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MissTemi1:
I see myself burning to ashes. I see my coffin being placed. I see myself cry

The world won't miss you.

How this woman got to be a pastor needs to be investigated. I am yet to see her preach at a podium.

Why hasn't Chidinma Ojukwu been sentenced? It's like these women in law and media have created a cult to exonerate their gender from crime.

Umahi stop being a fraudulent evil man. If you owe the woman, pay her the money. Must everyone suffer while you lavish all because you are in power?

Our dear new born again pastor is back seeking attention as usual

MissOpe:
My Family and I will support you my honourable senator Natasha🥰🥰🥰🥰

The males among you will reason differently.

Leepeak:

Abeg make ona leave me for this forum which one be Senegal again
What I know about people that are on dead roll, you see democracy is really interested and very good compare to military, a friend of mine who was sentence to jail told me story his own was 5years shall but he eno even serve 5 years,
Those people sentence to death are not actually killed, because still they might not be guilty, even if the judge sentence them to death, fact move the bar, so that my friend say those on death roll are later transfer to lifer according to him lifer means life in prison, so many politics too still dey prison,
If na military na instant death, firing squad,
So for Senegal it really possible because my guy still tell me say them dey plan with jail officials to do jail break, to nack inside prison na 50k normal dem dey do am
Also Yahoo boys self still dey prison too
I personally know someone who is building houses not one from prisons I know am well
So this kidnappers are to do the time, sometimes if he enter their head governor for sign their death, two seconds they eat their last mean and give me death,

Please next time you want to send message like this, paste in Chatgpt to edit for you.

Good one Akwa Ibom state. Uphold the ultimate penalty for kidnappers, armed robbers and murderers.

This is madness. Why the violence against VIPs of the opposition? The party leaders should call their dogs to order.

otipoju:
That girl is just a wicked soul and there are many of them like that.

After I relocated, I called ate least 7 of my work friends and explained the exact process to them. At least 4 of them are here now.

My childhood friends are another story. Our mindsets are very different and I understand why. It's always been like that.

Nevertheless I keep in touch and press one or two around festive periods even though there is often times nothing to talk about.

My immediate and extended family is a different thing entirely. Both father and mother side, nobody dey house. Everybody don move finish.

Cool. God used you to bring smiles into a lot of faces.

garykoeman:
Relocation does not stop you from reaching out to friends.

You just don't want to.

It the same Nigeria mentality, I first you enter university, and you cut off your friends still looking for admission.

Nice one, I will be using this your line for analogies.

ProfGday:
First few months of arriving abroad, I've paid black tax to the tune of millions. Things reach the point a church friend who has been married for 18yrs pleading for financial assistance to do IVF , some people are just wicked.

When i dey suffer and hustling back at home nobody go see you, but once you japa lai dis, you become their saviour and tipatipa friend.

What you guys don't know is that Nigerians in diaspora work their asses off, day and night for that money you guys spend recklessly at home. Is it work in extreme weather conditions you want to talk about?

Cutting ties saves you a lot of headaches especially from leeches and fake friends.

Haba if the guy has a family house, let him sell it. That kind of cost is not one you put on a friend.

ChizzyBuna:
We were secondary school best friends
It's not like we were blood brothers
You move into a new environment you make new friends things change
Trust me you all will do worse when you japa

Nahh! I travel and come back. The friends I dissociated with in life is mainly out of betrayals and incompatibilities, not because I changed environment. Yeah when you japa they look up to you for money but I let them understand that I too have needs and give the little I can especially knowing how the country is. A little love bro, even blood brothers betray. It is well.

ChizzyBuna:
You know I will speak for myself..

First off I didn't plan of travelling outside
IT happened so unexpected and threw me off a bit cuz I never planned to travel outside.

The Nigerian factor of not telling people you are traveling before ur traveling played a huge role.
My class mates had no single Idea.

I moved abroad. Once I got accomodation
I began to call home and inform people that in finally abroad
Many people found out via Facebook

Secondly, the life abroad compared to Nigeria is like Plaustion 1 vs Playstation 5
So you really don't have much to talk about because your life in Europe is far different from Naija life of people back home.

So naturally your brain is 98% invested in this new Society, the new environment, the law, it's tradition, the women , challenge or phase in life abroad comes in different forms.


