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Kriss216:


You asked your girlfriend advice for something relating your mum

A girl you met recently will tell you what to do regarding your mum?


A girl you're sharing with different guys told you to discard your mum's happiness? What sort of men are we breeding these days?

Tooooor! I thought I was the only one thinking like a Village boy Ni o!

Barrister026:
Hello all,

This is difficult situation for me, my mom's house has been left uncompleted since 2014 just the foundation and probably 2couch were placed ontop since then it's been there because she had to send my siblings and I to higher institution. Now am of age, doing quite well for myself. I think am finally ready to build a house, was thinking about getting a land 100 by 50 and raise 5 bedroom flats... but on the other hand that my mom's building had been left uncompleted since it's a family land, relatives are starting to say somethings and sometimes I could see the shame on my mom's face when she goes to her family compound. Almost every months they always call her to come clear it that it has become harbor for snakes and pests. So I thought why don't I just complete it for her first.


The issue here Is immediately I told my fiancee she said it's a good idea but kicked against it. That I should build mine first, before completing my mom's. That it can wait.

I also confided in a friend of mine, he said almost same thing, that my thing is different from our own. Saying am not the only one my mom gave birth to, if I complete it now I should be ready to share it with my siblings no matter what when the time comes.

I'm confused and need advice on the step to take. I would really want to complete that house for my mom I Know it would mean a lot to her..I'm really confused.

One way or the other somebody has to develop it, if I the first son don't do it now that am financially stable. Then my younger bro will do it, trust me it won't make sense that way that's just my fear.

My brother, let me answer your question with a Parable.

From what you have said here, I will want to assume that your Father wasn't around to foot the Bill of your academic pursuit? It was Mama all the way! Now that you have become somebody in life, thanks to your Mother, a useless good for nothing Girl, who probably had no hand in you becoming what God has made you, is now knowledgeable enough to give you advice on whether you should build your House first or pay back the poor old woman who mortgaged her own personal enjoyment because she wants to see you succeed.

If I were a member of your Family and you shared this with me, I would give you the thrashing of your life.

Better go and Build your Mama a House and stop listening to a girl whom you haven't ev n married yet! Plus, let me even burst your bubbles, with the advice of your fiance, I can gladly announce to you that you are about to marry the wrong person, because a Girl who claims to love you will not dare to deny your mother of the fruits of her struggling.

But, that is just me and I don't know who you are, so the choice is all yours.

ArewaHero:
arresting the youths will not change anything una better released those youths you had Arrested earlier ,had it been that the law take it effect on blasphemiers I see no reason for the youth to take it by their own hands.


Release our Brothers

Can you see the reason why Boko Haram and ISWAP will continue to kill Nigerians?

Please, show us your National ID Card! It is clear that you are not a Nigerian!

This Deborah Samuel episode has gone to show that there are a lot of poorly trained Children with no home training in Northern Nigeria.

I am beginning to believe in the call for a referendum. I will never think of killing an Unarmed Mala, just because he says something untowards about Jesus Christ. So, why would anyone simply burn an innocent School Girl for saying something they consider to be against their Prophet.

This is highly unacceptable and I am sorry to say, we haven't yet seen the end of this matter.

DMerciful:
They did not call for the immediate arrest and prosecution of the murderers. What a joke!

Thank you my brother, that precisely my frustration on this matter and other similar matters.

So, a young harmless, Armless and ignorant Small Girl was simply burnt to death in broad daylight, and the best that the Northern Governor's can do is to appeal for calm?

It's simply no enough! The perpetrators of this dastardly act must be arrested, tried, convicted and sentenced to death. Until that is done, then I have lost faith in the contraption called "One Nigeria"!

Next time, don't vote a 71 year old as your President. Most times he will be saying exactly the opposite of what the whole world is saying. I rest my Case!

Dhayveed002:
Is like North is a cursed region on it own


It is written already the descendant of ismael will be the one that will trouble the world
God also mentioned that "He will be a wild donkey of a
man, His hand will be over (against) everyone,
And everyone's hand will be against him; And he
will live in the presence of his brethren."( Genesis
16 ).

Jeremiah 1:14 The LORD said to me, “From the north disaster
will be poured out on all who live in the land.

