly in the name of marriage.

if you REALLY love someone (as the OP said she did) then she wouldnt really care if they were married or not, and she would certainly "understand" her man.....and wait for him to be ready for marriage (why the rush anyway, if not body clock pressure?). just because she is ready after 7yrs, does NOT mean everyone should be. since when is 7yrs the benchmarks on dating limits before marriage? it is insecurity and desperation that have all you women marry the 1st donkeys out there, and then be miserable all your lives, instead of being reasonable about the issue. they both dreamed of a good job for 7 long yrs and, out of desperation, she now want them to marry (and subsequently have children) even if their goals are not met. yet you people are blaming the guy for sticking to their lifelong goals, haba!

no wonder the saying goes:" some women out there are just good at KILLING A MAN'S DREAM AND ASPIRATIONS!

JLM: hello,
pls y are u asking cos i was jst abt asking the same question too. Were u sent a parcel through them? pls let me know cos dats d only info i have on my side, i was sent a parcel bt de sed dey r at abuja only, n idnt knw precisely wia dia office is, i also dnt rilly know d person sending it too well. iwas also asked to track d parcel online, n i have done so. pls can u share wats d situation on ur own side?