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Allisonrichy:
Bro you are not on this one alone oh I also suffer the same fate as u the one wey cure me pass na this week own oh
I was just going on my own jeje oh when I saw this cute damsel I decided to approach her and when I did I got the worst response of my life dis gal look me from head to toe and she told me I wasn't good enough to even stop her talk more of requesting to be her friend my brother I nearly wept
Like say that one no do just yesterday on Monday I dey my own one of my female friends I've always loved called me and told me she was bored and she wanted to come visit me I was extremely happy I prepared nice rice and stew after some time I called her and she said she didn't have enough money to come over and she said I should come pick her up out of excitement I go dis girl house only for me to get the biggest humiliation of my life this girl told me she can no longer come to my house that she no longer see me as her perfect match
For my front that night this girl called another guy and the guy asked her to come over she quickly wear her clothes leave me for her house go another guy house that' yesterday night I look myself from up to down but I no recall any word wey I go use describe myself
So my guy we plenty wey dey dis kind boat oh
As for me I've never really believed in sex but true love and understanding but it seems get such girls is really difficult

bigerboy200:
haba haba..when u agree on an appointment/date, it's only fair enough to try very hard and keep to it. Yes, some inevitable episodes could come up but maturity demands one calls to applogise and cancel the appointment, however, the excuse the girl in question gave was just too watery and childish. She knew the guy was on his way, so for her to chicken out in d last min without informing him is unacceptable ...... Nice profile pix tho.. #pretty

Aleora:
thanks , Akure

glossyj:
DP WHERE

StoneColdBiceps:
Bro, its unfortunate you dont understand that (fresh) relationship is a game. Girls play mind game very well. What she did by not picking your calls was wantomly deliberate. She was smarter and gave you first chancing for you to be worried. You dont have to vex or take it personal. You can show a little disappointment just to play along and let her win. Just be ready for your next move.

Invite her to somting and disappoint her by forming real busy. Send her an apology text late after the disappointment. Dont call her to appologize as she might not pick ur call and thereby turning the table of disappointment to you. Let that day go by, dont call her or send goodnite text. This is artificial scarcity.
Creat attificial scarcity for yourself, she will be worried and curious and will long to see you.

Relationship is a mind game babes know how to play very well especially when they prolly like you and they see all sign that you have fallen head over heals with them. They will first want to show you pepper. They want you to chase them real good by disappointing and fustrating you.

Just man up and play along. If you eventually find one, just play artificial scarcity by not sending them for a day or two. No calls no text nothing. You should be able to train yourself to this becos you will get emotion and long to call or see her, just patient. My 50 cent.

By your disposition i know say you go get fine sisters ,abeg connect me with one.

FODA:
@ op,send me the girl number pls,may be she will pick my own call.

glossyj:
COME I WILL TAKE CARE OF U

quejho:
the right one is here o

ALKARULEZZ:
Yea

ALKARULEZZ:
OK

jessetom:
@Kenshinmunac

Don't feel frustrated brother. I am in the same situation as you, but I don't see it as a punishment. I am 20, in my penultimate year of university. I have dated just one girl since the day I was as born. Love is one thing that I don't easily (or maybe never) come by. It feels like it's not meant for people like me.

I am introverted. I am not that outgoing, not that handsome, not so rich, but not broke, not so funny(but sarcastically humourous a bit), I read books a lot, l am not into trends that my mates are in. I have good fashion sense and hygiene. I'm not good at conversations with people. I am 5ft9'(not tall), I am not having lots of things that ladies want, I'm a mess, literally.

But you know what, upon all my flaws and unprecedented great records of bad luck that I've been having with women(one just happened last week), I'm not in a hurry to get involved in a relationship, to get a girlfriend, to find love.

Instead I search for happiness, personal happiness, I try to be happy. And in that search I believe the right kind of love I deserve will locate me, the kind of love that will be two-sided, where I will not settle for less, the right kind of love. The one that will align with my purpose in life.

Although, at times I feel like a total looser when I see my mates all having dates, but I will not allow that shift my focus in life or lower the bar of my standard or expectations for a relationship. Or make me settle for whatever comes by.

Bros don't be eager, don't be in a rush to get hooked up!
You are special too. They just don't see it. Good thing you have not settled for less already.

Just be happy!
Just like me!

kings11ng:
how dare you call her when she was hanging out with her meal ticket? u wan spoil show for her? good luck being the side nigga if you accept her apology

queenice7:
Brother, I thought I was the only one in this kind of situation. I wonder wah I don't have that other girls have. I suffered from heartbreak from my ex of 6months, still wondering wot I did wrong dat he will leave me for his ex. since then all de guys coming my way are Bleep boys DAT just want sex. like it made me fed up with guys and just wana be alone buh who dah one epp.

kentycom:
That kind truth.. they are fond of doing this nonsense.

