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Christianity EtcRe: Preacher Attempts To Walk On Water And Drowns. by joaquin64(m): 2:44pm On Dec 27, 2013
Validated: Quite like you drinking concentrated Hydrochloric acid to test if it really kills. Testing God is like show-case which the brother attempted to do. However, if it were such that he was in any danger and needed God to save him, e.g to cross over for the sake of his life, God would give him the miracle. God is not a magician that would call people (congregation) out to showcase His power. Christ never did and so any Christian practicing that is not of Christ!
Good point on mentioning the issue of "showcasing". So, would it make any difference if he tried it in the privacy of his home then?
Jokes EtcRe: Nairaland 2013 Most Common Characters - Are You One? by joaquin64(m): 2:16pm On Dec 27, 2013
loooooooool. This was well composed and made me laugh hard.


The "anti-tonto Dikeh crew".
PoliticsRe: INEC Registered A Bowl Of Rice As A Voter In Anambra by joaquin64(m): 2:13pm On Dec 27, 2013
...and yet, they say we have no voting rice
Christianity EtcRe: Preacher Attempts To Walk On Water And Drowns. by joaquin64(m): 2:02pm On Dec 27, 2013
mascot87: You shall not put the Lord your God to test
I am no non-believer, but sometimes I do wonder if such sayings were put there to actually not make you test anything at all! How terribly convenient isn't it?

After all we are only human, and humans are naturally curious which is no fault of ours. Couple that with the same 'faith' that is preached by the same bible, why then would they not seek to test things for themselves? How come it almost never works?

I'm just saying...
RomanceRe: Letter To A Nairalander I Have A Huge Crush On by joaquin64(m): 8:52pm On Dec 26, 2013
Thirsty little creature!
Foreign AffairsRe: Wife: Saudi Blogger Sentenced To Death For Apostasy by joaquin64(m): 6:48pm On Dec 26, 2013
joaquin64: ...but denouncing Islam while living in an Islamic country...Yeah, I know its good to stand up for what we believe and all... but didn't your mothers teach you better than to be an outright folly where you are most likely doomed to failure?!!

Anyway, as you make your bed so you must lie, abi? To each, his own. There is no point coming here to complain and spill any outrage on death penalties and Islamic policy brouhahas because as you may have learned through your entire life, those people could never cower to your western constructed ways of thinking and beliefs. Forget it!

Don't get me wrong here though, I equally sympathize and pity for the man's life and the so called backward practices of some parts of Islam but I believe that young man knew what he was getting himself into before he began that website so I honestly find it hard to find any pity for him and I cannot waste a minute of further concern for a man who may even be smiling right now in some type of self-contention on his death chair.
Foreign AffairsRe: Wife: Saudi Blogger Sentenced To Death For Apostasy by joaquin64(m): 6:46pm On Dec 26, 2013
joaquin64: ...but denouncing Islam while living in an Islamic country...Yeah, I know its good to stand up for what we believe and all... but didn't your mothers teach you better than to be an outright folly where you are most likely doomed to fail?!!

Anyway, as you make your bed so you must lie, abi? To each, his own. There is no point coming here to complain and spill any outrage on death penalties and Islamic policy brouhahas because as you may have learned through your entire life, those people could never cower to your western constructed ways of thinking and beliefs. Forget it!

Don't get me wrong here though, I equally sympathize and pity for the man's life and the so called backward practices of some parts of Islam but I believe that young man knew what he was getting himself into before he began that website so I honestly find it hard to find any pity for him and I cannot waste a minute of further concern for a man who may even be smiling right now in some type of self-contention on his death chair.
Foreign AffairsRe: Wife: Saudi Blogger Sentenced To Death For Apostasy by joaquin64(m): 6:44pm On Dec 26, 2013
all4naija: NONSENSE! This is an excuse of a fool! I don't think you would have the right to express yourself here if your forefathers were sacrificed to Gods of the sun and gibberish in the past.
I have every right to express myself as I deem fit and however I feel. You too have the right to your opinion and you should not castigate others for theirs. That is exactly what this religion (which I assume you are criticizing through your harsh remarks towards mine) is doing. You just did the exact same thing. It really does begin with us if you are inclined to change anything don't you think?