(Fear North, north alone we dey see all kind of disaster, Boko Haram, bandit, Fulani herdsmen, killing for religion)

God have mercy on us

Father forgive them for they did not know what they are doing

I would like to agree with you my brother, but I am not God the Father. If I were the Girl's Family?? I rest my Case!

Flows001:
Muslims have countlessly blasphemed the name of JESUS CHRIST and Christianity as a whole, they always and openly refer to Christians as infidels, I was really disappointed when I heard some very little Muslim kids referring to a Christian guy as such, but has any Christian ever attacked any Muslim for such acts?
Take a look at this El Rufai's tweet way back, if it was a Christian that had joked with that their blood sucking Prophet, hundreds of heads would have probably rolled...
ISLAM IS A CURSE TO HUMANITY

Maybe Christians should also start behaving like them, so that they understand that no one has a Monopoly of Craze!

Righteousness2:
You kill a human For crossing a mere man's red line. A mere man whom you don't know where he is.

If you have to kill your fellow human for a Prophet or god or religion, then you know something is wrong.

May GOD have mercy upon this imam and open his eyes to repent and Surrender to JESUS Christ before it is too late.
Hell is real! And It will consume you if you don't repent and run to JESUS Christ

God bless you my brother! The Family of this Lady have already become sworn enemies of Islam. How do you want to evangelize or spread the message about Islam being a Religion of Peace??

It is well o!

It's so sad that in the year 2021, we still witness people being killed in such a mindless and dispeakable manner. I wouldn't want to know the reason why the deceased Lady wrote what she did. I still believe that no one and no one has the right to simply kill a Armless young Lady like that. One thing I believe is, Deborah Samuel exhibited the highest level of stupidity for making such a comment in a region like Sokoto! What the hell was she thinking? And when she was advised to withdraw the statement, she should have done so, she may still be alive till today if she had done so.
I however query the sanity of those irate mobs for killing a defenceless Lady. It shows that we are in greater danger than we image. If that lady were my Daughter?? Baboons will surely bathe in something other than Water. I hope those mindless individuals who does this kind of dispeakable things are mindful of this fact.
May her Soul rest in Peace. I would never train my Child to make comments that insults the prophet of other Religions or their teachers.

descarado:
What is wrong with this people?
It's a pity Nigerians don't want to unite and chase these people out of Nigeria.

Just wait till I become President of Nigeria. It is then we will know if Nigerians will unite against them or not.

fergie001:
VANGUARD

Sometimes I can readily place the kind of people we are in this Country. If I were a Judge, I will order the Man to be flogged until he gets up, because we all know that the Man is lying about sickness!

JayKiz:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Nfai5kpfso&feature=youtu.be


https://daybreak.ng/2020/12/09/katsina-govt-abolishes-whatsapp-groups-in-schools/

Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with some people? Isn't that an infringement on the fundamental human rights of those people? Has the Nigerian Constitution stopped people from associating freely? As usual, Northerner Youths from Katsina State don't see anything wrong with this. I wonder how that State voted in such incompetent and intellectually deficient individual as their Governor?

MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.

Guy, guy, guy?? Wetin be your problem set?? If you are not careful this woman will ruin your life. Obviously, you love your wife and that's the reason why you are this agitated. But, you need to calm down. If she is enjoying whatever it is that she does to make you feel like this, then the problem isn't your wife. The problem is YOU, the guy who refuses to grow up. Now let me ask you, by killing yourself, what have you gained? You take yourself out of the picture and allow one Motherfucker unhindered access to fucking your wife free of charge. The mere fact that you are alive makes anything she does behind you to be illegal. Don't quarrel with your wife anymore, it's childish and immature. Pick up yourself and enjoy your hard-earned �money a little bit. I am not saying hate your wife, but you must stop showing how much you care for her. You must stop supporting her Business. A lady that doesn't value your support isn't worthy of it. Allow those trying to work her to spend their money as it is obvious they have it, which is why they are after her. Enjoy your weekend, enjoy your week days, Go to a club ,party just a little and let that woman know that she isn't the only one that can hit Town. When she quarrels with you, just ignore her. You are a nice Man which is why she is taking advantage of you. Stop being nice! Bea little bit mean for a change but never physical assault your wife.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Guy, what is your problem? Since the Woman isn't cooperating with you, free yourself man, and stop being a baby. If you commit suicide you will be the biggest fool of all time.
The first thing you need to do is, stop giving her money for feeding. You have spoilt her with your excessive care. If she wants a boyfriend, let her have he way. Stop being so caring about her, pay the children school fees and guy enjoy yourself. Go out with your friends and keep late outside. If she complains, just ignore her and go to sleep. Killing yourself our a Woman's stupidity is the biggest stupidity of all time. Your Ancestors will beat the hell out of your arse if you join them in Heaven on that account. My one Kobo advice.

