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^ u won't understand. The tori sweet well well

To makeit easier to read. For someone who didn't follow from the time u started. Sometimes swimming thru the comments to locate the new writing is not easy. One could essily miss new posts.

Pls write faster. Also try to put links to all the parts on the first page.

Who said she has broken a heart before?

Ddont worry sweetie. It happens all the time and its not only 9ja men that break hearts.

Your man will come.

If u don't let go, your hands won't be free to receive what Gods has to offer. Cos they are closed still holding onto the old shit.

You r not in love, you r just scared that you won't find another person. There are a lot of beautiful, young smart, well behaved women looking for a young man to call theirs. They would also be by your side 247, to encourage u to achieve ur dreams.

The choice is urs. Remain there in fear when u have the choice of launching out into the deep and meeting someone who would take you for whom you are. Pls trust me on this, take a risk meet new ppl. For someone like u, you need to meet at least 4 - 5 chicks weekly not for dating or intimacy. Just simple hello, what's ur name, what do u do, maybe can I have ur number? This will help u build ur confidence in bits until u r ready for a real relationship.

Don't give up and settle for less.

Same as above. Girls are also playas.

Bunch of gays

Geeezzzz!!!!
What's wrong with you? You really need to be hit on ur head with a stick. Are u blind or just plain old dumb.

Someone is just using u for an ATM machine. Even ATM machine dey get better treatment compared to what ar u getting. And u r here singing love. Love gbakwaaa oku!!! Make Boko Haram destroy this ur kind of stooopid love.

Abeg pls just end that relationship. You r destroying urself. Why can't ppl just get it when a relationship isn't working and that they shd move on? You deserve to be respected and cherished. You need a woman that will be by your side all the time, blv in u and cheer u up to be the Man that u shld be. A woman is a helpmeet not pulldown.


Pls get ur self together, be a man and move on. You can do it. Pray and u will definitely meet a better person. I had the same fears that u are having now. They are just that, FEARS. There are always a lot of fishes in the water. Try to meet ppl more and don't be scared of rejection. In Igbo, they say, u no go run from a necessary battle because of fear of injury. In other words, rejection and disappointments are necessary evils in the world of dating and meetin the one.

I wish you the best.

@ Daily News

Where is it written that u must marry from ur Church, Work place, Market place, Toilet, Bathrom, Farm,etc?

U don't have to poo in those places. I believe in creativity, nothing is written in stone.

Also where was it written that if you find him online that ur are a sinner or does the bible/quroan discourage that? If I remember longdistance relationship wasn't discouraged in d bible. Let's not go scriptural anyway before some ppl get really fanatical.

What I am trying to say is this, a lot of ppl are enlightened enough to know that u can meet ur future spouse anywhere. In our parents time, it was pen-pal. Today its the Internet. I also accept the fact that some ppl have the ir reservations. My advise is if u are against it shut up, shut ur eyes and move on. Don't even open the thread. E-harmony, Match.com, Babelfish, afro-introduction etc are making money cos ppl r meeting there and enetering rewarding relationships. Seun wasn't dumb when he open a Dating and Meet -Up Zone on the Romance section.

Instead of Bashing ppl, think of how to make money with this venture. Internet dating has come to stay and actually makes meeting ppl easier while offering a wider option to choose from.

Daily News ur post about ur dream girl is still on NLD, that u haven't met someone doesn't mean u shd go on a ppl bashing campaign. Even u meet a babe online and she sees how u go abt criticizing ppl, I am sure that she will start having second thots. Cos it means u wld nag and almost drive her if u don't blv in anything she does.

Its kinda creepy and fanatical. And fanatics are scary ppl to deal with.

Poor Pero.

Hahaha

Handsome warrior. Romantic too.

There are a lot of Nice guys on NLD and they do respond. So poster do not mind bitter ppl and pessimists.

Cyber Space just like ur church, market place, work place, street is occupied by humans not monsters. A lot of people I know have met and married amazing people online so don't be discouraged.

@ Daily News

You sound really bitter. Its so uncool. Even your threads where u r not bashing ppl has a stong hint of melancholy. You don't have to spread the bitterness.

OP pls give a little more info about yourself and more specs abt the Nice nig guy u r looking for.

OP don't tell me that u r thinking about kids!!!
Looks like you love bitterness?

In this type of situation, where they all hate you, they will also hate your kids. They will not even act like they exist. If you try to bring them close to the family after you have them, the best they will do for you is take a peek at them and utter that they wish the kids were never born or that the kids had been aborted.

Believe me your man will not get stronger even after seeing his kids.

The weakest link like MBJ said here is your man. He is not strong. If he were I would have told you to stay. You will still find real love. Please just leave now that it isn't complicated yet. Like I told you I have been there, I was advised and I refused to listen and I paid dearly with my sanity, emotions, health, finances, career and almost my life. I am lucky to still be alive. Pls give other men around you a chance.

You still have chances of finding real love.