By the way I meant to edit my post before you retorted, so I suggest you read it once more.
Foreign AffairsRe: Wife: Saudi Blogger Sentenced To Death For Apostasy by joaquin64(m):
...but denouncing Islam while living in an Islamic country...Yeah, I know its good to stand up for what we believe and all... but didn't your mothers teach you better than to be outright daft?!!

Anyway, as you make your bed so you must lie, abi? To each, his own. There is no point coming here to complain and spill any outrage on death penalties and Islamic policy brouhahas because as you may have learned through your entire life, those people could never cower to your western constructed ways of thinking and beliefs. Forget it!

Don't get me wrong here though, I equally sympathize and pity for the man's life and the so called backward practices of some parts of Islam but I believe that young man knew what he was getting himself into before he began that website so I honestly find it hard to find any pity for him and I cannot waste a minute of further concern for a man who may even be smiling right now in some type of self-contention on his death chair.
PoliticsRe: President Jonathan & Patience During Christmas Service (Pictures) by joaquin64(m): 11:44pm On Dec 25, 2013
Looool. Mama Claus!
LiteratureRe: Suprisingly Common Mispronounced Words And How To Pronounce Them Correctly by joaquin64(op): 4:34pm On Dec 24, 2013
tell mod!
PoliticsRe: Obasanjo Faces Investigation 24 Hours After Jonathan’s Reply by joaquin64(m): 3:32pm On Dec 24, 2013
Sooooo we have an NIA? lmao! God help this country...
CareerRe: Woman Loses Pregnancy After Alleged Kick From Lebanese Boss by joaquin64(m): 3:30pm On Dec 24, 2013
I would easily believe this story because I have lived for over half a year with Lebanese guys before, and I must tell you, their kind's behavior can be the absolute worst! Total disregard for you as a human being. I do not hate them because of course there is good and bad in every society and we are not exactly angels either, but, the few I have met (not just the ones i lived with), my God! They are the rudest set of people!
LiteratureRe: Suprisingly Common Mispronounced Words And How To Pronounce Them Correctly by joaquin64(op): 3:31am On Dec 24, 2013
Get this to FP!
PoliticsRe: Join APC Or Leave My Cabinet – Kwankwaso by joaquin64(m): 3:11pm On Dec 23, 2013
So this is what it has come to? More to come, and worse...
CelebritiesRe: Beverly Osu Semi-Unclad Christmas Card (photo) by joaquin64(m): 3:09pm On Dec 23, 2013
I expected more. What the hell is this nonsense? Looks like the village housegirl!
Christianity EtcRe: Okotie Buys N120m Rolls Royce To Mark Pastoral Anniversary by joaquin64(m): 8:34pm On Dec 22, 2013
You all run to church, rich, poor and all, screaming your amens and looking for some miracle while throwing your monies at him as payment somewhat...why then wouldn't he be able to afford a wealthier lifestyle than you people? He is human just like you after all! But no, you would come to NL and lament and lament and yet today, this very Sunday, many of you still went and gave the very same people your money expecting life altering magic instead of working hard for them. And you will do it again next week...and next week... Keep quiet dere and let the man enjoy his new ride abeg! He too has worked extremely hard for it at the expense of your zealous quest for religion and not God who you should focus on.
CelebritiesRe: Afrocandy Banned On Facebook For Posting Unclad Pictures , Resurrects by joaquin64(m): 3:33pm On Dec 22, 2013
Out of (lets call it curiosity now lol) many of you did click that link didn't you? DIDN'T YOU?!!
TravelRe: Jigawa State Airport - Nigeria's Newest Airport U/C(pictures) by joaquin64(m): 3:16pm On Dec 22, 2013
Better than Ibadan airport.
CareerRe: 20 Ways To Instantly Build Your Self-confidence by joaquin64(m): 3:54pm On Dec 21, 2013
All this one is tales by sunlight. You want to build self confidence? GO TO THE DAMN GYM!
CelebritiesRe: 5 Most Humble Nigerian Celebrities by joaquin64(m): 3:53pm On Dec 21, 2013
This rubbish has made FP again?
LiteratureRe: Suprisingly Common Mispronounced Words And How To Pronounce Them Correctly by joaquin64(op): 2:17pm On Dec 21, 2013
Omexonomy: @op what is the relationship of pronouncing english words correctly and national development and growth using india china and japan even nairaland as case study.
Growth is a process that involves human and infrastructure. To grow, one needs to be educated. Education can either be formal or informal. etiquette and social skills, things taught at home, etc all contribute to personal growth. Learning languages too, not just your mother tongue alone, can also grant the necessary skills to individuals to communicate better in a world that is highly globalized. Learning languages involves not just passing across a message, but how effective that message can be transmitted from one person to another. When an individual is eloquent and confident enough to make presentations in public settings or meetings he can inspire his listeners or his business partners to take him seriously. The more you learn how to speak and pronounce perfectly in any language, not just English alone, the more you begin to understand the behavior and cultural values of the people you relate with. This can in turn make you a valuable choice amongst your fellow competitors or mates.

