₦airaland Forum

Foodqueen:
That woman is time bomb waiting to explode.

I can't imagine the things she will make u do to your kids as time goes by.

Common 3 months.......u met on FB, visited her house, your kids slept over and now u are living lovers.

This won't end well.

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

Omihanifa:
https://punchng.com/lagos-businesswoman-shares-apartment-with-intruder-for-one-year/?amp

angeltolly:
Sure you can! Just be sure you are producing enough. It will be tough at first but you can do it. You can start by reducing the number of formula feeding to 1 instead of 3, let that one time be probably at bedtime, then breastfeed after. You can do this for a couple of days then you launch fully to exclusive ( I suggest you express and feed at bedtime just like you were doing with formula then with this baby won't suspect any foul play )

PS: This was my method then, baby had huge appetite too and I Started exclusive after one month. I didn't know I could make a switch with his appetite.

Tizu:
What is Nigeria Navy doing here?
Was he a Naval officer ?

Tinudesi:
Nothing wey musa no go see for gate am a ftm thou have not heard of this but seriously all this myths are annoying my baby will be a month old in some days since we got to my in-laws place after delivery they have been massaging his nose I asked why o they said so his nose will be soft if it's not massaged it will stand like plastic am still wondering is it everyone that massage baby nose anyway if it won't harm the baby I will just accept like that but if I see it's something that might affect in future I reject with style.It is well

futuremoma34:
Everything is ook....the reason he prefers formula to breast milk is because you started breastfeeding him with feeding bottle instead of spoon and cup...so i will advise you to switch his formula to spoon and cup while you breastfeed him..he will switch..dnt panic everything is ook

Philomath1212:
99% of time, Nigeria doctors kill patients during operation...
When it happens, nobody will know and nothing will happen than their usual saying, sorry we lost him/her

indian03:
Great and encouraging bs. God bless your lo

jumy16:
congratulations once again......MaybGod be with your family and the new born...thanks for sharing your B.S

MumDiamond:
Congratulations mama.... Thank God it ended in praise!


At the bolded, I thought I'm the only one who hates that VE. As in, I hate it sooooooooooooo much. I mean, is there no other way than prodding and squirming hands inside my something (you need to see my face right now). It's very uncomfortable and annoying and everything I don't like
God please, let there be other ways to check, I hate that process.


indian03 you endured quite a lot, thank God for you mama.

I've prepared my seat, patiently waiting for part 2.

Kinado:
Congratulations mama! We thank God for a safe delivery!

WetSmoke:
Mine is scheduled for tomorrow, I am 35 weeks 4 days. Walking is an issue now sef, as the baby's head is already putting so much weight on my pelvis. I should hv done it earlier.

chatinent:
Mine: Odogwu requested I helped him during our Statistics exams.

I told Odogwu he'll have to sit close because I wouldn't want anything to happen to a four-credit load papper. Odogwu obliged.


During exams, oga Lance (invigilator) made Odugwu sit far off from me. Now this was the problem. Odogwu was asking me to throw him “mgbo.” How could I? Sb who went through thick and thin to be in school rusticated after several years? I thought it over..and signalled he asked people around him.


I was done with mine.


As I made to submit, Odogwu got up angrily and without me realising, got my papper, torn it in my face and tore his.

I literally ran mad.

To make matters worse, he pushed my chest in challenge. My anger bar was full now.

I borrowed him a quick punch to his jaw..and we were separated.

Ha, I realised I have f-ed up for (1) Being an accomplice to attenpted malpractice, and (2) Fighting.


The Sarge tell us say make we zero the paper say we no write am. “In fact, assume you didn't take this exam” he resounded.

They took us to the front of the hall to stand and watch “reasonable students” finish their paper.

Oh, my last paper.

I literally cried.

After everything, and every sacrifice!



I was urinating sth else..with a mixture of anxiety, fear, and depression.


I was watching my dreams pass me slowly.


