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sweetilicious:
We need to unlearn so many things in marriage.

NwaAmaikpe:
Ibeto was the Cement company to beat, the banks came for him
Innoson became the face of Indigenous African vehicles, GTBank came for him. The court awarded the win to Innoson.
Capital Oil started making Oando and Forte Oil uncomfortable, AMCON came after him. The court once again awarded the win to Capital Oil.

Now, AirPeace is redefining the face of aviation in Nigeria and the US is now after him.

My questions are,
Is it now a sin to be a successful Igboman.
Is it a crime to rise against the odds of being Igbo and excel in business in the uneven Nigeria playing field.

How come things are put in place for others to excel no matter what while every known persecution trails others?

I'm not asking a lot,
I'm just saying that water has passed garri when the mosquito begins to suck breast milk meant for the baby instead of blood.

RedCreme21:
Because of her monetary value in his life?

OMOTOWO:
A dey tell u.

The girl prefers the ex prick to the new prick..

She think we don't know what's up.

Advise ko,advance ni

OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP

From this moment, stop looking for true love

I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.

Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.

See, in most cases, love is transient.

Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.

sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.

sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.

"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.

So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.

So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.

That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.

this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.

But for someone who fulfils that criteria;

- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;

- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);

- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)

- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;

- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.

- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;

So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.

So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.

If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.

My piece!

IDERAWOLE:
It's quite easy to advise if you are not in her shoes. Flaw is human, you'll find it in all human.

Why do you think many ladies and guys consult prophets or herbalist to decide on who to marry?

This is where genuine christians enjoy the benefit of superior wisdom and knowledge of the Holy Spirit.

If you're not one, well take your gamble with your ex. If you marry the new guy, bet it, you won't know when you'll start cheating with your ex.

Your emotions are still on the drive for him.

How do you stop his character flaws? He just had to grow up!

If you don't have a pastor whom you should introduce him to for pre-marital counselling, then ensure you get someone he respects and introduce your marriage plans to the person, with that he knows there's someone to report him to when he messes up.

Cut off from the new guy, ask him to take you to the person I spoke about now. He was denied firm home discipline, so he'll need it now.

Above all, get to know Jesus seriously, not just as a church goer, be born again, you'll know how to handle such cases. Genuinely born again, I mean.

kay4kay:
Tell us the truth your ex is good downstairs

Ceenelly:
madam, your ex knows who you are, that title he called you at his friends birthday suit you,

DennisEche:
How many ladies can use their head, when ex start coming back it ends up in sex, unless the guy no want

Sweeetheart:
Mafia. hoping to collect two diicks at a time, you're the real MVP



there is no how you can get over your ex unless you get him off your heart. You lack principles and you're not a lady of class


If you've class and principles you won't be falling in love with someone that you ain't comfortable with


you won't be falling in love with someone that rubbish you in public


in fact if you're my sister, I would have taken you to Cele for proper deliverance.


your new bf is a real guy, i love how he suspend the relationship. I can't imagine myself with a lady of low class who lacks principles. a guy that abuse you at any fvcking provocation time doesn't value and respect you

notoriousbabe:
Walahi if you go back to that modafoka no be your papa burn you be that. Move on and discover something new. Him prick no even size you self, so go out and search for your own size wey go dey sweet you

DennisEche:
You never ready to leave, when you ready come let's advice you properly, if he was that good to stick with why was he an ex, ladies keep making same mistake of going to exes Even some married women are guilty of it, at the end destroy their relationship, stop keeping in touch with ur ex, it has never end well. Most exed guys come back to destroy.

chenzen:
try ubunja

chenzen:
try ubunja

Richiebay:
��I thought I was the only one that noticed..the response is way more than the original post �

bodaola:
Sister, I will advise you to move on.... Let Ex be ex, the truth is, the relationship with your ex will not work out well again... He will still bring up the issue of fucking your present boyfriend in future and that will get things worst.... Bet it with me, in future, h

OladimejiRufai:
Beautiful OP

In this case, I have three things to share with you or I want you to consider or reason when making a choice.

The first is, I think in this case, it's a matter of what you wish for and how much capacity you have to withstand the downsides of what you desire.

- it's a matter of what you wish for because - the human heart was fashioned in such a way that it is always longing for what it likes. Although the human mind may influence the body to do something contrary to what the heart longs for because of some reasons but it's quite difficult to stop the heart from longing for that thing.

this is what played out in your life. Your mind thought that that guy wasn't good for you and you were influenced to walk away from his life. But what happens after that? even though your mind may be convinced the guy isn't good for You, your heart cannot stop yearning for the guy simply because you love him.

- then it's a matter of how much you can withstand the downsides sorrouding what you desire. This is simply because it will be FOOLISH for any human to go ahead to follow his desires if he is convinced that desire or wish will lead him to doom. So how much you can withstand the downsides must also be considered.

So what exactly do you wish for OP? for it is achieving what the heart wants that make the heart happy and settled and if the contrary happens, it causes the heart to be restless and sad. So who out of those guys do you WANT, that would cause you not to be longing for another person while with him and will cause your heart to be fulfilled, happy and settled and not the opposite?

Then secondly, I want you to understand that in life, there are times that, to do the right thing and to be safe and free from problems, one must give up on his/her heart desires. Because in life, it's not everything you want you get and in life, there are times you desire something but that thing is not GOOD for you.

So OP, think thoroughly about that ex of yours that you wish for? What is it gonna be like if you go back to him? What problems are you likely to experience, what's the degree of the likelihood and how much can you withstand his troubles? Think very deeply if going back to your ex will be good for you or bad? If it's bad, then you need no one to tell you that you must give up your love for him and cut off communication with him.

Then the third thing is, I want you to understand that there's nobody that cannot change. In this life, we were created and mandated to perform all that's righteous and right and refrain from all that's wrong. And we have also been created in such a fashion that we can achieve doing the right thing and giving up all bad character if we are determined to do and give it its due requirements.

So every human body can achieve righteousness if it's determined. every bad habit can be given up. This has happened in the lives of many people.

So I want you to understand that your ex can change cause there's no one that cannot change. But still, the likelihood of him changing must be put in consideration.

So your ex can be helped to change and he can change for good and if he does, that way, it will be a total win for you.

so these are the three things I want you to consider.

Remember I never suggested anyone of them for you. I only gave you three things you should consider and I want you to use your sense to do the right thing.

I repeat, USE YOUR SENSE!!!

bye bye!!!

aspirebig:
They have reduced Professors to mere messengers for INEC.

Shioor....Professors that ought to soaked themselves in researches,knowledge seeking,book writing,adding new and rare ideas to the body of knowledge, gaining national and international recognitions,going to world best Universities to give lectures,talks, and strictly follow their academic discipline.

Now Professors are roaming about in corridors of powers in all government houses,seeking one manner of appointment to another,some are even vying local government Chairman,some are state government looking for contracts,others are in Federal government looking for a position or another.

Audio Professors..With all our Profs in Engineering, we still have no 24hours electricity in Nigeria.

Recently, some Profs were caught committing plagiarism in writing....

seunmohmoh:
Nowhere is safe again.

ecclize:
now i confirm something is wrong with this country..
why will anyone propose death penalty for hate speech amid the corrupt practices in this country

ademidedavid:
You are a begger with no good words in your big mouth

maddman:
Na the Ciroc wey I know be this, abi na imitation?


I'm in dire need of 1k, somebody help please

Alvin212:
Petite ,,,,


Imagine my monster love rod

Inside her



,,I swear I go like to bleep this girl

Helinuex:
These hungry people?