I am too sure that the player was issued a Yellow Card because he is Black! How dare he score against a White Goalkeeper?

Bmaster:
So will Donald Trump's regain what that Righly belongs to him.


Glory!!!!

Na wetin concern Donald Trump matter with this one now?

To God be the Glory. I have always maintained that anyone that challenges a true servant of God will always lose.
Na by force to pastor AA Church you didn't build? He should have left winners chapel jejely and gone his way? How does he want to do account now?

I feel bad anytime we refer to the civil war.Do you guys have any idea what happened back then.Do fan the embers of civil strive.We are yet to get over it after all these years.

THE GUY JUST WON MY ADMIRATION.NOTALL NIGERIAN MUSICIANS ARE THIS APPRECIATIVE,I REMEMBER THE ARROGANCE OF D'BANJ WHEN HE VISITED ILORIN AND WAS JUST SHOUTING AT EVERYBODY ANYHOW.TIMAYA GOD BLESS YOU

KILLING IN SELF DEFENSE MY FOOT.WHAT IS THE SELF DEFENSE IN KILLING AN HUSBAND AND RAPING HIS WIFE?IS IT ALSO SELF DEFENSE TO BURN THE HOMES OF A COMMUNITY YOU VISITED TO GRAZE UR CATTLE.LET US CALL A SPADE BY ITS NAME IF AN HERDSMAN ATTACKS YOUR COMMUNITY ,U WILL BE FOOLISH NOT TO WASTE THE MOTHER FU**KERS.LET ALL THE HERDSMEN GO BACK TO THE FOREST AND STOP STEALING FARMERS CROPS.

from the few symptoms you have given, I believe your birds are reacting to something in your environment which is strange to them.I ALWAYS DISCOURAGE those I mentor from buying POL.This is because a lot of things can go wrong along the way.It would have being better that you raise your layers from the scratch.With the way they are dying,there is nothing which you can do at a fast rate that will stop the Mortality.My candid advice count your loses and Try again but this time buy you birds as Day Old,So that the mistakes of the past are not made again.You might have also introduced diseases into your flock due to in discipline in Poultry management.You can not afford to be careless with your birds as you have seen.In my practice ,there is an outright ban on people entering my poultry out of 1000 birds I lost just 4.People thought I was too strict,including my wife and children.Pls call me on my Number I have a soft spot for people into poultry farming.Don't give up my bro.....God is in your side yet.

I wish to help ,please can you call me on this number 08062141443.I am a poultry expert with years of experience.

PFRB:
Has Kemi recovered from insanity

U HAVE ASKED A VERY SENSIBLE QUESTION.I HOPE THE B?ITCH WILL FIND TIME TO REPLY.IT IS HOWEVER FUNNY,HOW KEMI OLUNLOYO A YORUBA LADY FROM A REPUTABLE FAMILY,EASILY WASHES OTHER PEOPLES DIRTY LINEN PUBLICLY.WHAT THE FORK IS HER PROBLEM?WHAT THE FORK IS UR BUSINESS IN SOME ELSE'S LOVE LIFE?WHAT PRECISELY IS UR BIFF WITH FFK OR IS IT BIANCA.WE KNEW BIANCA LONG BE4 WE GOT TO KNOW U.SHE AT LEAST DID SOMETHING RIGHT TO BE CROWNED AS MISS NAIJA.WHAT OF U?BESIDES CREATING CONTROVERSY AND BLACKMAILING CELEBS,WHAT HAVE U DONE THAT IS PRODUCTIVE?WHAT HAV U DONE THAT EDIFIES OTHERS?I WISH TO ADVISE BECOS OF ALAJOBI,DESIST FRM DIS LUCIFERIOUS PENCHANT.IT MAY END U SHORTENING U LIFESPAN

