Raalsalghul:

Biglittlelois:



You should stay away from women for a long time, you are not ready to have even a cordial relationship with any woman, your hasty generalisation of the Nigerian women being a certain way, gradually sliding into bashing females here that don't agree with your opinion, asking for proofs of that like its untrue, seeing the proofs of you and healthserve, and then trying to backpedal by standing by your words shows you are very unstable, you have a lot of work to do on your persona, a huge lot.

bukatyne:


You said when you sense a whiff of disinterest or indifference, you flee to protect your ego.

That was why I highlighted that statement and responded to it.

Nobody has talked about groveling before a woman to make her accept you nor do I buy the idea of using gifts to woo a woman except you are looking for an elebi.

If you think immediately you ask a woman out, she must say yes, then you must have an overbloated sense of yourself which is pride or a mask to cover your perceived inadequacies which is low self-esteem.

If you want a lady, be ready to invest your time in wooing her and if she insists no, you can move on.

Sometimes, you need to go extra to pursue a lady especially if you are the type that believes in God's perfect will for marriage.

Biglittlelois:
I had high hope for this thread, infact, I was loving the comments, until I got to some pages and I started seeing, "menopause" and other degrading words just to prove certain points, it's really sad that at this age and time, women are still perceived certain ways using something or a phase that can't be controlled as their drive home point, and funny thing is, they don't, won't, refuse to see it as bad, instead, they prefer to call for more re-inforcement to continue the men movement and gender insults, because that is how their points, opinion, can make sense or a prove of worth, crassness.

Biglittlelois:
I had high hope for this thread, infact, I was loving the comments, until I got to some pages and I started seeing, "menopause" and other degrading words just to prove certain points, it's really sad that at this age and time, women are still perceived certain ways using something or a phase that can't be controlled as their drive home point, and funny thing is, they don't, won't, refuse to see it as bad, instead, they prefer to call for more re-inforcement to continue the men movement and gender insults, because that is how their points, opinion, can make sense or a prove of worth, crassness.

Biglittlelois:
I had high hope for this thread, infact, I was loving the comments, until I got to some pages and I started seeing, "menopause" and other degrading words just to prove certain points, it's really sad that at this age and time, women are still perceived certain ways using something or a phase that can't be controlled as their drive home point, and funny thing is, they don't, won't, refuse to see it as bad, instead, they prefer to call for more re-inforcement to continue the men movement and gender insults, because that is how their points, opinion, can make sense or a prove of worth, crassness.

kunleweb:




Hahahaha knack me stick already. You can see how these women here are trying so so hard to "emotionally manipulate", too bad, the modern guy's unnaive to these sneaky theatrics

kunleweb:




Kikiki I can tell. I'm under your skin already, five minutes extra, it's full blown orgasm. Better take it easy on yourself and know for sure, I don't give two hoots irrespective of my stance on pro-healthy relations.


#I won't trade off my desire for peace with cowling in to emotional whinings. Nope, never

Mindfulness:


They hope that menopause will make women settle for their useless existence but it won't. They will keep begging till death do us part. The aging process is not a privilege of women alone. Prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction, impotence are real.

uninspired07:
I find it hard exercising patience with, indulging or begging a woman. Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego. It’s been eons I last asked a woman out and I get lonely at times, but I am used to my single state.

I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth so I don’t even bother to chase the opposite sex as I tried to when I was younger. This has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue. Am I on the right path or do I try to temper my approach a bit?

Edit: What I am saying is that a man has to have some safeguards to cushion the effects of the chasing process. It’s not advisable to base your chase on just word of mouth. Going into battle with Nigerian women is better with a financial shield.

uninspired07:


Why are you doing this?

Fear God ooo. Men & women are not at war & cannot do without each other.

Please do better as we enter the new year.

Mindfulness:


They hope that menopause will make women settle for their useless existence but it won't. They will keep begging till death do us part. The aging process is not a privilege of women alone. Prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction, impotence are real.

crackhaus:

Manipulation with deflection, emotional blackmail, and sneaky stratagems, is a woman's ultimate weapon.

The moment a man becomes immune to all of it, they lose their hold on him.
I had my own immunization at birth, not every man is so lucky.



