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bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

what do you expect you see a pretty lady by every standard and she is aware she is beautiful, and you expect her not be arrogant? why do you think guys go for ugly lady?

loliapoopy2013:
Am confused and don't know what to do. As am typing this message, am crying and devastated, my heart is broken into bits.

I have 2 sons, aged between 10 and 14. I have refused to live with any maid up till this time, fearing they might be abused.
Am into confectionaries, so despite my stressful business, I manage my boys as my husband works offshore.

A month ago, my mum brought a 19-years-old cousin who looks like a 14-year-old boy to assist me in kneading dough. I panicked because my husband has warned me never to bring any relatives to his house. But because he is a boy and my relative, and was very industrious, I never thought of anything evil, I let him stay.

Yesterday was my birthday, I didn't want to celebrate, but my friend brought me a cake which motivated me to go to the market to get goat meat for pepper soup.

According to my friend, immediately after I left the house, my 10year old son went to take his bath, and that's when my cousin followed. Not liking their movement, she went and peeped, and behold, she saw my cousin having anal sex with my 10-year-old son���. She started banging on the door and they immediately started taking their bath, pretending as if nothing happened.

My friend told me as I got back. I confronted my son about why did he not tell me. He said my cousin cut himself, drew out blood from his body, and warned him that if he tells anyone, he will die, fearing for his life, he refused to tell me. I asked him, why he didn't tell his elder brother, and he said his elder brother is always playing ball downstairs. I then ask him how many times have they done it, and he said almost 10 times. That at first he enjoyed it but he is beginning to feel pain and doesn't know how to end it. I ask my son to bend over, people! my son's anus is wide opened and filled with injury, ������

Please house, what do I do? These are my fears:

1. My son has been introduced to gay sex life by my evil cousin.
2. How can I help ( counsel) my son and rehabilitate him?
3. I might lose my marriage because my husband warned me to protect his kids from relatives.

I need advice from you guys please����������. Please, no insults. I will not purposely put my son in harm's way����.

first dont insult your son
dont make him feel bad and ensure that you gaun his trust no matter what, and seek medical help
also you can visit a good therapist
try and tell your husband and apologize to him. keeping it from him will be very dangerous in the future. tell him on phone or via Whatsapp chat it's raping my sister. the lord is your strength
it's so bad n disgusting

Yinka127:
Evidence please

just tell us you are obsessed with graphic pictures. na people like you love to watch horror movies

PDP can get away with anything in this Nigeria, Imagine PDP fielded a northerner when it's supposed to be a SOUTHERN nobody cried,APC did the same thing by fielding Muslim Muslim ticket, hell has been raised
now the Party is having James Ibori and BODE George and nothing is happening. imagine APC doing this, Nigeria will not hear the end of the news

he jsut kissed his governorship ambition good bye

lol

I fit swear for this Oyinbopipu o, I grow up playing with this type of snake, in my mind its baby snake. and harmless. we use to come across it on farms wtf they discovered it in 2008. dude I have been seeing this way back in 1999 when we used to go to the farm. omo

one thing that made Tinubu own delayed is his health

Atiku is waiting for Tinubu,
Obi is looking for funding

if Oyo is 15m people atleast vooter registration should be around 7m ,
2m voters means oyo is around 8m

Tonypen247:
Are they claiming that there is no Chinese interpreter in the whole of Nigeria or they can't employ one for a serious case like this

I won't be surprised if we are told that the culprit and the deceased have been communicating through Google Translator during their relationship.

This country is a joke

acrually the guy understands english,just messing with them

Ddokie:
even if he sheds his blood for them, they will not vote for him.

its not necessary he vote, at least 20% of the entire northern vote will do

Ddokie:
Obi should focus on the South, targeting 75% of the votes from the SE and SS, while targeting 25% in the SW (except lag where he would do very very well). He should double up efforts in the middle belt states of Kogi, Kwara, Nasarawa, Plateau, Benue and Abuja, as well as the core northern states of Kaduna, Adamawa, Taraba, Gombe, and Bauchi.

The Muslim northerners that will vote Obi have already made up their minds to do so, and they are very few. The others won't vote for him.

But that shouldn't be a problem because APC, Atiku and Kwankwaso will do so much splitting of the muslim north votes that it wouldn't be able to give anyone victory.