India, China, Japan and Nairaland have one thing in common, they speak very different languages. Between them alone almost well over 100 dialects. Bring them to a table and there will be lots of confusion. English is one thing that can unite them together, easily and more effectively. A diplomat, business man, or even a person in the midst of this eccentric group of cultures would surely stand out if he spoke eloquently with pristine pronunciation of his words. His words and messages would be less misconstrued if he was clear enough, taking time to place the correct stress or emphasis on his words. This would help him or her amidst other factors to become the right pick if in a business or political meeting. This in turn can lead to deals or treaties signed which eventually would play a role in contributing to National growth or development in his or her home country. Even if you had less than your counterpart in other areas, you could easily and more seemingly become a better pick if you pronounced "Affidavit" and "Mercedes Benz" properly. It is that little difference that showcases your level of exposure to not just the things you learned from reading books and school but to the whole world.

Little words, little things and a little exposure can make a big difference when you are out there. One day you may see for yourself. I hope I somewhat managed to answer your question.
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TravelRe: Annoying Things Nigerians Do On Airplanes by joaquin64(m): 12:55pm On Dec 21, 2013
LMAO @ sitting ovation. Some even stand! I totally forgot all about that one and that used to piss me off a lot when i used to fly in Nigeria looooool. The clapping just resonates from no where... like "yaaay we made it". I wouldnt blame them in Nigeria anyways where flying is akin to taking a death leap and praying through the fall you dont die. Flying is supposed to be the safest form of transportation with little or no hazard at all but with the terrible way our avaiation industry has handled the system... well, you have no choice but to pray and give an ovation at the end of a journey if you made it alive. lol.

Oh yeah and another terrible group of people (this one happens allover the world not just Nigeria) are those ones that before the wheels of the plane even touches the ground, they are up already struggling to take their bags from the overheads because they are in a hurry and everyone else isnt. Totally forgetting there is just one exit and there are others in front of them (first class/biz class people) that would still step out of that plane before them anyway whether they like it or not! Most of these annoying people are ALWAYS economy class and mostly even sitted at the back of the plane! lol
LiteratureSuprisingly Common Mispronounced Words And How To Pronounce Them Correctly by joaquin64(op):
I have been privileged enough to travel around the world, live in many different countries and study many different cultures. I have always been a stickler for perfect pronunciation of words most especially in English and within many of the other languages I have come to learn. This is why I watch a lot of movies, interviews etc and I particularly listen hard to improve my pronunciation skills. Many of us back home may think this of little importance till you begin to venture into the world out there and realize how undeveloped our English speaking skills are especially if you begin to travel a lot. Nigerian pidgin English is great, but in many ways has destroyed the way we should pronounce certain words. The earlier you start correcting them, the better for you.

