₦airaland Forum

Vikto17:
✓ My dear Nairalanders ,, a girl l want to marry next year is consistently been stalk by her ex...
The guy called her last three months and l warn her sternly about her having anything to do with her ex... she should either choose the guy or me... in which she called the guy in my present and warn him to stay off ... she block his number too...
Just yesterday, she told me that the guy called her again with a different number.....
l told her that the last thing l will take is cheating and she should know how to handle this guy since she claim to choose me....
Honestly,, l am thinking of ending the relationship,, don't want to drag this issue into my marriage..... please anyone with experience ..how do u handle this...

Educationalserv:
any you believe in .Why would this happen days to Christmas !

Educationalserv:
any you believe in .Why would this happen days to Christmas !

HeatSeeker:
➜Which other God you know?

HeatSeeker:
Why do you want to hold God responsible for the actions (or inactions) of human beings?

Educationalserv:
Poor citizens trying to get food at Islamic second school = 40 dead .
Poor citizens trying to get food Catholic church=31 dead .
This happen right where worship take place .not some Stripper clubs .

Maxymilliano:
➜LoL .. The Iman comes across as a MURIC disciple. Stubborn and irrational in thoughts and reasoning

Maxymilliano:
The banner has since been replaced with another which says “Allah is the lord of Jesus .”

Fidelis77:
By the power in the name of Jesus Christ I end every spirit of struggling in your life and family in Jesus Almighty name

Sharingiscaring:
➜Reading your comments here, I can tell that you're one of these people who think they are too wise but are actually empty. Why do you think everyone but you is stupid and you don't care about how they'd feel in telling them? Meanwhile, there's no wisdom in reducing the font of your quotes because that makes them difficult to read. Doing that only makes you feel like a wannabe tech expert which you are not - though you want us to believe you are. Try to be more emotionally intelligent.

Osanoghodua1:
➜ Before I got married, I had nothing, paid no bills, the Holy spirit directed me to my wife a private school teacher, I got married to her largely funded by family friends and church. 3yrs into the marriage, God immensely blessed both of us, the hand of God came heavily upon our lives and changed everything.. I don't regulate my life outside God. I am a highly religious person cos of this, I don't keep much friends and don't associate Much with people I don't like a perversed relationship although I am a very social person but I needed to please Jesus.

Banjuu:
➜Good evening. I need a useful advice on how to address an issue regarding me ad my partner; she complains bitterly and constantly over things i consider minute.
We have been together for close to five months now. She is nice and one the kindest woman i've ever been with. But barely a month after we were together, I noticed something about her that is getting on my nerves now; she complains constantly over the most ridiculous thing. Few of the complaints she has inunated me with include me saying "good morning". This becomes a problem when i say good morning or passing a message without adding endearing word or phrase or using her actual name. Something like; "Good morning, Tolani" always yields an issue we may drag for a day or two. Another instance is me sending using particular picture or messages that are not catchy t celebrate her birthday, me not giving prompt or accurate responses to her messages. Sometimes it's me not giving her enough that covers her transport fare when she visits. I have hade to explain why, how, when just to clarify issues. Sometimes i apologize and when I don't she accuses me invalidating her opinions or proving to be "all knowing" and "always right".
I'm getting overwhelmed with her incessant complains and I'm seriously thinking of calling it off with her, but I candidly love her.

LordIsaac:
➜I beg to differ. Even the richest woman in Nigeria made that association clear. I shall reiterate for emphasis sake, you are entitled to your opinion, but do not assume it holds in all circumstances.

LordIsaac:
➜You don't know all the story!

LordIsaac:
➜There may be links not captured by the article. I am not implying causation, but there may be confounding variables that strengthen the association/connection.

LordIsaac:
➜I agree with you totally, without ignoring the outliers.

BrotherJapa:
➜In life, you plan you life according to the rules to applies to most people and not the exceptions or what we call the "outliers". Over 80% who married in abject poverty died in poverty, that is the statistics for the majority. If you marry as a broke man, you will understand the suffering that Job passed through in the Bible.

Sirchiboy:
➜Well I think if you are in this shoes. I will tell you a story of a guy that blew up in just two years after getting married. This guy had been struggling in ph. He worked in Mr sweet as a cook. Worked in differen places for years but nothing. All of us used to play betting in rumuola. But as soon as he got married this guy blew up.. Now this guy control millions. Bought house in different places and cars. The business he is doing is just interior decorations and furniture.
The worst part is that this guy was my guy back then but as soon as he made money. He shun all of us. Me next year I don go marry ooo. I know believe that some women carry grace and anointing that really open doors for men ooo .

Paragonpric:
➜I find it hard to buy such things with my money even during holidays

Paragonpric:
I will feel it's a waste of money to eat it. So I'll rather get crayfish or dried panla fish to eat

Paragonpric:
➜Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.
The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.
Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.
Please how do I defeat this mentality

prophetfire:
➜ Unfortunately you are replying out of context and contradicting yourself.
The issue is his statement that it's Easterners that do like that. I told him that it's more of westerners approach to Christianity as the church in question is a western church and that Easterners aren't into it as much as westerners. You now said that he's right, meaning that his assertion about Easterners as opposed to westerners is right.
➜And then you turned around again to say that it's all ethnicities that are prone to that, which is contrary to his assertion that it's only Easterners. Where do you stand? Supporting what he said and at the same time saying it's all ethnicities that are into it is contradicting yourself.

