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LagosismyHome:
Sure 1 year 5 month is not too young

There are private nurseries everywhere, a lot open 8am to 6pm (about that range). You can even drop a one month old. ...you just register and see if there space. If yes then pay and drop but be ready to pay £800 and above for full time... my side its £1k, so Depending on your city.... any hours you need outside those hours then it's husband and wife working as a team. There also childminder if you prefer that to nursery. You would need to find one close to you.

mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible

veleta:
My little contribution with school aged children here in England. Black kids are usually stereotyped with SEN. If offered help especially speech therapy don't resist, we should try to limit phone/ipad usage. It affects their speech and communication especially with first kids and boys. Read storybooks every night, I know it's tough but it really helps. If you can't read, get one from YouTube Biff, Chip and Kipper and so on then play and stay with them. It increases their vocabulary a lot.

Register them for swimming as soon as possible, dance, drama, football, music, rugby etc. It helps boost their confidence as well as their social circle.

Always ask them what they did in school, who they are sitting with in class, who they played with. Schools here group kids according to their ability. A child in Year 3 for instance can be doing Year 1 curriculum meanwhile in the same class, another child in that same class might be doing Year 4 or 5 curriculum or syllabus.

As a parent, you need to reinforce what they are doing in school at home for your child to be in top table in their class. The class size which is 30 is usually difficult so it's basically survival of the fittest except you are rich, you can opt for private.

With time, I might write more if time permits.

Mamatukwas:
Hello Everyone.

This is a space to talk about parenting, navigating cultural differences, knowing your rights and other general issues related to being a parent in the UK as a Nigerian Immigrant.

For general immigration information and tips on living in the UK, visit the thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/6719932/living-uk-life-immigrant-part-2

For questions on studying in the UK, please refer to the student thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6712649/uk-student-visa-tier-4#105017249.

Here’s to raising strong families.

Drsnives:
Good morning nairaladers, pls pardon my errors.

I met this girl late last year, she's nice, godly and has most of the qualities i want in a wife. i love her, though her dad is late and her mum should be in her late thirties.

Yesterday we were chatting and she was like her dad didn't do the necessary rites on her mum and hence according to tradition i will have to pay her mum's bride price to her family before i will be allowed to start her own (my babe) marriage rites. I just weak cos have never heard of such. Where i won see the money for double bride price?

Pls nairaladers, have any of you come across such ridiculous tradition or she's making it up herself cos i feel like quiting the whole thing.
I just tire. Your opinions are welcomed

Modified: she's from obiaruku in ukuwani local government area of Delta State.

SarkinYarki:
He has been well schooled by those who sent him ... So a young lady was dragged off your bus and you went to park the bus at BRT yard and just went home to sleep without making a report ?

Why did you pick passenger from a non designated bus stop?

Why did you switch off the light ?

Why did you pass her bus stop ?

Why did you make passes at her ?

Totilopussylick:
So it's a crime to give out what you can afford

Enemies of progress

Chloraseptic:
It's wonderful for Ethiopians to be known worldwide as the best in marathon..

I wish there was a category of sport Nigeria stands out in.

Ejusni:
It's called acne kelodialis nuchae. It's incurable in most cases except you go through the surgical excision process or laser therapy.
I'll advise you to stop frequently shaving your head really close so as to reduce irritation to the area.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Ropostic120:
He is such a great man of God
When he had nothing when he started, he had been saying he wouldn't ever be poor.
He said he wouldn't ever be a local champion.
Today He and TD Jakes are the richest pastors on earth.
They continue to criticize him but that has never diminished him a bit. His haters will just die in anger and frustration.
If you don't know my STORY, don't criticize my GLORY.
This man has paid his due in the Spirit realm.
He gave his life to Christ when he was very young at 15 in 1969 before most of his haters were born.
He used the whole days of 1987 to fast.
He never missed a day without fasting and praying in 1987 and now you see the foolish idiots and atheists saying rubbish about this great man of God.

Cursed children they are.
They know nothing about what they are speaking against and God will angrily judge them.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Mynd44:
https://twitter.com/ritapurity/status/1482367305317244931?t=93ZcFKJSJWodg1cbmAlCvw&s=19[/quote]She should go for the fully funded scholarship, if her boyfriend breaks up with her then she will be blessed to meet a better guy who is taking his life more serious . If she chooses her boyfriend, tomorrow he will most definitely breakup with her with the reason that she doesn’t have sense. Further your education is a life long decision that benefits you for a life life time.

Idamond:
https://mobile.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=5140525439292404&id=100000049969205

saphiere:
Ladies be careful o. This is a trap.
I've once fell a victim of this. Though mine wasn't food.

When I turned his invitation down, he posted the gift he wanted to give me on his status so I decided to visit him. My experience was terrible.

No Nigerian man would give you anything without wanting something in return.

Let us open our eyes this year o.
Nigerian men don't wish us well. They just want to use you and then dump you.

ibechris:
U think being a husband is all about making money and keeping the family together.

See Mr man, face your front if u have nothing meaningful to contribute.

ibechris:
Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Wow I didn't even read that..can you imagine..

Intoboy:
Shit happens bro...don't listen to what dis hypocrites will say,they are worse

Going forward...the first few months of pregnancy the baby will still be in form of blood and according to what you said,you gave her the drugs but jus a little blood came out and it's supposed to be much,lemme explain what happened there.

The body system of the girl is too strong for the drugs but an impact was made dahs why you saw little blood...now,dis little blood DAT cam out means the baby is either dead or deformed.if you intend keeping the baby go for a scan so as to Knw if the drug killed the baby or it deformed it,trust me the baby has already been affected bun if you still want to terminate the pregnancy give her....Mk I no talk,good luck bro

FERNANDEZISBACK:
What's wrong with you tho?
Keep the baby and don't abort it..
Why on Earth would you wanna abort a baby..

Bossman:
At some point you will need a development environment. You can download eclipse or IntelliJ ide.

https://www.vogella.com/tutorials/Python/article.html

Also, if you choose to go with Java, you should visit the beginner forum here at Javaranch. https://coderanch.com/forums

Ctorch:
Three dead as youths, Hausa clash in Akwa



https://punchng.com/three-dead-as-youths-hausa-clash-in-akwa-ibom-community/?utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR2Wn5ZxqvEIZPoskqi55g2i6IA0tz5KbwEmRn-CjmCAd5TLECm4ylbyEGY#Echobox=1641265393

Johnnyessence:
try to have a laptop and download more videos on YouTube on web design and web development on line. Then you will be directed to study html , css and JavaScript .

Bossman:
Hello,

You can start with a language such as Java or Python. The key thing is to start writing code as soon as possible. Of course, you will need a laptop with the appropriate development environment setup. However, I'd suggest you get beginners book on any of those two languages, and start reading. Programming can be applied in just about any field. As long as there is a task that needs to be automated.

Mariangeles:
Hehehehehehhehehehe
He's in a hurry.

Mariangeles:
I hope our baby is doing fine. He or she must really like ewa agoyin.