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GodHimself:
You’re too emotional about these things, and it’s distasteful.
The research applies to both men and women.

Stop spitting your own ignorant bulllsheet my way as well!

lawani:
■ I always wonder what teaching of Jesus Christ adds anything to human civilization to.make him worth following. Can you enlighten me on such teachings?

Why must His teachings add to human civilization? As He Himself said, He is only worth following for those who qualifyto follow Him -- He is of no use or real value to those who do not qualify to have Him.

NOETHNICITY:
The bolded is not true. Research has shown that for a woman the higher the body count the less likely she is able to maintain sexual relations with a partner.

Abeg , stop spitting out bull sheet in my direction!

Testiebobo:
■I promised my brother that i will assist him to get a laptop for his design business by contributing half of the money. Th HP system cost 120K, so i should pay 60k. But it's over 2months now and the money i was expecting did'nt arrive. He called me yesterday to blame me for being the cause why he had already spent half of his contribution. The last text he sent to me on whatsapp was"thanks for the delay!". And this morning i discovered he had already blocked me. I only saw my messages on his dm and none of his texts were there.

Did you bother to communicate the part in bold to your brother before he called you up? Or did you think it OK to ghost him and then not expect him to be furious with you for it?

GoodSpirit:
■ Just as making sure a man has money in his account doesn't matter You expect a man to provide for someone that has the propensity to commit partenity fraud, women

Yet, the vast majority of Nigerian men seem to end up with exactly the kind of women you describe, how come?

Draslo:
■ Sometimes you sound like a hardcore Christian and also as a strong feminist. How do both go together without contradiction?

I have never been a hard-core Christian, neither have I ever been a strong feminist. I am simply a follower of Jesus Christ. The confusion you have of my person is yours, not mine.

Takara:
■ “Fasting during Ramadan was surprisingly easy. Mental preparedness played a key role. I was as energetic as suhoor during the iftar,” he said.
Salah likened the experience to the energy he felt during the early morning Fajr prayer. “The Fajr prayer was something I had not experienced earlier. The only thing that existed in my mind the whole day was that I wouldn't be even having a sip of water,” said Salah.
“Before embracing Islam, I always thought about how Muslims could fast for a month. It was a fear when I accepted Islam. Finally, I did it and all thanks to Allah, it was at ease. The mental readiness was the key,” said Salah.

That's because you never had real motivation. Go ask kids who started fasting in their teaching years and they will tell you the same thing. You writing an epistle at age 23, saying religion is the only motivation you ever had makes you look like a joke. Go ask those kids who started modeling at age 14 or older, or even those who had to lose about 40 lbs to fit into their prom dresses and they will tell you real stories.

For those who are under some sort of delusion that wives and children have special meaning in the Kingdom of God, Jesus Christ Himself declared the following:
A. God's special blessing/permission is given only to those who would choose to live as Eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom of God.

10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.
12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” - Matthew 19 vs 10 - 12

B. Women who choose to live as Eunuchs — Childless— for the sake of the Kingdom of God are the ones who have God's blessings; women who have children are told to cry for themselves and their children's sake.

27 A large crowd followed Jesus. Some of the women were sad and crying. They felt sorry for him.
28 But Jesus turned and said to the women, “Women of Jerusalem, don’t cry for me. Cry for yourselves and for your children too.
29 The time is coming when people will say, ‘The women who cannot have babies are the ones God has blessed. It’s really a blessing that they have no children to care for.’ [/size]
30 Then the people will say to the mountains, ‘Fall on us!’ They will say to the hills, ‘Cover us!’
31 If this can happen to someone who is good, what will happen to those who are guilty? ” - Luke 23 vs 27 - 31

C. Your marriages are of this world of men and not of the Kingdom of God

34 [size=12pt]Jesus said to the Sadducees, “On earth, people marry each other.
35 Some people will be worthy to be raised from death and live again after this life. In that life they will not marry.
36 In that life people are like angels and cannot die. They are children of God, because they have been raised from death. - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36

For those completely without eyes, Jesus Christ made it clear that His followers are in this world but are NOT of the world.