There are challenges that every one meets when they travel abroad.
They are so invested in the system that they really have no time for themselves talkless of the people back home in Nigeria.

I had a best friend who I lost contact with because I was too invested in my challenges and new experience abroad.
He would try to reach out to me via my younger bro but we still didn't talk for years.

When I relocated back to Naija after couple months I tried to find him on Twitter I now saw that he is now in Germany.

I reached out to him, many times guess what?.
He did not respond till now
So I was like ahhhhaa he don do me back
G/G and over 2.5 settled.

I say no wahala, such is life

My conclusion is that those in Nigeria complaining that the abroad people are neglecting them.
Once these same Nigerians are Put in the same shoes as those abroad. They will even do far worse and neglect more than those they complained about. Peace out✌🏿

So you ghosted someone that he had to try via your brother to get you but you still shunned him. Now you came back, you expect that friendship that you destroyed to still be the same? Your long epistle doesn't change the fact that you were not a friend not to talk of a good one.
I wish to read the guy's story, it will come with a lot of moral lessons.

The people who japa and turn ghost mode act like they have struck gold. They see japa as an achievement and anyone who messages them as a beggar waiting to ask them for money. The ghostmode thing is not only for their friends or contacts, it even extends to their parents. There's a struggling family I know, the girl got a scholarship to japa to Canada. Her dad sold off a piece of land to but the ticket and other processing. But as she japa, the family at home is still the same. The rented house she left them in 5 years ago is still where they are but on social media this girl shows off herself doing monthly vacations around the world. Ghosts her family, blames her other siblings for being lazy. Glad for them, one of the sons just japa'd to Turkey to play basketball at one of the lower leagues and within 4 months the parents are already enjoying him.

Most of them don't see themselves as Nigerians anymore or dream of coming back so the advice is not for them.

Seems Grace Mugabe didn't train her children well.

I went to a wedding and was charged 20k to buy 50k mint notes.
I went back to my seat and transferred the money to the groom's account. He's been more than grateful

Nwaikpe:
That is some mental health problem.

He has been passing through depression.

He needs help.

Let's rally round to support him.

(c) VeryDarkMan 2026

Hahahaha. Nice one.

Nigeria is a country where the lives of many men will be destroyed because of evil women using irregularities in the justice system against men.
There is still a case against a man who worked in Chrisland schools is currently in jail for sexual assault on a 2-year old toddler. I hope he gets freed if innocent.

whistleblower98:
TYRANNY RESULTING IN THE LOOMING EXODUS OF MINISTERS AND CONGREGATION MEMBERS

LAYING A FOUNDATION FOR A TYRANNICAL LEADERSHIP
Pastor Oghogho Ayanru resumed as Provincial Pastor at RCCG Olive Tree Parish on Sunday 15th September 2024.

Since his arrival, he methodically laid the foundation for his tyrannical leadership which he has unleashed on the Parish.

He started by holding meetings with the ministers and workers during which he told them that they can’t advise him, offer him feedback or make any suggestions to him because he is the Provincial Pastor, and all he expects from them is for them to pray for him, this includes those who are also older than him.

His general attitude and carriage are that he is favoured and untouchable. This is backed up by his utterances in which he affirms his closeness to an elderly retired Pastor, Pastor Tokunbo Adesanya who is said to be “very close” to the General Overseer of RCCG, Pastor E.A. Adeboye.

SHEPHERD VERSUS MEGALOMANIAC
His conduct since arriving at Olive Tree Parish is one of contempt, disregard and high handedness towards the congregation, workers and ministers. He is known to have stated several times that “The people at Olive Tree think they can control him, because they have money”. This is despite the warm welcome and open arms with which the congregation received him and his now-late wife on their arrival.

A pastor is supposed to be a shepherd of his flock (congregation), available, accessible and accommodating towards his flock. However, this is a foreign concept to Pastor Ayanru. For instance, he established a barrier between himself and his parishioners, workers and even his ministers by insisting that anyone who wants to see him must book an appointment with the church administrator. Even when the appointments are booked, he still does not honour the appointments. In the case of two workers, he still has not seen them more than a year after they booked an appointment to see him.

Even on Sundays after service when people typically see their pastors, he is known to have told ministers, that he doesn’t see anyone on Sundays because “he is not a busybody Pastor” as he mentioned at a recent meeting where he addressed newcomers to Olive Tree.

