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@layomiii,

I cried reading your diary. I've been thinking about it all day and reading the update now breaks me more!
I wish I could give you a big hug right now
Your diary is one of the few I read up here right from when you just got married...
You're such a happy soul who made the pregnancy thread lively.
Pls be strong! Be strong for your son and for yourself most especially. You still have a long way to go. I pray God gives you joy and happiness that you deserve and more!
Love and light

Chinedumagnus05:
You an ingrate, after all I did to help you. Don worry such is life. Women!!

You are a thief! Scammer of scam. God punish you and your Matana Glory account wey you dey use

gaby:
Hmmm

Some of you guys are just so unfathomable and it irks me to no end how you bandy the word "educated" as if common sense is taught in schools especially our kinda schools.

You saw all these with your korokoro eyes while dating but simply pretended as usual that it wasn't there because in your mind your being an architect who can spoil her with gifts will cure her craze...fafafa fawoool

Look guy...zero love..is what that woman sure has for you and you disgust her fantastically. If she had her way or choice she wouldn't wish to be caught a thousand miles around you..its so frigging obvious. You were just a means to an end considering her biological time was waning..

She lost the one she truly loved for whatever reasons and was left with no choice than to manage you to fulfil all righteousness such as having a child seeing how time was ticking out on her coupled with pressures from her family too.

I won't be surprised if her true love is the one she is working towards moving closer to overseas.

I'm seated here typing and wondering how your "Architectural" brains could miss spotting how her "Doctoral or Surgical brain" is conveniently using you as the "available to be settled for in the absence of the desirables" haba oga...are you that low in self esteem or looks.

The lack of an okay self esteem is as well a huge turn off for most women so you know, and from the look of your write up you sure exudes this.

Wetin dey happen na...make una still try dey face reality and tackle am head on.

You see say you dey irritate person plus the person dey shame for you, you still dey force yourself on am cum dey claim successful architect. Your "trying too hard" to win her true love is even more repulsive to her including the gifts..

Na all these kind dundee characters dey make me sometimes dey agree say instead wey person go born mumu make e jejely born omila...

Abi na the woman disvirgin you or na Doctor kill you for your former life wey cum make you swear say you must marry doctor for your new life lol..

Guys make una dey shine una eye well well like my daughter abeg...no time to check time o

Just incase none of the above checks out...guy you dey marry person wey done die for one side prematurely wey him soul never rest according to the Nigerian gist.

Wake up man..you can do better than this...life is too long or short for all these arrant bullocks...yolo man...

That woman's true love is in a corner and probably getting his steady cut on the side from her because he must be married too hence your coming into the picture.

This story aptly captures and rings so true to the saying " Money can not buy love".

I just have to quote you.
You are wise!

Capensis:
Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to do, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving you pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

Do you think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

You are wise.
How can I give you a hug?!

LordOfNaira:
I remember a certain nursing student that I liked back in the days. She looked decent. Whenever her friends came around, they would sit at her balcony and I would hear them sharing their sexcapades but this girl would say nothing.

So, I got friendly with her and we became very close friends. She told me she was a virgin and I accepted. But one night, we went on a date and returned home and somehow, the devil got into us, and we tore each other's clothes and landed on my bed. My dick slid easily into her and I was shocked. I could not even thrust.

I asked her, "But you told me you were a virgin."

She said, "Yes."

I asked, "What happened?"

She said, "You just disvirgined me now now."

Men, I just weak right there and then.

Yeeeh... My chest!

Maxcoded:
I don't use an Huawei bro, but I can tell you Huawei ain't crap.

If they are crap, how are they third world largest phone brand?

While Samsung is good, they charge for more than they are offering; they are simply 'selling names', likewise Apple.

The fact that you used N300,000 to buy a phone doesn't make it 'world best'... There are phones who offer same
or perhaps better quality with less far price

But it's your money, you can buy whatever pleases you.

Shalom Chief

Have you tried Huawei Mate 20 pro or P20 Pro? You'll be wowed!

optimusprime2:
As *coughs* is part of the matter, it gets complicated...
All the *coughs* for the past one month especially during the festive periods certainly deserve the house key...

Perhaps it was 4 *coughs* a day, 50 *coughs* a week? Who knows, some people *coughs* like animals ... and one has to eat well to sustain the *coughs* and she was certainly the one cooking for before and after *coughs* I think she deserves the key...

You may be an introvert as you described, but all that talk that you keep inside, most definitely could have been unleashed during *coughs* who knows how you dealt with her during *coughs* guy, maybe you may have slackened her mechanism, fractured her gondola or pulverized her anatomy because of the psychotic blasts of introverted energy she has to deal with during *coughs* and she needs a place to recuperate-even Footballers rest after injuries... I think she deserves the key.

