₦airaland Forum

free2ryhme:
✓ Dey should stay unmarried and ib their fathers house

Unmarried people don't remain in their fathers/mother's houses. They have lives they live and love. On average, 1 out of every 3 Nigerian's never get married-- remain unmarried even in old age. So, stop pretending that they are an invisible crowd when they are all around you.

nwakibie3:
Make una leave her by the time she gets to Shiloh age nobody go tell her.

Do you know that, even in Nigeria, approximately 30% of men and women in Nigeria never marry at all -- not even in Old age? And remaining unmarried in Nigeria is not a criminal offense or blight to society? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
✓ As if it's the lady that will carry the responsibility of the family. This mentality doesn't add up at all. You should understand how family works

But most women do carry the responsibility of the family. In the traditional setting, all that the man focuses on is the financial which removes him from much of what is the actual family responsibilities.. It seems you don't even realize or understand the topic at all.

Truths9ja:
✓ sincerely men submit, the generation of ladies aren't lady again. Why? Is that not a curse niii?

Men submit to what exactly? If you really believe this crock of bull, then why have a problem with the partnership arrangement in marriage?

funsho75:
✓ What is your definition of submission
I want to understand things from your view

There are not that many definitions to the term. So what aspect of the meaning are you having a hard time with?

Blackdisciple:
✓ So na common cooking that is a normal in Nigerian families is making this girl go wild like this chaii, same cooking that my 10 years old niece usually do by herself really tinubu is making many Nigerians go crazy because she's crazy right now

Normalized bullsheet is still bullsheet, isn't it? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Lanruze:
✓ Have you noticed that wedding ceremonies and events have reduced Post-covid ? There is an imminent endemic on unmarried women and single mothers based on the factor stated. The devil is so smart that it uses feminist as agents to recruit new gullible converts to the frustrating, confused and depressing world of Feminism.
✓ I have a single mother of three (3) boys who prides herself as Hotmum on Facebook dishing out advice on singlehood and enduring divorce to gullible young women. She had a high algorithm on her page with many likes, shares and comments but now her audience has reduced as she found love herself again after advising gullible Women on the benefits of singlehood. Unfortunately for the Hotmum as she calls herself on Facebook the new Man abandoned her and she has resumed her crappy long epistle advice again on FB.

The devil.is the Nigerian economy plaguing the pockets of many Nigerians leading to many more choosing cohabitation over documented marriages?

2. Ah, I see! So because she was abandoned by the one guy,that means she is unworthy and at fault, abi? 😩😩😩😩

Truths9ja:
please don't hide from the truths here. Men is the first person that submit in marriage, it's the egos of women that makes them not to submit. We can see the results of women that are submissive and the ones that are not submissive in the family's.

Results of woman that are submissive? Are you ok at all? Are any women more submissive than women in Northern Nigeria for instance? What is the result there? Do they have great homes and great marriages with a divorce rate as high as 81% in many places thanks to the religion? Isn't it time to snap out of this sordid delusion by now?

MissOpe:
✓ Let's assume there's 50-50 shared responsibility at home, you still need the lady to submit abi, after she don change her name to your own, after she done born for u and her children dey use Ur name, and most times she'll do more of the chores and still go to work like u, u still need her to say yes sir to all your demands and request .
Mr man, make I no knack u wetin dey my mouth..

It isn't even the changing of the name, but the outright unfairness/belittling of the woman by the act. When marriage is instead meant to be a partnership --an agreement/contract between a man and a woman, insinuating that both partners equally enter in order to seek out the benefit of both the individual and the whole.

Imagine another poster telling me that his grandfather's 10 wives were each responsible for feeding the children they he fathered. And all of these women had to submit to the whims of this same man after all of that? Just imagine such an arrangement in this day and age?

CharlotteFlair:
Honestly 😅
Heavy persuasions there could be violently physical.

Him use konikoni no explain am at all. 🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
✓ in the Nigeria settings we are running, is the couple not going to do traditional wedding before the marriage start?

I never attended a single traditional marriage in my whole life het I have lots of married Nigerian friends. Look, many people in who you think are married are not even married on paper. So, what makes you think that your traditional marriages are a mistake,abeg! 😩😩😩😩🙄

Jakpon:
✓ Share responsibilites which also includes paying your husband Groom Price before Marriage, right?

Most people never paid bride price in the first place. Ask and you will find this out for yourself. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

CorperKola:
✓ U like saying what you do not know becos of arrogance
My grandfatt had 10 wives and each wife was responsible for feeding her own children
So stop saying rubbish
Just admit arrogance is your problem

. What your grandfather had was not a traditional marriage, but a slavish kind of marriage. Basically, your grandfather was like a P-I-M-P to all 10 of his wives. Ask any sane woman whether they would enter into such an arrangement, and they might call the police on you for just asking. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Truths9ja:
➜ even if there's shares of responsibilities, no form of submission from the ladies again.
➜ Once they do little things in the family, they quickly say they are the ones providing for the family. Isn't that absurd?

