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VERTEX1:
➜She is very ready now, she not with the husband again.
➜I've done psychological work on her, her eyes is very open now. She just want the man to leave her alone. Because he will need to provide for the children too. Please we need justice to take its course.

1. Psychological work on her in how many minutes? Trauma may require years of counseling before one can be considered fully recovered from it. She married him young and he basically used her youth. So, she is not fully healed. Get her professional counseling where possible. 😒

2. She could pursue a formal divorce from him to have him leave her alone. She should probably consider shared custody of the kids since they are, after all, his children too, so she can get herself together, get a job, and get herself established until she is eventually able to claim full custody of the children. Yes, your sister may eventually end up carrying the load alone. 😒

A lot of Nigerian men refuse to pay money to someone they once violently subjugated, even if it means caring for their own kids. Once a woman has managed to escape the noose a man formerly had around her neck, she and everything concerning her ceases to hold relevance to him. I know it does not make sense, but the vast majority of Nigerian men abandon their children, too, once they lose control over their mother. So, your sister may need to carry the load all by herself at the end of the day. Yeah, sadly, Nigerian law still does not really protect women and children in the case of divorce. 😒

Also, consider her safety if shared custody is pursued. 😒

HacheNoire:
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If you had bothered reading the article(not just the headline) for yourself, you would have seen where you are in error with your conclusion.

Trump had been demanding Iran open the international waterway, which usually sees the transit of one-quarter of the world's seaborne oil trade. Since the war has begun though, traffic has plunged 90 percent, sparking global supply panic and rising oil and fuel prices.
Following the breakdown of talks between U.S. and Iranian negotiators on Sunday, Trump announced the U.S. would blockade the already impacted strait to retaliate against Iran.

But it doesn't appear to be working. In the first 24 hours since the operation began, at least seven ships have made it through, including four tankers linked to Iran.
One was a Chinese-owned vessel sanctioned by the U.S. in 2023 for carrying Iranian oil. That was spotted on the other side of the Strait in the Gulf of Oman on Tuesday.

⚈ Trump announced the Blockade would be against Iran, not China.
⚈ The Chinese vessel that was spotted in a port on the Omani side of the Strait, not on the Iranian side, where all ports have been blockaded

** The article claims, without evidence, that 4 tankers connected to Iran were able to pass within 24 hours. There is no way to verify or debate that.
** The attached images show the blockaded Iranian ports in red. Note the blue ports in the same strait are open for regular operation.

@Vertex1, does your sister wish to press charges against the husband for the violent abuse of her person or not? If she is not ready to leave the man, what is it that you hope to accomplish by way of this post? 😒

Smartguyboy:
➜He want people to start buying their stolen Venezuela oil by force .

The UAE, Qatar, Kuwait, and Bahrain ports in the strait are all still open, and traffic is allowed to flow to and fro those. 😒

HacheNoire:
➜But Iranian and Chinese ships passed!

Where is your evidence that Iranian ships have crossed the pass? Where are the Chinese ships that cross coming from or headed to Iranian ports? 😒

Provide backup for your claims so we at least know what you are, maybe, referring to here. 😒

gaskiyamagana:
➜How possible, propagandist?

Your question makes no sense. 😒

By the way, aren't you the guy attempting to argue foolishly, on another thread, that the existence of over 30 different Arabic Qurans today is to be blamed on enemies of Islam? 😒😒

yinkeys:
They can't turn back China lol

There was no need to turn back even a Chinese ship that was not porting in Iran or leaving from a port in Iran. 😒

Today alone, 21 ships have crossed the Strait of Hormuz, but none of them are reported to have left or ported at Iran, where the blockade is implemented. 😒

LordIsaac:
Nah...how do you sustain your bloodline legitimately?

You do that by violently assaulting a woman that you believe is cheating on you? 😒😒😒

LordIsaac:
➜Good questions. No, very good questions!

Is her supposed involvement with other men a valid reason of sorts for the abuse that the OP explains she has been enduring in the marriage? 😒😒😒

amoco:
➔Circular argument. You say no contract and yet adds "manipulation". What is the basis for this manipulation if both are operating without valid contracts ?

