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Hi.

Just sent you a request on bbm. Had to take out my contact cos i was getting rily weird mails from some quarters.
I currently use the bionic turtle product and the FRM advised books. Guess we can continue on bbm though. Also, as a gentle reminder to fellow candidates, the final date for early registration for the November 2013 diet is on 31st July 2013, next week friday. If we are in on this, please lets create a wider forum to accommodate us all with our different challenges (work schedule, distance from others and the likes).

globechamp: Hi fellow candidates:

Proposing a bb group where we can begin discussion, we will then plan periodic group discussion maybe once in two weeks.

If you are in, join the group on 28BF1E86. We will also share materials. I am using the Schweser notes at the moment.

Cheers

We can alwayz arrange somtin. Nov is rite arnd d corner.

Thanks Pingu. Though i couldn't quite download the document. Too many security features on my laptop.
Please send me an email or contact details i can reach u on. I would be needing all the information i can get on this FRM issue. I am also wondering if you have taken the exam or taking it any time soon. Gotten the books yet? How far so far?

No lecture venue in Lagos yet, But i am studying towards d Nov 2013 diet. I blve we can form a cute lil study group & help each other. I excel beta in a classroom setting or preferably in a study group. Beta late than neva.

@ Poster,
a graduate as a teller in a bank? Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!
Go 4 ur masters. Except the bank is offering u a better paying position. With a higher degree, u become more marketable. Take this from someone who knows cos i've been there & i'm still there. If u have the opportunity to finance urself 4 a masters abroad, take it. Better than a "TO" in a bank which is alot lower than entry level in d same bank.

Lets hear ur take on this. The rejected stone seems to be fast becoming the chief cornerstone. Imagine the once denied private schools (Babcock, Madonna, Igbinedion, Covenant, Lead City,   kindly help me fill in the blank spaces) seems to be taking the forefront in the market this days. Imagine places like Access Bank whose entry level requirement has been reduced to 24yrs.
Seriously, how many people exactly can graduate successfully from federal or state universities at that age & what is the probability? Also, statistics show that graduates from these same schools seem 2 be doing very well in the market.

damola1:
Is our Governor lefthanded, is our president left handed?,

Everyone is unique, whether middle handed, left handed, or right handed, All the examples of those you have given are those that "know" book. Who cares?, Today's world belongs to the drop outs, do you know any successful left handed drop out, then that might interest me.

LOL! i totally concur. LOL!
More seriously, d way i c it, its "who knw book" cos i knw quite a number of left-handed that aren't exactly brilliant.

carmelily:
This stupid thread still dey here? the only post more stupid than the original poster's was kemisuga's

Sweet hrt, if this thread is as stupid as u think it is, then what makes u stil log on to view it? Wldn't that make u far more stupid & jobless Or is ur life so boring that u can't seem 2 find anything positive to do than to log on & share a few foolish lines Hmmm
Ok, show me one thread that u have posted that seems to have attracted more attention than this particular thread.
Seriously, get a life or GET OFF THIS THREAD!!!

Seems to me like ur mind is made up as u hve now seen d light. Pls ignore them & go 4 ur masters programme. Anytin less than N100,000 in a job that is not fulfilling ur career plan is not worth it at all.
4 ur information, 2 land a job in d world bank or ADB (African Development Bank), u require a Masters. Also, a masters is an added advantage for any good bank position.
All the best my dear. The Lord wld give u d grace 2 do d right thing.

jeebeewell:
Thanks joichi,
I never knew there are people of this sort here, you guys make me great and optimistic.

Although i would have been completing the previous one by now, nevertheless i am not rregreting since the second opportunity has come.
Any objection i drop their work and face my studies.

Thats the spirit Jeebeewell. There is nothing new or strange under the sun. Jst knw dat whatever it is u r going thru right now, some other person has gone thru & survived, is going thru & surviving or refused to go thru & failed or is regretting.

I'm not saving u should drop ur job (except its a full time course). I'm saying u should consider taking the programme as a part time course, do not let ur boss & mgt be aware, & study really hard. Jst be determined. Moreover, except the job is paying u really well & u need the money to support urself & ur family, then don't waste the opportunity.
If ur take home is within 70,000 per mth & below, i'ld suggest u drop the job lik hot oil. U r worth more than that with a degree & far more with a higher degree, especially if u knw u can afford to pay the fees & support urself thru d programme without the job.

A bank wld take u without a second thought if u have a higher degree. Take this from me.

Dearest jeebeewell,

take tis piece of advise from some1 whose being there & is still there. Take your masters programme. Its one of the most important steps in your life. Don't let your office pple knw abt ur plans. Jst apply 4 a part time programme instead if u can.