Obi should focus on North, try and northernise his dressing, and identify with them

those guys needs serious focusing on. they are my worries .

OBJ, had the same experience, did he die ?

Beckham14:
First it was Twitter, now they're planning to sue Meta Platforms Incorporated (Facebook, WhatsApp and Instagram)



Nothing concerns aboki with social media.

really we need to sue Facebook n Google too. the way they constantly direct loan advert to you eh, it's insane.

Darren95:
I had femur fracture on my left leg and it’s been difficult to move around the house and get things done because I can’t put weight on the operated leg until the fracture heals.

There is this lady friend I knew last year. Back then I tried persuading this lady friend to let me have a shot from her honey pot but she refused.
Honestly back then I was only interested in her honey pot nothing more because I’m not ready for a committed relationship at this stage of my life.

Nearly 2 months after I had the surgery, i called this lady friend (we have not been talking for close to a year) and told her I had accident. She immediately book a car and came to my house to see me. I was surprised and appreciated her quick response. I told her how it happened and that my two friends (guys) have been the ones helping. I told her I would be glad if she comes around to care for me while I heal as I can’t get food from the kitchen myself because I can’t step on my both legs due to the surgery. I live alone in my two bedroom apartment.

Omo starting from that day she started caring and didn’t leave until 5 days later. She said she was going to her home town and she needed to see her 2yrs old daughter (she got pregnant while in a relationship with her ex).

The issue on ground now is that, ever since she returned she has not gone to her own house where she rented. She has been in my house doing virtually everything and my both friends have left (they are business men). I was tempted to approach her for sex and she gave me smoothly without complain unlike before. I was like, look at you when I was healthy you didn’t let me have your honey pot, but now you gave it to me without stress! Hmmm we laughed over it.

But the rate at which this lady friend is taking care of me is scaring, she does everything to the point that I can’t remember the last time I opened a bottle water myself. She does it for me, the only thing I do is bath myself!
Few days ago my guy who was with me came with his female friend to pay me a visit and omo this my lady friend was looking at this girl with all force and frown on her face. I mean the looking was like; ‘’who is this girl, does she have parol with me’’ you know that kind of look.

It pissed me off and since then I have been feeling irritated. I mean we are not dating, has she taken this too far inside her heart!

I’m thinking of moving her out but I don’t have a perfect option In getting someone I can trust like her to take care of me especially because I’ve not started walking.
Will this turn out to be a problem tomorrow? I only had sex with her ones and refuse to ever do it again because of this.
I always tell her I will appreciate you with something very nice when I heal completely, that I appreciate her support and that if she has anything to do, she can go and do it and come back but NO she never left my house and i asked myself what was she doing before I called her??!!
To even ask her say Watin you Dey before I call you, tire me because e go look like say I dey tell her to go!!!

endure it,wait till your legs heal proprly and then throw her out of the window now

longetivity:
This one go dey rule from Dubai if he mistakenly becomes the President

person wey dey go Dubai for medical treatmment

na wa oo

jamesbridget13:
Hmmmm. You see marriage, ei no easy. but if two will agree, they can walk together.

Now sir I think your wife needs to understand that she is now a woman n a home builder. I don't know who to suggest to talk to her but someone she listens to if any.

I think it's upbringing that is causing this. Growing up in my home, dinner is always ready before 5pm on Tuesdays n Thursdays because by 5pm, we all should be in church n when we get back home, we should eat n not cook. Other days before 6pm dinner should be ready too. With this upbringing, it was easier for me in my hubby's house. Right now it's 4pm n I want to start preparing dinner (I am a teacher). Can't imagine myself cooking so late but remember I am already used to this from my upbringing


Now, let's assume ur wife isn't n she is finding adjusting difficult. Look for someone to talk to her about this. May be her mum, not sure though but someone should talk to her.


I don't know if you can be calling her by 5pm to remind her to start cooking n after cooking she should bath d kids that you will soon be home. May be after a while she would adjust. This is d only advice I can think of right now.


Also, what I do concerning d TV is I do change it from cartoon to TVC News. My kids would revolt but I don't care. When they finally accept their fate they would be calm. Just give them 30minutes interval n they would be in Dreamland. You know kids don't like News. So maybe instead of putting off d TV, u could tell ur wife to do this that immediately they are asleep she can watch d channel she desires. I am sure she alone won't watch for long before she falls asleep.


