₦airaland Forum

Ojiofor:
TB Joshua the man that usually tell cancer and hiv patients to stop taking their drugs answered the call of nature.

Na so people dey conveniently die of cancer? Why these wicked attempts to rewrite history for Pete's sake? The probability is higher that this man committed suicide by sniper(or faked it) because he knew the bailiff was at the door. Wetin be die by cancer? Nonsense!

RealityKings1:
➜Man is destined to leave at his appointment time no matter what position is held or high you are.
Its just a cycle of birth and death

A man who conveniently died when the bailiff was right at the door?

ednut1:
He couldn’t heal himself of sickness?😒

What sickness? Sickness wey you give am abi which one?

aswani:
➜No such thing, he died of cancer, went to Turkey to find a cure (note he didn't stick with miracle oil or water) but couldn't find one. Let's not try and rewrite history, the charlatan is human like the rest of us and susceptible to human diseases, despite carrying the Bible on his head in a quest to deceive gullible black people like the rest of the yahoo boys forming Pastor and Daddy GO.
The lesson to learn is to not allow a fellow man take advantage of issues you have in life to deluded you as to their supposed holiness.
On judgement day, everyone will sit down and pick a number, not one person will be treated more special than others like we do on earth.

Died of cancer? Are you OK at all? A man who is more likely to have committed suicide(or faked it, since we are talking Nigeria after all) by sniper is the one whom you now tell us died of cancer? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

ROK123:
Some says are like that without Jesus,marriage inclusive, try and return back to God, because with him all things are possible, involve Him in your marital life and get some relief! You can't do it alone!.

Stop lying o'jare! 🙄🙄🙄

Yugoslavia247:
Forget this being a MAN. Make your wife contribute at least 30 percent of the bride list.
That marriage will work. Me i prefer 50 percent. Make her family contribute money for her

If you are not ready to give in to having your wife as your equal in marriage, you are not going to get anywhere with this.

Ariyayoazeezjnr:
➜Everybody. Please come and laugh at these sheep’s being led by their shepherds.

It is quite ironic that you would think to insult me by calling me a sheep led by shepherds conveniently ignoring the fact that in Islam, you are all also sheep led by your many shepherds whom you call imams/alfas/sheiks, etc. 😂😂😂😂😂

P.S. I don't have any religion— I am anti-religion —nor do I have shepherds.

lendahand:
Imagine trooping to a prayer ground seeking for a scum husband and when you get one you start misbehaving and threatening to quit. What kind of mentality do these people have biko?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

livebullet:
✓ Let the woman go bros... How can a man be begging a woman to stay in a marriage... U be mumu
Just make sure she doesn't go with your children.. as for me that move is over my dead body, whoever wants to do that must first bury me oo or else heheheheheh

Did OP tell you why he keeps begging her to stay? Did Op tell you why the woman keeps threatening to leave? If na your daughter the wife be, you no go dey curious to know the exact details before condemning her as the problem in the marriage? 🤔

purples25:
The thing I have always hated is that threat to leave whenever anything shele. Any problem, it leads to a talk about leaving. For the person that dares not to mention such because they know if they do, they will be booted from the marriage, it feels like the other partner is really emotionally detached and taking everything for granted. After all, if you value this the same way I do, why will you talk like that? Why is it so easy for you to be threatening that it’s over whenever anything happens?

So, the woman has no right to threaten to leave if she is violated by her husband in the marriage? Una tio dey like to talk like say una no understand the main reasons why fit result of those threats. OP conveniently avoided mentioning them and you all took it upon yourselves to conclude that that the woman must be the problem. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Sterope:
✓ You are missing the connection
1. We lack sufficient knowledge to make any definitive argument against life after death.
2. The world operates with such an unbelievably precision from the laws of physics to the fine-tuning of the solar system. The idea that all of this happened without any intelligent cause is improbable. It is reasonable to consider there is something else out there science do not yet.
3. Modern research have suggested that humans naturally believe in a higher power from childhood. It is called Fitra in Islam, the belief that we are all born with that natural disposition. This points to something deeper within our nature.
4. Lack of physical evidence does not negate the belief in the higher power. Unless you are claiming that science sees and knows all. We live in a world people have dreams/intuition that transcends time and actual knowledge. Science is yet to provide an answer for that. You cannot study consciousness does not mean it doesn't exist.
5. My perspective is influenced by my faith, but it does not make it irrational. Belief in the unseen is not unique to my religion, it also exists in scientific theory

Again, you admitted earlier that this is all speculation and hence also not factual claims regarding belief and after life, yes? 🤔

Now, of course, I am against folks making definitive statements regarding that which is unknown, regardless of which side they are on.

