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Marc3500:
➜U don't sound lonely u even get wife sef. But stop disturbing feminists

Marriage IS NOT A CURE for loneliness! Studies show that a great number of lonely men are married with children and grandchildren in many cases. Loneliness is a mental illness that can be overcome, in many cases, by taking a step out of oneself, something many men find very, very difficult to do.

BlackfireX:
➜Walahi yarinya simplify this your geatuculation

You couldn't answer the question, could you? But you seemed certain wives are to blame for their husbands dying of loneliness, abi?

CorperKola:
➜His was an extreme case of 10 wives anyways. how can you say the moment a wife contributes anything in her home, it ceases to be a traditional marriage. Thats what ivam saying is just stupid and wrong .
Pimping or whatever i dont quite get, lol.
➜Even in some modern marriages there are times when the wife has to chip in and heavens dont fall
➜ If you found a good woman, you found it. There are even wives that are the providers and heavens dont fall
You are a bad woman simple and straightforward, stop using the excuse of traditional man and traditional woman or traditional marriage cos there are no strict lines. Thats my point Hope you get now

Open your mind and brain, please, so I don't have to keep repeating myself. The traditional marriage model as defined by your ancestors stipulates that the agreement is between a man and a woman, where the man as husband, carries 100% of the financial burden in the household, where the woman in turn subnits to him and handles 100% of the burden of taking care of the home. Our ancestors have been following this arrangement before you and I were even considered for conception. What your grandfather had does not conform to this; therefore, it was not a traditional marriage but an aberration as far as traditional marriage is concerned.

2. Modern marriages or partnership marriages are different from traditional marriages in that no single individual in the marriage carries 100% of the financial burden or the taking care of the home. These responsibilities are shared. 🤔🤔

3. If a good woman is a woman you can manipulate into accepting that which is unfair, then good luck. You already have your grandfather as a role model there, it seems. Just don't come complaining when that good woman finally decides that she has had enough of your manipulation.🥱🥱🥱🥱

ViceGovernor:
➜Don't be deceived, yes you reading this comment the only kind of love men like you and I will ever get we will have to pay for it.

First, there is no truth to this! Second, male loneliness has been thoroughly researched and found to be linked to the many delusions that most men hold regarding their gender identity.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdBavW0x62k?si=a85QAnOuIRvgDike


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_SIj6fUnG2Y?si=7N1AlSot9DIdC0VO


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QTw0b-nChw?si=Cv9BZMPqQHOdvyhj

BlackfireX:
True I know of people who died from this loneliness Wives value your husband o

Did the husbands value the wives in those cases or is this that the woman should do for the man what the man refused to do for her?

goodman5:
➜Me wey dey stay alone since 2020 never die, who with their useless stat

Staying alone DOES NOT imply loneliness. At least try to comprehend the difference between aloneness and loneliness. Some folks have no problem being alone and are not lonely because of it, while others are surrounded by friends and family and dying inside of loneliness.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSVR5AoWUcU?si=KOpzpScY9GMMKrIq

joromii:
➜Honestly. I find it hard to balance loneliness and wanting to mingle with friends. Sometimes you want that companionship, and sometimes you want that lone moment. Only a few people understand This days a guy in mid 20s. I find myself paying for companionship.

The answer you can find in answering the question of what it is you really long for and need, then pursuing just that and none of the other noise out there.

Diamonddris:
Sincerely speaking, cut ur hair.. Keep a very low cut, if u can, maybe skin low.. It helps Hair needs hair cream, the more hair cream u use, the more it's absorbed into the head and subsequently the face, thereby increasing the concentration of the facial oil.. Just start by cutting ur hair

Stop yapping nonsense abeg! Why do you folks do this to others?

CorperKola:
➜Na u sabi Same to you tooMaybe you should read the og topic again
Traditional Man indeed

This isn't rocket science. Your grandfather was not a traditional man in a traditional marriage but a P-I-M-P — he did not meet the qualification, which is that he ought to be 100% provider to his wives—hence his marriage cannot be considered a traditional marriage but an aberration. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

I read the topic... You didn't!