I decided to spell out how it should be correctly pronounced using examples and sound-alike words and not the regular phonetic transcriptions you find in dictionaries to make for easier understanding. Stress too is of utmost importance in pronouncing words but I will not analyze much of it in my examples unless absolutely necessary. The examples I used are words that are mostly used in everyday English and also modern art, music, fashion, food, culture, etc. Without further ado, you may be surprised at some of the words because all your life you thought you pronounced it correctly until now...

Pronunciation: It is sad how many of us think it is "Pro-NOWN-see-ay shun". The correct thing is Pro-NUN-see-ay-shun.
Certificate: The "ate" is not pronounced the way you think. I know, lol, as Nigerians we make this mistake a lot. It is pronounced "certifi-KET. Yeah, in a way, Ibo people have the perfect accent for this word lol!
Candidate: The same applies for a candidate in an election. It is pronounced "Can-di-dit" not "date" At your own time check a dictionary also to learn where the proper stress falls. Stress is very very important! Learn.
Espresso: As in coffee is pronounced "ih-spres-oh"
Lettuce: It is pronounced as LET-iss not LAY-tews as we Nigerians usually do.
Epitome: Now this word right here is one of the most wrongly pronounced word in English. And i have seen many writers especially those that criticize politics, use this word a lot. Many say "Eh-pee-tome (tome as in dome)". Wrong! It is "ih-pi-te-mi" The stress is on "ih". Now you know!
Albeit: In English this means 'although' albeit mostly used in writing and not speaking. However, the correct pronunciation is "Awl-bee-it"
Affidavit: Ahhh, Nigerians lol. Don't lie you all know this word as "ah-fee-dah-veet" abi? Fail! It is "Ah-fee-Dei-vit". Yes, Dei as in david!
Lambaste: This word is popular with Nigerians when they want to talk about how a teacher or friend lambasted that guy the other day as in "insulted". Firstly it doesn't necessarily mean insult but it means to criticize someone harshly so in a way Nigerians use it right lol. But where we fail totally is how its pronounced. It is NOT "Lam-bahst" is it "Lam-BEISTe" the "BEI" as in "Bake or paste".
Mischievous: Popular word, popular pronunciation fail worldwide! It is NOT pronounced "MIS-chee-vee-us" as we almost every single Nigerian including myself does or did, but it is pronounced "mis-CHI-ves". As you can see, the stress is on the CHI not MIS like many nigerians do and it is a 3 syllable word not 4! Simple, mis-CHI-ves.
Alumnae: It is not "Ah-loo-mee-nai" as we usually say in Naija it is "A-lum-NEE".
Vehicle: Ehen, this word, I am sorry is there to stay forever in Naija vocab. It is cool in Nigeria to say "VEH-HEE-KOOL" but if you are out there or you are communicating with learned people, please stay away from that pronunciation. The correct thing is "VEE-ikl" Simple and straight. Only 2 syllables not 3! Learn.
Prescription: For those regular drug buyers, take note of both spelling and pronunciation, it is "PREE-scription" and not "PERR-scription".
Peremptory: The same goes for we students of politics and anything connected that uses this words constantly to describe war tactics (I must confess i am a major victim of this error), it is PER-emptory strike and not PRE-emptory.
Haute Couture: Nigerians wey una like fashion, learn this one because I see many celebrities on TV speak and I feel terribly sad for them because to you guys that are less aware, they may seem exposed and speak "funneh" (eg Tonto) but are pronouncing all their words wrong and their stresses are all over the place. Haute Couture is correctly pronounced like "Oht Koo-tewr" (the 'h' is silent) and not "Hot Kor-CHEW" lol. If I probably said this with my Ibo accent you would understand what i really meant and probably laugh hard.
Regardless: This is no pronunciation error but just want to point out (as i have seen many use here in their articles) there is absolutely no English word like "irregardless". None! It is regardless. End of story.
Anyway: Big error in Nigeria especially on whatsapp and bbm chats. There is NO word like "Anyways" in English, it is anyway. Simple. No adding any 's' to it. Lol. I know it is usually sweeter to use "anyways" in our daily chats but as a result of this many don't even know it is totally wrong. Learn now and don't go using it in formal letters or speeches.
Laud: It is never pronounced "lawud" or "loud" the correct pronunciation is "Lod".
Nuptial: Chics! You people that want to marry, I have heard many say "Noop-shal". Please! For the love of all things decent, it is pronounced "Nup-SHul". For those into phonetics, the "u" there represents the upside down e sound or the schwa sound.
Ennui: If you don't know what this word means, sorry. Take SAT, GMAT or GRE you will definitely get to know it. It is pronounced "ON-wee" and not "Eh-NU-wee".
Forte: Now the common pronunciation of this word is a big, big error around the world. There are two ways it is correctly pronounced. One is "FOR-TAY" (which is the common and most widely used) and the other is "FORT". Where we make a mistake is using the pronunciation "FORT-AY" to mean strength or highest skill at something which is wrong. "FOR-TAY" means loud while when we refer to a persons strength or skill at something we actually should pronounce the word as "FORT". However, nobody really cares anymore! If you told them they were wrong, trust me, you are the one that would end up looking terribly stupid even though you are definitely and 100% correct.

