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AngelEbi: The quiz
a) i see Simi as a strong girl goin tru life nt minding d bumps
b) Nath's death is ceteainly politically motivated
c) Odessa is like my cousin keke, wit one evil idea or d oda. Ibro is like my Fiance, coming wit d 'lets be friends' routine when he has sometin else in mind.

Affirmative

Fejok01: i see Simi as a good girl,a wife material but lacks confidence.Cindy-a spoilt child who can commit any evil to get what she wants.Not a good friend. Odessa is a very bad influence,the type your parents don't want to find around you. Who killed Nath?Can't guess.

Agreed

Pelumiv: Hmmmmmmmm Simi, a typical hustler girl trying to make ends meet. She is reserved as some said,good mannner and a gentle lady not wanting to cause trouble.
Nath death, me cant fathom the cause and,
Cindy, a spoilt child, lack no manners and back stabbers..............hate peeps like that.
GOOD WORK NAIJASEXY.................

I agree

kokoye: Well well.

It is a personal choice.

I have a friend who is going to be 40 soon with a perfect job and everything else except a wife. All his friends are married so he's now all by himself most evenings. And yes, he's getting tired of 24 / 25yr old girls. The type of mature girls he wants are already married.

Like CC said earlier, most (naija) girls will not give you their all when there's no commitment from you . .when they know another girl is coming tomorrow. I said most naija girls because brad pitt and angie jolie are unmarried but seem to be doing well.

I agree that marriage is overated . . .

Crrection, Brad Pitt and Angeline Jolie r now engaged.

Gaggi: We should go back to d cave man era because u want to win over someone. I will slap any sis of mine who does that. You can be nice to ur MIL but not to the extent of being a slave. Not everybody can like u in this world anyway.
Thank God i have a wonderful mum, if she was troublesome i for don warn am since not to ever cause trouble in my house. My wife is my wife and not my mum's slave. Nothing i hate more than MIL and DIL coming to a man's house to oppress his wife. Arrant nonsense, such men are weaklings and should be shot.

Sir if all men were like u, poster won't be here neither wld I hv gone thru some poo that I went through. The truth be said majority of MIL can be a pain in d ass and their son would rarely correct them. No one should be a slave, is a lovely song but it has broken many homes. I wouldn't go on that solo campaign again.

Give me Bill Gates, richard brandson,Steve Jobs anytime and I will choose them over a Tiger Woods. A Pat Utomi over Jim Iyke yes o give me a nerd anytime and I will choose over a brawn.

Ok back to topic. Life is abt risks. There are good men who will never cheat and there cheaters that will treat u better than a non-cheating husband. The older I get the more I realize that life isn't written in black and white. Pray and be careful while dating so as to choose a good man. If it fails and u end up with one, have an open mind to either make d best of it or walk out.

You don't need to be scared, just blv that u will have a happy home. Mind u happiness is self dependent. That ur marriage ticks all d boxes doesn't mean u will be happy.

Its d best. If u mess with his sis, ur own sis is not safe. So berra treat his right!

Before I forget, this is not a time to show her how much ur husband loves u unless u want a 2nd cold war and the trophy is ur husband. Remeber that her hubby just died and her son is her new hubby. Some ppl might come say yidda dash but I have seen a lot of previously aggresssive MILs transformed into loving angels by DILS love and loyalty. They even place their DILs over their daughters in dd end. My Grandma is an example.

And again never u ever in this life open ya mouth to talk bad abt mama to her son. I no dey work. Cos na only one word from mama to son ya own don end. Instead always talk good of her, it works better this way. Son,s no dey forgive any pesin wey talk bad abt their mom even if they know dt mama is wrong. If u persistently talk good abt his mom and she talks negatively abt u all d time, one day the son will tell her, Maama stop! This lady loves u and never says evil abt u. Always ask talk to ur husband as if na u carry all mama's need for head.

