₦airaland Forum

Spectrix:
➜I feel so terrible and I need help. I married with a V-Card we’ve known each other for a long time and we have 2kids now my husband is not excited to be intimate with me anymore and when I expressed my concerns if it was my fault he said I should learn by watching R-rated videos. I’ve tried but we don’t even get to try often for me to practice. He said I should make efforts instead of complaining which really hurts (me expressing my fears was the complaining)
➜I’m confused I’ve watched the videos as I’m used to watching them but I don’t really feel I get much from it. How do girls become so good at it are they thought by the men or they learn from the videos too?

What do you do for a living? How do you spend your day and time?

2. Have you tried investing in building your self-esteem and reading books instead?

TossTos:
➜Let me follow one yourba adage that say " don't forsake home " .. it means do not do away from your family . As much as you mustn't take everything that'll happen to them so also don't let them be deaf to things they need to know about you .. you will just know how to go about .. not everything that happened to you , you tell people about ..
➜Decision is always yours ..

Can you seriously look at Yoruba lives in Nigeria today and say that have benefitted from that adage you quoted?

2. Everybody's circumstances and family situation no be the same!

Candreva:
Even the reporter na oloriburuku. No empathy in your stuu.pid writeup

Empathy for what purpose? Will empathy raise and support those children? Will empathy bring the dead woman back? Stop micro-focusing on meaningless things!

Ashirioluwa:
➜Your choice. Each man has his own decision to make, and I believe you are more familiar with your family than we are.

Exactly!

Stevenbright:
➜You make too much assumptions. This is not a tale. I am based in Benin city and it was the UBTH teaching hospital that went on air on both on radio and television asking for the help of anyone who can help locate the family of the man in delta state and also narrated how his wife brought him and pretended to go go out to buy something the next day. And have since not come back while the hospital have been the one taking care of the man for over six months.

I made no assumptions. You say you saw it on TV, and I have no reason to doubt that claim. What I am asking is if the man told you in that same broadcast that he regrets supposedly abandoning his family or that his wife is to blame for leaving him.

Starzo:
➜How you wan take read am when you don already dey street?...mad people don dey carry phone waka for this country?

You will know when the time comes. I look forward to hearing from you in October 2025. Till, then, good luck!

Starzo:
➜ This one don kolo finish Infact I've brought back the date to October 2025

If you are still alive at that time too, I look forward to reading your post then too! 🤔

Cousin9999:
Some of these people are sociopaths, and many sociopaths are created by trauma in childhood.
Some of these people are agents. See Neo-Colonialism and the Poverty of 'Development' in Africa by Mark Langan.

Agents raised and put through traumatic childhood by their African parents?

Umuinyioku:
➜On ground that the man wasted resources on her, only for her to turn her back on him

You mean a mumu wasted his resources, abi? Nonsense! Stop wasting space already!

Starzo:
➜There's still hope for you tho. Locate any white garment church(cele) make Dem flog sense enter your head before it is too late😂😂😂😂

Shove your hope up your arse... I look forward to seeing you post the picks in May of 2026 as you stated. I am actually looking forward to seeing it myself! 😁

Umuinyioku:
Needless argument. She has moved on with another Man. Let her settled all expenses incured on her while in school. That's the only way to bring peace.

Why? On what grounds? Stop skating around the obvious here which is there are no grounds for any of what you continue to insist on.

Stevenbright:
➜Just know that your wife will surely use it against you. There will be nobody to watch your back against her excesses and actions towards you.
There was a news early this year of a man from delta state who migrated to Lagos state, cutoff all his family back home, got married to a woman from another state with home he had children. When he was sick, she brought him to UBTH a teaching hospital in Benin, Edo state and abandoned him there. Went back to Lagos and move out of their house with the children to an unknown location.

All these half-baked tales ehn... 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

So what happened next? Did the man say at that point that he regretted cutting off from his family? Did he say his wife is to blame for abandoning him in his illness?🤔

Starzo:
➜I'll be the person to post pictures of you on the streets in May 2026 on nairaland

OK... good luck then!

Cheeryfeet:
➜Exactly. My sympathy is with the guy she is wedding. Na him I dey pity

You think the new guy is not aware of her ex funding her education? Do you folks choose ignorance for breakfast or something?

Umuinyioku:
➜ Easier said than done.
➜How do you expect her to break the relationship when she knows you are bank rolling her education? How possible??

Answer the questions! What makes you think that your paying her school fees means she no longer has the right to break up with you? 🤔

2. According to the story, she broke up with the man and has since moved on. So, on what grounds do you expect she should not have been able to do exactly what she is reported to have done? 🤔

louken:
➜Who told you he has pastors and imams

They sell people lies in exchange for payment and control. Does anyone need to tell you of these obvious things?

Umuinyioku:
➜Which legal ground? That I sponsored you at school and you jilted me. Went ahead to marry another man?
➜What's your ground of argument to justify the Lady's betrayal behavior?

