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swag queen: Gracias everybody. May God meet you at the very point of your needs IJN. Amen.

Pls, be firm with this decision u have taken and u would be happy u did. Don't be quick 2give him a divorce because of the children. Seperate for as long as possible 2 see if he can truly change. If u see genuine repentance after a while, u may reconsider. By then, your self esteem would have been built as tall as mount Everest and he would never dream of treating u the way he did before. God be with u!

@ OP,love your wife like the Bible says and you would be shocked how obedient she would become. Try it and return back here with testimonies because I'm 100 percent sure it works like magic.

Nashville: Madam, I am not even sure I was refering to you as I cannot see that from your posts and definitely was not trying to be judgemental. We are all trying to learn here. Sometimes people may make mistakes and all I was saying was that if a man/woman is always ending up in an abused relationship, could he/she be doing something wrong? Pls we are all trying to learn and I apologise if you feel offended.

No offence taken! Thanks.

pickabeau1: @judii

Please do not take the comment to heart
At this point, your focus hould be on resolving the issues and getting back to the marriage to the man you fell in love wih

It is well....

We are currently working out things. Thanks for the encouragement.

kreami diva: Judii,i see you. Thank God u're back.

Hmmmm.... I have been peeping, my dear. I'm so shocked @ what I'm reading here. I don't even know what 2 say. It is well!

@ Nashville, So because I ran away from one and unknowingly ended up with another, I now attract them 2 myself, right? I really don't blame the other lady 4 exiting this thread! Too many judgemental people on NL.

ileobatojo: Love this! Very good for you Judi!

And you highlighted a couple of things again, 1, how well abusers are liked on the outside by others (charming) and 2, one of their biggest fears is being caught (which is part of the reason they are so charming outside)

innitially, no one believed me when I told them especially his family members because they said he was one of the most gentle and easy going ones. My family believed because they know I wouldn't lie 4 any reason. Thanks.

Chillisauce: Hey Judii, go get yourself some se xy lingerie. Wear them every day and keep looking yourself in the mirror
Appreciate God for the wonderful creature he created.
Dress good, keep your head high of off to work!
Life is so good when you do what makes you happy.

Thanks

pickabeau1: Good... now that the families are involved

Try the communication method discussed earlier on how to get your points across without voices being raised...

Have this discussion before you go back home

Also let him come with his family to beg you

It is well...

yeah..... This is exactly what I will do. Thanks a lot.

theLORDreigns: U did d right thing by going public, May GOD grant u a peaceful home

Amen!

Idowuogbo: See dis one, you should ask? By d time he use somersault comot ur front teeth for confronting him, u go no kerosene no b palmwine.

can't stop laughing this morning . Na real somersault!

bukatyne: You are living in lala land.

Irrespective of what a wife does, a husband has no right to abuse her and vice versa.

I guess you feel it's ok to beat up a wife because she disagreed with her hubby while he will not beat up a fellow man when he does same outside.

Don't worry, when you enter, you can come and give us the reasons . It's good to hear from the horse's mouth and experience is the best teacher!

There is difference between abuse and fighting anyways

you are sooooo no point, dear.

pickabeau1: I like your spirit..

May your efforts and labour of love not be in vain

How long have you been out of the house

Has he come to beg you to return home

Thanks, dear. Amen! I have been out 4 some months now. His people are so nice and have been begging and also praying with me 4 things 2 return 2 normal. On his part, he's not coming out straight 2 say sorry but his action says his sorry and full of regrets. @ least, now, when we talk on phone and when he comes around, he no longer insults me @ the slightest provocation. I think the manner with which I handled the matter really got 2him as I made it public to both families what has been happening and he's so ashamed and sober now. He's doing very well 4 himself and this makes a lot of people look up 2 him as a complete gentle man so letting out details of what happens with us behind closed doors really makes him ashamed.

Donxavier: Submission is actually your strength if you are dealing with a man that loves you and of course a reasonable man.

Bros, na so I think am b4. My dear, forget love jare! There's more 2 marriage than just love. I know what I'm saying cos we were so much in love that everyone around us could see and even smell it . Truth is, at times, u just can't explain what causes it joor.

kreami diva: Lol @blind love! Nna one hot slap my ex boyfriend gave me one Christmas shifted my jaw! . It was his friend,a doctor that adjusted my jaw for me! I'm laughing as I'm writing it now because i didn't lose some teeth abi?


It is well o

This cracked me up so hard. I can't stop laughing self . Biko, were u able 2 fight back? I have never been physically abused and I pray it never happens because I will sooooo slap that man back 2 reality ehn! He would be too shocked! I still dey laugh.

theLORDreigns: These men in question r abusive to d most meekest & most submissive women.

Pls don't wait to have d experience b4 u understand it, its real & its happening

God bless you real good! They take advantage of your submissiveness. Your total submission 2 them, is a weakness.

