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@ Pink22, may God be with u, fear not!

@ Diamondring, pls keep the testimonies coming! I'm waiting 4 more! Thank u Jesus! Have u realised why u had 2 wait this long 2 conceive? Maybe if u had conceived immediately after marriage, ur DH wouldn't have appreciated u this much. Maybe! maybe! O, my dear, too many 'maybes'. I don't know u but I'm always very happy 2 read ur testimonies. May God surprise u more. May laughter never cease from your home IJN. I am inspired!

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[quote author=soul_glo]SMH. Really?[/quote]I'm so disappointed in him. Thought he was a mature man that could hold a discussion.

GoodFaith: Grow up?
I am very grown man with BIG BILLS NOT KIDS BILL
You want to talk about my posting or comments
So, I had to read some of your past posting to understand you or have some ideal how you think
I can see where you coming from base on some of your life experience
You are a girl that think because of your PU??Y-
You must be right and You must have things your way
Men has to been at the disadvantage in dealing with you
Really?
You need to keep moving

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GoodFaith: " Family / Re: For Abused Wives, Girlfriends & Men!!! by judii(f): 12:55pm On Sep 24
@ Nashville, So because I ran away from one and unknowingly ended up with another, I now attract them 2 myself, right? I really don't blame the other lady 4 exiting this thread! Too many judgemental people on NL."

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[quote author=soul_glo]GoodFaith does not realize it but he sounds very "woe is me". Someone like him will find it difficult to forgive someone and move on just because the person looked at him the wrong way[/quote]I think he would be happy and satisfied only when the OP tells him he's (OP) ready 2 send his wife packing. I really don't get what the problem is any more! The OP said he's willing 2stay married for the sake of the kids and some persons feel that's weak of him? Why is it so difficult 4 some people 2 forgive? Why?

GoodFaith: You are very judgmental and ignorant
Hope it happen to one of your beloved one

Why are u taking things so personal? Abi, same thing don happen 2 you before? I have been following this thread and couldn't ignore this comment of yours. The OP's maturity is commendable!

@ DiamondRing, congratulations! I'm so happy 4 u. Your testimony is super great. Wow! This God is awesome! What u have been through can only be imagined. U just thought me patience and perseverence on a different level. May the same God who wiped away your shame do the same 4 every expectant TTC member here IJN. @ all beatiful mamas, this testimony is yet another proof that God still sits on the throne and surely, at the appointed time, we all shall carry our children. Haven't been here in a while but have been following religiously.

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critique101: I feel you.
This is the main set back in a marriage where the wife has more money than the guy. It seems you are a soft hearted person that is why your wife is taking advantage of you.

To overcome this problem, you need tobring out the man in you.

When next she does that, (take cord or insult you), intimidate her.shout at her.
REmind her that you are the husband.

Threaten to leave her if she tries it again.

Tell her if she can't share with you or respect you, you will leave her so she can watch it alone.

Tell her there are women out there who will gladly take her place and who will respect you.

If you don't do this, she will frustrate your life and reduce your lifespan. Be wise. She is not the first woman to have more than her husband so why shouldn't she respect you?

After shouting at her, form that you have vexed. Spend late nights outside, don't eat her food for a week. Spend most of your time away from home for a week. And don't smile for her.

She will be shocked to see this side of you. And she will think. How many men will want to marry a mother of 2

put a password on your phone.


If she becomes nicer to you, pretend to still b annoyed. For a week then gradually start eating her food.

You need to let her know that you mean everthing you have said.

Marriage is for better for worse. You have to make it work. In your wife's case, you have to teach her a lesson or else you are doomed n will grow old b4 your time

are you for real? So you think the op is innocent in all of these? I strongly believe this op never treated the wife well when she wasn't earning anything or there's a way he goes about things that's not right. I honestly don't believe any woman in her right frame of mind would deliberately disrespect a man she married by reporting every misunderstanding between them 2 her family, thereby belittling the man. IMO, there's more to this story!

@ Op, you, self, check what you are doing nau! Haba! What is a responsible married man (with 2 kids o) doing outside his house till early hours of the day? Abeg bros, respect is not only earned o, you still need 2 do a lot to sustain it. Maybe before she got a job and started contributing 2 the home front, u used to make reference to all u did for her in an insultive manner and now that she's contributing, she feels there's no need taking insults any more. Pls, be honest with us, before she started contributing, was she like this? Do u force her 2 contribute even when she says she doesn't have?

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kreami diva: Judii!

Present, ma!

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@ Kenya, can u please let this matter rest, please. IMO, u don't need this right now. Ignore every 'insult' directed to u and concentrate on healing properly first.

@ Kenya, nice one! Pls, for no reason should this guy know where u are. God be with u.

@ Chillisauce N Swag Queen, I'm good. I have been a silent follower of the thread because nothing is happening with me. Thanks 4 checking on me jare

Chillisauce: Una still dey for vure matter .