With the high rate at which pant thefts are on the rise, maybe due to savage ninjitsu techniques during *coughs* she forgets them at your place and she needs to start monitoring her pants, who knows? Maybe some techniques fling her pants right out the window, bros you never know?there has to be pant supervision during *coughs*... so once again, she needs to start monitoring her pants, with your place being a reference point... brov, her safety is a priority too, so for her pants sakes, I think she deserves the key.

Then again due to the fact that she may have become addicted to *coughs* because you may have a good schlong, I think she deserves the key, after all, you showed her your schlong. Nobody sent you to show her the schlong, so now she needs unlimited access please brov, don't deny her... She deserves the key.

With the following points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you to give her the key for *coughs* sake.

After all no body knows how you have been enjoying *coughs* and other *coughs* benefits... imagine must of us during the cold periods drink hot water and sleep, but you no, you had hot *coughs* ...
it's when you now see she is setting a strategy to ensure *coughs* ain't free no more, you came for help... Guy take time o.

I like you already

Ain't no one hitting my balls
Dude is funny AF. BlessedCouple

selfwife:
I once gave love a trial. we trusted each other explicitly. I could breathe love. I was working(i made sure I never made the mistake of asking for anything) he was working. he was a single father and I accepted him and is baby (the baby already called me big Mummy). we had goals, dreams, to me, everything was damn set. we were planning to get married,we got the parents involved, excitement was everywhere.... Suddenly, I started seeing him with small small stuffs like nice clothes and perfumes that I knew he didn't buy(we buy on budget) I became inquisitive. I will never check my man's phone.... so I took him out that weekend as usual, made sure he drank double of what he is used too( though he can still talk sense) I started asking questions and he replied (he was now going out with a rich ex who was ready to give him this and that -all material things) I told him that with a steady growth, we will achieve all her promises.......... the next week, he told me not to come to his place again that he will look for another means for us to meet each other by now, I was in tears, I cried my eyes out, what will I tell everybody? for what reason? money? I forgot about my health, bp start to go up.headache.me that have hormonal issues before hmm my body was in a mess. I increased the number of Guinness I took per day, I ate uncontrollably. I couldn't figure out what I did wrong. I called and called. I cried and cried and yes I ate and ate. I landed in the hospital my blood pressure was high something I never experienced before.................... to cut the long story short, I tooky life my the horn..... I had no savings again all spent at the hospital, I took a loan, and got a room apartment, I changed my church, and changed those contacts (our mutual fake friends) he is now with the woman and I am now with my peace of mind......... ........I Am happy to inform you that as of yesterday, he is looking for a divorce lawyer because everything did not turn out as expected.HE THINKS HE CAN COME BACK AND I LAUGH IN MY LANGUAGE because my peace can not be compromised.

Wow... I pray God heal you completely

Sagamite:
Men! Thank fcking God that I still STRICTLY live by this mantra.

I was hoping to read your experience in your first year of marriage
Give love a chance joor

KushyKush:
Give her books to read. Make sure she reads at least two books in a month.

You'll see changes.

Relationships are not just about sex and saying I love you. You should be able to bring positive changes to your partner.

I love this. I love you!

majamajic:
na wa o

reminds of what happened 2009..... 2face just ended his show and was about going in a limousine from the backstage. girls started rushing into his limo.

A guy came to the show with his gf, the gf was like thinking in her mind 'let me leave this guy and rush inside the limo' .

she finally did ...but as she was abt entering the limo the driver speed off.

she started laughing as she made her way back to the guy .....

the guy enter the next available taxi waka.

of all the 12 girls that entered the limo...none of them was allowed inside 2baba's room (2 early birds that flee in from Qatar were already on the ground). But the 12 limo girls didn't go back empty handed. ..they got 'osho free ' from his band boys and hypermen. #dubai2009

How did you manage to know all these?

AfonjaBoston:
Gurus in the house please how do I apply to the US embassy for their student visa?

Make nobody refer me to google or part 1-11 before I call Sango and amadioha

You're such a handful

[quote author=beejhay69 post=59032637][/quote]Hi. Couldn't reply your pm. will buzz you later in the evening

Fenix:
Hello everyone,

Sadly I didn't even get the chance to interview today. Last week Thursday, I made a mistake on my DS160 and requested to have a new one made. I called the embassy and was told what steps to take. On Friday I got the email an email from visa services stating that my DS160 had been updated. I also got another email with a new application confirmation.

So I printed out my new DS160 and the new application confirmation page from the emails. After standing in line for a while, I get to the people who check documents only to be told that the DS160 barcode number/ confirmation number did not match the one they had on file.

Those people did not even listen to me. I showed them that the number on the NEW application confirmation and NEW DS160 were the same. Apparently it hadn't yet been reflected on the website.

So I have to pay another 64k to schedule another appointment.