Besides, my bros ken... forget these girls, make money, build a solid foundation for urself, they will be running after u.
dat time treat them they way they are..

but still try to identify the good one.

Nma27:
Op start to pray against eevery cobweb covering your fine face now. But on a more serious note, its best u don't get frustrated about d matter cos d right Lady for u will come along soon. She might even b a friend that you've friendzoned, so check well.

Aleora:
on the case too let's c how it goes,maybe we will be nairaland 2017 couples[color=#000099][/color]

JimiOgunlola:
Guy make I no lie give you. You are very lucky no to have a girlfriend. I get everything, fine black face, tall, Cash , girls dey toast me sef but the more they come, the more trouble dey come. I don tire for their and I don discharge all of them, one wan die on top matter say I must marry am. My mistake be say I show am where I dey live, and she no dey live far from there. She come dey give me close marking. Which kain life sef?

Now I dey miss life without girlfriend wahala. Even Bob marley talk am. No woman no cry. Abeg you wey no get girlfriend (Disturbance), na Igbaladun you dey o. we don taste plenty and see say fine girls and wahala be like....

LadyAimy:
For your mind you important... FO my mention!

2poundz:
thnx... Lol! Check the refrence pic. It's because of the source of light.

ethankareem:
I use 2 say I can never fall in love until I met Olaide Balogun.

Met her 2012 in front of her house house alone, seeing her I liked her instantly and started a convo with her got her number and left.

We resumed back 2 sch and 2013, invited her 2 my house but she came with her friend, and we just talked and she was like she was gonna give us a try. The 3rd day she came alone, we had sex and I fall in love not because of sex, but I felt really safe with her. But the painful part is she had this smelling discharge after sex but I dint care because I was in love already

Before 2013 came 2 an end I was so in love and I called a radio program 2 help call my girl to tell her how much I .¸¸.•°` love he, they did and wen they asked are who her bf was she gave a different name, I almost had an heart attack. I forgave her without thinking twice cos of the way I feel

When she finished her public admin program at oau ife, we were far away from each other cos she had 2 go home and apply for a direct entry. I made mistake, took advantage of the distance and made some mistakes. She found out I was seeing new ladies, she confronted me and I begged for her forgiveness even goin as far as apologizing to her publicly on fb, she forgave me but she was still acting funny

I begged her for 6month on my kneels with tears in my eyes, cos I dint like her attitude . During dat period she met a new friend called ruth (toubo) a student of OUI . She was always at ruths place and they were flexing ife

Then dis day came, I had the opportunity to log into her fb account, to my surprise my dear gf was sending nudes to guy with her face on it. I won get stroke dat day. I confronted her and she was like wats my business, I apologized for goin through her account. I was so much in .¸¸.•°` love with her that I would forgive her for anything

One good day, her cousin forgot she was my friend on bbm and she had dis dp of Olaide balogun and a guy and the pm was "is this not romantic" I confronted by gf and she said she dint know him, it pained me dat day....but I kept my cool because of .¸¸.•°` love. I finally found out who the guy was and it was on kenny guy from ibadan. We talked abt it and she said she slept with him because she was in urgent need of money, I forgave her and allowed it to pass

This last 1 broke my heart, wanted to give her a surprise visit and found a shirt less guy in her room. I knew the guy, he was her senior colleague a part 3 public admin student called david. My gf who I have made choices for and let got of all my rough life, put every girl that liked me at arms length could not even make a choice........ I cried. Asked her why and she said cos he helped him with her admission. Then I knew olaide balogun latifa was just useless

I still called her to see if we could work things out, I was just 2 inlove with her.

finally knew I wasted my time, years and effort. Through dos years her smelling discharge did not stop with all our effort but I dint care

Olaide balogun latifa a part 2 student of public admin oau if, is now known by every OUI yahoo boy and OAU dudes dat like flexing

She feels she is enjoying her life, all d best to her.

I don't feel sorry for doin dis cos she dint feel sorry for all she did

sade1994:
Eeya
Sorry about that...

We girls and our wahala

chccho:
I am serious O,this one that u are still looking for self pity if u want want u better talk now

JeffreyJamez:
Wey wan dey form old man

chccho:
Op I have a feeling u are not as handsome/good-looking as u claim.In your mind u might think u r very handsome but the truth is u might just be there so for the benefit of doubt let us see how good looking u claim u are.

Secondly,u sound very desperate,and insecure and this might send a wrong signal to most ladies u come across there by causing them to resist u.Op u need to be calm and relaxed.Take the woman hunt easy and do go about carrying a sad look about or looking for self pity around cos that's what u sound like,nobody cares about your self pity.

Op man up and, if u don't mind I can even hook u up with some nice babes looking for husband.