You are not making sense. You don't need a contract to know what manipulation, bullying, or subtopics like gaslighting mean. 😒

Manipulation is the exercise of undue influence or control over others—or the skillful handling of physical objects/data—often to achieve selfish, unfair, or deceptive goals. Types include emotional, psychological, and situational manipulation, while physical manipulation involves skillful manual control. Common examples include gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and lovebombing.

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Bullying is a distinctive pattern of repeatedly and deliberately harming and humiliating others, specifically those who are smaller, weaker, younger, or in any way more vulnerable than the bully. The deliberate targeting of those of lesser power is what distinguishes bullying from garden-variety aggression.

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Gaslighting is a form of persistent psychological manipulation and emotional abuse where the abuser causes someone to question their own reality, memories, instincts, and sanity. By denying facts, shifting blame, and lying, the gaslighter breaks down the victim's confidence and self-esteem to gain control and create dependency.

The one attempting to go around in circles here is you, because you are convinced that your place in this must be right regardless of issues pointed out so far. 😒

amoco:
➜I am hoping you will drop the contract children jar with parents for compulsory upkeep and care. If you can't show me one, then I think same applies to children and their aged parents. It's a matter of convenience, altruism, social construct and assistance to vulnerable persons.

E be like say you dey struggle with simple comprehension. 😒

FoolishBoy419:
➜ Why shouldn't I as an Iranian want all these bad things to happen to the US? Can you in your abundant intellectual capacity tell me how the conflict between thembegan?

Who made you an Iranian? 😒

amoco:
➜No contract a child signs for the parents to take care of them. No contract an aged parent signs for their children to take care of them if they can.What exactly are you taking about?
Parents take care of their children because the children are vulnerable and cannot take of themselves at those points. No social contracts signed. When those aged parents are vulnerable, the children who have the capacity should take of them.
That is what makes the world go round.
Why would you think it's irresponsible for a parent to not cater for their children and then not irresponsible for a capable adult to take of their aged and vulnerable parents?
You haven't made any point aside from the use of "manipulation"

. No amount of whining to me will change the facts.😒😒😒

tanigororo:
Simple Question for You:
Who Tends to Loose More in every relationship?
Who Tends to Loose more in every relationship?

In Nigeria, the woman loses out the most because the Law does not recognize her contributions(time, efforts, and maybe even financial investment) as part of the marital property by default. A man is literally able to kick a woman(and her children) out of his life without consequence. That is what is obtainable by default in a place like Nigeria to this day. 😒

Jerkbaba:
That's the only use a female has for me. Only sex is what will make me want to talk to a girl. Aside that I don't need them for any other thing! They're useless like a girl with no ass.

You can easily solve your sexual urge problem by developing self-discipline where sex is concerned. If you can train your mind to place other things above that desire, you will find that the girls are not your enemy; you are. 😒

Alikoooooooooo:
➜You said you only deal with facts ? What facts are those ? Before the microscope was invented people would have sworn bacteria and microorganisms did not exist. Because science cannot prove something does not mean that thing does not exist. You talk of 4,000 dieties. That is a very small number . What of 25,000,000,000 billion god's called human beings ?
➜ How many friends does a man have ? Maybe like 5 if he is smart. How many fake friends does a man have 100.
➜ Because someone has a friend does not mean that friend is real. Because someone worships a God does not mean that God is real. Fake friends and fake Gods. Real friends and Real God.

1. If you had paid more attention, you would have noted that I said that about 4000 religions were implying that there are at least 4000 different religious pantheons out there. The context here is religion. The topic is, after all, about religion. 😒

2. There are lots of smart folks out there who don't have friends; they prefer acquaintances.

3. Real or fake , in this case, remains subjective. Right?😒

HacheNoire:
Trump is telling lies!
Navigation data says otherwise! Chinese and Iranian ships are sailing with no obstruction! Why he had to chicken out with a post that, he is helping China open the straight 🤣😂🤣😂 China already warned him in a public statement by the Chinese defense minister.
US forces are not even inside the strait but outside. They could not even sail through Yemen, they had to go turn around Africa to make it there!
Most Western media are playing along to Trump’s lies. The reality is different!
South Korea just got huge shipment that could last them for 3 months via same strait.
Blockade is only on paper!

