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Kristo95: Nid answers plss....

Good question! Me too need answer oh! Please

candieangel12: Yes I kno I shudnt hav broke up wit him because he was very good 2 me. He did everythin I asked 4 n more. Thru out d course of our one year relationship, I broke up wit him about 4 times bcus of my annoyance wit him but he always begged me 2 come back. It has been 4 months now n he hasnt beggd 4 me 2 accept him again. He says we r still frends but he rarely calls me anymo but instead txts me once in a wile 2 see how I am faring. I wud like 2 b wit him again but im not sure ifhe still luvs me. How shud I approach him abt dis issue witout lookin desperate n wat if he no longer luvs me?

Im scared he mite hv moved on

Hehehehehehehe... I love una Em ... Women chei what a breed

2buff: Even if they don't, I think the most pathetic of their lot are the ones that give signals, but then all in the name of playing one yeye hard-to-get game that they read in some magazine, start doing dumb sh[i]i[/i]t like not returning calls and being generally unavailable when you ask them to come out.

I just laugh and walk away from such girls as it shows that they are still children in mind.
....and then they're left wondering what happened.

Thank you

You know it's so funny how people come on NL to seek for advices to lil issues in their lyf, that sometimes are irritating n boring, most people even go as far as narrating tales in dreamland for us to read here, but I trust una... NLanders., na rain of insults the unlucky ones get, and the lucky few gets better.

Just imagine somebody saying gurl best friend toast am, watin e go do?

PS
NL people no be mugu s and epkas oh... Let's be real abeg.

Mynd_44: I stopped reading when he locked you inside the house and beat you up. That is enough grounds for a breakup. Hell I don't even want to know if he is married or not. Whether he has a wife or not dump him and do it fast

Chikenaa! But I trust humans, na where we wan die put we dey like.

You said it urself," you don't love him ", so forget "the financially being there for me", and gurl ur young and u gat ur whole life ahead of you. MOVE on with Lightening SPEED.

eklassical: This is a question many guys have countlessly ask themselves and any1 that cares 2 listen 2them.. I v bin searching,(not thoroughly though) for that girl;that special 1 (at least sumfin abt her has 2b special)that would understand me.. The ones have been out with are just *nothing to write home about*.

So,nairalanders,i am asking0,whr can i find her? It seems the good ones are no more! I am serious abt this,is there no decent girl 2 date anymore?

You don date them pass, and you better go and look at the ones you left properly, your grove to much so you no dey know when you even dey with them.

And one more thing ,

You will MOST DEFINiTELY not FIND them here on NL

kenoxx: Hi fellow nairalanders! i am a young guy in his late twenties, a computer scientist and a radio and Tv presenter. am having some issues with ma relationship life now after i lived a very rough life in d begining. i have a good look and used that as a tool to deal with women bac then in the university. When i was in school,i met a lady that i fell in love seriously with still didnt stop womanizing. i dated this girl for 4 gud years, she knew my dirty runs and never left me. instead she overluk dem and even suport me by giving me some cash to pay some bills. Lo n Behold, after school, i came across anoda lady on one of the social network and before i cud say jack, we were both in hot love. d first lady knew about the new lady and for the first time, she fought with me and pulled out of the relationship.i am so much in love with this new lady that i neva bothered to beg the other lady. the major challenge am facing now is the issue of finances with the new lady. unlike the former one that doesnt realy bother about how much i spend on her, dis new one will make sure i spend all my cash on her on other tins..i dont want to tell her am not okay with this arrangment cuz i dont her 2 c me as a "STINGY" man so i always try 2 please her even somtimes to displease myself.
can i get candid thoughts on how to cope with this situation?

You just signed your very own death warrant, love is better enjoyed when u are at peace with your partner, with or without finances.

That's your first sign, RUN while u still can, and believe me, if I were you, I'd hold seriously on to the first gurl, bcox that's were you are safe.

But I trust Us, guys na were we wan die, we dey find,even if them don shoot the gun, the only thing we say is more shots,So ..... It's up to you, when she suck u dry, she will look for the next available n!pp(e.