Me thinks for the MILs its a supremacy battle. Marriage na politics, use ya head be wise no go dia they form galadima. U go loose.

SHE STOOPS TO CONQUER!!! No be me write that book.I don talk my own

Pls let's stop being hypocritical for once and be truthful. As much as I want to enjoy a MIL since I hv no mother, I wouldn't fail to agree that there are Monster Inlaws. Yes. I hv seen a MIL in front of elders tell her son that she wishes his child was aborted nd she means it till today cos she never liked d wife. In the family sec on NLD we have a recent post about a MIL who almost poisoned her son's wife.

That said POSTER, evil is not limited to MIlS, its found in DILs, SILs, FIL etc. Even ur friend can be a bad MIL cos d way she iss picking faults shows that she too can pick faults. My advise like some really honest and understanding posters have said is to be nice. In my place u never talk back at ur in-laws. When they come u put up ur best behaviour even if u don't want to. Remember that this is Africa and they have a string hold over your family. Its even worse that the hubby is an only son and thus has a specila bond with mom. This bond as a result of her husbands death with get stronger. Unfortunately whatever MIL does will be ok to son.

Poster when ur friend becomes a MIL tomorrow and starts picking faults in her DILs, I want u to refer to this thread for her. The reason I am saying this is that if all apprehensive DIL who talkd trash abt MIL were sincere then we won't hv MIL probs todays. Cos they will all become the Angel MILs they dreamed abt when they were DILs.

So let her ignore wateva Mama does. It will help her to accept Mama as her mother and even keep her close than her bio-mom. A friend whom I called mamas boy once told me something which I wld tell u. Watch how her son treats her, I mean every single bit and then plan a strategy. Treat her 5 times better than her son. In d case of difficult MIL, it has been proven time and time again that consistent true love always breaks them. If the son buys her gifts buy more and let the son be the one to present it most times. Thereby scoring points with son and mom simulteanously. If the son dey wash her clothes when he wss younger, don't even wait for her to remove it, tell her mama pls I am waiting for u to remove ur clothes make I wash am. Wash it, iron and keep for her. Let her room always be clean. Her fav dish etc.

Compliment her all the time, whether its real or not so real, your mouth no go break. Once she complain, apologize profusely. A yoruba sis inlaw I had wasn't accepted by the fmily at first. One of her tricks wey she tk win na to kneel down when greeting and apologizing. Let it come from ur friends heart. Even if mamashout from today till tomoro let ur friend not utter a word, sulk or frown. Instead let her always say Mama I am sorry, I have learnt, pls tell me what to do to make u happy. It looks stupid but this is the smartest way to fight for her home.

The fear of MIL is d beginning of wisdom. Na dem get the key, pls give them max respect and love with time you see them over shower u with love after all na pesin them be. If u r religious pls be very prayerful.

U should also make other things have more priority in ur life than him. So get up and get out. Enjoy urself girl. When you are pretty and enjoying urself, guys come running to you. You shd never bother urself abt a guy who has no time for you. When he is less busy or notices ur absence, he will look for u and u might not be available.

Have real fun and don't spoil ur chances by writing on ur forehead that u have a boyfriend.

Pls who brought this rubbish to the front page?

Efulefu had a boyfriend who deprived her of sex 2months ago.
After that she was having a crush on a co-worker.

Which one of them she come marry.

Also who no dey give am orgasm.

Pls u guys shd leave this joker except u r posting to educate the general masses.

Pls if u know what's good for u eh, continue this story o, unless u want BOkKO HARaM on ya head.

Pls continue

190 no be only 9ja babes dey cheat o

Thanks dear.

I don't know what's on his mind right now. What I am interested is what's on ur mind. Ofcourse u should be bothered but I don't want you to be bothered. The reason is that nothing really good will come out of it. You might nag him, ignore him or break up with him but its not necessary. He may or may not be the one but right now acting right to a woman is not in his agenda.