So, since I know many Nigerians travel to the UK a lot, the following series of words are for you JJC's going to the UK, it maybe best for you to pay attention to the next set of words before you go there and eff up loool. But don't worry, even many of the Nigerians that live there make these common errors themselves because they have decided to remain ignorant. Dont be like them, learn now!
Leicester Square: It is pronounced "Leh-ste(r)" not "Leh-Cheh-stah" as I have heard newbies (especially ibos, no offense I am ibo too looool) say.
Worcestershire:This one is tricky but easy too. Firstly know many UK names have the word "Shire" in its end, it is pronounced "Sheer" or "Shur" and never "Shaya" like you may be tempted to say as a Nigerian or even an American. So Worcestershire should be pronounced as "WOO-ste(r)-sheer". Don't ask me why its that way, just learn!
Holborn: It is pronounced "Hoe-bo(r)n" Please don't go say "hall-born", they may understand you but you would end up looking like that tourist you too would probably hate too!
Greenwich: Ahhh, now this should be a word you must be familiar with even if you have never been to the UK before. Remember GMT? Greenwich mean time? Cool. Now, it is pronounced "GREN-ich" please do not go there and say "GREEN-witch" oh! The 'w' is silent. You could also hear some over there say "GRIN-ich" which is ok too. As a personal rule, when 'w' is within a word and comes before a vowel, it is silent. It is what I have noticed.
Southwark: Pronounced "Suth-uck" not "Sawuth-Wak" as a Nigerian may be tempted to say. lol
Loughborough: Pronounced "Luff-Bra". Take am like that, don't ask why. Just say it as i write it and you will be perfectly correct.
Edinburgh: It is pronounced "Eh-din-BURRA" not "Eh-din-BORG" oh!
Plymouth: It is pronounced "Pli-Muth". the 'u' is like the uh in Sun or fun.
River Thames: The popular river in London is pronounced "Temz" no go say River "Thay-mus" oh. Keep it simple. Tehmz.
Tottenham: Many of us should know this especially those who watch football. Pronounced "Tott-nam" with the 'a' almost even silent. Dont go saying "Tott-en-HAM". You may be laughed at!
Warwick: It is pronounced "WHA-rik" not "WOR-wick". The "WHA" pronounced like the 'wha' in "what".
Ralph Fiennes: He is a popular british actor played Lord Voldemort in Harry Potter. His name is pronounced "rEIf fai-ns" not "RALF Fee-enns". The "rEI" as in "ray" and the "fai" as in "Fire".
Quay: This English word is pronounced "kEE" not "Kay" or "Ku-way". kEE!