And you will still be trying to please her, while she's at it.

albridge: Well not me, actually its a friend of mine. He dated this girl whom he was in love with and due to a little misunderstanding he broke up with her and started another relationship. now he believes that he can never love another woman the way he loved the girl he broke up with but she is now married to someone else and has a child for him. I told him the best thing for him to do was to forget her but he says that he loves her too much. What do you think about this guys situation.

Meet Nigerian singles here http://something4singles.com, make friends and connect!

Tell him that is if you are not the one oh!
Wife Snatcher!

And it's his loss,

K_c: I will be 30 years of age by November of this year. I have a good job with a multinational company and planing on settling down soon to my girlfriend of two and a half years who is currently serving with a New Generation Bank @ Ibadan. I called her as usual last night and asked if she was in bed already and was shocked by her response. That she was passing the night in another guys house who is also a corp member. Her reason was that there was no light at her place. Please, NL, I need your advise on this one before I go crazy as I intend walking down the aisle with this girl on completion of my Duplex which is 99% complete.

Find girl go sleep for her room! She might not really have anything to do with the young man, she's with but..... Dude, don't do that, don't stress ur brain thinking of what might have been! You will die, when ur ready and u know she's ur all in all, take d bold step and take her in, make babies as u want and live ur life.

Women can either make u or break you, but one thing I'm sure of is " if we let them" .

toluxa1: What do you say on this!!
*Love is blind
*Cursed
*Confusion
*Or add your words

Keeping the fuku in the family....

kellydrug: i dont think love is reall

Na story you dey find!

Ejaisky: Luckgames and kills, i asked for help nt insults. I wouldn't cheat on my husband.

Really? So what kind of help do you now want? Is it that you want them to give u an advice on how to divorce ur husband?

Ask ur lawyer!

Or how to go and tell ur ex you are thinking about him? I no understand females!

The heart knows what it wants, and when you deny it that which it wants then thats what you get.

You got married for something else, truth is bitter, if it worries you that much, then it's certain you will cheat, because my neighbor is doing the same thing now with her ex. And I'm having sleepless night because they are seriously dredging to the core of the earth.

But suites you right though! Enjoy

chrisflyin: Well said!! however, if there is fake there is certainly original. For example, there is no fake N300 note because there is no original N300 note but there could be fake N100, N200, N500 or N1,000. Original MLM dont promise millions in few days or weeks. Its a step by step process. So if you are the greedy type certainly you can be duped.
So many people worldwide are making money from MLM so i dont see why we Nigerians can benefit from this lifetime passive income legitimately. I am a living testimony to good and lasting income from this.
Mail me and I will show you the type i am doing and still smiling.
chrisflyinghigh@yahoo.com
08152626100

Don't mind them, let them be saying things out of those ignorant minds, people I am a proud distributor in a well known MLM company, and those against it, are either failures or ignoramus.

I earn 6 figures, a brand new ride, enroute my second brand new ride,and more.

So please, be open to learn !

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Stella_Bella: ASK HIM OUT.
IT IS EITHEIR
A YES OR NO.

If I like a guy,
damn
I am gonna tell u and ask u out
Remember it is
ONE LIFE TO LIVE.


Or just kiss him unexpectedly!

Thank you for the last line, give him a kiss unexpectedly, and ur work is done,

I don't know why human beings think they can always be in control of everything, we are more emotionally driven than rationally driven, we overact, we get angry, we cry, we hurt, we lust, we flirt, and all of these things are of emotions, and not cognitive reasons, can you choose not to get angry when u see everything to make u mad?

So why would you just be sure you want to stop liking somebody, when you don't even know how you started liking him in the first place, and believe me gurl, you might want to stop liking him., but there's no other way than telling him , and being rejected for good. That's the only way your emotions will understand and stay clear, otherwise you are killing yourself softly.

When a guy ask you out and you say NO! do you think you killed him?
So you won't die!

Now get yourself together and grow some gurl balls!

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Blah blah discombobulated blah. . .
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The feeling is mutual,dude!

That's what you get for going after somebody else's girlfriend, NOTHING!