Presently, i'm taking an Msc programme as well, taking a professional exam for accounting qualification, & working in a firm that does not recognise a masters which means that afta my programme, i don't get any form of promotion. But in the nearest future, wen i'm thru wit my masters & professional qualification, i'ld b more than relevant in the market.
Please don't throw away this opportunity. The way i understand ur post, this seems like the 2nd time an opportunity for a masters is coming ur way. Please don't let cowards in ur office who seems afraid of what u'ld become in future 2 intimidate u into quitting or rejecting God's favour in your life.

I'm a lady & i'm not the only person working, schooling & studing all at once. When i see others like me who seems to be threading this same path, it gives me the courage to go ahead. Don't hinder your own growth & prosperity. I knw a million & one pple who wld give anything to either get a job now or be given an opportunity to start a masters.

PLSSSSSSSS don't throw away this opportunity. Or u'ld be the only person to regret this move. Take your masters along with d job or without the job. It'ld even give you an opportunity to meet pple, make connections & get a far better job.

All the best in your decision taking process.

georgee:
JOICHI
why don't u holla me and lets c if things can work out, am single and av a very good job 2 myself
am still online now if u dnt mind

Actually georgee, let me sleep over that. u knw i'm stil hurting
LOL! So as not 2 miss understand me, its not about whether or not u have a job. Its more about ur state of mind. & ability 2 wear the pants in a relationship. Mind u, i'm not after money here. Jst d real deal.

Woodpecker:
babe i would have advised u to hang in there and be a bit patient afterall u guys always yap about equal rights and respect for women but as u stated, he's quite comfortable with the whole arrangement so i'll advise u to run. we guys are naturally proud with big egos so its very unusual for a guy to be ok with this set-up. maybe u're mistaking his attitude as being comfortable with it, i don't know, but what i feel is that u should tell ur mind and ask him what his plans for the future are. if u don't like what u hear, well u can call me (i'll give u my no later) am looking for a girl that can match me financially. lol

LOL! Thks but no thnks.
actually, these days, i looking 4 a guy who can pick up my bills (if i have any that is ) & not a competition. I'm not out 2 compete here u knw. Jst searching for something nice & romantic
LOL!

temi.layo:
Runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!

LOL!   Now dat is hilarious!

U all in here r making it sound lik i feed his family. Well i don't!. I only contribute a loving quota from time to time wen i c them around or i'm wit them while he just comes over to my place & leaves like he jst wasn't over at his girlfriends'.
He doesn't give my siblings anything wen he's leaving, thats wat i mean.
I send recharge cards, money (neva more than 3gs at a time), u knw, dat sort of thing. Not FEEDING HIS FAMILY like u guys r assuming.
Also, i jst refused to give him (not loan) him some money a while back, like some of u advised, & he's succeeded in making me feel like a very bad person.
 LOL!

LOL! u all hv made my day. u all so damned hilarious. I laughed until tears streamed down my eyes. I'm actually stil laughing. Those who feel i'm making tis story all up (wic might be true but dat wld mak me a good writer. i should actually consider selln tis tale 2 Wale Adenuga 4 a few bucks, LOL!)
Those who feel i've bumped my head (u might also have a point there )
Those who feel i tink wit mu p***y ( a point there as well considering dat i once had a BF who was horrid in d sack)
Those who r wise & calculative & tryn 2 read my mind (u r doin fair enuf, but considering u r not a confirmed mind reader, i don't tink u shld try towing dat line) LOL!
But all in all, its bin fun on tis thread.

@ kemisuga, i feel ur pain but i can assure u, mine isn't dat bad. Also, wat makes u tink a p***y can get widened?
Maybe u shldn't consider giving birth 2 a child or more. Wat wld u tink or say then & i actually cringe to tink of ur state of mind if u hv upto 6 kids or more, or more definitely, a set of twins, triplets, quaduplets??   U'ld probably NEVA get into bed wit ur hubby then.
So 4 ur own gud, redirect ur thots.

I'm seeking for advice here, not tinkn of giving some. & wer is my girl Gucci_Babe?? Sorry abt d mistaking ur gender biolabee

ud4u:
Quote from IduPaul Mumu Thread,

Is people like you that don't appreciate other peoples effort. How many reseanable threads have you posted on naira land that will make you call a thread mumu thread.

Take care.

Thnks ud4u for putting his type exactly where he belongs.
LOL!!!

Livvvvy:
The poster doesnt love her boyfriend anymore, and I am sure they are no longer together again, she only just wants us to keep busy.

@tumfulu &  Livvvvy , if u don't wnt 2 b kept busy or if u r rily busy, then wat exactly r u doin on this thread?!

@ funmi.o , u hv a good point there. I tink i wld do jst dat. Get closer to God. LOL!