Thankgod89:
✓ No matter how bright a light shines, a blind man will still remain blind. Likewise, no matter how much proof is given—even if it's right before your eyes—you still won’t believe. Why chase after shadows when you know deep down that you stand in opposition to the message of the cross?

Asking you to provide proof of your connection to this grace thing and the man called Jesus Christ of Israel who instead swore that His Father sent Him only to the Lost Sheep of Israel ensuring those of them who have him would have proof makes me a blind man! 😞😞

RealityKings1:
➜Threat is a verb. That's an action word. Leave is a verb. That's an action word Do you understand it now?

I am afraid I do not follow at all!

RealityKings1:
➜So a wife threatening to leave her martial home where her kids are is not supposed to be one of the reasons that could mentally stress a husband?

Did OP tell you why she threatened to leave him? Why do you assume that her reason for wanting to leave is not equally valid as OP's? Is a wife not a human being? Is her supposed mental health not equally important as OP's?

RealityKings1:
➜How do I explain OP's post to you so that you'll understand it has nothing to do with "average Nigerian"
There you go

There are many reasons why a person would feel mentally stressed out and one of the major reasons is taking on a burden that one is ill-equipped to handle. There are so many people in marriages that are not built for it. The fact that OP is considering running away from the marriage gives me the sense that this might likely be the situation with him. So why would you automagically conclude his wife is to blame for OP's complaint here?

RealityKings1:
➜Read the OP's post, the problem is clearly stated there

All OP said is she threatened several times to leave over small issues. He didn't explain what constitutes small issues... the average Nigerian man, particularly those living in Nigeria, considers something like cheating a small issue... when in other climes that is a solid deal breaker. Again, OP did not provide us with details so it is unfair to conclude about these things.

RealityKings1:
➜Does he need to say? Isn't it obvious? To build you have to be "committed" obviously she's not interested in commitment.

Nonsense! Of course, he needs to state it since no two relationships are the same and all of that.

Since he didn't you shouldn't go concluding she is the problem.

RealityKings1:
1. Don't force assumptions
2. How did you know they can't feed themselves? They came to ask you for food?

No assumptions are being forced here. This is what happens in pretty much every country where there is no social net to catch the vulnerable— orphans, the homeless, widows, and the old. This really isn't rocket science.

2. Arghh! So, with the dire economic situation and the news of hunger in the land in Nigeria, you are not aware that the most vulnerable people in the society are the older generation as well as the children, particularly those who are orphaned or even abandoned on the streets.

RealityKings1:
➜Who says marriage can't be a bed of roses? Did you miss the part where op said the wife has been threatening to leaving the marriage ?

OP forgot to mention why the wife has been threatening to leave though. So, let's not get ahead of ourselves.

Angel15:
Ya all need to first consider your sanity and health before going into marriage. Let that consideration guide your choice of partner. Not after commitment and bringing children into world, you'll suddenly remember mental health, then use it as yardstick to dump your responsibilities on your partner. Marriage was never promised to be a bed of roses all the time. Both parties have to work out what they want their marriage to be for them. You are the pilot, Mr husband, be incharge, for good and your will enjoy it. Be intentional, and if doesn't work, be man enough to cater for the children you bring into this world, if not...

Thank you!

RealityKings1:
➜I live in the Southern region, I don't see any child lurking in the dark looking for where to sleep here.
➜The good thing is, all these old Yoruba women will call you and ask... "kini oruko e?" "nibo ni ile yin?" They will even give you food and house you till they can locate your parents.

The reason you don't see them is because you don't want to. They are everywhere. Society has chosen to conveniently wear blinders were they are.

2. Old Yoruba women, many of who cannot feed themselves will do what? Feed all of the orphans in their vicinity? Are you joking?

RealityKings1:
➜If an Individuals mental health isn't right, the government or society can actually take over the kids pending the time the individual recovers.
➜That aside, every man wants to give their kids a good childhood and that can only be achieved when his effort are complimented / supported and recognised no matter how little.

1. That is if you live in a socialist society where that is agreed upon by all, right? In many societies, people would rather you abort the child altogether than pretend it is OK for you to burden others with the raising of your own choice — child.

2. I don't follow at all!

Wickedfacts:
➜ Finding another woman will either make him appreciate his ex or make his ex appreciate him.
But seeing as that is post-mortem, he will do better. Seeing that he exercised his power of choice in his previous relationship, his new woman can do anything but one thing she won't do is to threaten divorce.