At OP pls don't waste ur time. Move on as if u r being chased by a wild man eating beast. Its very difficult to win a Nigerian mother when she says she does not want u and ur mother inlaw is the the really strong type. If you refuse now, she will keep coming up with different strategies to scare her son and put him under pressure. Some could go as far as faking a life threatening condition and blaming you and the son for it. While on her supposed sick bed in the hospital, her son will be called and pressurized to leave u. This is just an example of the kind of tricks the can come up.

And its a pity that ur man is weak. His type can't withstand the battle ahead. My dear run for ur life and sanity.

I have been there, seen it all and I narrowly escaped to tell ppl like u that the fear of an angry Nigerian Monther In law who doesnt want u is the beginning of wisdom.

@ Daily News

I can't see ur post cos its hidden but going from ur previous history on other dating threads, I will assume its anti it.

I have a word for you. That you failed those not mean that others will fail. And why do you have to be so pessimistic? If you really want to meet the ONE offline or online you have to be a lillt bit sweeter and less judgemental in your reasoning. You just started searching on NLD going by the date of your post. So you shouldn't expect to meet someone so fast magically. Even if its the internet, its still the real world and not Cinderella.

You are very smart and talented. You also have a good heart so fling the bitterness. I assure you that before the end of this year, a tall, slim, pretty,smart, very romatic girl will follow one of ur write ups and then another. Soon she will be so impressed that she will find it impossible to resist contacting you. But it will take a little time.

I hope no one will bash her for contacting a guy she saw online.

I wish you the best.

Nigerian women are usually shy and reserved. They also fear destructive criticism from ignorant over zealous misguided chastity champions. The same champions who wl turn around and mock them when they r 45 and still single.

Anyways let the guys drop, ladies will still contact them discreetly. Whether we like it or not, there are people who may not have the luxury of meeting their mates offline as a result of location or work condiitions and online might be d best and only option.

And to d ladies out there if u want it go for it. Good enough its a faceless forum, no one knows u until they really contact u,so no need to be shy. And u shd be wise enough to restrict ur identity until to u r sure of whom u r dealing with. Always play on familiar ground when it comes to online dating. In other words let there be easily confirmable details abt this person.

Keep the profiles coming in.

Mods pls no sugar mummy or sex hook up posts on this thread. They shd open theirs. That said I am impressed with the inflow of profiles. Keep it coming ppl. Pls invite me to ur engagement parties and wedding.

Agreen, I went thru the same shit. Check my earlier posts on NLD but I was too thick in d skull to realize wat was going on. I did d calling. He called once a week and blamed it on stress and low income.

I later found after 2yrs that he was having different affairs.

Lesson when someone can't make time to be with u or appologize sincerely without being prompted when they neglect u. Leave em.

Thot it was abt Cindybrown and PrettyCindy? Now its Killz smh. Derailing...

Why r ur posts so short? Try making ur write ups long enough to tell a story and interesting enough to spark replies.

Anyways ur titles r always catchy.

Sunny quick advise:
You will get more replies if you told NLDers a little bit about urself.

Thanks Tony. I hope some good connections would be made on this thread. Ppl don't feel shy to drop ur profile. Its human beings behind d laptops, tablets and phones.

I congratulate you for your courage. You are old enough to take decisions for yourself and also face the consequences.

Pls conceterate on your marriage and make it work. From my own experience, I advise you not to allow your family's negative attitude seep into the fabric of ur union. That could excerberate little issues btw u and ur spouse and spoil the union thereby proving ur ppl right. So be devoted to your union in a sensible way. You don't have to be a door mat either.

I wish you the best.

I have seen a lot of contact exchange threads on Nairaland and I find them a little bit disorganized. The method used makes it difficult for one seriously searching to pick one and connect with confidence. So ppl pick randomly while depending totally on luck.

So I came up with this user friendly and I would want everyone to comply. Let's have fun and we might meet the one. No shy pips pls.
Format:
Mischeivous Vixen:
Sex: Female
Age: 28
Height/Body: 5ft/6in/ avg slim
Occ: engr
Location: Nig
Likes/Hobbies: honesty, humility /reading, cinema, travelling, beach
Looking for: friendship - Male, 30 and above, 6ft4 and above, well educated, articulate and industrious. Disciplined. Romantic, Adventurous and mischievious.Jovial. God fearing.

I guess u will find her soon enough. I wish u d best.

You are far too kind born2fuck. Thanks for the offer sir but I am taking a pass on that. No I am not interested.

Exactly my point. I am not looking for bleepmate. I am lookng for a lifemate. I am really sorry for the questions.

U are missing the point. Do u have the basic qualities? Are u a Man of Honour? Cn u be honest at all times? Even with a gun to ur head. Are u a voracious reader? Are u kind and gentle? Are u God fearing? Can u challenge and stimulate me intellectually? Blv me mental intercourse is incomparable to anyother thing. Are u hardworking and creative?
Are u 6ft3? Handsome? Romantic?

U hv to be d above before we talk abt sex.

Still dreaming? Pls don't wake me up.