I have gone there so many times and the answer i always get is that all those in Lagos that bought the part time form should relocate because no Lagos campus for us. They did not tell us all these when we were buying the form

They even went ahead and approved part time programme in their school, so we that are in Lagos have to travel all the way here down to Oyo state to attend lectures.

They went ahead and said no Lagos centers for students, AKALA please consider us

Thank you Moderator

I want to ask LAUTECH school of part time why did they start their part time programme without considering Lagos students that travls every weekend to Oyo state.

When are u people going to approve Lagos centers for us??

U better run they are SCAMERSSSSSS

Please I need a job in either Oyo town or Ogbomosho Oyo State urgently. I am an undergraduate student of Ladoke Akintola University of Technology and it is a part time programme. I attended lectures on Fridays and Saturdays

Please call or mail me @ 08026224502 or veronica_igboba@yahoo.com

The reason is that most of them are very very expensive and their bride price is always high. So their suitors are always afraid to ask their hand in marriage.

Another one is dat before any suitor can marry them is that her suitor has to carry her sliblings problems or even send them to school, care for the family, and relations.

So dat why

Please how can i check mine sister own. I did receive any notification @ all. My yahoo id is veronica_igboba@yahoo.com

Am finiding it diffcult to get it

Good Afternoon,

Pls i have been finding it diifcult to check my post ume result. Please how can i go abt it

thanks for the information. my email is veronica_igboba@yahoo.com

www.internetjobs4nigeria and end it with .co.cc. Pls give me correct website becos dis one is not opening @ all

What rubbish was he trying to do. He lacks discipline

My dear countinue with ur NEW JOB, dont mind ur ex boss @ all, u dont knw wat he has in mind. I sense he has something evil in mind. BE CAREFUL

I am coolheaded, lady, gentle, faithful, most of all, fears God, and a CATHOLIC I need a God fearing guy for serious relationship and a CATHOLIC, I have been single for sometime now, and been a victim of guys who are after my body and my love, so i want a faithful and God fearing guy and mature man for a serious relationship that can later turn into marriage, Anyone one out there? email: ronniemyhero@yahoo.com

Please if u are not ready and you want to play games please dont tempt to mail me

I fear oooooooooooooo, dat means his wife is unfaithful and greed. With time she will come begging

I just open my box dis morning i got a from my close friend who need urgent help, and there is nothing i could than to send it over here which i know i can get help for her.

She needs me to buy her virginal tightener cream which i dont knw d one to buy for her. The problem with her is dat her husband to b is complainig that her virginal is too loose and she should find solution to it becos there wedding is march next year, becos he want to enjoy his sexual life, wen he gets married to her.

Please dont c dis as stupid question she is serious and needs urgent help

Tope5000 pls point of correction i dont copy and paste @ all aleast i read novels, newspaper, and magazine.

Them i sit down think and make up my own. So pls i dislike dat comment u made dat i copy 4rom the websites, dats not true

Whether you’re a man looking for a good wife or a wife wanting to improve yourself, your marriage or your relationship – take a look at these 7 qualities of a good wife. Good fruit will come from these basic qualities anyone can develop.

7) Nag free. Ladies, a good wife is going to be nag free. Nagging is an ineffective method of trying to get your husband to perform a task you desire. Trust me ladies – it doesn’t work and often will have the opposite of its intended affect.

6) Supportive. Are you supportive? What does it mean to be supportive? Do you belittle your man or do you help him to feel good about himself, his job, activities? Your husband will be much more respectful of you if you support him. Even when you don’t agree with him – respectfully let him know you don’t agree – then support him anyway. Otherwise, if he has difficulties – he’ll feel as though you’re adding to his troubles.

5) Build up your man. Ladies, there’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him – especially in front of others. On the flip side – try genuinely complementing your husband in front of other people. Your husband will glow with admiration toward you and you’ll feel his appreciation as love.

4) Keep him happy in the bedroom. Unfortunately, many women underestimate the importance of keeping her man’s needs met. Often this comes from the basic differences in women and men. For men, sexual desire is much like physical hunger and if it’s not fed properly – the relationship will struggle. Women must look to understand the needs of the man from his perspective not hers.

3) Respect. A good wife will try to treat her man with respect. How? Much of learning how to be respectful toward your husband has to do with the way you talk to him. The old phrase “It’s not so much what you say but how you say it” should become a wife’s motto. This doesn’t mean you need to be careful what you say to your husband – just be respectful in the way you say it.