Do the right thing now man, stay away! Afterall, if you love somebody, you let them GO!

No be me talk, I come meet am like that.

bigtt76: O boy wetin you de wait for? The other girl is she in University now? Date the lecturer pikin maybe she fit help you get admission sef and ensure you don't fail the daddy's or any of his co-lecturer friends. If you like sef you fit double date the two babes nothing spoil so far you play your game well.

And that's actually coming from a gurl, so be wise my friend.

Dude you came to this world with somebody or what? My friend, do what you have to do man, however it favors you! No body can tell you what you want to do, they would only tell you what they wanna do, and the funny thing is , they're not you.
So it's all up to you to make you and you alone happy!

manytanks: I met this guy from enugu last year september after then we became good friends. We always visited each other after which he started buying me gifts , been so nice and caring. Sooner than i realised i couldnt stop thinking about him i thought it was a joke but i fell in love with him. I tried to keep away but to no avail. The problem here is he is not saying anything and he knows am in love with him even his friends tell him. Am confused. Somtimes it makes me cry. What do you think?

mmm...una don start again...always in a rush to get things don your ways...thats my kninda Guy...the SMOOTH OPERATOR, Well you see young Lady, a man does these things bcox one way or the other he cares for you,in his own way, and now you can't just hold your feelings back till he is so sure of himself, like where would he wanna take you to, " see his mama or his bedroom", and you just can't go along with his pace,if you can't tell him how you feel,which i think will quicken his mindset either in your favour or against it in other cases ,then take your mind off your emotions, and see him as a friend who loves buying you gifts and then be patient with him, kai...una self?

marvelck: Ever since my girlfriend caught me with another girl in an hotel she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I've gone to her house severally and have also been calling her number but she has refused to pick my calls or see me. it happened that i took a girl to an hotel for some nice time, and as we were coming out of the hotel, I didn't quickly noticed my girlfriend coming towards us on a bike. it was only when she got closer to us and our eyes became four that i realised she had seen us. she was dumbfounded and shocked when she saw me and the girl coming out the hotel holding hands,smiling and gisting. she didn't stop nor come down from the bike, and i cudnt do anything but stared at her with shock as she rode away on the bike shaking her head and crying. while the other girl just stood there and was watching the whole drama. and ever since that evening, I've been begging my girlfriend to forgive me. I feel so bad for what I did. cos she is a gud girl and has never cheated on me ever since we started dating. What am I going to do. I dont want to lose her. It's very rare to find a good girl like her, these days.

Ok now you have made her hurt, knowing how good a girl she is, na people like una naim dey play d game wrong so when the ladies strike back , we'll then say they're bad Abi?

So what advice do you now want? You think you can get back to her or make her start talking to you immediately like that?

No man, it did happen and the sooner you realize that she's hurting and you are the last person she wants to see or hear from, the better for you, and us .

So don't expect nothing immediately bcox your not gonna get it from her, just send some messages in SMS or friends, no too much I'm sorry oh! Bcox that word will give a steady reminder of your f... Ups ,and that will piss her off the more , but of some of the reasons why you love her and why you cant be without her, as well as some of the sweet memories she most loves about your times together, ok?

If she really LOVES your dumb a**, she truly will come back to you if and only if she is as nice as you really say she is oh... Bcox I trust them Badt gurls. Na opportunity to continue the wan when dey sweet them...lol

Mynd_44: If you self-service enter soup enter alone. No drag me put

Hehehehehehe....lmfao....who ,me? Nada mehn... You drag yourself put. I make request, them answer, you respond... Ehern! I seconded....

peterg3: I met dis lady some months back,nd we got to be frnds!with time,we got really close,so I felt we should take d frndship to d next level!I told her I was interested in her,nd desire a relationship,she told me she liked me well enough,but needed sometime,so I said no probs!d strange thing is,she just started avoiding nd ignoring me after then!I kept trying to find out wat was wrong,but to no avail!so I kept my distance,even deleted her off my bbm!but a week later,I just couldn't bare it,so I went to see her,apologised nd asked dat we be frnds again,atleast!now,she calls me nd tells me she fears am too soft,no explanations or apologies for avoiding me!pls good people,I love her but right now,am not sure if she feels d same way!wat would u advice me to do?