Submission is only a requirement if the man is traditional in a traditional marriage. 😏

✓ A traditional wife should never have to "do little thing" in her traditional marriage. Again, the man is meant to be the sole provider in that model. Having the woman carry the man's weight at any point renders the marriage nontraditional. That the generation before this one accepted the unfair practice of women contributing to their traditional marriages is one thing. The current generation rightly chooses not to enslave themselves to similar stewpidity. 🤔

Truths9ja:
✓ The set of ladies in this generation aren't ready to submit to their husbands again. It's 50:50 sharing of responsibilities in the family here

. How many of the men can fully provide for their household without fail? Isn't it better to share responsibilities rather than pretend you can have what you are not qualified/entitled to have— a traditional wife?

oglalasioux:
✓ If OP had 3 wives he wouldn’t need ‘heavy persuasion’ before having sex with a woman.

Go ask polygamists for North whether dem dey beat Dem wives or not before reaching such conclusions.

oglalasioux:
I pray OP gets relief from his predicament. From his narration I can see his brain is going through factory reset. He will either stay single forever or marry at least 3 wives. Polygamy is mankind’s only salvation from the fraud called marriage.

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

Trophy12:
✓ Na wa oo, before we can judge this let's hear from the other side , na so Bible tell us about Satan but still we didn't hear from Satan side of the story . lest hear from both parties before judging.

Why hear from the servant when his Maste, YHWH, is the one who speaks of him -- YHWH'S will is what Satan carries out... that's what the book says?

jerrybabasam:
Nigeria men pls if you know that you don't treat your wife very very well in Nigeria, pls and pls don't take her along with you to abroad. Most of these women misbehaving overseas are doing so because of the manner and ways their husbands treated them while they were in Nigeria. A stitch in time saves ......

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

ayoncox:
I said so because people create stories here, may be I was wrong though

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

TOFNI:
Let her be ,but if you try to change her if you can,she may become what you never think of,and you may not be able to handle her.

Give him chance to come back to complain again about how his wife is still the problem..🥱🥱🥱

Depriest2020:
✓ It's her nature, there's nothing you can do about it. Just start by encouraging her to go out with you sometimes, start in a quiet and not too crowded place. Little by little she will begin to enjoy going out with you.

Terrible idea! She is an introvert not a mentally ill recluse. OP says she is introverted, not mentally ill.

DitariIzon:
✓ Even the most matured and intelligent ones need marriage advice.

Advice on whether to let your wife be herself or not? Are you :for real?

DitariIzon:
✓ My wife is an introvert that don't love social life and I'm an extrovert that love social life and it's frustrating me.
She doesn't like parties or gatherings. She like inside house too much. What can I do

Did she put a gun to your head to wife her abi wetin? 🥱🥱🥱

wealthtrak:
✓ I was about to ask you if she's a German woman but I have the answer now from your writeup. It's better to get separated from her as she's obviously tired of the relationship.

Desperation will make the case against him disappear? Ha! 🙄🙄

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

Ekenem123:
✓ Better run for your ...German police will deal with you oh.. she need freedom better go to Italy or any other countries to save yourself they will make the problem bigger for you if u stop. Nigeria guy stop taking this these abroad because many of them will stop your progress in life.

So, German police can't reach him in Italy is the kain lie you dey feed the OP?

CharlotteFlair:
No bruises and marks?
Oga how you take know?
Abi you are the Op ni?

OP conveniently left out on explaining what he meant by the part in bold -- heavy persuasion. 😩

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex.

Instead of asking for more details, people have been reacting in ignorance.

fitinwell:
✓ Wait are you couples not legally married... If you still have your legal marriage certificate proof.. then she as lost the case already because Marital conjugal is part of couple responsibilities and nothing like rape in marriage...

See wetin person dey talk for 2025, abeg! You never spend time in abroad jail be the thing. Never try that conjugal rights bullsheet unless you are in prison or something.🥱🥱🥱🥱

SlavaUkraini:
✓ You are married to a woman you have touched for over a year and you call that one marriage...
You are a joker
Divorce the Jezebel and look for a sweet girl to marry...
A woman that is always talking to male colleagues at late hours is a suspected adulteress

You ask your mama dem wey dey do endurance marriage for Nigeria, some for many decades their husband never touch them. The same men go out to claim they are happily married. I am reminded of Akpabio's wife who has probably not been touched by her husband for decades as the man prefers touching other women. No be married man una dey call that kind man for Nigeria? Abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

irumole1975:
✓ E no go better for her if she no Bleep other men. As long as I know which kids belong to me, the number of kids she has for other men while I’m away is none of my business. As long as I’m getting my own fair of sex when I’m around

It is hard to believe this gobbledegook was posed by a grown individual.

rapheal5:
➜Equal right is not our culture or tradition only simps accept that western culture in Africa.

Culture/tradition only has power given to it by the Law of the land. Nigeria is a signatory to the UN Universal Human Rights agreement meaning Nigerians in Nigeria are equally able to adopt it as a culture/tradition in their lives and communities, where possible.

ediko5:
➜Your question is a big diversion from the topic.

Demand and supply is the simple answer to your original question. My question, however, is directed at the fact that your other comment there, which I responded to, seems to lay blame at the feet of the suppliers and not the source of the demand that fuels the supply. 😏