2) Communicate. Ironically, good communication between men and women can be quite frustrating. However, a good wife will seek to discover what’s on her mind and find a way to express herself to her husband. Often, men and women will make a joint decision – while the man thinks she’s in agreement with him – but only to discover later that she thought the decision was a bad idea.

1) Be pleasant. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Good things will come from being pleasant. It’s a decision – just decide to be pleasant. But if you can’t be pleasant – make a decision not to bring him down with you.

C i think u dont ave d fear of God. Revenge is 4 God not 4 man.

Look 4 a good and nice lady out not ur stepmother.

Ok

If i was in her shoe i will do it why becos, if he is 4rom a good home, brillant, handsome, and many things abt men.

If he is well educate why not, but if he is not, i will do my possble best to make him look good that pple will not knw he is a driver.

C try as much as possble to stay away 4rom her, if u ave given her ur phone number try and change ur number relocate to another place.

U are not a kid u are old enough to take decsion on your own, u are not a baby any more so dont let decieve u or ride u.

Dont b surprice she will walk up to u one day and tell u she is pregant 4 u, dat way she will u it and trap u 4 ur enternal life which u cant run away 4rom it.


B cafeful and b wise man.

Intimacy is a key survival ingredient in a long distance relationship. Without that feeling of connectedness, doubts and dissatisfaction start to emerge and can eventually lead to serious problems. Due to this, it's even more important for couples in long distance relationships to find ways of keeping that feeling of togetherness.

The main idea behind these ideas below is to help you and your partner feel more involved in each other's daily lives. You may not actually be there, but you can definitely make them feel like you're a part of what's going on in their lives.

1. Voice Memos

Nothing can bridge the gap like the sound of your partner's voice. Voice memos are one of the easiest and cost effective ways to achieve this. You can send your partner a voice memo key chain with the words "I love you" on it. You can get a voice memo photo frame and record "thinking of you always" on it. You can get a personal recorder and just say random thoughts about your day to your partner and send it to them at the end of the week. Many stuffed animal companies offer voice recordings inside of the toy. You could say different recordings such as, good night, sweet dreams, good morning, I love you, and so on.

2. Start Blogging!

Chances are you're pretty Internet savvy if you are in a long distance relationship. If you are, sign up for a free blog somewhere and send your partner the username and password. Use this tool as a way to frequently communicate with each other about your daily life and thoughts. If you don't have access to a blog, write a little something about your day each night. At the end of the week, mail your partner the letters.

3. Web Cam Dates

When you're missing your partner's touch, a web cam date can be the closest remedy available. Frequently arrange a set time for these dates. Take turns planning on what you'll talk about or do. Some couples have used these as an opportunity to share a romantic candlelit dinner, watch a movie together or even play games online.

4. Keep a "LOVE" plant

A plant is often referenced as a symbol of a growing relationship. Use this symbol in your romance by sending each other a plant to take care of. As the plant grows, press leaves or flowers to send to each other in your mailings. When the long distance aspect of your relationship ends, plant them side by side at your new dwelling.

5. Scrapbook Of Our Relationship

It often helps to have something to look back on while we are apart. A scrapbook or photo album is a great way to do this. Whenever you are together take LOTS of pictures. After you separate again collect the pictures and put them in an album. Write little notes about how you were feeling during the certain times the photographs were taken and tuck them under or next to the photograph. Make two copies and send one to your partner. Whenever you are feeling lonely, take out your book and remember all the fun times you've had together.

6. Write Love Letters

Couples in long distance relationships are usually faced with more episodes of doubt than the typical relationship. To help counter this, make sure you are both sending letters to each other, even if by e-mail. Every so often, compile your letters in a nice folder. Now, whenever those feelings of doubt creep in, make a date with your love letters and spend some time reflecting over how well you've have made it so far.

7. Make It Personal

Send your partner an item of clothing or something personal that they can see or wear daily. It should be something that you use frequently that will instantly remind them of you. Sometimes it's the littlest things that can make everything feel all right.

8. Framed Personal Pictures

There's nothing like seeing your partner's beautiful face daily. Let your face be the first thing they see each morning and the last each night. Make an effort to send framed pictures to your partner whenever possible. Try for a new one each month. You can make it more creative as well by having each picture reflect something about each month. For example, in December have a picture taken with Santa or in the snow. Take a picture of you doing something you do every day. Each month pick a new daily task to take a picture of.

