₦airaland Forum

Rich4god:
✓ I didn't want to say much about the family. But the nuclear family is very comfortable. The husband income alone is capable of placing the wife on a minimum of 200k monthly stipends.
And like I said, the wife is working and makes contributions from her own salary.

Does the husband not give any dime to his own parents or siblings?

Rich4god:
@✓ A family of 6 3 boys and 3 girls, they all went to school, got job and are working. Now all the children decided that they will be making contributions for the wellbeing of their parents and the family in general.
All the sisters are part of the monthly contributions.
Now along the line one of the sister got married and leaving with the husband. The sister is still working and the husband is working in a better place than the wife. An issue came up between the husband and the wife and the issue escalated that they have to call the both family for meeting.
Now the husband is saying that since he's married to the sister, she have no right making contributions to her own family. That all her money belongs to him.
The sister's family is saying that she have been making contributions before she got married so the man have no right to stop her from making contributions.
As at the time the issue came up, the wife contribution is roughly 50k per month. What's your take on this....
Is the wife wrong for making contributions to her family even after getting married.

The woman chose to marry that particular man who does not want her to make contributions to her family anymore, did she not?

Blkpanda:
✓ You are right. The government should absolutely be involved in marriages. But why just stop at sex? Government should monitor your bank accounts and ration your food also

Your government is responsible for ensuring that all crimes, including those committed inside of your marriages are punished. It's concern is not your sex lives or your pooping schedules but the violence and violations that may take place between the humans involved.

horlus:
✓ The question is one I'm curious in hearing diverse perspectives on the possibilities of starting over at that age?

What does starting over mean though? Did he suddenly wake up at 46 to realize he has not been making good decisions all of the other times abi wetin?

marksonrick:
✓ You've been insultive all along and I wonder why.
✓ I asked, why is it that a lady supported another in what seems to be wrong and you, instead of genuinely giving your opinion, and or counter wisely,
✓ have resulted in many form of insults. This kind of show the character you are made of. If you have resulted to insults then you are the coward here.

Insultive? What word should I use to qualify the act of attacking the weaker rather than both partners in this case?

2. Why shouldn't the lady support when the man involved supports?

3. Again, the situation is clearly supported by both the man and woman in this case. So why attack only the "weaker sex"? What is that tactic typically called? Last I checked it is a form of cowardice... So are you certain that I am being "Insultive" here?

cybernaut:
Carpenter who use electrode to weld wood na kpakoo. Nigeria judicial system is useless full of shame.

Shame no even begin to describe this at all. Imagine a whole Federal High Court judge ignoring the Law and then being called out by a defendant in court for it. Tufiakwa! 😩😩😩😩

Acekidc4:
Yes he is very stupid and arrogant😠 but bashir Ahmed should STFU.

Is this perceived arrogance a criminal offense?

TV01:
➜ Can a woman refuse a man physical intimacy from the very inception (vow taking) of marriage?
➜Does "bodily autonomy", mean that a husbands access to his wife's body is only if and when she says so?
➜The term "conjugal rights" exist for a reason. It isn't actually marriage without them. There should never be a need for violence or coercion. Rather discussion, agreement and mutual understanding.
➜I don't agree with the term marital rape as it serves to essentially hollow out marriage. And withholding sex is equally contrary, will "marital rape" be twinned with "withholding sex"? If for some reason it descends into real harm or violence, then perhaps assault could be considered.
➜But that should never be in view in a Christian marriage.....very well said. Pretty much articulates the Christian position. Hope all's well.

1. Yes! Marriage is not the selling or abdicating of one's right to bodily autonomy.

2. Yes, it does!

3. The term conjugal rights in typically used in reference to incarceration.

4. Every human being—whether in marriage or outside of marriage—has a right to withhold/protect his/her body from acts that are perceived by the individual as violation/abuse. Rape is violence, and violence exists in and outside of marriage.

5. It does not matter your religious disposition in this. The right to bodily autonomy is a fundamental human right which even religion cannot override.