Where is Kenya abeg!

Swag queen what's up? Hope everything is going wella,
Judi, how far na?

I dey o!

vivianc: How did you see the "potential cheat?" Anyway, I don't wanna debate on that. What I want to let her know is there are consequences, huge ones! God is not asleep! You can't use your fellow human like this and go free.

As a growing child, my mum sounded these warnings into my ears:
1. " Do not insult any guy that comes for you, no matter how small or little you thing he is."

2. "If you don't like a man, pls don't like his gifts."

I grew up with these warnings. I could have found myself in her shoes at 17 too but i didn't want to be indebted to any man. I knew what I wanted and I wasn't gonna allow indebtedness to make the choice for me. If I wanted that, I know where I would have been, but no regrets. I'm taking it slow and with serene peace of mind.
No man can say "oh, after all I have done for you!" Nah, no man can take that glory. It all belongs to God, and sometimes I lend my family some.

Pls to every teen reading this thread, if a man is not good enough for you, his gifts shouldn't be!

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taryour: Honestly I don't understand at all. You meant you have never had SeX with your wife of 6 years before
What do you mean by "anytime am ready to penetrate her,it just goes down right at the peak of it"

Is it that she doesn't have a hole to be penetrated ni or what

This is so funny

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jennykadry: She must marry him even if I have to organize the wedding venue, bridal train, heck even I will gladly volunteer to be her chief brides maid. I'm not this generous and nice but I will make exceptions in this case

Hehehehehehehehe! Madam JK, no be small chief brides maid o! I can't stop laughing. Vure, you must marry the guy by fire by force.

Chillisauce: Lets wait the man to abuse before calling him one. Give him the benefit of doubt .

I think the girl here is the abuser .

She ate his money and him never chop Pomo. Now she wan run.
You never start!

This made me laugh so hard

Nogen: And he didn't take advantage of you during the 5 years. Hmmmmmmm! This case is delicate o. I would like you to be very careful here. It practically trained you in school and in return, he wants to marry you. If he's not abusive, you may have to reconsider your stand. You should not have allowed him spend his money on you all these years.

exactly what I had in mind to tell her. I doubt if this guy is an abuser o! U can slow down on the marriage plans 4 now so u can be sure because this your matter cannot just be swept under the carpet o! It is really, really complicated. All the best!

frostbyte: Your wife is EVIL, your situation was just to bring out her real character, more evil characters yet to be revealed.....when you get back on your feet, don't forget.....deal with her...I know you saw the handwriting on the wall but you went ahead and married her...we all do that, hoping they would change..women , devils in disguise

So obvious you are frustrated but no need doing that on a forum like this. Your generalization about women is so unnecessary. If you had a bad experience before, you should have gone ahead 2 say so without putting all women 2gether in one class.

nwapastor: Wow I've learnt alot. Hope it helps me too cos I'll be getting married in 2 months time & I'm still a virgin @ 34. I read of going 4 a pelvic examination 6wks b4 d wedding 2 check out how tight u r so u can start off d stretching exercise with ur fingers b4 d wedding night Or hubby starts with finger- stretching on d wedding night.

34 years? Wow! Congratulations! IMO, whatever stretching that needs 2 be done should be done by your husband since you have waited this long. I can't imagine the pain u would go through. God be with you!

Donxavier: Best comment so far... some men are not just it at all

Thanks. Walahi, its so tiring!

Abortion? When people are running helter skelter 2 have just a child? Kai! I don't understand why people no longer have conscience! I pray after you are done with the abortion, you won't start running from one prayer mountain to the other when you are ready 2 be a father o!

ferhyntorlah: Judii, forgerrit! He won't listen!
African men & their ego.
Hian!

;Dhonestly, I easily get tired of issues like this ehn! Its so disturbing. I don't know what stops the man from loving his wife and let's see if the woman wouldn't submit 100percent. God Himself knows that there is power in love that's why He commanded the man 2 love his wife and wives to be submissive. @ op, loving your wife comes before submission! Can u demand submission from a commercial sex worker? Women are naturally very soft o! In fact, it's in us 2 be submissive but husbands, u guys have 2 love us first! Simple!

kreami diva: Relationship ke

It's not impossible now!

swag queen: I stated in one of my posts that knowing the kind of person he is,he ain't coming back for us (cos like he said,he can marry as many wives as possible) .. he's God's gift to women.

But then,I'm an adult and would be responsible for the outcome of this decision I've taken already.
Its well.

Oh! Ok, pls by all means, move on with your life jare! But abeg, don't rush into another relationship so fast while you are @ it. U can start trying out relationships when u are properly healed. Believe me madam, your husband would come back 4 u guys one day but I pray it won't be too late. I hate situations like this because the children are the ones who suffer it but what can one do! All the best.