9. The Scent Of Love

One of the most effective ways to trigger an emotion is through the use of scent. When sending something to your partner, spray a bit of your cologne or perfume on it. You can spray things like a pillowcase, a stuffed toy, love letters or a piece of clothing.

Remember, while long distance relationships aren't easy, they can be the most rewarding. The time and effort you take to cultivate your intimacy now WILL transfer over into your future time together. The main goal here is to make each other feel like you are connected and involved in each other's daily life. It is the number one success tip of any long distance relationship. If you can achieve this, you will be on the right path to a very successful long-term romance.

COMMUNICATE YOUR WAY TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP INSTANTLY
- The 4 Golden Rules Of Communication For Couples and Singles




The key to a successful relationship is undoubtedly good communication. For a relationship to work, couples and singles must constantly communicate their thoughts and feelings to each other. However, as time goes by, couples lose interest communicating with each other. They run out of topics to talk about and conversations become monotonous. A slight mis-usage of words can easily metamorphose into an argument out of proportion. Couples start losing their loving connection and relationships become a chore rather than an avenue of enjoyment.



Rule #1: Listening

You must have gathered from various websites or seminars that the key to effective communication is listening. We couldn’t agree more. If both parties can listen to each other well, they are more likely to understand each other’s ideas and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.

How do you train yourself to listen effectively? In the initial stages, communicate with your partner with the same vigilance as if you are clinching a 100 million dollar deal. Listen actively to what he/she has to say, process in your brain the feelings he/she is experiencing and react accordingly. Paraphrase what you have gathered and ask questions to clarify when in doubt. Apply these principles to your every day communication. With practice, you will be able to capture your partner’s feelings even before he or she verbalizes it.


Rule #2: Open Communication

The second golden rule for effective communication is to communicate openly and sincerely. Be honest in whatever you say and try not to lie to the other party. Share with each other your thoughts and ideas and update the other party on your every day life. As far as possible, do not hide anything from each other. Share secrets so that the other party will feel that he/she occupies an important position in your life.

If you communicate openly with your partner at a regular basis in an honest manner, it will minimize the likelihood of the other party guessing about what you are thinking or doing and hence, reduce the chances of misunderstandings happening.


Rule #3: Verbalising

Thirdly, do not expect your partner to read your mind. Always verbalize your wants and needs to the other party. For example, if you are unhappy about what he/she has done, tell him/her in a tactful way, or else the other party may never know your displeasure. If you really love him/her very much, whisper words of love sweetly into his/her ears.

Through continued verbalization of your thoughts and feelings, a better mutual understanding will develop, which will in turn bring your relationship to greater heights.


Rule #4: Empathy

It has been said that the language of love is not words, but meanings. Hence, it is important to try and understand the other party’s feelings when communicating. Appreciate the other party’s ideas, concerns and expectations and try to see things from his/her perspective. If there are conflicting view points, try to put yourself in the other party’s shoes and identify with each other. With more empathy and concern, your partner will feel loved and this will open up new channels for effective communication.


In conclusion, always remember these 4 golden rules and communicate with L.O.V.E. This not only cuts down on arguments but also bring both parties closer physically and emotionally.

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> A 10 year old boy, had eaten pineapple about 15 days back,
> and fell sick,
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1. Sex on the Regular: Pretty Self Explanatory ladies…If he ask for it or lets you know that he wants some. Give it to him. Because more than likely you want it just as bad. So quit fronting! Also initiating sex shows that you are still sexually attracted to him. If he doesn’t get it from you then even the most committed men will get it from someone else.

2. Cook a couple times a week: A good home cooked meal by his woman will always keep him in line. A man will never cross a woman who cooks for him. It goes back to when he had his mother cooking for him. He will want nothing but yours. True story.

3. Prove to him that he is the only One, Not the important One: This does not apply to those with open relationships…and what type of woman has those anyways?…but if you ARE the one who wants him to be faithful to you, it goes both ways. Telling him he is the only one is not enough. He has to know it in his heart. You MUST really show him that he is the only person you are interested in. If he feels that he is one of a few, it doesn’t matter if he is the “main”, he will start to build a team of his own.

4. Have Discussions not Arguments: When faced with problems and differences have a discussion that includes both people speaking about the issue and both people listening. Don’t yell, cut-off, or over talk him. Same goes for him. Men hate a nagging woman. The more you do this the more he will search for someone that doesn’t do that. And there are women who know how to have discussions without arguing. So make sure YOU are one of them.