They took us pictures, and under duress, we were told to fill the malpractice form. Tears was flowing freely from my eye and wetting the papper.

My school paid invigilators some money (we heard ₦50k) for each students caught during malpractice.

Since my stay in the school, no one has survived filling a malpractice form.

They didn't let us explain.

Odogwu didn't mind. Las las he was no sad..after all no bi only am.


In mid-thoughts whether to go and learn tailoring, or open a barber's shop, Mrs Jacintha (God bless this woman) called me and asked why I wasn't writing.

She na senior lady for the school.

I explained everything without leaving any stones unturned.


She ordered I be reinstated, tore my already filled malpractice form, and yelled at the invigilators that “ they should have allowed me speak. I do not engage in malpractice, and I was a well-behaved student.” My heart somer-tumbled in joy!

Immediately, they sent for my Statistics lecturer which he affirmed..and even called the invigilators insensitive.


I had never felt so much joy.

That was the period I realised people are always watching you even when you don't really know.


Odogwu began shedding crocodile tears and begging for a revisit of his case and told them the truth, when they told him was the only key for revisitation.


I fear human beings that day. The same guy who was incriminating me!


Long story short...
He carried the course over instead of a rustication.



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Please, share yours.

GANDOOOKI:
https://prnigeria.com/2021/04/24/security-forces-ipob-commander/

indian03:
Congratulations mama. Thank God it ended in praise

Preenxess:
Congrats to us all.
I also put to birth today.

Fumbaby:
God will see you through...

AbbynHummy:
Congratulations ma'am

busybeei5:
Wow, congratulations ma'am

InsideOAU:
Source: https://www.insideoau.com/2021/04/20/two-oau-students-allegedly-commits-suicide-3/

Preenxess:
Hmmm
I thought I was the only one o. We currently in week 41 and I have loosed my mucus plug(without any blood stain) for 3 days and didn't see it today. No sign of labour yet. I've trekked round the field too.
Maybe I'll just add the castle oil and pineapple (though I don't like pineapples)

indian03:
Two bottles ke? It's much ooooooooo. What I know is 1 table spoon or almost 2 table spoons. Pls two bottles might be veryyyyyyyyyyy dangerous

Omihanifa:
https://punchng.com/wiping-back-to-front-introduces-bacteria-from-anus-into-vagina-researcher-urinating-after-sex-wont-prevent-infection/

Donjuan77:
please you should all pardon my write up and advice me on what to do, it's an emergency.

I have been married to my wife many years ago and we have leaved so happily as husband and wife, by the grace of God we have gotten two Children, two girls. The elderly one is eighteen year old and the younger one for now is twelve year old respectively.

My wife got pregnant for me seven to eight years ago but due to the way things were at that time I asked her to terminate the baby, anyway it was all my fault. after that incidence happened my wife has not been able to concieve again till now but am not bothered about it because am still hoping on God that he will do something.

I know my wife is worried even if she pretends that everything is OK, she still go about her normal business and house chores in the house without complaining, am botherd because I caused it not her fault at all, a friend of mine adviced me to get another woman and impregnate her but I refused because I can't see myself betraying my wife because I love her so much. I wouldn't want to bring pain to her knowing fully well its not her fault.

This is the real problem now, my wife has started noticing and complaining that she is having strong hard belly on her abdomen with serious pains. I told her to go for check up and she was told that she has fibroid of which she needed surgery to do that, we pretended that is not the problem because we don't have that kind of money to solve the problem so we prayed and handed it over to God to solve for us.
Few weeks later she complained to me that water is gushing out her body for for some days now and just this morning she called me on phone that she went to urinate and to her greatest surprise she urinate blood. Please advice us what to for those who might have encounter this problems, we don't have the money for surgery and I don't know if it is the fibroid that is causing the water and the blood urine that is coming out from her private part or is it an infection that is causing the recent issues.

please your candid advice is needed and I want to know if there is treatment of fibroid with native medicine because I know native medicine will be cheaper, thanks for having patient to read my problem.