I wish you d best in ur marriage

best solution is for him to scream it out n change his character, stop dropping 3k, start eating outside, let her miss what she is taking for granted,if they no fight it, it will not end

gassbee:
Simple solutions
1. Get an house help.
2. Get her a job asap, make she follow hussle

this will not stop it

godfrey02:
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a very happy family i guess and a good man who provides all the woman wants.

the problem i see here are eating late, lack of sex, and not doing your laundry. how old is she

the thing is women will always take advantage when you give them all the good thing that comes with marriage if you kind, they will take advantage of it.

my friend you have to scream or start eating outside. then she will start going to the mountain top to pray to see your good face

Weirdcamila:
Federal university of Nigeria tag selling fuel !!!! Nigeria is a disgrace

university is hanging on the neck of empty fuel scarcity

lol

danjumaisah:
I don't support molestation, however, witchcraft is real irrespective of civilization.

it stll does not require flogging sha, no law is against it in Nigeria.

thats how tthey used to lynch witches in Salem back in the days.

GardenOfGod:
Everyone who foisted Buhari are now regretting while others are denying, some are dissociating themselves from him... But we know all of you including Tinubu who publicly made it clear. Nigerian youths are wiser now... No more another Buhari in Tinubu skin...

anybody can campaign for anybody


I campaigned for Jonathan before after Yaradua's death, and got disappointed, I actually voted for Jonathan, my first vote, then Later I supported Buhari against Jonathan because I was disappointed again, but I'm glad I did not vote for him.

GardenOfGod:
Soyinka campaigned against GEJ
Soyinka campaigned for Buhari
Soyinka joined hands with Tinubu to install Buhari...
He should accept his deeds in good faith.


In another news... Prof. Soyinka
https://www.nairaland.com/7293952/why-proscribe-ipob-not-miyetti

so you the slowpoke Soyinka was talking about? your mom need to apologise to the world

its going to be Nuclear war and nothing more

wait till you start making money and they plan to kill you and take all your money

sidon there

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someone should sue Atiku too, its not Hausa's turn

Damidave1124:
Inasmuch as this Peter Obi movement is gaining momentum as we move closer to the general election, let us endeavor to verify before we post anything.

Propagander and lies will not win election come 2023.

If you have not gotten your PVC, please endeavour to do so, let us all exercise our constitutional right.

this is what happened when you shared opinion with IPOB,they will rubish you and embarrass you. im Obidients but these guys dey use style lie eh

This is wrong so wrong

MadeInTokyo:
That was the same reason Amaechi, Saraki and several other Governors rejected his desperation to be the Vice President to Buhari when APC elected Buhari as the Presidential candidate

I am not for Tinubu

but it was mischievous of Atiku to flog this Muslim Muslim Ticket like this

in Tinubu's defence, I would say Picking A northern Muslim is a purely political decision and, not any religious gimmick.

what happened to Tinubu should also happen to Atiku, both are not Sincere with Nigeria.

PDP picked Atiku from the north because they want power at all cost, they knew for the sake of the political union of this country, they ought to have a zoned the presidency to the east, Easterners have been devoted to PDP for a long time. PDP, in their sincerity, should have allowed the south or the east to field in someone from their region. At least Obi was there, Wike was there, but they chose the easy way out, and picked Atiku, who has been changing parties for like how many times now just to become president. APC would have picked A strong person from the north to run, but despite the urge to do so, they stuck with the southern, although I believe they could have done better and pick someone from the east, at least this is what they shifted a bit and opted for a western.


Imagine if Atiku was elected and he ran Nigeria for 8years
and another election year came upon us, Apc, if they are still around n strong by that time would want to field a northern man to be able to bit any candidate PDP put forward, so we are stuck with Northerners


by now, you would be either saying why am I being obsessed with North or something, now think about it, its the same thing with APC fielding MUSLIM-MUSLIM.

Personally, I don't have any trouble with anybody ruling us but as a matter of fact,

religion and tribe matter in Nigeria today's politics. Tinubu is insensitive and so is Atiku and PDP