Allied to this, he usurped the pastoral lounge set up by his predecessor, his excellency Pastor Prof Yemi Osinbajo and turned it into his personal office. To cement his desire to be inaccessible, he placed a lock on the door that makes anyone standing in front of the door feel as though he or she is standing in front of an office at The Pentagon rather than a Pastors office.

DISMANTLING OF EXISTING CHURCH MANAGEMENT STRUCTURE
Upon his arrival he immediately began dismantling the existing church management structure.

Olive Tree Parish is a big church with over 30 departments. To facilitate effective management and communication between the pastor and these departments, previous leadership shortened the pastors span of control by clustering the 30 departments into about 12 directorates, headed by directorate heads overseeing the heads of departments while in turn reporting to the provincial pastor. The rationale here, is that it is easier and more realistic for the provincial pastor to work directly with 12 directorate heads instead of 30 department heads. Being a control freak, Pastor Ayanru was unsatisfied with the structure, and therefore proceeded to dismantle it, preferring to deal with heads of departments.

However, as it turns out, it was a decoy to allow him upstage ministers he met on arrival (whom he felt he could not control) and install some ministers that followed from his previous parish, in their stead. A notable example is the Sunday School Department where a seasoned existing minister (Pastor Kunle Osibodu) was removed and replaced by a minister from his previous church, Pastor Frank Aigbogun.
Systematically, he swept aside all the senior ministers who were serving as Directorate Heads without any formal one on one discussions with the affected ministers.

QUESTIONABLE FINANCIAL INTEGRITY
Prior to his arrival, Olive Tree Parish had a financial management structure that appointed 4 signatories to church accounts. All previous Pastors in Charge and Provincial Pastors have always maintained the above financial structure and were not signatories in order to ensure integrity and avoid conflicts of interest.

Pastor Ayanru however, removed all signatories preceding his arrival and installed himself as the sole signatory to all church accounts, replacing transparency with opaqueness, with respect to all financial transactions.

You would wonder, why an experienced pastor like Ayanru, who is also a lawyer by trade, would make these decisions which call his integrity into question. The answer lies in what he has done with regards to church finances and procurement practices. He has shown total disregard and contempt for the existing procurement guidelines and policy. A case in point is his purchase of office furniture single-handedly. This fell outside the procurement policy which would have precluded his participation from the procurement transaction since he is the recipient of the furniture.

A second and more troubling example of his financial recklessness is his decision to abandon the existing onsite provincial office built by his excellency Pastor Prof Yemi Osinbajo and rent and furnish a new office in Ikoyi at an exorbitant cost in a transaction handled from start to finish by himself alone, again operating outside the procurement policy framework.

Apart from this being a classic conflict of interest case, the new office in Ikoyi is smaller that the onsite office he abandoned, there is no parking space for staff and visitors, and staff must park on the Olive Tree Parish premises and then commute by church bus to the Ikoyi office. Interestingly though, Pastor Ayanru spends more time at his Olive Tree office than in the acquired Ikoyi office. You have to wonder how this makes sense, given the colossal waste of money involved, and the inefficiencies described. Perhaps the answer lies in the allegation that he is allegedly using that office as a law office for his private practice.

Pastor Ayanru has access to several service providers that he engages to provide services to the church without competitive bidding or any other form of recourse to the procurement policy and its guidelines. To facilitate his financial conduct described above, he has engaged the accountant in his former Parish to serve as the provincial accountant.

To appreciate how reprehensible the financial misconduct described above is, Pastor Ayanru is wasting scare financial resources on grandiose and needless expenses when Olive Tree Parish has an undeveloped property 100 or so meters away from the main parish. The undeveloped property was intended to be a Christian Resource Centre over 14 years ago and as such should in theory be the key priority for Olive Tree Parish and the Province.

DESTROYING EXCELLENCE TO SATISFY HIS WHIMS AND CAPRICES
Pastor Ayanru met an Olive Tree Parish blessed by committed ministers and professionals. However, in his megalomaniacal desire to control and entrench his preferences instead of upholding RCCG’s doctrine, he has systematically destroyed areas of the church. Another recent example is his vindictive demolition of the marriage counselling and family affairs directorate, purely motivated by the fact that the two most senior ministers in the directorate stood up to him when he asked them to act contrary to the guidelines and framework of the RCCG mission.
In doing so, he has replaced two ministers who are qualified and trained marriage counsellors, with a minister who though seasoned, nonetheless has no formal marriage counselling training and qualifications. This is the extent to which Pastor Ayanru is prepared to go to have things done “his way”.