I am a poultry specialist.I can boldly say that the business is lucreative.Since u are a beginner I will advise that u start small.Like say 200-300 birds.U can reach me on john2014adegboye@gmail.com.I will mentor u for free if u are serious.

cruzclinton1:
Dude reason !!! Pdp is corrupt thou,but when they were in power,they use their brain well in other not to make the poor masses suffer much while they loot our money.....but see this apc.....everything has suddenly become worst....check dollar then and check now,check fuel now and check now....while can't apc retain the previous prizes or try to bring them down a bit.........ok,as if that one is not enough,they now task us #50 for bank transaction, tribal conflicts here and there,insecurity everywhere,both d north nd d east(Rivers state) .......dude everything is turning down ......ok,if they can't improve,while not allow the previous prizes to stay while they figure out ways to improve........dude, u need to reason.....things re really hard now and getting worst

Dude u need to think urself......Except 4 oil price which is a global issue,there are evidences dat internal forces are deliberately trying to fustrate this administration.It is too plain.

segxes23:
Panama paper is one of the real deal after Wikileaks. The top 1% are all involved. It's high time someone kill them all for milking this country this thin. Just picture a sick and malnourished cow, that is Nigeria right now

Gen Tunde Idiagbon once said Nigerian will have to one day kill all Corrupt leader even including himself.Its like the time has come to have Nigerian Spring or Nigerian Umbrella Revolution.The time to act has come.

ddippset:
They are not on his neck because he is senate president. Trust me if it was that alone they would have forgiven him. Saraki embarassed the entire party by trading off the deputy senate presidency to the pdp. For that he won't be forgiven.

THE GOD OF KWARA IS FIGHTING A DYNASTY THAT HAS EQUATED THEMSELVES WITH GOD.THE MAN USED D COMMONWEALTH OF 3MILLION PEOPLE TO SERVE HIMSELF.WE DON'T CARE IF IT IS PERSECUTION OR PROSECUTION ALL WE WANT IS FREEDOM.MAY ALL THOSE PEOPLE SAYING SARAKI WILL GO SCOTT FREE EXPERIENCE THE SLAVERY KWARANS ARE GOING THRU.

[quote author=mentorandfriend post=44462515][/quote]THANK U SIR.........WE HAVE HEARD...........................NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEXXXT INTELLIGENT CONTRIBUTION.

DeviIhimself:
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shatap there and get out
the major problem here is buhari the bastard kunu sipping monkey and his useless, hopeless incompetent government.
we're talking about good governance you're talking nonsense
wetin concern person wey dey for filling station for hours without fuel with saraki CCT trail?

****

I believe there ought to be a brain in that huge mass u call ur head.How can a man's less than 1yr presidency be Niaja's problem?It is either u are quite lazy in using ur brain,or u are a direct beneficiary of past impunity which is unhappy with the change in leadership.

pinkcita:
Dude when you compare USA or UK to Nigeria like using your back to walk from Nigeria to South Africa, don't even think the compare...use other better African countries first then Asia,then some countries in Europe before you talk about USA or UK..Damn

MISTER MAN PLS STOP PLAYING I BETA PASS MY NIEGHBOUR.USA WEY POLICE DEY KILL BLACKS!

Pidggin:
Have you heard the word "Intimidation"? Okay, Justify the reason why despite himself and his wife fighting the woman, he had to further seek the help of two other army men to join them in the fight, plus using tear gas on her? Be guided in your statement

IT IS ATTITUDE LIKE THIS THAT GETS PEOPLE BEAT UR.A MAJOR WILL NEVER FIGHT A CIVILIAN WHEN THERE ARE JUNIOR OFFICERS AROUND.HE DIDN'T HAVE TO CALL THEM, THEY WILL GLADLY BEAT UP ANY ONE WHO EMBARASSES THEIR OGA.LET US CALL A SPADE BY ITS NAME,THIS WOMAN WAS FOOLISH.THIS WAS EXACTLY WHAT THE SHI'ITE IN KADUNA DID AND THEY DIED IN THEIR HUNDREDS.SHE SHOULD HAVE LEARNT FROM HISTORY.