Recall that Jesus Christ told you to remember Lot's wife. If you remember well, Lot's wife was saved from the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. However, She refused to stand faithful until the end— she disobeyed the other commandments given to them by the same angels. She was turned into a pillar of salt, a punishment different from that which befell those who were left back in sodom, but destruction nonetheless.

26 “When the Son of Man comes again, it will be the same as it was when Noah lived.
27 People were eating, drinking, and getting married even on the day when Noah entered the boat. Then the flood came and killed them all.
28 “It will be the same as during the time of Lot, when God destroyed Sodom. Those people were eating, drinking, buying, selling, planting, and building houses for themselves.
29 They were doing these things even on the day when Lot left town. Then fire and sulfur rained down from the sky and killed them all. 30 This is exactly how it will be when the Son of Man comes again.
31 “On that day if a man is on his roof, he will not have time to go inside and get his things. If a man is in the field, he cannot go back home.
32 Remember what happened to Lot’s wife - Luke 17 vs 26 - 32

All born-agains — who receive the first salvation which is obtained purely by faith— but fail to obtain the second salvation which can only be obtained by Faith and Works — faith without works, in this case, is dead— will end up like Lot's wife, is the gist that Jesus Christ was trying to pass to the sheep(and potential goats) among His flock.

slimjohn2k5:
How this argument go tk u to heaven

The problem with this is that what James said was not a rebuttal to Paul but rather a statement made regarding the second Salvation which required Works, unlike the First Salvation which is instead worked only by Faith.

What your religious overlords do not know and hence fail to tell you is that Jesus Christ offered those who would accept Him Two different Salvations, not one.

● The first salvation was from the condemnation of sin — Death, God's heavier curse which He inflicted on those who failed to meet the Standard of His Law of Moses. Those of them who would choose to first Salvation — become born-again — were granted Eternal Life(that which they failed to obtain from the Old Law because of their disobedience. To become born-again one has to simply obey the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ — faith — and this first salvation is an eternal covenant — there is no undoing this salvation - John 3 vs 1 - 21. Once a person is born of Spirit, that person cannot be unborn of the Spirit — that contract is eternal and may spell doom for such a one if he/she decides to neglect the responsibility that comes with being bound to that eternal yoke.

● The second Salvation, can only be obtained after one has been certified as a born-again follower and then made the choice to stand faithful until the end — Matthew 24 vs 12- 13 & Mark 13 vs 13. It could only be obtained through continuous submission and obedience to the teachings and commandments of God's Law — Faith— and righteousness— works—until death. Only born-agains who submit their lives to doing only that which He commands can obtain this second salvation which comes with a guarantee of Heaven at the end(Eternal Reward). Those who fall short and are unable to obtain the second salvation are guaranteed Eternity in Eternal Damnation.

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In his letters, Paul spoke mostly of the first salvation, salvation from the condemnation of sin which is Death. James, on the other hand, when he insisted that Faith without works was dead, referred instead to the obtaining of the second salvation which is necessary should one have hopes of making it into Heaven at the end of the day.

Draslo:
■ You're weird

I don't follow!

occfx:
■ And probably collect one more body count

It is her prerogative and nobody's business!

GistMedia0:
In a remarkable display of creativity and innovation, a female student from the University of Benin (UNIBEN) stole the spotlight during the campus costume day with her stunning Avatar-themed outfit. The event, which was intended to bring fun and vibrancy to the university's atmosphere, quickly turned into a viral sensation as images of the intricate costume spread across social media platforms.

Meeen!! She looks like the real thing! I wonder how she got it done.

Mimicle101:
■ lol... good night. Let any lady take your advice at there own risk

Well, duh! Like those who pay attention to you won't be doing the same — at their own risk!