It seems you aren't paying attention at all. The blockade is meant to close off the Iranian ports, not stop ship traffic to/from from ports belonging to other countries in the area. 😒

Two key points:
As stated by CENTCOM, the blockade covers all Iranian ports, both inside and outside of the Strait of Hormuz, but not the strait itself. Traffic not related to Iran may cross. Blockading an international waterway is illegal under maritime law.
In enforcing the blockade, US forces can interdict ships carrying Iran-linked cargo tens of thousands of miles away. A commercial ship can be targeted in international waters long after it leaves the strait.

You should probably update your sources. The above is from CNN, and it is pro-Iran, if you are not aware. 😒😒
https://edition.cnn.com/2026/04/15/middleeast/iran-blockade-explainer-analysis-intl-hnk-ml

As for your claim regarding Iranian ships crossing the Strait, I have not found any references to such in my search. 😒

Flangelo12:
Man quacked Luke a duck.Donald Duck.

You might want to update your sources. 😒

TempleHouse:
Absolutely ‼️
Clueless is an understatement but lost in ideas.

He is not clueless. This is all part of the general APC agenda. Ask yourself why so many characters in the background have converted over to the religion that even Nairaland now protects? The OP and other news of this sort is just to keep people distracted from what is really happening in the country. 😒😒😒

Omoawoke:
, where have you been? I don miss you oo 😂

Why would you miss someone who has been here all along? 😒

Ricchmoen:

Saudi Foreign Minister Prince Faisal bin Farhan:

​"The era of relying on the US has ended. How can Trump protect us when he cannot even protect his own country?" pic.twitter.com/29PpZ9V2KY

— GBX (@GBX_Press) April 14, 2026

Grok says this is wrong! 😒😒😒

Stop posting disinformation. 😒

Negroid001:
➜You come dey tackle me. You no serious😂

You did not read my earlier response...the long writeup..., did you? 😒

Negroid001:
Which sect you belong to

I don't do sects or anything related to religion. 😒

AntiChristian:
In the Old Testament, Satan acts as a permitted tester under God’s sovereign control. In the New Testament, Jesus reveals Satan as the enemy to be overcome and cast out. When does the messenger become enemy?

The Book of Job actually presents Satan as the enemy, aka an adversary of YHWH. He, Satan, directly countered YHWH's claims regarding His servant Job, did he not? That is sort of what adversaries/enemies do, isn't it?😒

The book of Job presents Satan both as an enemy of YHWH and also as a servant of YHWH, a being created by YHWH himself to handle the evil side of things on YHWH's behalf. In the Gospels, Jesus Christ of Israel revealed that the beginning of Satan is known, and confirmed that Satan was created a liar and deceiver from the moment he was created, meaning his programming has been just that from the point he was created by YHWH. And we also learn in the Gospels that Jesus Christ of Israel reported to His disciples, Peter included, that Satan had asked to test him. Again, we have Satan approaching the Lord to test His servant, in this case, Peter. 😒

31 “Satan has asked to test you men like a farmer tests his wheat. O Simon, Simon,
32 I have prayed that you will not lose your faith! Help your brothers be stronger when you come back to me.”
33 But Peter said to Jesus, “Lord, I am ready to go to jail with you. I will even die with you!”
34 But Jesus said, “Peter, before the rooster crows tomorrow morning, you will say you don’t know me. You will say this three times.” - Luke 22 vs 31 - 34

Very similar to that in the Book of Job, right? 😒

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Now, can we skip to more interesting topics like Mohammed and him having prior knowledge of the wrongness of marrying a child, as evidenced by his excuse for refusing Abu Bakr and Umar his daughter, Fatima's hand in marriage? By the way, don't offer me the Aisha was previously bethrothed argument, because you and I know a bethrothal is completely different from a marriage. 😒

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Buraidah: It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin Buraidah that his father said: "Abu Bakr and 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, proposed marriage to Fatimah but the Messenger of Allah said: 'She is young.' ( inna-haa sagheera) Then 'Ali proposed marriage to her and he married her to him."

Sunan an-Nasa'i 26:3223:

The age of consent during the 7th century in the Byzantine Empire was set at 12 years of age for girls and 14 years of age for girls. (Bethrothals were usually entered into as early as desired; however, marriage was not considered until after the age of consent was reached.) Also, much of the time, boys were married off to the girls. The practice of marrying off girls to much older men was not commonplace. Mohammed must have learned and known all of this as a merchant from his many travels. 😒

VERTEX1:
➜I wanted to forget about my sis since she doesn't want to leave him, but I couldn't, the bond is stronger I could feel. Beside we lost her direct elder sister last year 2025, so putting my life in line for them remaining is no option. Continue...

