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Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by A40(m): 11:49pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
MRBrownJ:McLaren no try oo! Because of wetin dem do Alonso you no dey post for F1 section again. The goal of any person is to get a good job/business. I agree Nigeria of now is at the worst possible time to get married without a steady income. However I see nothing wrong with the girl trying to find out her position. I don't agree with biting your tongue for anybody and I don't think that's what the girl is suggesting but clearly she wants a commitment and I see nothing wrong with that. I've been there before only difference I tell these girls to do what works for them when they start acting funny or droning over and over about marriage. They are at two different places if you ask me 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by MRBrownJ: 11:56pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
JLM: here is another confirmation of women and their low self esteem and insecurities. so, in your little world, a man who does not have the same goals as you "automatically" must be cheating?! NO 1, I repeat No man who "loves" you will keep you hanging, u know y? cos love means he cares about your well being, and your future, and is concerned that you are a woman and your time is going. what does love got to do with marriage?! are you saying that if you love someone you MUST marry them whenever YOU (women) are ready or/and desperate?! since when does 7yrs is the new limit for dating? funny how the care and wellbeing only matters when it is for women? (and we shouldnt care about the care and welbeing of men, right?) Have seen guys who wen they are not ready for marriage, or they have a nice gal friend, and do not want to keep her waiting and frustrated, they call her and let her go , because they understand what it means for a woman to be kept waiting till her time is late have we now become robots that we MUST act like all the other donkeys out there, like sheeps?! the fact that you believe that a man should marry a lady simply because of her body clock is the most stoopid thing i have ever heard today, and i suggest you go and splash cold water on your face in order to get your senses back. any man or woman should use their HEAD/BRAIN into deciding if it is the right time to marry someone. they should NEVER use any other tool to evaluate whether they want to marry someone (or not). if all the necessary foundations are there, then they should plan on getting married, NOT BEFORE. people like you have no RESPECT for marriage, and this is why you would think that anyone should get married for no damn reason, forget about their lifelong goals, and instead bring MISERABLE families into this world. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by MRBrownJ: 12:05am On Jun 11, 2015 |
A40: bro, dont mention it, i have sleepless night when thinking of this BS move Alonso made this year, and as hard as i am telling myself it will be better eventually, every weekend it is getting worse and worse...especially when i now see Ferrari getting on the level of Mercedes (let alone Vettel moving there, KAI!!!!!). the thread is closed if not, i would have cried my eyes out on that thread, lol! The goal of any person is to get a good job/business. I agree Nigeria of now is at the worst possible time to get married without a steady income. However I see nothing wrong with the girl trying to find out her position. I don't agree with biting your tongue for anybody and I don't think that's what the girl is suggesting but clearly she wants a commitment and I see nothing wrong with that. I've been there before only difference I tell these girls to do what works for them when they start acting funny or droning over and over about marriage. They are at two different places if you ask me i fully understand that she must sit down and talk to her man FIRST, so she knows exactly where she stands in that union, but what i dont understand is the people blaming the guy for having goals in his life and following them. she cannot force something like that and it should come naturally. who would even want to be marrying someone who wouldnt say YES genuinely? this is no different than emotional blackmail (and some women are expert at it). |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by jamela(f): 12:12am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Cavenchy: Thanks |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by prof800(m): 12:25am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:26 years? ...which means you have been in relationship with him since you were 19! Sis, give me this guy's number, I must to scold him and he must to marry you. The devil is a liar. You have 3 more years before it's too late tho. 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by A40(m): 12:33am On Jun 11, 2015 |
MRBrownJ:Hahahaha couldn't have happened to a nicer person. I doubt Alonso would score a point this year. Ferrari has improved on Vettel's arrival, Red Bull has declined since Vettel's exit. Coincidence? I think not The thread is still open check very well. I still posted about the last race in Montreal MRBrownJ:Truthfully I don't respond very well to ultimatums and emotional blackmail which is why if the guy is anything like me the girl might as well do like CeCe and keep on Walking. Women would be women and they all crave marriage at some point. I'm sure if it was a shorter relationship she wouldn't even be here asking this question, she would have since voted with her feet Let's be clear I'm not saying the guy is at blame for anything. Same way the girl has every right to walk out of this relationship if its not going to have a desirable outcome for her. They should be willing to meet each other halfway. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by bigcil2(m): 12:53am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz:I have a feeling you have experienced this before and youre been biased. No offence, but dont you think its just a one sided part you have heard, maybe not the full story. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 1:00am On Jun 11, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: Your mind is one way traffic. You are not fit to give advices dear. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by JLM(f): 1:21am On Jun 11, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: Oga dat statement does not insinuate cheating, it means that the guy gets to enjoy the best years of one girl, and then later leaves her to marry another, he doesnt cheat on her by double dating, but leaves after sucking away her best years. MRBrownJ: Yes a man that goes into a relationship with a lady whom he knows has marriage as one of her major goals, only to be vague about it when the time comes, without any tangible reason does not love such a lady. If she was a lady who was never interested in marriage or didnt believe in it, n he knew then there would be no reason to cry foul! Sometimes we just talk anyhow we like wen we r not in those shoes. Now tell me, if this lady was ur sister will u advice her to keep waiting for a man who says marriage is still so far for him after f^cking her for 7years, will u honestly advice her to continue waiting?? MRBrownJ: You have used the word "body clock" n am happy for that. So it means u know that a woman's body has its time, especially regarding childbirth, n d later it gets d more the complications. Tor Madalla. No 1 is forcing any1 to get married o lailai, all we are saying is if u r not ready to marry a girl, or ur timing is still in d far future, be decent, reasonable, loving enough to end the suspense n gerout of her way while she still has good time!!! For ur info, the parents that birthed ur grand n greatgrand parents, evn without attaining life-long goals remained hapily married some for 80yrs! Meanwhile dos of this age who claim to be such good planners n preparers cannot evn stay married for 3yrs , even after all their so-called goals! 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by keenn: 4:11am On Jun 11, 2015 |