I swear i've rily had a swell time on tis thread. Pple seem 2 hv a lot 2 say but lik d sayn goes, only he who wears d shoes knws wer it pinches d most. Let me break tis gist down a bit so u can all knw wer i'm coming 4rm:
-  we met wen we wer both unemployed & fresh out of schl
-  he's neva spent up to N1,000 on me at a go (not even close)
-  i do d cookn wit my money even wen we wer both unemployed (his neva workd as far as i knw)
-  d only time i eva askd 4 support 4 d meal, he gav me N200 reluctantly cos i insisted
-  he only calls me up on my birthdays, no gifts, cards, nothn
-  he flashes me all d time & expcts me 2 call. i don't blv in flashing so i hardly do
-  we had a humongous quarrel cos i had 2 insist forcefully dat he embarrases me by flashing
-  wen at his place, he loves it wen i slave away tryn 2 put tins in place by workn my butt out
-  he encourages me 2 buy tins 4 his relations weneva we go visitn even though he neva contributes a kobo
-  weneva he goes 2 luk 4 somtin 2 do, he calls me up & tells me how he's tryn so damned hard 2 get a job
-  afta wic he asks me 2 send him crdt as a way of supportn him

i'm not sayn i'm perfect either, but lik i said earlier on, i jst wnt som1 i can grow up wit, not som1 2 pull me bak.
if i go into more details abt d absurdity in d name of a rtnship, all d yaps i've gotten 4rm guyz on tis thread wld only worsen.

"I mean the much interest he shows on things concerning you.
2. Are his vision and goals what you want in your kind of man?
3. Are you comfortable with his features? By his features i mean the way he talks, the kind of friends he hangs out with, his size, looks, intelligence, etc.
"

as 4 these qqs by " wariowei "
yes 2 d 1st qq. He shows alot of interest & support in all i do & even encourages he 2 achieve more, but he doesn't have as much drive as i do. he seems content wit wat he is able 2 accomplish at every point.
As 4 qqs 2 & 3, hmmmm, sori 2 say but NO on both counts.
Even though i knw most pple wld insult me d more 4 my responses, i rily don't care cos its d simple truth. I'm in a dilemna here cos i thot i had found a ril man who can help me acccomlish my purpose in life. Also, he came at a time wen i was despirate and very lonely so in a way, he filled a void in me.  
Did i also mention dat he'ld be 32 tis yr while i'm stil going 2 b 24?

Most of u r very rite wen u say i shldn't b washing my linen in public lik tis, but its all cos i nid 2 satisfy my conscience wen i decide 2 let go of d relationship. I knw i'ld b doin d rite tin wen i finally do so some other pple wldn't assume i'm jst being overtly pompous cos i now hv a job & all.  Wen we both wer unemployed, it wasn't beta. It only got worse now dat i do because he acts lik its his right to eat my money wit me. He's always depended on me for as long as i can rmbr.
Even wen we both didn't hv a job, he'ld take me 2 eateries & i'ld foot d bill. The only time he'ld consider footing is if d bill were less than N600 & i'm dead serious.

Thanks alot girls!
especially Ujujoan, biolabee, Gucci_Babe. U girls r d best.
Biolabee, my mum wld probably kill me if she knws all tis.
She'ld insult my life. Also, my folks r not directly involved wit our rtnships so they don't knw anytin abt him. u'ld all agree he's not exactly d type 2 take home 2 "dad" or mama, wateva d case might be.
Thnk u all 4 ur contributns. rily 'preciate them all.
i tink my mind is made up now. Lik u said, y shortchange myself when i can hv beta in d way of affection, & all.

Ujujoan:
I understand leaving him now might seem like you are dumping him because you got a job and he doesn't. But here's a tactics you can use. Stop spending a dime on him. Make up projects you need money for. Hell you don't even need to make them up . .  buy a car, get a flat, furnish it expensively, tell him you need to change your status now that you are working and you need any amount of money you can get. Ask him for money occasionally, for fuelling your gen, car, whatever . . . Just make him feel uncomfortable whenever he's around you. I bet you he'll leave. Trust me, he sees you as a money machine now and not a wife to be. If he sees you as a wife to be, he'll be ashamed to ask you to spend on him, because he'll be worried you'll loose respect for him as your husband.

Actually, tried dat already. told him i nided a ride & intended 2 get one (though not wit d support of my family). He told me  (actually warned me) not 2 get a ride. Mayb he feels dat since i hv "so much money" as 2 consider buyn a car, y not share wit him. He doesn't mind my spendin on him at all. actually, he derives immerse pleasure 4rm it.
Also, lik u said, i've seriously lost all sense of respect 4 me. i yell at him weneva he asks 4 money 4rm me. He'ld then manipulate me by 1st calming me down & telln me not 2 bother since i was alwayz furious weneva he asks me 4 money. then gradually go bak 2 d same topic & unfortunately 4 me, i end up falln 4 d same old prank.