Just watch, this comment is already being interpreted as woman-hate by some even when God, Lucifer, Odysseus, Oprah, & Barack Obama knows it as fact.

cassyrooy:
You're writing about me.

But I'm gradually becoming a little relaxed with the ego, the stiffness and the summing up of where a potential relationship will lead to.

Relaxing a little bit like Healthswerve pointed out will help you find the right balance. Please, do compromise a little bit.

Mindfulness:


We can do without your kind perfectly well.

crackhaus:

You've become a made man bro, not in an economic sense but in the awake sense.

There's nothing wrong with you.
If you're going to beg for or indulge in anything in life, it must be something that improves your overall standing and worth to yourself and your closest friends/family.

Regarding your loneliness, try to seek out women who already have a soft spot for you, women who share some common interests with you. You don't need to be wealthy for this.
I have come to understand that the best relationships with the opposite sex are those that are not forced, those that start on a stable mould of genuine friendship - this is not a guarantee that you will live happily ever after, but it still beats having it any other way.
You must never beg or indulge a woman who has no interest in you.

fieryy:


What irritates me the most about this thread is the op. He claims he's lonely, asks if he should worried by his approach, agrees with everyone that says no, disagrees with everyone that calls him out, claims to be unbothered, but created TWO threads today in which he complains about his loneliness. His approach is already final, yet he seeks opinions and validations and as mentioned earlier, complains about loneliness.

healthserve:



Too bad, menopause deems fit as the only/adequate panacea to wake them up, but in the meantime, men need to watch-out for the bitterness they'll be exuding from their self-inflicted conditions

kunleweb:


Nope. Men and women need one another. We can't rather refuse to go without our chocolate-skinned beautiful black women

fieryy:


What irritates me the most about this thread is the op. He claims he's lonely, asks if he should worried by his approach, agrees with everyone that says no, disagrees with everyone that calls him out, claims to be unbothered, but created TWO threads today in which he complains about his loneliness. His approach is already final, yet he seeks opinions and validations and as mentioned earlier, complains about loneliness.

Biglittlelois:



I noticed that after cococandy quoted your bashing ladies comment, you couldn't quote her on that because you were caught on that, instead, you choose to go personal by attacking her persona, same thing you just did to me, trying to justify your crassness for lack of a better point to make, forgetting that, you tried to brag about mentorship of females and having mostly ladies in your family, as if an evidence of that will change your faulty mentality and mindset of women, you just displayed the CHARACTER OF A TYPICAL NAIRALAND MALE, though you tried to make it unnoticeable with your diction, of which I say, you try.

uninspired07:


Wow, can anybody imagine the objectivity & unbiased quality of this post compared to those of the usual suspects.

Bro, I appreciate you for your sincere & heartfelt advice. I sure will pick & imbibe most of it to chart the way forward. I have never been deceived that there’s any other roadmap to this thing, I only needed reassurance.

Thank you.

Mindfulness:


It's called cognitive dissonance. OP suffers a lot. I would have helped him because I am a very sympathetic person but he chose to go into attack mode and now he will learn the hard way.

Biglittlelois:



Kunleweb/healthserve, explain in details, what menopause has to do with this thread, of which menopause, a natural phase all women will experience, explain how menopause is a self inflicted condition and makes one exudes bitterness.

crackhaus:

You're welcome.

Ans as for the usual suspects, it's deflection tactics as always, it mustn't bother you.
Just be sleak with your responses, and don't latch on or you will keep explaining yourself.

uninspired07:


Occasional loneliness. I won’t lie just to prevail over the impression you’re trying to create. I don’t hate women & I agree I need their company but I won’t dishonor myself in the process.

Mindfulness:


I know you can't. The desperation is obvious.

Toks2008:


Then go look for the money first.

I fucking hate this sentence.

Like how much is enough, huh?

Can't wait to live this continent.

uninspired07:


This is gross misrepresentation of what transpired in this thread but it’s alrifht if this is how you want to qualify the edifying & enlightening comments on this thread.

It is well.

kunleweb:



Didn't I say earlier that politeness is more than often interpreted as weakness. Get your tiny nyansh off my view joor

fieryy:


I asked a question earlier, which you are still yet to reply. Who is asking you to dishonor yourself?