₦airaland Forum

I have been pondering on the concepts of the "Mungo Park" and the "Aunty Patricia" woman recently.
I have listened to Korede Bello's song "Mungo Park" with "Patty Patty" women as old bachelors and spinsters who go into marriage with excess baggage. The baggage is sooooooo heavy it often interfers with success of the relationship or marriage.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il7vIMecTaI

TheBTCinvestor:
Nawa o..what do I do? How do I satisfy her..I'm thinking of using burantashi

YES!

Seek medical advice.
It could be hormonal or a disease process like diabetes.
If you get erection with other women, then burantashi will not help you. The woman is the problem not your equipment.

When you cannot get aroused by your wife. . . . it means sexuality in your marriage is dead or you are one of those men that never found satisfaction in a monogamous relationship. Let's face it. The reason men indulge in polygamy is because they see women like cars that can be upgraded when the 'mileage' gets higher and the 'chasis' gets weakened.

Find out what your problem really is and work on it. What exactly is the problem. You must be honest with yourself.

Your husband was NEVER built to satisfy you.
Husbands and wives can only satisfy eachother for a while. . .the reason relationships and marriages have 'PHASES'.

I have news for you. You will still get tired of the next man.
Only a jobless man or woman will make 'sexual satisfaction' a main priority in a relationship or marriage.

Please, grow up fast!

Extremely IRRESPONSIBLE man with 14 children. . . . ?
An old man that keeps getting married and breeding children he cannot take care of.
To complicate matters, he keeps getting married to 'unlimited liabilities' as wives.
None of the children has sound education or meaningful legacy from him.
They are all hustling to fend for themselves.

To make matters worse. . . he has unhealthy lifestyles and medical issues.
Who will take care of those young children if he departs this earth in an untimely fashion?

Very normal. The reason FRIENDSHIP takes over SEXUALITY in marriage to succeed in any relationship.
Spouses often become like siblings, and "Agape Love" sets in.
You must work harder to be attractive to each other. IT IS WORK!
If you want to succeed, you must work HARDER to be romantic.
It will not come naturally. Very difficult.

Unless you use 'biblical jazz'!

Once you lose that part of you relationship. . . .YOU CAN NEVER GET IT BACK!
You will suffer in silence and frustration in your marriage or relationship if you don't find ways to manage that critical stage of 'disaffection' and lack of 'sexual fulfillment'.

The bad news? It does not get any better with the next relationship. Familiarity breeds contempt. . . .even in sexuality!

Unfortunately, you are with a man that is WEAK-MINDED.
Your husband does not know boundaries. . . . But you must set your own boundaries.
No one can advise you on what to do.

That woman will continue to use the children against you.
The children deserve to spend time with their dad, but not with the other woman constantly interferring.

I know what I would have done, but you must fix your own mess!

You go gal!
People don look totto finish go masturbate go sleep. Your 'tape' cured a lot of impotence for many Nigerian dudes.
Your market still dey sell.
Congratulation, . . .Nothing do you.
HBD!!!!

Stale news of defection and more defections.
Nigerians will decide. . . . not 'DEFECTIONS'.

Is it easy to get accquainted with someone without a child?
It is not easy for a woman or man to accept a child in any relationship.
My take? RAISE YOUR CHILD or CHILDREN FRIST before you start looking for a relationship.
The children never asked to be born or deprived from a home with both parents to raise them.
After you have raised your children and they are independent, then YOU CAN GO AND SEARCH FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

The children deserve your undivided attention. Your child does not need a 'replacement mother or father' because you want to be 'happy' and irresponsibly put your selfish needs before those of your child or children.

Too many 'MUNGO PARKS' and 'AUNTY PATRICIAS' all over Nigeria/africa who have no business getting married or re-married.

Thank God for men like my father who NEVER REMARRIED as a single parent! He just could not see himself givng his children another mother, especially when their own mother was still alive. He had a few girlfriends and 'side' chicks. . . .but he NEVER BROUGHT THEM HOME and we NEVER KNEW THEM. He sacrifiiced all. . . . .and we reaped the benefits

Lies!
SSS that can’t find who sponsors Boko Haram.
Is IPOB a “terrorist” group?

Because he is desparate to be president so he can use Nigeria's coffers to finish Eko Atlantic!

Yes ke!

After favoring the Daura DUNCE. . . .electoral reforms were passed while Nigeria rotted for EIGHT YEARS!

descarado:
Kanwulia, did you buy the ogiri and dawadawa online?
Link please.

I bought the OGIRI OKPEI from Nigeria.
You can order OGIRI OKPEI from Amazon or Walmart.✅

But the other one (Fermented Sesame seed, NINA brand) I bought from a Nigerian store near my house. Also found online.✅

https://theafricanmarket.com/products/ogiri-processed-sesame-seed

All tucked away. . , . No “NEPA” or epileptic power supply palava!👍

Finally in bed! Good Lord!
At least, no heave cooking for 1 month!🎉🎉🎉

I cleaned.my Egusi and Ogbonor pots with a lil’ eba.

I can go “ghetto” sometimes.

The soups!

Egusi and Ogbonor.✅

Nothing dey waste o. . .
I use rice to clean my stew and vegetable stew pots to make emergency “jollof”!

My grand mama train me wella!

Vegetable Stew don CAST!✅

Stew is packed!✅

No, I did not forget my seafood Okra.
The easiest and least messy of the lot.✅

I hate to re-warm food and I DON’T put pots and pans in my freezer.

I portion little amounts so I can control waste and avoid contamination with opening and closing the refrigerator.✅

Now I have conquered. . . . . Time to DIVIDE!

My chicken stock is ready. I also have some from the store if I don’t have enough from my meat. You never know what is in these processed foods. You can only try your best.🙏🏽

Pointer? Always get rid of the excess fat from the chicken.👍

Those dangling snail tentacles. . . . I chop them all OFF and use them for soups. I don’t allow them Dane in my stew! Too ugly.

Back to the grand finale. . . . After lunch and a short break from standing in the kitchen.✅

Snails, dried Fisk and stock fisk(OKPOROKO)

All washed thoroughly with salt and hot water.👍

Side dishes.❤️
Salad and garlic pita bread.✅

Pointer?
When you finish baking your meat and poultry, let it air-dry and cook off before putting them in the stew or soup. It remains soft but firm.👍

In the mean time. . . . Time for a light lunch!😋

Welcome to SWALLOW BUNKER!

You name it. . . . We SWALLOW ALL!

Oat fufu
Plantain fufu
Brown rice fufu
Yam ( Iyan Ado)
Yellow and White Garri. . . Name it, we garrrrrit!

Meanwhile. . . .

Stew, Vegetable Stew, Egusi and Ogbonor blends are chilling and waiting to receive the meats, fish and snails!😋

Yes oooooo. . . . I LOVE DAWADAWA and OGIRI!🫡🫡🫡🫡🎉🎉🎉

Now, to do the same for the Turkey, Gizzards and Beef.

I can’t stand to taste “slimy meat except it is shaki, kpomo or cow feet.✅ I bake all others till they are dry.

It prolongs my cooking time, but I can manage. I goat ALL WEEK to cook in stages.

No rush!😎

Dat chicken don ready o✅