Mimicle101:
■ i always love your comment. keep playing devils advocate. You can deceive as many woman as you want. look am a freeman. i have peace now. i acknowledged my wrong and mistakes as a human that i am. an not a super human that you expect.
■ the truth is. when am ready i can stilll find another good lady who would understand and be there for me. and live moves on. am only sorry for most ladies who re quick to jump ship when there is crisis in there marriage. if its that easy to get a partner. to build a marriage for 10, 20 even more year without having some challenges. then let them listen to you and then leave there husbands.
■ but first let them go to badoo and many other online dating sites and see the amount of single ladies they would be competing with. its not even easy for the men. how about the ladie. afterall is not compulsory to marry they can aswell remain single is also a good option. thank you

1. If your idea of what it means to be human is having the freedom to inflict hurt and pain on others— even children—and then carefully walking away from the chaos you created so you can start over afresh somewhere else, you certainly have a long way to go.

2. I already said it! Your noxious poems of how much you loved your ex, were just nonsense to pull the heartstrings of the gullible with and further delude yourself with this image of a "good" person you seem to have going for you there. You sound a lot like a predator looking for his next prey!

3. An entitled predator at that!

Kingcalls:
■ Women have standards, men also do... why can't women accept ours...as we have accepted theirs .... do u think a woman gives a hoot about a guy that can't take care of her needs ... they don't joke with that ... even they accept a broke guy, just know that no other guy is interested in them and they moment another guy that can take care of her needs shows interest, that's when u will know women have standards... as women don't fancy low money count , men don't fancy high body count

I don't follow at all at all!

Mimicle101:
■ please kindly point to me one perfect marrige. trouble free for 20 years.
■ most of you are like run. leave. run. after running then what. who will tae care of those kids.
■ why always encourage broken home instead of advocating for resolution and peace

See cowardice on display for Pete's sake!

2. You admitted that it was your wife who took care of your kids until she could no longer endure keeping up with the charade that was you and her united in marriage. Yet you dare to ask the question in bold regarding the care of the kids?

3. You have admitted here that you broke your own home, destroying any and every chance of a peaceful resolution, yet somehow you dare to shove the blame on an outsider for admitting what you already know which is that the marriage is indeed broken? Are you for real? What kind of eejit-otic mind game are you trying to play there on yourself now?

Mimicle101:
■ I thank God you self know say you owe me that particular one. anyways. keep well 1Kobo These posts is not about me. its about our lovely sister whose home and marriage is in danger.
■ what we owe her is our prayer and discouragement.
■ Sister. please dont divorce you husband oky. talk with him. if thing are getting violent. tell him becuase you desire peace and wants your marriage. and becuase you love him let him see the danger his addiction is causing in your home. In love let him know whats best for both of you us for you to go to yiur parwnra home. for a while while he sorts himself. peace

What she instead told you is in danger is not her home and marriage but her sanity and that of her children. Those are rightly greater priorities than the violent environment that is her marriage. Those children do not deserve to be put through such wickedness in the name of keeping a marriage.

2. It is so funny how those of you who wrought wickedness on others by your own hands are always the first to invoke God whenever cornered. It is like an expected reaction from manipulative beings. OP, does not need prayers nor does she need to pray to any god out there unless she worships some sort of actual god of marriage that she is sure will save her from this marriage contract that binds her to an abusive man and endangers regularly the mental health of her children.

3. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 - Yes o, Sister, remain enduring as a punching bag in marriage. That marriage badge will bear you witness after your health and probably life has been thoroughly damaged all in the name of love. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mimicle101:
■ Let me go google and reeducate myself on the meaning of the word DABATE. it seems i missed tbe meaning.. Or better still kindly educate me on the meaning of debate

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

de·bate

● a formal discussion on a particular topic in a public meeting or legislative assembly, in which opposing arguments are put forward.
● an argument about a particular subject, especially one in which many people are involved.

Notice how the one thing you think I somehow owe you is missing from the definitions of the word?

Mimicle101:
■ What i love about you is the fact that you keep cring over a spilled milk. you love blame game. you love beating around the bush. you keep talking and never offer solution or a way forward.
■ let me ask you... What point are you making what are you trying and fighting so hard to archive

The one who came here playing the blame game is you, not me.