5. Take him out on a date once in a while: There are a couple of reasons that this is effective. One, it shows that you care enough for him to spend what you have on him. Two, it shows independence not dependence. It shows that you have your shit together and you don’t depend on a man to feed your ass. Its not like you have to make a habit out of it but it makes a nice surprise and keeps things interesting in your relationship.

6. Don’t Change Him: Allow progressive growth. Trying to change a man from who he is shows he is really not your ideal guy. It shows no confidence in his character and you are with him simply to mold him. In return it drives him away from the personality that you are putting out.

7. Being Honest: Even when it will hurt you or him, you have to be honest in every situation. Telling him something that you know he will not want to hear will hurt at first, but it will also build trust in you. The more you do this the more he’ll respect you.

8. Be productive: Nothing is worse than a sista who sits on facebook or myspace all day with no purpose, or who constantly has to ‘kick it” and “go out”. Step your game up hun, a man only respects a woman who handles her business and has goals and hobbies (”going out” isnt a hobby ladies). If you expect your man to have a job, car, own place, etc. you must be able to possess the same.

9. Know how to listen, not just talk: This is the most important form of communicating: listening. Not just hearing what YOU wanna hear. So when your man has something to say, hear him out. Even if he talks in novels, just hang in there. You’ll be suprised by how much you learn from your man by listening…hopefully yours has something meaningful to say, and if he dont…then why is he your man?

10. Have something to relate about: A relationship isnt possible without a bond, or “friendship”. Physical attraction, sex, financial stability, status, etc. is NOT gonna hold up your relationship sista. You have to have at least ONE thing you and him can both relate about. Or you gonna be in for a rude awakening.

Couples often drift apart after a while because they don’t take the trouble to make things work. Follow these ten tips to keep your relationship happy, loving and healthy.

Tell your man everyday how much you love and appreciate him
Thank him for everything he does for you by putting a note under his pillow or sending him an e-mail at work
Don’t let a day go by without giving him at least one loving hug
Always kiss him hello and good-bye
Do things with him that he likes, like walking with him on the golf course. It will show him that you are interested in what he loves and you will enjoy nature
Make time for at least one romantic evening per week. You can take turns to plan this evening. It will be great fun not to know beforehand what you have in store for each other
Listen when he shares his worries and problems with you no matter how boring you may find them – he doesn’t expect you to solve his problems, he just needs someone to listen
Don’t try to sort out your problems when you are angry. Take a few minutes to cool off; otherwise you might end up saying things that you regret
Tell him if something is bothering you. Talking about it will enable you to sort out the problem
Arrange a romantic getaway for just the two of you every once in a while

1. Talk on the phone, but not too much. Everyone sees those people in the dorms that sit outside on the phone about 12 hours a day. Don't be that person! Live your own life, but share it with the other person. Living apart can be hard, but if you talk about what's going on it can be easy to feel involved in the other's life.

2. Be honest! When having those oh so important phone conversations, tell each other the truth. Yes, you may not want to all the time because fights could ensue, but if the truth is out there all the time, it is easier to be faithful.

3. Visit each other. Don't just meet at home, go to each other's schools. Go see each other in your environments. It's easy to be at home because no friends are involved, but get out there and see what the other is doing.

4. Get to know their friends. It's easy to have your own life where you are, but remember that they are doing the same thing. They have met people that interest them and sometimes it can feel intimidating, but do it! Get to know the people they rely on at their own environments. Of course you rely on each other, but you need friends too, especially when your loved one isn't with you.

5. Fight! Obviously don't start fights for no reason, but if you're mad, tell each other! Anger can build up inside you and create a monster of hate. Soon, there is a chance that you can resent each other. Try to avoid saying things that hurt the other, but learn how your significant other works. If you know they get upset when you confront them in a certain way, do it differently.

6. Set boundaries. There are certain couples that are fine with the other doing anything their little hearts desire, but that is a rare situation. Especially in college, all kind of things come around that weren't there in high school. If there are certain kinds or any amount of using of drugs that makes one uncomfortable, it is important for the other to respect that and avoid it also. Yes, you should be able to do whatever you want, but if you really want the relationship to work, you need to have respect.

7. Get out and live life. Don't just sit in your room being sad and depressed that your loved one isn't there, get out and get involved. There are so many things that college is good for. Go do them. If you really love volunteering, go do it. If you want to learn how to surf, get on those waves and surf. Don't let sadness keep you from having fun.

8. Distract yourself. Along the same lines as number 7, get out. But not just to have fun. Do it to keep yourself occupied. The more you do, the less time you have to be sad and think about your significant other. Don't be afraid to keep busy. I promise you won't forget about your beau.