Good reason why I don't believe in asking a girl out. Seriously y'all asking a girl out and sometimes telling her how you feel, when she doesn't feel d same way is bad for your health, and most cases for me asking a girl out is like seeking her permission to start tapping something.... And most times is bad idea...

You like a gurl, cool.

Buy wait for that important chemistry, understanding, missing each other situations,I wanna/ feel like seeing you situations, from both parties.And above all she or he must be comfortable and feeling safe whenever your together, then you don't ask out...

Make I contacts and go for the lips man... That's how it's done....

Cheers mate and you have made the right decision of going to ask her to forgive and forget the earlier situations. All you need to do now is make her fear not your presence and go on.

Mynd_44: hey watch it

Hehehehehe .... Chillax mate...

Mynd_44: How long?

@ cindyrella... Good question? How long woman?

gree-die:
i pray it doesnt happen but if it does, who knows, i jst might surprise myself

Reallyyyyyy? So why you come dey tranga since?

Chanchit: As a guy that has money, in situations like this, just say to yourself...."I buy, i don't sell..!" A thousand gurl will love to take over from where she stopped...

I dnt knw why human beings make situations difficult for themself, if a gurl say " i no gree " jst move to the other...

If u keep begging her, it simply means u r not sure of getting another one better than her... It jst amaze me, when some guys say " i chased her for close to 2yrs" i will feel like asking, if they are mad.

Guy seriously! Ask abeg please don't feel like, bcox it amazes me that 2 yrs crap!

Watin Dem dey tell the girl for 2 years?

biggyboy1970: Am male 35 working in Oil and Gas sector I met dis lady 2yrs ago n we ve been going out ever since she introduce me to her siblings as her friend we been attenting functions together wit both families. But thing change all of a sudden 3rd of august to be precise she said its over between us that she's not in love with me after leading me on for 2 years please what should I do? I love her so much

Hehehehehe ... Una don start again all this women!

Anyways bros... I am sure you love her so much, but watin you go do na? You love her, so would you say you hate yourself? No.

So frankly speaking, 2 years is really not that long for you not to have been able to get over her, trust me ladies sometimes wanna feel that " I can't do without her," ..." she is my life", reassurance from a man, she says it's over? No problem, let her know that you won't die, man up and give her the space, I bet she'll be surprised at your being ok and calm, it will definitely make her wonder certain things, and when she realizes that what she expects from you isn' t coming, " like you calling and begging her not to go"..., she'll some how try to reach you or call you.

But if you really are what you say you are, lol you should smile and look for your soul mate buddy.

Cheers

Vidalisa: I hate guyz, i don't tink dere is anytin a guy wil give 2 me dat i can't get 4 myself. Besides, i don't ave a bf becoz dey can't take care of me.

If I hear!

Well try giving yourself that tender loving and reassurance of a mans love and touch....

Try buy that one...please ladies , I use baba God take beg una... Let's be realistic hear y'all, why all this lies, we both know one way or the other we need the opposite sex ... Why lie. Or pretend to hate us?

In fact I wan go look Tom & Jerry Johr...

Deedee49: I dont think i want to date a Nigerian man, if ur ideas of a relationship, is what u guys talk about here. U dont know wat love is, and dats why u guys can't stay in peace in the country. Wen love is for sale, it's no longer love, but a transaction!

Yeah .... That's what you will say, but lemme tell you something Hon, ladies can be funny when they are so overwhelmed by the love of their man , total security in a relationship can bring up attitudes you never knew existed in you.
So please don't say that ok? We have our faults I agree but believe me, I've seen your kind in action, ok?

All that love talk at first, and d devil later...

cindyrella: I am single by choice my friend!

Just want to stay drama free...

Cool, no wonder... And they say we guyz gat Issues and Egos! Mm mmm!!!

Well honey, i'm single too and if your too fine I would love to have you ask me out for a start...