2. I am not trying or fighting hard for anything. I am simply on here to debate thoughts, and ideas churned out by the worms in your mind and that of others. After all, that is what an open forum such as this one is meant for.

SonofGod231:
■ She had the career before the marriage,thats the point.

Ah! She no longer has a career because she is married. Do you mean that the desire/longing she had to be somebody for herself, to make her own money and take care of her own needs vanished the moment she got married? That drive/passion she once had to make a name for herself vanished after marriage set in. Is that what you mean?

TeamLeader:
■ Good day to you all my dear brothers and sisters, i've been battling with some spiritual attacks from unknown source which has been causing obstacles, hinderance and stagnancy in all my life endeavours.
My networking business has crashed to zero. I cant even afford 2 square meals now for myself talkless of buying sleepers for my fiancee. I have to relocated back to my uncle one room in Lagos because i cant afford my apartment in abuja again and he is tired of feeding me. Am in a state of unknown and an frustrated now.
I noticed that i always have this particular dream almost every time of seeing myself in my old working place, working and in my secondary school which i finished since 2004. I also see snakes in my dreams as well. I have spent so much money in different prayer houses because of this and i got tired and decided to hold on to my God by holding midnight prayers by myself but these dreams won't just gave up. They keep appearing and i dont just know what to do again because am tired now.
I've talked to my mother about it as well she too can't provide solution and i'll be 31 in few months now. i'll be very very grateful if you can help me with this. Thanks a lot

Ol boy, it's been many years later. I hope you have at least realized by this point that all that money you were pouring down into the pockets of men of gods and their deliverance business na him be one of the major points for your problem. All that would have served as an investment/seed for your own business growth.

Mimicle101:
■ Very well. got your point. So now whats the way forward? In your own opinion.. I must get a new wife and start a new Family right? Or better still I must remain single and die lonely. Please i need your Honest opinion.

Arrghh! The equation is still majorly about you and you alone. Nothing about the children whom you hurt by your wickedness, just you and how your life has to turn out. Imagine the love of this one.

SonofGod231:
■ A lady left her 345k Oil and gas job in Ph to be with the husband in Lagos. If you value your marriage you would leave that Job and go start a life together with your husband. If not you should have just stayed single and face your work.

You never mentioned what became of the lady?

MumEmdy:
■ Kobojunkie, the guy said he has changed for good and from his writeup I didn't see where he said he attack his wife back rather he allow her to attack him instead and he also admitted his wrongs. Let's try to show a little bit of love and kindness to a friend who is weak and in need..

You are one of those naive bits of humans out there, aren't you? Just hope neither you nor your children ever encounter the kinds of manipulative beings that the world outside of your home and mind are filled with.

Person dey dey literally tell you A and absolutely A but you dey blindly read B and only B from the same text. Na special talent your kind get be that. I can't imagine why for the life of me.

Mimicle101:
■ Am used to your way of thinking

If you were, you wouldn't come here writing noxious poems about how you supposedly loved a woman whom you helped turn into an abuser and a monster in marriage. You wouldn't open your trap to blame your wickedness on addiction. Addicts are not wicked people. Rather, wicked people who turn addicts are those who do what you did to your wife and kids in the name of love.

soulhelper481:
■Had it been she didn't leave you, you wouldn't have change. That's why every woman in her shoe or mine have to leave.

He afflicted his woman till she eventually became a monster and an abuser to him. Imagine that! Then he claims she would have helped change him if she had remained in that abusive environment with him, but he never mentioned how he would go about helping her change back from the monster and abuser he helped turn her into.

1. His adopted son's wife

LOL....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 And that is different how? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

MumEmdy:
■ Now that you have changed why not go back and beg her to come back to you, I'm glad you know it was your actions or rather gambling that trigger all her reactions towards you.
■ I sincerely want to congratulate you for being able to conquer that gambling spirit that tormented your life and destroyed your marriage and I also pray your wife sees reasons to embrace you back again Cheers!!!