That's why I want you to meet other guys. Make friends, hang out, open up, get admired and appreciated for being young and beautiful. It will hurt cos u love him but I want u to grow up fast. Let me digress a bit. Ladies who double, triple, quadriple date never get heart broken. Infact they are the ones that broken hearted guys come to NLD to bash and cry about.

I want you to learn from them but don't double date. If you need to talk to a guy, talk to guys around you. When a guy pays u attention at the mall, on the train, plane, in school and even NLD don't ignore or snob him. Be nice to them and make friends. You might even decide that ur bf might bot be the one for you after interacting with a lot of ppl.

Even though I advocate sticking with ur guy under rain or sun, dis one don pass don be silly.

How can a responsible man, ask a 20yr old student for money. That is not fair. He is not even considering her and this is my ish with him.

This thread get format!!! Please follow it!!! I am so screaming at the top of my voice and I am loosing it. Pls use d format. Faints...

Its called mass messaging.

In the TO: field, u put the fone number of 21 mugus and press send. At least 5 mugus will answer. One of them will come to NLD to ask if he should respond. Now I don't blame ppl like DailyNews. Na waaaoh. Why is this peculiar to 9ja babes. They choose to become destitute and beggars in the name of money.

Is 9ja the only poverty ridden nation in the world?

Sage,

I will give you the advise my late mom and cousins gave me. I wish I had paid attention. This is cos u sound like me.

African men do not get independent so fast. At 25 the last thing they have on their mind is commitment. They have their career, education and impressing their family as their priority. So his mum would probably come first before you. He might have spent one year pursuing you but that doesn't mean that he will come running to do your bidding every time. This does not mean that he doesn't love you,no but honey the harsh reality is dat most men would first want to get somethings settled first before he makes a woman his priority. You may already be dreaming oh! My future husband but he is not seeing u as such yet. It will still take some years before he starts to think in that direction. Few men may not fit this description but majority of them do.

My advise to you is to continue your relationship but don't put too muCh pressure on him. You are still very young and since you guys are not engaged yet, you should focus on ur education, try and meet other guys too and get to know them. This will build your confidence and give you a better perspective about men. With time you won't be presurizing ur BF to call or come see u all the time. You will also become more attractive to him and he will be d one that will want to break all protocols to meet u.

You are too young to cry over a boyfriend not telling his mom abt u, when there are still a zillion guys having hypertension when u pass. Enjoy ur life and have fun.

My advise might not make sense to you now but in 6 years, you will understand better if u don't follow it.

Ma'am u r good

Pls pass him down


Roll eyes and grabs keyboard. Near perfect man u said. So she wants him perfect abi? How many men are close to that description? No man is and can ever be perfect. If you love someone or want to love someone, you have to try and understand them and then appreciate them. If you can deal with the good and not so good(in ur own definition cos ppls taste differ) then u stay with them. If you can't then scoot.

For some other woman that's the perfect man and for another he might be described as having OCD.

So ur friend shd choose and not try to change the poor guy

Very common with Nigerian men

Kay9 thanks for d compliment

Everything in life has got risks. Both online and offline. I hvae had my own bad experiences with men but I wouldn't go abt preaching to other women not to date. Rather I would tell them to be careful and let them know my experience. I don't know the kind of ppl u have been meeting but there are great Nigerian ladies who don't give a hoot abt ur money. Some of them have made money while some haven't got anything. I know ladies who still want togrow with their men. So don't go about spreading incomplete info.

I for one don't care if a man is rich or poor but he also must not care that I don't have money. What I believe in is a Resolute man of Vision and Integrity. If a Man has that, then we both can move mountains.

There are bad and good women. Pls don't generalize.

Congrats for ur biz by the way, what's ur website?

Wow!

Where do u get ur inspiration?

190, Greenspider and ayede abeg don't spoil this thread. Describe yasef small. Also put d kind pesin u wan to meet.