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I am soo sorry singles. The reason I don't want u to contibute is cos theory is different from practical. I know d theory but I want ppl who have tasted the theories and now know what works.

Thanks Obasi, Kulyle for ur contribution.

Thanks Bitty love. This is the first nice post I am seeing from u. Pls I prefer the jokes.

But Bitty u r not married. I said no singles shd reply.

I know this is an age long question, but only if u r married for 5 yrs and above will ur answer matter. Plsss singles don't contribute unless widowed or divorced.

I want to make choice of a really good spouse. Considering that our backgrounds are the same, I hv some litle issues.

Does a man hv to be born again to be a good husband?
Does a non smoker and non drinker mean good man?

And he is really nice and has good morals

Best of Luck. Let her be strong, there is always someone there if u look closely and long enough.

To put it simply, they don't cheat because of you.

In most cases, cheating doesn't have anything to do about how they felt in the relationship or how they feel about you. In many cases, men who cheat had a very healthy sex life with their partner and still they cheated.

Stats show that their isn't much difference between the number of women and the number of men who cheat on their partners.

So, what is it that makes people cheat?

I am going to go a little scientific about this.

Dopamine.

It's a little chemical that's released in the brain,when we accomplish something.For men, and women both, most amount of this chemical is released when we have sex.However, laboratory experiments have shown that the amount of dopamine released when you have sex with the same partner is reduced over time.

But if you are having sex with a different partner, the amount of dopamine released is still the sae.Basically, our biology wants us to mate with as
many people as possible.Now, I am not saying that we should all just become sluts nd have sex with as many people as we can. I am just trying to explain why it's so hard to resist the temptation when the circumstances are right.

If your man has a chance to sleep with someone else,the temptation is extremely high. Especially after he hasn't received a good dose of dopamine in a long time. In a lot of cases, men are not strong enough to resist
that temptation. In many cases, men will actively avoid any such circumstance where they can't resist their
temptation.

However, if they are in a relationship which they don't want to lose, and they are with someone they love and adore. They will even stop themselves from cheating even if they have a women who is willing to sleep with them and no chance of getting caught.

Cheating is wrong. It damages a relationship on many levels. And if a man understands this, he will try his best to avoid it. But you have to understand, sometimes even his best is not enough to resist that temptation.

On the other hand, their are some guys who are actively cheating on their girlfriends. They are the type of guysyou need to stay away from. You can easily understand the difference between someone who is cheating on purpose
and someone who cheated as a one time mistake.

It is possible that someone loves you and they make a mistake once in their life. If they feel guilty about it and admit their mistake, then it's up to you to forgive them or leave them. But if a guy is cheating on your constantly, then you know you are with a douche-bag and their is no way you
should give them another chance.

Either ways, you should know that guys never cheat on their girlfriends to hurt them or for revenge. Even though their actions might hurt their girlfriends,it wasn't their intention. Most of the time, they were
just caught up in the moment.

Oh and before you say "If someone really loves their girlfriend, they would never cheat on her", I want to say I agree with you.

But let me put it in another way.

"If someone really loves their girlfriend, he would never WANT TO cheat on her or hurt her."

bennyraz: yes there is. It's spelt as golfcourse. Check or google it.

Oga I don't think u understood my point. Ofcourse golfcourse exists but not gulfcourse. U see how we fail exams?

He said gulfcourse u don't need to help him with d spelling. Someone who plays golf that regularly shld know its Golf and not gulf. No be only gulfcourse na Gulfstream very soon I go be gulf of Mexico!

Gulfcourse
Is there anythingg like a gulfcourse?

I read your post “What not to do if you really want your man to propose” and I want to say thank you for pointing out some mistakes that I have been really making which has become so obstructive to my relationship.

You see, my relationship, I will say it’s one in a million. I met my boyfriend about 9 years ago; in fact we live together for about five years. Our living together was my idea, I was desperate to get married and I thought moving in with my boyfriend will bring us closer and will give him the ‘marriage idea” and make him realize that we are meant for each other for ever. I was very wrong, the first two years was very blissful, and in fact we actually started planning for our marriage. Then one day, we went to see his parents so that we could finalize the date and we can convey the dates to my parents. When we got to his house, his father and mother asked me if I was pregnant with their grandchild since I have been living with their son for the past two years. Well, I told them, we will plan towards that after our marriage. Then his mother said we cannot marry unless I get pregnant. I was surprised but then I wanted to get married so I promised them that I would get pregnant within the next three months, so they chose a date which was within the next eight months. Then, the mother called me and warned me that If I do not get married before the wedding date, that the wedding would not hold. It was as if she was threatening me but her son, my fiancé told me not to worry that everything was going to be fine.

Six months later, I was not yet pregnant, I was so worried. I went to see the doctor who told me that I was fertile enough to get pregnant. He asked me to be patient that everything was going to be fine.