I don't believe the idea of sitting someone to discuss matters concerning relationships actually works. Most people are saying ' why not sit him down and discuss what plan(s) he has for u' This method might be effective in some scenario but not most cases. A guy will want u to read him through his actions. I will advice u move on, but before that, show him this forum and the comments people make about him(at least u presented him in a good light to us) |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 4:29am On Jun 11, 2015 |
ForteNL:Ok,no P,reply my pm,Let's go private,we re derailing dis thread |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by blakky97(m): 6:47am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:okay. propose to him and marry him. its not a sin. Ruth and Esther made the first moves on the men they eventually married and yet they are the only ones who have books in the bible. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by jossiwan(m): 7:05am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: This might back fire. U need wisdom 2do dis... It should be someone he respect so much, and make sure u do not sound desperate. Let him know that you want to know his stand is; on your future with him... Finally, You can only wait for 2more years cox u will be 28 after dat n he's not showing commitment, my dear call it QUIT. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by khassy(m): 7:25am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: sorry Bae you have just been family-zoned you are simply a sister to him my2centa 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Sexxkillz: 7:39am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sweetrosa:No he did not. Lol 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by lupey: 7:49am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: Sexxkillz is baaaaack!!! *fist pump* yeah!!! That's what I'm talking about! |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by bayulll01(m): 7:57am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: The yorubas will say,oro kin le ka fi obe bu,after reading all your complains all I can say is a relationship that lack directions will surely end in trauma,since you mentioned that there is good communications and you people understand one another gud,talk to him,let him know how you feel,let him understand both of you make make the millions,the guy has target no doubt but they say two heads are better than one,so I will advice you talk to him,his utterances,body language will open your eye if he want to marry you or not 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by wiringdpt(m): 8:03am On Jun 11, 2015 |
If he won't discuss the future with you, he has already dump you. Stop turning down offers and where do I submit my cv believer01: |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by bayulll01(m): 8:14am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: Skillz you talk like a newbie,let the lady talk to the guy,his utterances and body language will talk sense to the babe,one thing have learnt is you don't advice a woman cos they always do what is in their hearth 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by funmeme(f): 8:50am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: God bless your brain dear. You are a life saver and I hope she's able to make decision babse on this meaningful advice given. @OP, there you have it, the choice is yours. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by funmeme(f): 8:50am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: God bless your brain dear. You are a life saver and I hope she's able to make decision base on this meaningful advice given. @OP, there you have it, the choice is yours. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Everydaeguy(m): 8:55am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:who are these people??are they the one in this sham relationship....who cares about what people say...you??seek your happiness first before considering another....everybody will not buy your opinion or go by your reason...those people should pick up a map and head straight to hell for all I care....7years into a relationship and he isn't making any move,ladies dnt like truth 2b told2him but here is the unadulterated truth.....your man has moved on,he's seeing another lady or probably grooming his wife to be,he doesn't want to be the one to break the ice,he gave u an attitudinal language which you understood but still questioning..the earlier u read,comprehend n digest the hand writing on the wall the better for you..I bet my girl friend on this,he isn't waiting to make any millions buh buying time to frustrate u so u cud leave by yourself... 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by boma95(f): 9:37am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: I'm not trying to insult you tho... But you sound too weak for a 26yr old U sound like once your guy yells at u,u just shiver and go back into your shell... babe ds life we just have one of it to live....obviously you can feel the signs but you're consoling yourself with how far you've come with this undeserving guy....7years is too long to just throw away yeah? Just like 10years will be too much to get dumped....what strategy is he plotting to become ds millionaire? What's the duration of his strategy? My dear the best advice you can get is the one you give yourself.....just do the right thing 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Dollarboom: 9:58am On Jun 11, 2015 |
You know there are certain issues in life that no one else can do for but you,yourself. You know this guy more than anyone else, only you know if he is your 'No one else but you' or there are so many other guys that can substitute him in your heart. Do a check of this one more time and follow your heart. At the end, whatever the outcome is you will have the joy of haven done what you really really wanted to do. Meanwhile, 1 Like
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Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by mommyice: 9:58am On Jun 11, 2015 |
mrklean: You are FIRED brother, simple |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by dotna(m): 10:03am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: I have never read this truth so brutal. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by omaji53jeremiah: 10:08am On Jun 11, 2015 |
my paception in relationship is, if you can not get what you want kindly leave before it is too late period. do not let all those voices in your head deceive you . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Sexxkillz: 10:30am On Jun 11, 2015 |
lupey:Hope you're good. . . |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 10:42am On Jun 11, 2015 |
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Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by OLUWAFUNMISE(f): 11:18am On Jun 11, 2015 |
give him time, know for sure you marry someday either to ''him'' or to him. God bless |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by believer01: 11:19am On Jun 11, 2015 |
blakky97:I won't try that cos I have seen 2different cases of the ladies proposing and making all the arrangements for the wedding but the husbands refuse to show up in the church. When the husbands were later questioned they said nd I quote "I am not ready" imagine d disgrace. Thanks for your advised anyways I will ask him if I am included in his future. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 11:25am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Acidosis: Would you prefer she spent the 7 years with 7 different guys? |
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