CorperKola:
➜The point is to show how the reality of so called traditional marriages worked then in the traditional era, it wasnt rich men or big men in the society even then in the so called traditional age. It wasnt me bragging or being proud Of course being a man to them is all about having money even if your pennis isnt actually functioning. Lol

Una no dey like to read to comprehend... na him be a major problem. Your grandfather was not a traditional man but a P-I-M-P — he did not meet the requirement, which is that he be 100% provider to his wives—hence his marriage cannot be considered a traditional marriage but an aberration. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

crazygod:
Could also be your age. You will outgrow it in time.

This is a myth! There are many examples of men and women in their 50s with pimples.

upson89:
Please, I’m really tired. These pimples just won’t let me rest. I’ve tried different soaps, cleansers, and creams – some expensive, some cheap – and still, no major difference. One will go, and before I even smile small, three more will show face. 😩 I’ve cut down on oily food, tried drinking more water, even stopped using certain products… but nothing seems to be working long-term.
Is it stress? Hormones? Witchcraft? I don’t even know again. 😭
Please, if you’ve struggled with bad acne and actually found something that worked, kindly share. I don’t mind natural or over-the-counter options, I just need honest advice.Let’s help each other abeg. What’s your skincare routine like? What finally worked for you?
Note: File photo used for illustration

First you need to have a clear understanding of why your skin keeps breaking out to understand that some of those products you have been using may have been contributing to the problem, and not helping.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qz1FKi6z4Fc?si=5uW0hDL9ywtIoR6w


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OeGpf1MyM2M?si=57AXCRzOK-Fp7iJi


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKwitQWK5Tk?si=PjLmdAqLpHdoVLDo

njokuuche77:
➜I respect your view bro, and I agree to a large extent. A real man should be ready to carry the core family responsibilities no doubt. But the truth is, times have changed. Some women now earn more, yet still manage the home fully. So while I agree the man should lead and provide, I believe partnership and understanding still go a long way.
It’s not just about “table” talk, it’s about shared vision.

You are still confusing things a bit here. There are no leaders in a partnership.

funsho75:
➜Despite every word have dictionary definitions Sometimes people have individual definitions and also meaning of words are sometimes relative based on usage. That is why i always believes that the issue of the conversation of submission becoming an issues in marriage is because of definition Most problem don't even exist, they only exist in our head

. That is extreme manipulation at play there when people have their own meanings to suit their personal politics.

Truths9ja:
➜ tell me why marriage of the old couples last long for donkey years? I guess you are not in your husband house if you are a woman here.

This question of yours has been thoroughly trashed out here on Nairaland. I suggest you visit the archives so you can realize the answers that have been given over the years to sufficiently explain the reason. Many terrible marriages last donkey years. A better question should be, why should anyone in the current generation be expected to emulate any of them?

Truths9ja:
➜you aren't connected with what is happening in the Nigeria presently. Divorce rate is much rampant in the Southern more than the northern region. Too much reading don caused much knowledge which results to non submission of spouses. Divorce rate have increased now.

If asked to present proof of this claim of yours, you'll begin to tell stories and fume in the mouth, abi? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

funsho75:
➜Your own definition in terms of marriage

There is no definition in terms of anything. Submission, as the dictionary explains it to everyone, is the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or the will or authority of another person. It is the same in every agreement, including marriage. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
➜ 😂 some involved in court wedding, traditional wedding and church wedding. It depends on their capacity to do. It's a choice here

. Traditional ceremonies, along with the other kinds — courts, church, mosque, etc.—are mostly entered into as a formality; it does not decide the marriage model a couple would eventually adopt at the end. Try to keep up, please!

Truths9ja:
➜ you are just catching cruise here. Why are you hiding from fact and reality here

? You have yet to state even a single fact up to this point in the conversation.

Truths9ja:
➜but the men paid bride price now? You have no point here. In as much the men paid bride price to the family of the bride, they have the authority over their wives. Both the bride and the groom do involved in traditional wedding. It just depends on the type of traditional wedding niiii. Some traditional wedding are of low key wedding why some are of high price wedding.

Why does it seem to be that you just enjoy rambling for the sake of it?

Truths9ja:
➜definitely you are not in Nigeria. There's no wedding that doesn't involve traditional wedding here. Traditional wedding is part of culture of all the tribes in Nigeria.