Again, your attention should be on helping train the children to see that what their father does to their mother and what their mother does by remaining tied to her violent assaulter in the name of marriage is actually wrong and unacceptable behavior. 😒

Where are your parents in all of this? What does your mother think of all of this? 😒

VERTEX1:
My sister married her husband in 2016, after giving birth in 2017 to their first child; male child, he started physically maltreating her till this year 2026. My sister birth all their four kids through caesarean section. She later went through another section in 2024 December which is umbilical hernia, this condition resulted from frequent domestic abuses she received from her husband. He beats her, punches her as if she is his mate even in pregnancy, he uses both cane and wire to flog her, he talks to her in the most demeaning way, always accuses her of sleeping with men and telling their neighbours many bad things about his wife, that she is way ward and does not care for their kids, but those people will later be telling my sister what he says out of pity, because they have seen how she suffers in the marriage always carrying the kids everywhere and taking care of them. My sister is the type that always have good mind and emotionally soft, psychologically she is phlegmatic.
I am very heartbroken typing this, i have tried to drag my sister out of the marriage but she eventually went back on several occasions, telling me that "he will change, for the sake of these children". We have tried to settle the matter countless times, involving him and both his family but still they couldn't do anything. It is not that he is rich, but he is weather than his brothers, beside they're jealous of him and want him to fail.
Continue from next page, please moderator help me to position for the help I need.

Your sister is in her endurance wife arc. Only she knows how long this stage of her life will last. I think you should focus your attention instead on teaching the children that their mother's behavior... he refusing to leave an abusive marriage... is not right and detrimental to her sanity and their future if they choose to allow it to hunt them. 😒

Negroid001:
➜Which one you be😂😭 You dey confuse me bro

I told you I am not religious; I deal instead with facts. And I explained that I recognize that there are likely over 4000 religious pantheons out there. (By the way, this includes the atheistic patheon as I recognize Atheism as a religion, too.) What's confusing about all of that?🤔

kushme:
➜I am a math teacher in a private school, the salary is 50k, as schools are on vacation, i dey site like this. The mallam there has two wives, the second wife and her three children stay in of the rooms in the uncompleted building . Just yesterday he told me to help talk to the owner of the building to consider building a zinc house in the compound for his wife and kids to move in when the house is completed. I said, ok, i will relate his concern to the owner. see young boys and older guys grinding on site for survival. Mehn, all i can say is, it is well.

The man has 2 wives? Forget how pitiable they look, for a second, and consider that maybe the man is not as poor as he presents. Do you think this is possible? 🤔

mirrael68:
➜ This is what the Bible says about the Gospel, aka THE POWER OF GOD TO SAVE BELIEVERS.
1 Corinthians 1:18-21
[18]For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.
[19]For it is written: “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, And bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent.”
[20]Where is the wise? Where is the scribe? Where is the disputer of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of this world?
[21]For since, in the wisdom of God, the world through wisdom did not know God, it pleased God through the foolishness of the message preached to save those who believe.

This man did not say he believes in the God of the Israelites, so I don't see why you think it is what is needed here. 🤔🤔

Ovieemmanuel:
➜at birth your parents would have thrown you into a pit toilet and let you suck on poo and die ➜ cause there was no contract to take care of you as a baby.

Well, that would have been murder. How stewpid can you be? 🤔

2. If you cannot contend with the fact that your offspring are not your slaves, why not have them altogether? Resorting to murder is simply mindfuckery. 🤔

lawani:
➜Yes you can use nuclear energy for war or prosperity. All know how is like that. Your character is what is important. You can use spiritual energy for anything conceivable both good and bad. However religion (Christianity and Islam) spread harmful beliefs and conclusions about God which makes people fight and kill each other over God. This is a new thing that we have never seen before on Earth and it needs to stop. Do you know any other group describing God as a mad man burning people in hell for unbelief apart from Christians and Muslims?

Stop telling these stewpid lies, abeg! You do realize that these biased posts of yours undermine your intelligence. 🤔🤔