Long story short...When filling out your DS160, make sure you are VERY thorough and read EVERYTHING carefully.

Heeyah.....Sorry about that.

emmy994:
Visa approved this morning at lagos consulate 7:45 after been delayed last week Monday.
Left home around 5am got to the embassy, had to seat down under the tree to calm myself down. Joined the que around 6:30. I was praying in my mind that father I will not pay another visa fee again. I must leave here with my own white paper. I was praying for favor, I told God that I need a good vo and very short interview. My transcript goes this way.
Vo. Good morning
Me. Good morning sir.
Me. How was ur nite.
Vo. Fine
Vo. Why are you going to the US.
Me. Am going for my master degree in Statistics at utep.
Vo. What do u do
Me. I work with xyz. I explained what o do there.
Vo. What did u study
Me. Statistics.
Vo. Did u write GRE.
Me. Yes
Vo. I see u were denied at Abuja last week Monday. The guy saw all that transpired btw I n the vo at abj seems the guy dropped a comment. The vo was like u told the vo at abj u got admitted into so so n so sch and now u r telling me something different.
Me. I don't think the vo at Abuja hear me clearly, I told him I considered uic and University of Texas Austin but the tuition fee is about $9000 more that UTEP and my sponsor sais she can't afford that so my reason for turning to utep (I was just praying seriously in my mind)
Vo. Define standard deviation (I was like if na dis one Gud don catch u, I defined it he was Just nodding. Then I heard the magic word coming with my white paper.
All thanks to lagosismyhome, texrem and others that posted their transcripts. You guys are really wonderful.
My advice pls mind and what u tell the vo cos they type it into ur profile ooo. If not how did he know I told the vo at abj another sch.

Big congrats bro

demmyface:
Hey guys, I've been a silent reader here and i really want to say that this forum has helped me greatly, my visa was approved today(7:15am) at the Lagos state embassy, it was just pure favour and God's grace. i want to use this opportunity to thank walspring, Textrem for being so blunt to criticise my initial transcript that i made for myself and to Akinola akinkunle( can remember your handle here)you're really God sent.

My Transcript loading......................... I'm so excited.

Congrats dear

Ability247:
So today I got to Walter C. by past 6am for 8.00am your visa has been approved. You'll be picking it in... usually it doesn't take more than 3 working days but then... bla bla... bla bla bla... bla bla...

I smiled back at him, thanked him, told him God bless him and left. Went to the mopol holding my phone, gave him and one lady police there #500 and told them to keep the change and left. Saw Ngozi Ezeonu on a queue and felt like me sef don become star too. Switched on my phone and sent a text message of faith I composed to my family days ago, that I have gotten the visa.

Then, for the first time today, I realised I was very hungry.


I thank everyone who have been contributing to this thread - lagosismyhome, texrem, imperioux, admin justwise (else they for don derail this thread since) etc, and all who have shared their transcripts, both successful and delayed. You all rock. I shall frequent here to help others too.

Tips remain the same: maintain eye contact, appear confident and genuine but not arrogant, know your stuff, be audible and articulate.

Victory At last! Congrats bro

yemluck:
Visa approved today.

I have to confess, it is not the level of preparation or how good you are. It is just favour and the discretion of the VO

Congrats dear

Femmyy90:
Kindly go to ABIA poly why some people are like this you are looking for free things and you wil be expecting big money from it bah??... you still have to think very well maybe you should go for handwork that will not cost you at all

Chaiii

TheGreat342:
I got to the consulate around 5:45am. Naso I see people ooo. Fast forward to the visa interview.

VO:Good morning
Me:Good morning (I was like how I go use ma for this one, how many years you take senior me...Lol)
VO: What is this teaching assistantship for?
Me: It is a Research Assistant postion (VO Nodding like Lizard...Na joke oooo)
VO:When did your finish degree?
Me:2014
VO: Who is your sponsor?
Me: My sister
VO: Do you have anyone in the US?
Me:No
VO: How many brothers and sisters do you have
Me: one and he reside in Lagos
VO:Your visa has been approved. Naso I deaf, I just carry my documents dey go.

Wow. Cngrats Bro. I tap into this!

Ability247:
Transcript (VISA Delayed):

Location was Abj, 13th, 7.30am appointment. Hustlers doing their thing as usual, preying on everyone. Those arrangements and stapling and reprinting "the proper page", all na wash o.

There were only two people - a black american lady and a white male that seemed to be in his 40s. The black american lady was tough but would give one ample time to express oneself. The man actually seemed more benign... he approved some scouts I thought he would definitely turn back due to the vagueness of their replies in most cases. Well, I ended up with the man and the following ensued:

Wish you the best in your next interview. Go get it bro!

folmus:
I think it's too early. Get admitted first and you can keep reading transcript here. That should help a lot.

Okay. Thanks