Acekidc4:
As long as you are married, your husband owns your body💯 so why deny him Sex when he wants it🤔

What you are saying is that her bodily autonomy right is waved in marriage? Is that the same with the man since I don't see how a man could go out to share the same body with another woman if his body equally belongs to his wife? 🤔

marksonrick:
✓ Yes, I am okay. But I never knew it was okay to run into another man's arms instead of her home. But maybe, what do I know.
✓ The man could be wrong but if she was supportive, maybe and just maybe the man wouldn't have gotten an excuse.

Who gets to decide for her what is OK and what is not ok? You? She did not criminally violate the man who had 2 kids with her. So, why do you take it on yourself to attack her? 🙄

2. The man could be wrong? You are just a coward who thinks it Ok to selectively bully the woman in this situation, aren't you? Is the man not supporting the woman?

SoftSport:
His arrogance in court, yelling and tapping a lawyer, isn’t surprising; after all, he’s the leader of a terrorist group. 🧐

Is there a law against this assumed arrogance abeg?

marksonrick:
✓ There is difference between Amebo and knowledge. The Day you know the difference, you'll start being inquisitive.

What knowledge? A man choose to have kids with a woman he has no plans to marry. Rather than scold the man you take to attacking the woman, in what is blatant cowardice, for settling. And the when this is pointed out to you by the kiosk woman, you resort to attacking her too. Are you OK?

marksonrick:
✓ There is this man who is my next compound neighbor and he is cohabiting with a lady and they have two kids together. They are not married yet so I was like why are they not married, and the kids are not in school. This discussion was between me and another next compound neighbor, who is into small scale kiosk selling. She told me that the man have refused to marry the lady because the lady is not supporting him with farm work. She even told me that the lady at a time left they guy to be with another man until she found out that the man has a serious relationship with another lady. Now, the lady is back to the guy and they are just like that.
I asked my neighbor that how come the woman protested and instead of going to her family house, went to stay with another man. My neighbor boldly told me that she supports her actions. That since the man has refused to pay her bride price, she is not married yet and therefore can go to any where she wants. Why are women like this?

OP, are you OK at all? Why are you making another person's affairs your own ? Is it because she is a woman and so you think it is Ok for you to judge her and not the man at the center of all of it? 🙄🙄🙄

tuoyoojo:
The trump effect seems to be spreading

This is a clarion call to develop their nation and get their sheet together because there is no free lunch anywhere even in free town

This all started before Trump came into office.🤔

Manculated:
✓ It is well with you comrade.
I suggest you go for spiritual cleasing in a very remote area if you know one.
Afterall, You can then choose to learn a skill or trade. Dedicated at least twelve months to this course. I'm certain you will experience breakthrough.
You will marvel if many successful people in Nigeria tells you "TRUTH" what they did and went through before they become successful.

And how would this spiritual cleansing somehow change his current state?

horlus:
I love this thread

Why? 🤔

Sirchiboy:
Just clocked 46 yesterday.
And nothing to write home about

What have you been doing all this while that you suddenly feel your life is nothing to write home about? 🤔

Fahvvy:
The more we keep getting the government involved in marriages, the more that sacred institution becomes useless and not worth it ...

Women stop denying your husbands s.ex, it's wickedness and men if she consistently denies you s.ex for flimsy reasons that doesn't hold water, dump her! ...

Don't get the government involved so women can continue to suffer injustice after injustice in marriage. In fact, it should be normal for a man to rape his children after raping his wife and maybe even the house help while he is at it, abi? You religious/traditional nutjobs are just vicious beings underneath it all. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

bdon123:
✓ Wait so if u insult person for naija u dey go jail bt if u dey us insult person ur rights are guaranteed?d ruling class has successfully capped opposition n gains of social media. Don't even dare say something negative abt dem or u goto jain under cyber bullying law.
We are finished in this country

Welcome to the most populated black nation on the planet where common sense is almost non-existent.

Angel55555:
✓ Try reporting a case of Marital rape at the Police station. The officers on duty would laugh at you.