Finally lets go into modern culture and popular words, brands etc we come across on TV.
Joaquin: This is my middle name, my nairaland user name too and a popular American actors name Joaquin Phoenix whose new movie (Titled 'Her') may soon be showing in your cinemas. Nigerians (especially Catholics) pronounce it as JOE-AH-KWEEN. Fail! It is pronounced "Woh-keen" (woh as in what)
Zooey Deschanel: Know her? From the popular TV show 'The New Girl'? Her name is not DES-CHA-NEL as i have heard a few Nigerians say. It is Zoe-E Day-Shanel. The 'Day' is pronounced like the french particle 'de'.
Jake Gyllenhaal: is pronounced GEE-len-hall (GEE as in a flock of geese) not Dji-len-hall.
Dr. Seuss: This would surprise many that know who Dr Seuss is (if you don't you may take some time and Google him, get exposed a little). We all pronounce his name as Dr. SEW-ss but in reality his name is German and the correct pronunciation is SOICE or ZOICE as in rejoice. i know right?!!
Chipotle: It is a popular Mexican chain restaurant for those who have been to the states and it is also means smoked chilli. It is pronounced CHI-POT-LAY.
Bvlgari: Nigerians again and designers. Get this one right now! Bulgari is "BUUl-gah-ri" (stress is on buul) and many Nigerians actually do get it right. To the ones that fail, please, it is not VOOL-gari or worse, VALL-gahri as you may have thought dropping the 'B' was appropriate since many foreign words have soundless letters. This time, sorry, the B is definitely not silent.
Versace: Lol, now this word right here has sent man Ibo village girls (sorry, lol, I am ibo too so no offense) to obodoyibo to embarrass our lot. I was in Italy a few months back and I really wanted to know the real pronunciation and I was told it is "VER-SAH-CHAY" or VER-SAH-CHEH" (eh as in egg). Actually there is almost a blend or similarity between Chay and Cheh. But the wrong pronunciation which Nigerians are fond of is "VEH-sah-chi". This is totally wrong. Please do not go out there and use it. Stick to "Ver-sah-chay" to be safe (as I have heard Donatella Versace pronounce it this way in her interviews)
Givenchy: It is pronounced Jhee-Von-Shee.
Louis Vuitton: is pronounced Loo-i Vwee-ton.
Ralph Laurent: is pronounced Ralf Lorr-uhn. The 't' is silent. Learn your french!
Mercedes Benz: This one is tricky because thanks to the Americans many car names have been messed up from their original form. They say "Meh-SAY-dis Behnz" but the correct pronunciation is "Mur-SEE-dus Bents". I have been to Germany a lot so I know I am not perfect in transcribing the exact pronunciation but I am not far from being right!
Hyundai: Lol, I blame my dad for this one but I learned fast enough much later because I like cars a lot. Nigerians grow up to call it "HAYON-Die". Fail. Know it now. It is "HYUN-Dei" (Dei as in date)
Volkswagen: Learn it now, it is pronounced "Folks-Vah-Gun" and not our regular "Volks-wah-Gin". No, no! Kill dem that pronounce it this way before they lay eggs and breed further!
Porsche: Again, thank you America. It is "Porh-sha" and not "posh" although it is quite acceptable to call it the latter in the states. Again, dem ibo girls from owerri that want chief to buy them posh car, tek not! Lol. Ok, sorry.
Chevrolet: Correct pronunciation is "Sheh-vrow-lay" not "Cheh-vroh-let".
Peugeot: Correctly pronounced as "Poo-jshoo".
Lancia: It is pronounced "Lan-cha" and not "Lan-see-Ah".

That is all I could come up with. Take note, open your dictionaries and learn a few things. Get exposed!

Enough is a word for the wise.
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TravelRe: Flashmob At MMA2, Lagos Domestic Airport (video) by joaquin64(m): 8:45pm On Dec 20, 2013
ah ahnnnnnnnn Naija don dey do flash mob?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nice one!