DaySpringer:
I have seen your post and your problem is complex and most of it is internal... Yet you are trying to find a solution externally.

Seems you weren't shown a lot of love early in life and till now you still seek that person that will come and make you their center of attention and make you feel that love that you think you are lacking..
Even if you get a girlfriend, she has to always show you a lot of attention if not you will doubt her love. This also means that you will be very clingy. You know the irony of all this? The same need for attention and clinginess you will display will make ruin that relationship.

This neediness also shows in your behaviours sub-consciously and girls pick up on it which accounts for the reason for most of your rejection.

Did i forget to add Low Self-Esteem?



Here you're not even talking like a man who knows his worth as a man, so the rejection you receive from girls means that you won't get married? That means you will fall for the first girl that seems to really want to marry you because she is the first girl that didn't reject you or rather one of the very rare ones who didn't.

OP
There are many principles and coded knowledge that apply and are true in this our world of dating and in the world of relationships at large.


Like i mentioned early you found a girl that seemed like she was the one for you and instantly you fell for her.. and then asked her out, you weren't sure she was fully attracted to you, you let your neediness shine through and you wanted to possess her instead of being patient and waiting till she was totally hooked to you.


Again your neediness and need for attention shininig through, almost every guy has gone through this with a girl before and the mark of maturity is when the guy is able to take things coolly, acknowledging that almost every girl does this; infact the mark of a well collected player is being able to spin it and make the girl feel like she missed out on something exciting, list all the things she missed and make her want to make it up to you next time she sees you. Other guys would use this opportunity to make the girl more into them but you're here whining like a baby.
Look at your victim mentality, "Being treated by ladies"


The girl called you and apologised to you and you're still here, whining, Some girls don't even bother. She deemed you important enough to apologize to you and yet your low self esteem didn't let you see that. You still had the victim and crybaby mentality. No girl's actions is supposed to determine, your worth, the fact that the girl did not do the necessary things in order to make sure she could see you, means she is uncoordinated, the problem is with her not you.



And Right here is the greatest expression of Low self esteem. Bro, those things might attract a girl but those things won't keep a girl, Infact those things are not the most important things to have when it comes to getting girls, I am sure you have heard of Ugly guys getting and banging the hottest babes, that's your proof there.

There are guys with what you have that don't need to talk much to get a girl.




Do you know that all relationships have their own problems?

Do you know that not all relationships that look happy on the outside actually are?

Do you know that almost all relationships eventually end?

If you cannot be happy with yourself when you're single, how can you be happy with a girl in a relationship? you will burden her with all your emotional needs (leading to you becoming insecure and clingy) and no human is meant to carry the emotional burdens of another, eventually they will break or leave and guess what? You'll be right back where you started.


So Bro what is the solution for you?
1. You need to learn to Love yourself.

2. Do research on Low Self-esteem and all it's manifestations and work on getting rid of it.
Self-Esteem does not come from what is on the outside or what you have but what is on the inside and that's why it is called "SELF-esteem"

3. Find things to do that make you happy, have hobbies. Learn to be able to enjoy yourself by yourself or with your guys and that will naturally draw girls to you.

4. Learn something, boosting your skills boosts your confidence and if you already have an amazing range of skills write them down and be proud of them and work to improve them.

Now get yourself out of that Self Pity shit, Girls are too flaky and unreliable for you to base your happiness on having them!

Cheers mate.

fortunechy:
FATHER LORD,
As I step out today, let me find a brown envelope with $1000
US dollars inside on the road.
Amen!

Oladokunst:
Bro...your own still better oh....
Me I date girl once we broke up...after 2 years we dated again.....and a very day we had plans to spend d Saturday together......na so I expect ,expect expect..lata I call call...36 times..I swear,I count am. When night falls,she latter picked up and said...""sorry I traveled for a party!!!.. Mabinu....
Omo I wish I could strangle her through the phone .
This same girl oh...
She told me she miss me so I should come pay her a visit in a female hostel and boys are not allowed to enter....from 2 o'clock I waited at the common room, which I already called her that am around... I swear to God..I left the common room 7.0clock in the night without seeing....
She latter called me that they where watching one Korean movie and she did not know it won't. End on time..( series oh) ...
My prayer is...I just hope she remain single for life make nobody marry am...so she will know that its bad to play someone anyhow

JeffreyJamez:
Gossip?..see why I talk say you get problem?....na you come be Man?....dey whine like ss3 boy because babe stand you up

JeffreyJamez:
I no need see hin dp....from the way he writes you will know..he feels he is "all that". na why the girls dey free am.

Zceesneh:
am not God or are we their father? Mtcheww

playtheblues:
I have a cousin who is about to ho for her Youth Corps. She is a nice girl and ready for a serious relationship.