In your Nigeria, are you folks even able to report case of abuse or assault? 🙄🙄🙄

Rape is a criminal offense in Nigeria even though rape victims risk being further victimized if they were to report the violation to authorities in Nigeria. Worse, the department of women affairs set up to take care of these case is also riddled with incompetence from top to bottom. 🤔

Easyincome24:
✓ The issue of marital rape is alarming in our society.
The problem is if she speaks out no one will believe her.They will be like how can your husband rape you?
This is actually happening. Can one reports her husband of marital rape?

Marital rape is real. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Your bodily autonomy rights remain even in marriage. It is a fundamental human right that not even marriage can strip you of.

And the Nigerian Criminal Code Act is clear that Rape, even in marriage, is a criminal offense!

fman:
✓ Nagging. I dislike nagging and attention seeking ladies

What about nagging and attention seeking men? Social media has finally helped bust the old myth that only women are capable of nagging and attention-seeking. We now know those assertions were never true. Just yesterday on here we saw a video of a man nagging about his wife not cleaning up when all it seemed she did was forget to recycle and put dirty dishes in the sink. I mean why disturb the world with that? . 🙄🙄🙄🙄

owukpa:
➜ The Concerned Christian Youth Forum has maintained its stance on pursuing legal action against Ogunsanwo Olumide John, popularly known as Seaking, who was recently arrested for making derogatory comments about Pastor E.A. Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG).
Recall that Seaking, in a viral TikTok video, referred to Pastor Adeboye as “very stupid and foolish” for subjecting his congregation to a 100-day fast. Following a petition filed by the Concerned Christian Youth Forum, Ogunsanwo was apprehended by the Nigeria Police in Lagos and subsequently transferred to the Federal Investigation Department (FID) in Abuja, under the supervision of DIG Dasuki Galandanchi, on allegations of cyberbullying.

APC job boys doing what they know to do best! Adeboye is after all their oga's boy too!

JobZoneNews:
✓ I am happy you read the story. Jesus is ready to save you. Please accept Him today. Thank you

Your Jesus idol that is only able to save one baby out of so many in the village? I don't like bullsheet!

TimeManager:
✓ A memo obtained by Reuters states that resources will be redirected toward fighting drug cartels and international gangs.
"This policy requires a fundamental change in mindset and approach ," Bondi wrote in the directive.
The decision has sparked concerns over weakened global anti-corruption efforts and the enforcement of financial crime laws.
Notable fraud cases investigated by the team

I actually think this is a move in the right direction at this time.🤔

Amotolongbo:
how many have you found?

I have only found fish with plastic in their stomachs.

kpolli:
➜Eeya, you were scammed; take hug

A hug is what an adult in 2025 thinks a scam victim needs? Tufiakwa!

Nonsense!🙄🙄🙄🙄

OneOnland:
➜In what world would someone anticipate...I would answer your rhetoric: this present world where Mercy Okafor was battered and many cases previously. This is reality of the world, ok? No one is justifying anything. And also, a point of note, even if a person wants to fight off wrong, evils, injustices, etcetera, one must first acknowledge its presence.
So, perhaps you're living under a rock or you're a monk in Tibetan, to let you get clarity, this is what happens in the world. Your complaining or whining doesn't change it. Demand for justice or actions towards justice could change it though, but you, you must acknowledge its presence first and realize no one is accommodating anything, but picking their battles wisely.

The same Mercy Okafor whom you claim should have anticipated the attack on her person, to begin with? You lot are really pathetic! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

What next? Poison victims should also anticipate the poisoning of their food when next they go to eat with their neighbors or friends. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

OneOnland:
➜Like I said, better to avoid messy confrontations than be right. You're saying he has no right. Of course, he doesn't and had no intention to be right. The lady, if she had anticipated that and had the intention to keep herself and not spend time in a hospital, would have been smarter in her approach.
Evils and wrongs abound in the world and not all battles are meant to be fought. There are important fights, and very messy meaningless ones - this was one.

Reason it yourself! In what world would someone anticipate a brutal assault for merely submitting a resignation letter because he/she is sick and tired of being paid peanuts? This is were most of the problem in that country comes from... from those of you always too quick to make excuses/accomodations for the most stewpid of things. Why are you folks so disingenuous abeg!