You are lying since many Nigerians opted instead for the court or registry marriages without needing the traditional waste of money.

Truths9ja:
➜tell me the regions that divorce women pass. Don't be hypocritical here

None! The spousal abandonment rate in the South mirrors the divorce rate in the North. The only difference is that the rate in the South is not officially recorded as it is in the North.

Lanruze:
➜Yes ! That's the reason. Hope you know what you are typing ?

WOW... So, your papa/mama abandons you means you are the problem, abi? The kain individuals Nigeria still dey produce in this day and age, ehn!

CorperKola:
➜Economy where people are struggling to survive
➜We will see whether the millionnaires will go round everyone of you natural biological leeches

1. What has the economy to do with this? Are you insinuating that even though a man is not a traditional man as a result of the economic situation, he should be entitled to a traditional wife still?

2. As you believe women to be these natural biological leeches, which you claim, why not engage your fellow men instead? You can marry your fellow men whom you don't see as natural leeches and leave women altogether alone.

lovebird65:
➜Why can't men decide not to get married, at least have a baby mama and pay her Off based on agreement 🤝 and take your child and train,trust me you'll live a very happy life rather than marrying any GEN Zof this ERA, I'll open a social handle for the movement let's stop getting married!!!!!!!!!

There is also the option of men marrying other men as a way of escaping Gen Z women. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

The options available are indeed plenty so there really shouldn't be a need for all these attacks against women. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

nwakibie3:
➜Madam you can stay in your father's house that's your business count others out

So, it is OK for you to talk ignorantly about others, but not OK for me to stress the realities that apply to many others out there? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

trentslawson:
✓ Take her to court it seems thats the best option now since she can't listen to you. Because she's already planning to leave you.
Afteral both of you have tried working it out. My advice is let court handle the situation. Be ahead of her o.

Take a woman who accused him in courts for rape to court? Many of you are simply disjointed in your thinking.

Contractor79:
✓ In a traditional setting The man provides accommodations
He provides the farm the women must farm to feed themselves And bring some to the barn The traditional man provides only land for farming
While he adds up what he can

How many men have farms enough to feed themselves let alone their families these days, abeg? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Look, the long and short is that the man is 100% in charge of providing financially for his wife in a traditional marriage arrangement -- rent, bills, food, school fees, etc., --- paid for by the man. 🥱🥱🥱

baralatie:
O
n the western country.a married woman can call police on her husband for eexial assault
And if found guilty can to jail
Different from the norm in Nigeria where the man can do anyhow and walk free

Anyhow includes killing the woman set. 😩😩😩

auduadeniyi:
✓ Is it possible for legal husband to Rape his wife ? Is there any constitution in the world that legalized sexual affairs between husband and wife as rape? Lawyer in the house over to you. As far as am concerned the woman has breached the agreement, shows act of wickedness for denied are husband his right

Please, with this mind in 2025, never leave the shores of Nigeria where this sort of stewpidity is literally protected or you will likely end up behind bars.

Truths9ja:
✓ when you know that life is transactional why giving full responsibilities to men alone.
✓ If not because the men of this generation are wising up on responsibilities here. You can't think in that line before. The rate men died on top responsibility is alarming.

The traditional marriage model was created by men in order.to allow men by themselves, by way of 100,% financial contributions to the marriage, the right to be head of household/master over the woman in the marriage. It was a wholly patriarchal move so query your forefathers on the why. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. Wising up is far from what is taking place. You, for example, are here busy arguing over how can eat your cake and still have it --- You don't need any to carry 100% financial responsibility throughout the marriage, and you still expect the woman to submit to you even at that. That is stewpidity! 🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
✓ it's becoming 50:50 already. Its just that the submission from women has reduced tremendously. It's very unfortunate situation in our families.

Why do you keep not making any sense at all in this? If you want any kind of submission then what you do is be a traditional man with absolutely no financial aide coming from your traditional woman throughout the course of the marriage. That is what the traditional model of marriage stipulates. If, however, you admit that life has ups and downs and you might need your wife to contribute financially with the freedom of negotiating all other areas. then you should opt for and marry only women who want the partnership model of marriage. Why are you struggling with grasping this simple information?