Wrong post.

@ Pickabeau1, thanks a lot. I am not one 2 give up easily. Most times, I get confused when the insults start coming because the issues are usually very petty things. I have a job(even before I married) so I'm not in any way totally dependent on him financially, infact there were times I even had 2 step in 4 him financially which I don't nag about. I married a man that grew up in a very large house and I later got 2 know through his siblings that abuse was no big deal. I'm finding it a very big deal because my upbringing was different. The painful part is that he doesn't see any thing wrong with what he's doing @ all. I have sat him down 2beg him 2 please stop d abusive words and still, no improvement. Right now I'm @ my parents' because I believe the earlier I handle this, the bettr 4 me before it gets physical. I do pray a lot about it as he's now completely different from the same man I courted and married. Na so marriage be ni?

Whoever says all abusers show such traits during courtship, sure doesn't know how pretentious some guys can be.

pLs, make sure u pump and throw it away before letting him suck o! That's what someone told me.

itsmelex: My son is 11mnths+ and not dewormed, but I'v given him water from saint leaf once. I googled about this somtime ago and didnt find where babies are dewormd, just toddlers for some, mayb I'l check again...
curious too....


@all, the point of breastmilk getting spoilt(in d bossom oh!) is gradually given me concern oh. For two days now my boy has not sucked from the breast(and I'v stoped bumping), he just turns the ni*pple to switch button and uses his tumb on it. I'v always wantd to stop earlier but dont knw why am concerned now. I think he is teething now and maybe the reason for refusing to nurse, but should I be concernd of giving him 'spoilt' milk if he choose to suck later today or tmrw?... realy concerned.... or I should just stop?....arrrgggg!!

Twinmama: Pls peeps, i really want to gain weight for my preg, needs tips

pls, be careful what u ask 4 o! Its already seven months since I delivered and I am still struggling 2 trim down cos I added a lot of weight and I'm not comfortable with the way I look @ all. Except u want 2 be a fat person sha. It's very easy 2add but very difficult 2 reduce o! What embarrasses me most is my big tommy.

May the Lord grant u eternal rest, KemmiDebbie. Rest on.....

And I have been wondering what the "WOW"factor ( the heading of the thread)is in someone answering a call in the middle of s3x. Which married couple engage in such time wasting thing! Life is not all about intimacy, ojare! I'm sure when u were small, u used to peep through your neighbours key hole 2 watch them 'doing d do'and it looks 2me like u knew very well she was being intimate @ that particular time that's y u called her 2 confirm. The both of u are not even married self! #Boyfriendtinz#

[quote author=mss_rosa!]plane english ni jet english kor[/quote] This really cracked me up. @ op, it is well with u, jare.

@ op, I've come 2 understand over time that what most people do, are things they grew up in. Maybe the guy grew up in a home where the mother did everything 4 them even while their father was alive and earning salary. Such a man wouldn't see anything wrong in what he does except with God's intervention. I suggest your friend continues 2 look after her children as best as she could, she would reap from them very soon.

@ all mummies and daddies in the house,let's continue 2 pray harder. Getting a BFP does not mean the end of our battles o! In fact, after the BFP is when we are even supposed 2 step up our prayers because the implication is that, u just floored the devil in a very thunderous manner and u don't expect him (devil) 2 take it with a smile @ all na. The devil doesn't rest, so, we the children of the most high must not relent @ all. We must not let the devil steal our Testimonies after a hard fight. Pls, be vigilant!

@ KemiDebbie's DH, may God comfort, direct and teach u what 2do @ this point in your life. He knows best and knows why it happened the way it did. Take heart, dear. It is well with you.

@ Sotum2, I haven't called servant Vic yet. I'm having some challenges but believing God 2 intervene soon. Thanks 4 checking on me.

I'm thankful 4 the gift of life which superceeds all other gifts. Lord, I am forever grateful. Thank u, Jesus!

My girl also has very stubborn and full hair. Someone introduced me 2 a Johnson baby hair spray called 'Tangle free spray' Its what I've been using and gives excellent result. Makes hair extremely soft and curly. It goes 4 #800 in baby shops. There's also conditioner and shampoo. The conditioner goes 4 #1500. With the spray alone, u will get the desired result but I got the conditioner 4 extra effect. Hope this is useful.

@ God's sent, I think the present title of your thread is perfect. Barreness is in different forms. Someone can be barren in the womb, maritally (very bad relationship with spouse), financially, academically, a person's destiny can be completely barren. Just stick 2 this one because u opened the thread based on your experience. Pls, tell those people 2 post their testimonies here even though it is not barreness of the womb they got breakthrough for. I want 2 be a part of the deliverance not because I seek the fruit of the womb but because I feel I'm not yet whom God created me 2 be.

@ Mikuut, I would do as u suggested. Thanks.