The person that took the video needs to shut up a little tho lol.
TravelRe: U.S. Embassy Abuja New Procedure For Drop Box Renewals by joaquin64(m): 4:18pm On Dec 20, 2013
This is awesome!
Nairaland GeneralRe: *~Fynestboi Is Nairaland Moderator Of The Year 2013 *~ Congratulations!!! by joaquin64(m): 4:16pm On Dec 20, 2013
Na wa oh. I need to ask how you nairalanders manage to know yourselves as to be doling out awards and even messages like "awwww, congrats we love you and always have". Please someone tell me, is there some nairaland party organized where you guys hobnob amongst yourselves? Are is this some kind of online relationship many of you fall into and believe its real on some virtual level? Lol. Im not being a hater, Im just confused as to how these things work around these parts. Congrats to fynestboy anyways. lol.
HealthRe: A Thread For Body Builders by joaquin64(m): 1:41pm On Dec 20, 2013
Quatermaine: Hello y'all, nice thread I must say. I commend you all for your wonderful efforts.

Please, I need help, I am skinny and I wanna look in between, not too big and also not too small.

Please, I need recommendation from you guys.. Foods to eat, Exercise to do, how many times in a day should one exercise, acceptable Reps for each exercise etc.

Thanks!
If you are serious I can email you a pdf book i used for skinny guys to gain mass. It teaches you everything you need to know about getting big. Worked very well for me because I took it seriously. You have to be serious and want it badly enough to grow bigger.
Foreign AffairsRe: Nigeria- South Africa F A Q s by joaquin64(m): 8:19pm On Dec 19, 2013
I am still trying to understand the point of this write up or frequently asked questions. First of all, who is even frequently asking them in the first place? And in the end, aren't most or even all your response already frequently answered answers?

We are well aware of the facts already. As much as I appreciate you for your well wikipedia-ered responses, let those that see fit to answer them emotionally be. Politics in the end would always boil down to the power of raw emotions and the irrationality and unpredictability of human behavior.

Leave here.
FamilyRe: Is Obsession Sign Of Love In A Relationship? by joaquin64(m): 6:57pm On Dec 19, 2013
I am no expert but from the little I know of, obsession in a relationship is a form one's deepest insecurities take in order to give them a false or somewhat unique sense of being "madly in love" with another person. It is mostly constructed to be negative by psychologists or general belief so one would initially believe that it is something negative and should not be encouraged for a healthy relationship.

I cannot say if to agree with this or not because apart from relationships, there are other types of obsessive behavior attached to things or ideas and not just humans. For instance you can be obsessed with the idea of being successful at your job or education. Has that ever been viewed as negative? I don't think so. In other words, one can argue if its really wrong to be obsessive.

In relation to your question talking about relationships, I think its important to point out in order to make clear the difference between obsession and infatuation. Obsession mostly involves ideas while the latter involves something more physical such as attraction although to me the two can well be mistaken for each other or can be used interchangeably. Either ways, the combination of the two can prove fatal to relationships.

Humans are not objects and no one wants to be treated like one. At first it may seem like a good thing but I doubt it ever is to be constantly fawned over by an obsessive boyfriend or girlfriend whichever the case may be. A mild obsession could never hurt if it is well controlled. It infact could build a partners confidence in the strength of their relationship. Infact, I have met girls who desire or are simply attracted to obsessive men although I cannot really say so the same holds true for men. In many cases, people are obsessed with the idea of a perfect relationship and not exactly with the person involved in that relationship. They are obsessed with the backlash and fear of a failed relationship, being alone, not measuring up, etc and it is this unhealthy fear of various insecurities that eventually gets translated into an obsession of some sort.

My point is, if in many cases, or from your own judgement a certain type of obsession you may have noticed coming from you or your partner is traced to fear or some issue of insecurity, then you should know that it is not a good thing. Insecurity is never a good thing in a relationship and since this may lead to obsession, then obsession itself is not a good thing. This is my logic. I hope it makes sense.

However, when it comes to Human behavior, its like we constantly adapt to purposely defy all manners of what is constructed to be logic.

Ergo, I may be wrong tomorrow.

Lol.

Good luck.
RomanceRe: How Can I Get This Cute Guy? by joaquin64(m): 2:43pm On Dec 17, 2013
Here, drink some water. Thirsty little thing. God punish ASUU!

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