Goodlyhrt:
A little appraisal of the Yoruba people. In the way some of them practice the Abrahamaic religion. They don't go overboard like the Northerners because of Islam or as strict as the Easterners, my people, in the way they practice Christianity. I stayed in Lagos for upto six years and I was initially confused in the way they practiced the Abrahamaic religions but now I understand better and I am in love with their way in that aspect.
Lastly be wise in your association with people. I.e. avoid secret societies or cult groups because although they'd promise you protection but it's all a lie.

Goodlyhrt:
A little appraisal of the Yoruba people. In the way some of them practice the Abrahamaic religion. They don't go overboard like the Northerners because of Islam or as strict as the Easterners, my people, in the way they practice Christianity. I stayed in Lagos for upto six years and I was initially confused in the way they practiced the Abrahamaic religions but now I understand better and I am in love with their way in that aspect.
Lastly be wise in your association with people. I.e. avoid secret societies or cult groups because although they'd promise you protection but it's all a lie.

prophetfire:
I understand your plight about your ignorantly religious parents.
However you are wrong to say that that's how Eastern people practice Christianity.
You are using your parents to define Easterners. Easterners are sociable to the core and are more of Catholics, Anglicans and Methodist and Presbyterians and this makes them more open minded about religion and social life.
Remember that DCLM your parents attend is a Southwest church.
The problem is that your parents are among the few Easterners that Yoruba-based Pentecostal churches brainwashed with ignorance and you became a victim.

DamnnNiggarr:
Peter Obi

Goodlyhrt:
➜My parents tried to raise us in the way that most Christian homes would go.. In the way of the Lord! And all the associated activities of going to Church all Sundays, ignoring all other associations as they are perceived as being unequally yoked with unbelievers. Adhering to all doctrines of the church no questions.
I was raised in this type of environment. In short my parents were staunch members of the Deeper Life Christian Ministries (DLCM) and all my formative years where under the doctrines and teachings of the church. My parents and the Church taught me to put all my hope in the Lord in all situations and never to complain much because God will make a way even at the dieing minutes. So I grew up weary of my non church going environment. I wouldn't find myself being a social animal that I am working aggressively hard on becoming nowadays. So I made church friends, and went to church gatherings, church schools right until my secondary school days.

But there is a catch. I watched my family falter and we lost everything we had. My father went down with diabetes around 2008 and nobody to help. He lost his carpentry workshop and showroom.. almost lost his life to the disease. The Church, my church DLCM couldn't offer us good help because they too were individually waiting on the Lord too. So they offered us help but meager. But that was the only gathering we knew and are aquatinted with. No Umunna membership, ordinary friends gathering or in another word Friends club. Even market association, my parents never belonged to any of those.

We solely waited on the Lord and around 2011, my dad's diabetes was somehow controlled. Thanks to my Uncle in the village who came to our rescue by using herbs and leaves to help my dad. But not without enough convincing and lobbying from my uncle because my parents saw the help as being fetish of some sort. In fact at that time we were not in talking terms with the said uncle because of his native practices. But at the end of the day he came to our rescue through the herbs he gave to my dad.

donmik:
➜Hi dear. Hope you do fine. I finally quited after much persecution and resistance. I later discovered they don't only deal with one physically but also spiritually. I am free to think we'll on what to do and where to go now. Lagos school is a field of witchunt among staff, children and mgt. Thanks for your advice

L1TTLE:
➜I am an adult, but being homeless is something I am prepared to face if it's inevitable
➜but like I said I was fending for myself and my mom in every way, the only difference is the rent, I think I can pay rent, I just have to find a not so expensive one.

Desusi:
➜Why must you give him? The chances of given the children a viable future will be limited. Now that the opportunity is there pls,do all you can to take them along with u. Nevertheless, you didn't tell us reasons for your separation, sometimes women could be wonderful,l hope its not a case of another man given you a signal in the other side.? In most cases, immigration would want to see the father consent letter for the kids at the airport.

techgurl12:
➜ I am seeking advice from anyone that know about immigration matters here.
M marriage is at the stage of divorce. Three years ago, I wanted to travel with my husband and kids to the US, but it didn't work out due to financial reasons. Meanwhile, I already started the process and got passports for all of us.
Now that we are about to part ways, my husband is requesting to have the kids international passports. I wanted to give him at first, but when I saw the way he was threatening to deal with me if I don't give him the passports before the divorce, I became scared of making another mistake I might regret later.
What do you guys think? Please fam, skip the insults and advise a confused woman.

L1TTLE:
✓ First off, I don't care about his roof, I prefer sleeping in the streets to his roof whatever it is, second yes I was fending for myself and my mum and I still am, If you actually read my post it's not a cry of struggling to survive because he cut me off, it's about getting away from him and making sure he never sets his eyes on me again, so roof or no roof I don't care, I pray you don't meet someone this evil, because you'd be damaged for life.

Bede2u:
the issue is peculiar to enugu because of the coal soil. I don't think Anambra has that issue.

zero8zero:
Hmm, coal was once a golden commodity before oil was discovered, it's now turned to a curse.