9. Don't be afraid to take breaks. A break can do you good. If you feel like some mental space is needed, take it. This is scary for most because they fear it means the death of their relationship, but it is sometimes the best thing a couple can do. Sometimes all you need to say is let's take a break. You may get back together the next day. A lot of times the other is thinking it, but just afraid to say it too.

10. Get intimate. Tell him/her what you want. When you do see each other make it special. Don't just get intimate sexually, but emotionally too. If you are opposed to the sexual part, it is easy to get intimate emotionally. Tell each other your hopes and dreams. Talk about where you see your relationship going. This is the time to get over your fear of commitment and let it all hang out. Of course, if you start to feel like they aren't really all you wanted, that's okay, but tell them. Don't let it hang.

In order to best understand how a marriage can come apart, it is helpful first to understand some of the ways that healthy marriages are structured, and how they function.

Healthy marriage partners are compatible partners

In a marriage that is to stand the test of time, romance is important, but compatibility is critical. By and large, partners in healthy marriages come to agree upon common agendas regarding the directions their marriage will take, and the way each partner will behave. These common agreements may never have been discussed, but they will be present implicitly in how each partner chooses to act.

Areas of agreement that partners will have dealt with will generally include:


Friendship. Successful partners develop a significant friendship at the core of their relationship. They genuinely like one another, amuse and comfort one another, and prefer to spend time with each other. This friendship and mutual liking is somewhat separate from other aspects of the relationship (sexuality, for instance), and can survive the loss of these other aspects of the relationship. A strong friendship and mutual liking is often the basis for repair of troubled relationships.

Role expectations. The partners reach agreement with regard to how household responsibilities are divided and how they will behave towards each other. Traditionally, and still dominantly, the male or masculine-identified partner will take on the majority of financial obligations, while the female or feminine-identified partner will take on nurturing roles. Tradition has broken down significantly in the industrialized west over the last century, however, and it is not at all uncommon to find 'women' who take on financial obligations, 'men' who take on nurturing roles, or to find both partners sharing these roles to one degree or another. Failure to reach agreement with regard to roles can be a major source of conflict.

Emotional intimacy. Successful partners learn to trust each other, to be vulnerable with each other, to laugh together, and to support one another in times of need.

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Sexual expectations. Partners come to basic agreements as to how they will be sexual with each other. Frequently (traditionally) this means that they will be sexual with one another, and not with other people, but this is not necessarily the case. Sexual expectations may further dictate the kinds and patterns of sexual activities that each partner will and will not engage in. Coming to agreement with regard to sexuality can increase trust that couples feel for each other, and failure to reach agreement can be cause for conflict. As sexual activity is strongly rewarding and bonding for couples, it is best for marriages when partners agree upon sexual expectations and are both satisfied with their lovemaking.

Vision/Goals. Successful partners agree that they want to pursue the same life paths, values and goals and mutually commit to those paths, values and goals. Examples might include decisions to have children or not, to attend or not attend religious services, to raise a child in a particular faith, to save or spend money, or to live frugally or extravagantly, etc.
Successful marriages tend to be populated by partners who come to their marriage with pre-existing significant compatibilities (of personality, temperament, goals, etc.) that make it easier for them to reach agreement because they frequently end up wanting the same thing. They may share commonalities with regard to personality, temperament, or preferences for volatile or conflict-avoiding interactions, as well as goals, religious and ethical ideals, etc.

While these areas of agreement do tend to be present in healthy marriages, we should note that no marriage is perfect, and that many perfectly good marriages harbor disagreements with regard to some of the domains we've discussed. In general, however, the more domains you and your partner are in agreement on, the better are your chances for a healthy marriage.

Background factors play a minor role in determining marriage success.

Personality, temperament and goal compatibility is very important in determining whether a marriage will be strong. Other background factors are also important, however. Better marriages are reported by people who chose to marry later in life as opposed to younger, by people who recall being very intensely in love with their partners prior to getting married, and by people who maintain close family relationships and whose parents' approved of their marriage. Also, people identified with more traditional sex-role and religious values tend to report having higher quality marriages overall (although it isn't clear that such people aren't just reporting positive outcomes based on their desire to present themselves in a positive light). When all factors relating to marital adjustment are considered together, personality and life-goal compatibility seems to be of paramount importance, and background factors such as whether partners come from similar family, religious or economic backgrounds or whether they have similar dating histories appear to be of lessor importance.