DARNED!!! can't blve hw foolish i can b somtimes jst cos i'm tryn 2 seem lik a nice enuf person!

Less than 2 yrs. but he's bin ok, jst financially dat i hv issues wit him. i'ld b willn 2 drop him anytime 4 anoda person witout so much as a backward glance. its jst dat somtimes i feel dat might mak me seem hrtless.

Gucci_Babe:
you welcome hun! thats why i stated its complicated then what everyone thinks. Cause i bet you thinking what if you dump him today and finds a good job tomorrow, then you lost the benefit you invested in him and so on, but always remember "you" come first, anything that takes away from your happiness you need to move away from it, regardless of circumstances.

$$Rhino:
tell the dude to wake up early in da morning and go to cardbury and they can use him for some daily labour and he can afford to spend.
He is a leach to be sent away.

@ Gucci_Babe
Sweet hrt, u rily seem more mature than most pple on tis thread. i'm rily enjoyn ur comments. u seem 2 undastd a bit of wer i'm coming 4rm. Actually, my fear is if he gets a job & stil acts d way he does. he may probably say since i got a job b4 him, i hv more saved up than he does. Wat do u tink? if i'm saddled wit his sort all my life, i'ld probably kill him 
Wat do u tink?



Hey, @ $$Rhino, wat do u mean? wat daily labour r u on abt? wat is goin on over @ cadbury?

@ Gucci_Babe, thks girl
@ jay bee, thks alot. Tis r d sort of comments dat encourages pple 2 post threads on tis site. unlik IDIOTS lik,
i refuse 2 mention names. anyway, its not lik i'm dat much in luv but he fills a void & is sort of a substitute until i find som1 else (more seriously). Tink wateva u lik or call me wateva u wnt but tis is simply how i feel. Lik i said earlier, he feels absolutely nothn (as far as i'm concerned) collectn 4rm me. Datz wat drives me nuts d most. He's alwayz bin dat way even b4 i got d job, though he is supportive, tolerant & oda tins including satisfyn my sexual nids.
But in my books, luks 2 me lik he's my gigolo & i'm a sugar mummy. I do lik him (don't tink i luv him, if not i don't tink i'ld b tis distressed), but lik i said, financially, he's not mature, not ambitious, not wat i wld wnt anyway cos pple tink i'm a slave driver & tend 2 expct more 4rm pple.
Moreover, if i decide 2 dump him jst lik dat, wldn't he assume i'm jst feeln pompous cos i hv a job & he doesn't?
& no i'm not a banker but hv a gud job dat i'm proud of. Pays me enuf 2 so i can't complain. Wat i'm complaining abt is hvin 2 share it wit som1 i call "my man".

Hi nairalander,

Please i really do need help fast. The person I call my boyfriend relies so much on me for his financial needs.

I understand that he might not have a job (while I do, one i just got recently anyway) but he should sometimes wear the pants in this relationship and not me. I do most of the spending and he sees no big deal in asking me for more. His response would always be "afterall you are my wife" which I find very annoying. The way i was brought up, men do the spending while ladies lend a helping hand. How I found myself saddled with him, I swear I do not know.

Do I love him? That I do not know. But I understand that money isn't everything. I can count on one "finger" how much he's spent on me. But me,  please don't ask!

Its not like I buy the world for him, no! But when we are together, he's always broke & tells me that i should be the one with money since I work. I've tried explaining (albeit aggressively since i alwayz feel so MAD ) that i don't work in a bank's vault & I make enough money just to cater for my basic needs, he doesn't seem to care as much.

Whenever I go visiting his folks, I know how much I spend doing "big girl" or "in-law"

Yet he's never spent a DIME on my people. Never even bought "coke" or even sweet for anyone in my house. He claims he is forever broke yet encourages me to spend on his family & on him.

Maybe he does feel something for me, I wouldn't doubt that, but sometimes I think that's the only reason he's with me.

Guys always feel that we ladies are with them for the money even when they hardly spend a dime on you! I only console myself with the fact that sometime in the future, he might be man enough to actually strike gold, but what happens if he doesn't eva? Would I be indebted to a life of misery forever?

One thing i know about him is that, financially, he is not mature at all.  By the way, I'm 24 while he is 31. I should be grooming myself for the altar not 4 doom!

Please understand my plight. I'm not looking for a ready made man. I want someone I can grow wit in all aspects of our lives. But with his financial attitude, I doubt if I can stand it. Maybe I didn't mention one little detail. He is really good in bed LOL  maybe that's why I still hang around I don't know.

Ladies, you should be in the best position to help out here. Should I just ditch him until i find another replacement or hope against hope that things get better in the nearest future, or just enjoy the sex until i find another replacement?!

No yaps, snide talks or insensitive comments please. If you don't have any useful comments, kindly keep the unnecessary ones to yourself. My heart is too heavy to take any insensitivities please.