But wait... .why can't she break up with you? What makes you think that your paying her school fees means she no longer has the right to break up with you? 🤔

2. Justify behavior? People break up every day... that is the story of many relationships. To suggest that because you chose to spend money on her education during the relationship strips her of the right to break up with you may need help there. 😐😐😐😐

Franking:
Criminals include politicians who loot and intentionally mismanage public funds. Contractors who supply or construct substandard goods or structures. Fake pastors who deceive people with fake miracles and prophecies.
Traders who cheat their customers one way or another.

Name just one pastor you know of who is not included in that list of fake pastors.

L1TTLE:
➜Without saying too much, I loved my mum dearly and I was providing for her and fending for her until she died recently, when she died I was the only one with her and no one cared, her husband is alive and he had beef with her, and I took her side while my other siblings took his side, when she died it felt like I lost the battle because they iced me out, said I bet on the wrong side and let me carry my cross alone, now she's gone I'm alone in this world and none of them talks to me, I feed myself, clothe myself and do every other things myself, difference is we still live together in a family house, he doesn't own the house though, I could be sick and indoors for a whole week and even die and no one would check on me, sometimes when I had nothing like I'm broke I'm left to get myself out of it alone, at some point I almost died before I could get myself to the hospital, point is I'm in my family house but basically alone in this world, now I'm planing to leave and never be seen again cuz there's no difference I'm basically on my own anyway,
➜and yes I have considered reconciliation but this man is evil reincarnated, someone who stood in front of my door and cursed me for hours because of 400# that's how terrible he is and when my mum died he almost had a party to rub my nose in it, if I start talking about him it won't end, so reconciliation isn't an option, I'd like to cut him off as he's diabolic and the way he constantly talks about me and the anger and jealousy in him boils he's doing everything so I don't succeed, he keeps telling me life will always be hard for me, and I'll never progress in life,
➜I feel I need to leave the hostile environment so I can succeed in life as nothing grows in the midst of such hate and diabolical actions, secondly I don't want to die suddenly like my mum who was okay in the morning and died in the evening from simple headache.

1. You have a free roof over your head, something that over 20 million Nigerians living in Nigeria cannot even boast of but your particular complaint is rather that no one pays attention to you?

2. Are you able to provide yourself shelter and everything else at this point? I am not certain how old you are but if you can hold off on wanting to move until you are well on your feet, then do so first before you decide to finally ghost your father for good. It will not help you at all to leave endangering your well-being in the process. Yes, your home does seem toxic but since it isn't physically dangerous, I see no reason for you to rush your move. Also, given the economic situation in the country, as well as widespread insecurity, try to get a place before you leave your home.

3. There is no such thing as diabolical action... All attacks are either physical, social, or emotional. And if you can focus on growing yourself, then you should direct much of your focus on that which matters.

Starzo:
➜E go soon happen....I give you April 2026 latest

Will you be alive in April of 2026? 🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐

Day169:
➜Why then are you bringing it to the forum if your mind is made up even to the point of death?

He meant he was not worried about the superstitious hogwash that the other spewed.

vincenteger:
....... even at the point of death. I just hope you buried yourself when you die.

Nonsense! 🙄🙄

parkervero:
➜Hmm

Anyone throwing the word the mention of God around at you is merely BULLSHEETING you! 🤔

D111:
You will definitely regret your actions

BUllsheet! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

hakeemhakeem:
It's possible but know that the way you are trying to exclude your father, mother and siblings it the same way your children are going to exclude you when they come of age

Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

durentboi:
"Family isn't always blood. It's the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are"

Precisely! If people would only understand this, then they would know not to let these things phase them that much.

parkervero:
➜I want to ask if there is any married men in here who have formed their own families without involving their family members (mother, father, and siblings). Are there any consequences for not involving family members?
➜I don't want to involve any of my family members in any of my affairs including the time of difficulty, sickness, even to the point of my death. I want to stay on my own till eternity

What kind of consequences? What is it you are afraid might happen if you choose to distance yourself from your family?

2. You can do it. Just be sure to have solid back up plans in the case of sickness, death, etc. After that, you are well on your way to living a decent life away from your family.

Nicepoker:
Junkie.

Again, your pastors and imams are equally engaged in yahoo-yahoo! 😩😩😩😩

Nicepoker:
Stick to the topic.

Your pastors and imams are equally engaged in yahoo-yahoo!

Eniitankorede:
➜I have read of similar cases online. If the man can prove that she promised to marry him and based on that promise he sponsored her education. And now she broke the promise, it can be regard as fraud.

Have you ever met any couple who had the kind of agreement you describe there? Think carefully before responding! Also, what has A to do with B? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Abid2020:
➜ wetin u dey talk it's a game account not a social media account ooo nothing wrong with sending the login, the account I'm using now the person send me the login before I send his money

If it is an open account where users are allowed to do as they wish with it, then why are you complaining?

Abid2020:
They don't have a conscience. I lost my eFootball account to one Yahoo guy. The account was worth 18, so he sounded like a reasonable person, and I trusted him. I gave him my login details, and then he blocked me. The werey is using an iPhone 13. These people are thieves. If you're not a Yahoo boy and you have them as friends, please stay away. They don't have a conscience and can do anything to you.

Why would you give another human being your login details though? This reads like an attempt to shift blame abeg! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