Then, one day, a month to the wedding date we chose, my soon-to-be mother-in-law called me and told me that since I was unable to conceive, that the wedding has been canceled till further notice. My parents were very angry; it caused so many conflicts between the two families – mine and my fiancée’s. 

Then, I asked my friend for an advice, she told me to be patient and to cheer up that things will work out fine. Then she invited me for a party which started about 5pm in the evening, my intention was to leave the party around 7pm because my fiancé was due back from work around 9pm. But unfortunately, the party took more time; my friend introduced me to a guy who was very nice to me. Although he seemed so interested in me, but I love my fiancé and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, so I dint take the guy so seriously. My friend and I left the party around 8:45pm and I got home around 10pm, due to Lagos slow traffic. When I got home, my husband was very angry with me, we got into an argument and before I knew it, he started hitting and slapping me. He punched me so hard that I had to retaliate by raining abuses on him, I was so mad at him. I left home that night to stay with my friend. 

The second day, he came begging me, telling me he did not know what came over him, so because of the love I have for him, I also apologized and we went back home together. In fact that night, we made love like never before, unfortunately, I did not get pregnant.

The second week, my fiancée traveled to South Africa for business, so I had time to meet with my friend and the guy I met at the party. The guy and I became very close within some days and then we slept together, which I regretted morning after. I felt so dirty and unfaithful to my fiancé. I blamed my friend and I distanced myself from the guy. 

After two weeks, I started feeling sick that I had to go see the doctor who told me that I was pregnant. I was happy and sad at the same time, happy because it showed that I am not a barren woman, sad because the pregnancy does not belong to my fiancé. Then, I decided to abort the pregnancy, you may call me a fool but I thought if I could get pregnant for that guy, then that means the door has opened and I can get pregnant for my fiancée and get married to him.

My fiancé came back from South Africa and I was happy to see him. After two years, I still have not conceived for my fiancé and we are not yet married but we still live together. Our relationship has turned sour, my fiancé has been pestering me for kids, he was even blaming me for not getting pregnant and I was getting pissed. 

Last month, I met a very sweet guy, he said he is very interested in me and wants to marry me. We got intimate and last week, I discovered that I am pregnant for the guy.

I am confused; I don't want to abort this baby therefore, I don't know what to do. I think there is a problem with my fiancée, maybe he is impotent or he has low sperm count which is not allowing him to impregnate a lady. 

Now, I am asking all the priceless ladies who read this blog to give me their own opinions on my story. What do you think I should do?

Its easdy for a ny experienced person to decode. Poor gal is so naïve.

The silly cradle robber wants to bleep a v.irgin and he is using the marriage as his Trump card. The good gal coz of urs has been brain washed by d slowpoke. Bet me after d sex he will dump her.

Its her choice to loose the virginity now or after marriage. That guy will never marry her. Most mature men going after a v.irgin 20yr old for marriage won't force her to hv sex if she refuses.

Never been to Canada but we can meet halfway. Anytime I am in Atlanta or MD, I will buzz u
AbeG no spoil mrkt for me joor.

2seXxy dearie thanks for d advise.
2buff geography isn't really a factor of moi. Travelling iss my pastime.

2buff who r u? Have we met?

Prettyfavored@yahoo.com

Thanks. Send me a mail

Hmmm! Huge one! I will help u

Nnanna we hv not choose yet. We still dey cepting applications.

U r welcome dear. I am Igbo.

I am 28, 2sexy and you are still in final year. Let's be real. You are a very nice person from ur posts that I read but I would prefer someone older than me. Women mature faster and I am kinda older mentally than a lot of guys my age, this would pose a problem.

Its ok.

Plssssss. I lost my Nokia fone in molue because of this story. I am borrowing my neighbors sagem torch. Plssss don't stop abeg.

Jumping molue and holding my fone with wan hand and refreshing continously. Abeg no let me enter gutter for nothing o. Waiting

unbranded0029: Enough said guys. From ur suggestions, i have an idea.... I wil thank God 4 her, bt deploy d money fast 2 my next sibling doing his degree project. Once more, i hav been educated by ur wonderful ideas. ONE LOVE!

Ur bros abi sister need project mpney and its an ex-p*** that is ur priority. Lawd have mezy on ya poor soul. Plssss dis guy needs a psychia-medic.

OP I no say we be friends but u r messing up and falling hands serzly. I just gats to tell u dat.

[quote author=tos_oguns](a)Simi is a woman who knows hardship and has accepted the realities of life, maybe is afraid to take too much risk and reach out.

(b)probably a business related deal

(c) none



not a cheat but lacking originality - show us what u got [/quote]Leave me joor. Wetin? She say answer me I kom answer. Which wan kom be poriginality? If them ask question for exam and u come copy come answer and the teacher no know, u go still pass abi?

Ehem! Next time I know wat to do, I won't quote again, I will just copy and paste as I used to do in skul

Thank u sir. So I am not really cheat Tinky

By copying and pasting

Naijasexxiest pls I have answered 4 times. Can u pls post the new writings?