With this kind of reasoning, you wonder why many men are eventually abandoned in their old age. Please wake up from this abeg! 🙄

RealityKings1:
➜The report was not 8 million children, it was 10 million Almajiri children. The issue of Almajiri children is a different case entirely and doesn't fit into this position.

Wrong! The homeless children in Nigeria are not just Almajiris. 😏

There are millions of non-Almajiri children abandoned in the South as well. Some of them are runaways who had to escape horrible situations at home, others are kids who were not claimed by family members after a guardian passed, and others were intentionally abandoned by their fathers and/or mothers. Southerners like to pretend that those children are invisible when the truth is they are as much as problem as the Almajiri situation from the and up north.

RealityKings1:
➜The question is this, would you trade your sanity and health just to be seen as a responsible woman?

Again, the way I see it is this. If a one is single and without a child then that person has the right to be irresponsible. ( Of course, if such a person commits a crime, he should not hold any hopes of escaping the long arm of the law.) However, the moment one chooses to bring a child into this world, that person becomes responsible for the welfare and care of that child. And this responsibility is regardless of this person's sanity and health.

RealityKings1:
➜This is the part people try to shy away from. The children are the creation of both of husband and wife, but unfortunately no matter how much that man toils to care for the children... When the time comes for them to give their parents attention or gifts, the mother will always get more..
➜I will never trade my happiness and mental health to be stucked in a place just because I want to be seen a responsible / reasonable guy 😂 while the woman makes me pass through hell.

This is one of the major reasons why I believe that Nigerians don't know how to love their children. How can a person base the decision regarding the proper raising of a child on whether or not the child would, when he finally becomes an adult, give him gifts or not? No wonder Nigeria reports that well over 8 million children roam its streets every day and night.

2. This isn't about being stuck in a place but taking responsibility for the child you helped bring into this world. Again, OP has a child and so loses the right to be irresponsible in my eyes. If there was no child involved, I wouldn't even care if he decided to jump off a plane or anything.

Wickedfacts:
➜Well, I never heard him say that cos I don't even have patience to listen to a pastor that barbs punk with long chain and posts gym videos.
➜But what I know is that for every woman who is stressing her man and threatening to leave, there are a dozen women willing to take her place.

Dude, all of your religious gods(traditional leaders included) of men do the same thing. Why else do you think that their churches are mostly filled with women? They promise women heaven by way of marriage.

2. And you think that finding another woman will cause OP's issues to disappear? What is instead likely to happen is that OP will begin to normalize the same stress that drove him from his previous woman. Before long, health problems, etc. also become his normal. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

RealityKings1:
➜Remember that your life and mental wellbeing must always come first before anything if you intend to live long.
➜Have you ever wondered why the men classified as irresponsible men live longer?

... and that of his child should come first. This man has a child so he has to also cater to the life and mental wellbeing of his child at the same time as his.

2. Irresponsible men/women live longer irresponsible lives. That shouldn't be something any reasonable individual should strive for.

Wickedfacts:
➜Let her go. You are stressed because you are begging her. A man should NEVER beg a woman to stay.
Pastor Jerry Eze of Nsppd held a program in TBS in Lagos, it is ladies that full there. All of them are looking for husbands.

Isn't that the same silly man who tells women that they can find men who would marry them in 2 minutes, pay for everything, and upgrade their lives while at it? Una never see wetin dey really do una. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ejitest1:
➜As a married man, you're expected to be the provider for your family. But you must be careful not to let your loved ones drain your finances.
It's time to be financially prudent, brothers! You must manage your money wisely, avoid unnecessary expenses, and prioritize your family's needs. Don't let your family members turn you into an ATM! Set boundaries, communicate clearly, and make sure everyone understands the importance of financial discipline. And to your wonderful wife, you need her support! She can help protect your family's finances by: Cautioning her family members to respect your financial boundaries. Contributing to the family income (if she's not already doing so). Supporting your financial decisions and helping you make wise choices

Man go go carry another full-grown adult as dependent only to then complain and cry foul when that fully grown adult reveals she is exactly that, a fully grown adult with a will of her own. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Stop deceiving yourselves with this nonsense of being a provider for your family and all. If you are not very well off then you have no business marrying a woman who does not equally bring in income to support the household which is EQUALLY hers to provide for and nurture. If you are not very well off and you cannot stand being your woman's equal in marriage, then maybe marriage— and probably the raising of children— isn't at all for you.

Sterope:
➜Even kids are born with the natural disposition to belief in God. You look at the world and you don't wonder and admire its intricacies..Lol.

You are missing the point. This is not about whether one believes in a deity or not but whether the claims attributed to the particular deity surrounding the issue of death are factual or not.