CONSEQUENCES OF TYRANNICAL LEADERSHIP
As a consequence of the actions of Pastor Ayanru, Parishioners are leaving Olive Tree Parish.

Ministers who he tried to force into new roles with no prior discussion with them on his intention to give them new appointments, declined said appointments. Some others have resigned altogether.

By refusing to deal decisively with his equally high-handed Parish Church Administrator, Pastor Ojuolape Abolarin, who daily terrorises church office staff. The church now has a situation where the church office staff are traumatised, disengaged and are afraid to come to work. This has already led to some resignations.

There is widespread disaffection amongst Pastors within Lagos Province 48 which Pastor Ayanru oversees. For those remaining at Olive Tree Parish, Pastor Ayanru has created an “Us” versus “Them” atmosphere between the congregation that he met on arrival and his cronies he brought from his former parish.

Olive Tree Parish once a beacon of excellence within The Favoured Family is on the verge of destruction unless the RCCG hierarchy intervenes.

Seems RCCG has some administration problems. For the then head pastor of City of David to go on unabated for years before there was a public outcry that got him suspended, this means that many Province heads are doing worse. And also OP won't be sharing church business here if there is a reliable channel to report erring ministers.
The church needs to do better.

It is good, great unlimited speed but on somedays their downtime could be crazy but which ISP doesn't have downtime? It is a worthwhile device in your home. The main thing they have to improve on is there client support, very poor.

All these to pepper old man ex-hubby

It wasn't she that was attacked in was her entourage. But Nigerians do not give a hoot anymore. Good governance no dey reach us.

I remember one churchy guy that I was threatening because he refused to pay me my money. He said he would put Jesus aside and tackle me.
Well here are the consequences of such decisions.

Ikorodu Celine Dion was aiming high

Una never see anything. The Gen Z in Nigeria are another craziness on its own. You refuse to train them well and get consequences pro max.

Why would you enroll for a programme that you cannot afford? Good to know the nurse is abroad and earning well. He should start helping anyone in need pay school fees. Let him show that he is better than the pastor.

Why then did she put the man through 2 weddings when she did not love him?
Good excommunicate and expose her. She does not deserve to marry again.

ukaface:
If the story were true, would y'all still drag her?
If your mum or sister is a rape victim would you still have this mindset?
Whether the story is true or not, she spoke against rape and y’all shouldn’t bring the debate about a story being false or not.
The theme here is RAPE

Madam, you have a brain. It's meant for thinking not just emitting the pain in your mind.
I never exonerated rape in anyway. It's a serious crime and every perpetrator should face the appropriate punishment.
Because rape is a serious crime doesn't mean it should be weaponized to bring men down or to win gender debates that obviously is your forte.
You cannot be one sided. The world does not revolve around you. In the topic of rape, there is also a room for consequences against false rape accusations and alarms.

ukaface:
Y’all dragging her are dunce o

What’s the dragging for exactly?

She obviously was angry about rape and she wrote about it. So why calling her names?

Should rapists be applauded and appreciated.
Whether the Matabele girl lied or not is rape not happening?
Is there no ochanya case?
Ain’t men raping minors?
At UCH I witnessed a baby less than 2 years rushed to the hospital due to sexual abuse by her father. Are these things new?

So what exactly did she say wrong to warrant this nonsense backlash like as if she has said the worst thing ever to be heard on earth .


Rapists exists, and to hell with them


Any small disapproval to how women are treated Una men go term am feminism. wtf!
Should women not fight for themselves and speak up?
Y’all are sick.

Calm down, take a deep breath. Read the story again. She is being dragged because she radically supported a case of rape which turned out to be a false alarm? Or should the world support every rape case whether true or not? What if your father was a victim in his early days of a false rape, do you think you would be here today?
The main fighters against rape in a society are the male gender. Stop playing the victims card all the time or shey you no get papa, brother or male pikin? Be reasonable and stop talking straight from emotions.

Come to Nigeria and marry him. That's how it works