1. Go back and beg for the woman whom he helped turn into an abuser and a monster to return to him. This time around, if one of them ends up dead, will you be there to open your mouth that you were one of those who suggested they get back together?

By the way, the guy is still struggling, probably missing the pillow that used to support the weight of his abuse. If another woman were to get caught in that net, you would find that the memories of the other wife would probably all but disappear overnight. Care to send your own daughter into that web?

Mimicle101:
■Yes she left.. I regreted it all. And i took the blame for the fact that i became Sick. And I am grateful to God all mighty that today I am getting better ( better from the abuse and crisis i recived in place of love). I am yet to fully recover financially But i still believed that my healling maybe would have came sooner if i had a support system in the person of my own wife. Rather she choosed to forsake me when i was afflicted and needed help. Its always about the Money. Nothing else matters.
At the point where she left was when she got tired of supporting the house. she was cooking and eating with our child alone. she stopped being a wife.. its was oky. i never bordered her as i took it as the punishment to who i had become. Untill she extended it with violent. i cant really remember how it all became physical but one thing i know is i hated seeing her tears. so she would attack and hit me. slap me at a heated argument. i refused to hit her back. instead i restrained her from on few occasions from inflicting permanent damage on me. .
She was my world. I cant tell you one single reason why i love her but i love her more than myself . its still 7 months now. no day passes i dont think about her. I would do anything for her happiness. What i explained above... I dont expect most Nigerian woman including the Nigga ....who commented above me to understand it.
■ People always rush to use the word Abuse when men are involved. laugh. Do you know the pain it feels when a mother would collect meat that a father gave to his 2 years old son and throw it away in front of the boys father? not once but 2 different occasions. Does 2 wrong make right? I accepts all my wrongs... Dont you think things would have been more different if A wrong behaviour is handled with a right behaviour?

You literally helped turn the woman into a monster and an abuser, probably a complete shadow of her old self, yet you want us to believe it was all for the love you have for her?

2. Isn't the one wrong already too much for so many to bear?

As for what you said of people having a heart for people struggling with addiction, I can confidently tell you that addiction is one problem, wickedness is another when it comes to those who burden others with their demons.

For many many years of my life, I too had struggled with several demons of my own. Rather than burden those around me with them, I took to running as far away from them as I could in order not to hurt them with my problems. I kept contact and tried the best I could to explain but I made sure to stay away from having the pain of me inflicted on them in any way or form. You, on the other hand, literally sat your demon on the heads of your wife and children, and worse, expected them to happily deal with it in the name of the "loving" you, yet you dare wish for us to imagine you a bare with understanding of what it means to love others. That was not the addiction at work but wickedness on your part.

AntiChristian:
■ I am a Muslim not a Mohammedan! And yes! A father-in-law can't marry her daughter-in-law.
■ If this your assertion is correct why did Gen 38 ends with Judah did not sleep with her again? It means it is not right but Judah was never punished like his sons!
■ So harlotry is permitted in Genesis 38?
■ Some Yorubas too do this kind of inheritance of wives by brothers some centuries back! Alhamdulillah! Eyes don open!

1. That is like saying I am a follower of Jesus Christ without being a worshipper of Jesus Christ. E no work! Also, Mohammed did marry his daughter-in-law.

2. Judah did not sleep with her again for reasons best known to him. His personal grudges may have contributed to it, however, none of that makes for right or wrong where God is concerned.

3. Again, Sin is defined by God in His Law and God’s LE revealed in Scripture at the time contained only a few commandments;none of them against harlotry.

4. If inheritance of the kind you describe used to be culture for some, OK. I personally believe individuals get to create or choose whatever culture they desire within the constraints of the law.

Emm4:
Woman Shares Death Experience, Says she saw 4 grandparents who died before she was born and she KNEW them.
Another person who died and came back also confirmed her story.

So long as she no claim to have visited heaven or hell, she can claim whatever she wants.