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WhiteOne:
Sales meeting in the USA, see with my own eyes.

Out of 500 sales reps, software engineers and support stuff only a hand full where black.
And i have see how fair france and british people can be to black people in the private sector.

Sometimes i feel like crying !!!

And please read the english press, what was this within the London Police Service.

Oya cry for them then! while your at it cry for the ones you will never know are high flyers in the UK and the USA,
abeg jare, im comparing germany to US and UK and your sitting their trying to say its almost the same thing, !

It definetly is NOT, 
By the by, do you want to say the same thing about me,  Im in a senior position in the pharma industry at the age of 25 and at least 30% of our company are of black indigine,  FACT.

Which part of i did not say racism does not exist in the UK didnt you quite get
Or am i speaking deutsch?

Well, let me tell you something about the police force lets compare and contrast,

Would a Policeman stop a black man driving a flash car and beat a Black man black and blue for absolutely no reason and get away with it SCOT FREE by fabricating a story within the station even when evidence points in the other direction?

Happened to my uncle,

Would the immigration at the airport who know a black man in particular to travel frequently with his kids to London, deliberatly humiliate and violate both the black man and his kids by stripping them completely unclothed including the poor babies and let them go wth no explanation?

Happened to my uncle and kids!

Would the police stand by while a fellow black man is beating the crap out of another black man to the point that TODAY the beaten black man was left for dead and in a COMA with some permanent brain damage?

This happened to my uncle,

If you were a 1st time visitor to the UK would you end up in the paper the next day because a new black person was in town?

That happened to me 10 years ago when i first went to germany, my first and last time i enter that place.

UK and Germany are totally DIFFERENT worlds!

Andre Uweh:
Are you his mouthpiece?.

ROTFLMAO!!!! I love NL!!!

@ poster

Please accept my sympathies, i think its a little personal and maybe should be discussed with your wife.
But personally i wouldnt name her after the late daughter,

Good luck!!

Selena586:
Which problem?
I am their mother.
I am a german.
Their are living here in germany and this for the next 18 years and may be longer.
So their main culture is here, because they have to live in this country.

when i would be in nigeria it would be the other way round.

culture is nothing, you can adapt to any culture when you are interested in it. What is important is to know his family.
And for an old woman who has lost so many children is important to see her son and his children.

Ok,
I wont bother trying to explain anything to you, you simply will NEVER understand,
Go and tell your boyfriend/husband, his culture is nothing,
You will open a whole new can of worms

Selena586:
makajibbz:

They prodice them because of the paper.
In germany african people can only stay permanent when they marry or born german children.
this is the sad thing here.

Lady dee:

Their[b] heritage and culture is also here in germany.
For me it would be more important[/b], that they just know their grandparents.

My dear, here lies YOUR problem, the bolded in your statement,

makajibbz:
If they dont want half-cast kids, why did they produce them? seriously!

Bros i wonder ooooooo

Selena586:
The time i know him i was 18 years old.

I just fall in love with him and thought that live is easy, but it isn`t.

They will know their fathers land when our financial situation is better (may be in 10 years   )

In my and my boyfriends oppinion, germany is the best country for our children to grow up.
My boyfriend is always laughing when people tell him about the racismn in germany.
May be our city is very special and the people are more intelligent then somewhere else.  

Is 10 years time not long,
How will they learn their heritage and culture in 10 years time, ?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,

furthermore, did you not hear USA have a black President??
Is that High flyer enough for you,

In the UK they have Black MP's in government left right and centre, alot nigerians might i add

The higest level in the Legal Profession is a Black woman QC Judge,

I neednt start a list,

WhiteOne:
Germany do not make progress if it comes to mixed rase children?

And they the USA, UK and Nigeria are much better?

Realy?

I might have over looked something last time i went to a business meeting in the USA and I might have over looked something at work today.

Where where all the black managers and high flyers?

LMAO!!! Are you for real!?

Ive always known germans to be MR To Knows,
They think they know everything, are you that blind?
I dont blame you, you live in germany so you will never see it, 
The mixed race children in the UK are dealt with by Black families, PERIOD!
They class mixed race kids as black children and want them in a black families homes.
I didnt say their is NO Racism in the USA or UK, that would be a warped statement

But, thy are more accomadating, trust, i talk from family experience!!
Germany is NOT accomodating to black people, FACT!!!
They will NOT help a black person in trouble,,,, FACT!
They think most black people are illegal immigrants hence why they stop most black people on the street and ask for ID,  FACT!

WhiteOne:
[size=8pt][size=8pt]The well fair state can take care of mixed rase kids.[/size][/size]
The kids in Europa born to a white woman are lost anywhy.
He just married her for passport and her kids do not count.

Are the nicer things, some people say.

And would be Nigerian woman would have been as if all her children belong to the same father?

Disaster!! and your ok with this!!!

and NO mixed race kids will NOT be lost if EFFORT is made!! But i can see wih all indication that is not likely,

And I dont know what kind of man she married but some Nigerian men (i talk on behalf of igbos) fight for their kids, will go as far as taking them,

So if she likes she can start afresh, 

Selena586:
I didn`t say that black/black or white/white couples dont have any problems.
But for them its easier.

When you want to have a permanent relationship and not just your fun for some nights, its very difficult to be together with a person from another country, exspecially when the countrys are so different, like Germany and Nigeria.

Its starts with the point of where you want to live in future. My boyfriend wants to go back when he is older. I want to live in my country. His parenst need somebody when they are getting older and my too, so where you want to stay?

One will always lose.

Selena did you not think of this before?
Or did you think he would want to grown old and drop dead in a white mans land?
Furthermore, what about the kids?
Will they never know their fathers land?

My aunt was honest and said its a cool thing in germany for young ladies to date a black guy, all the ladies seem to go crazy over them,  but this is always the end story as you have just posted


Well, my dear, this is what RELATIONSHIPS are all abt, give and take!!
Both parties have to make sacrifices  in order for them to forge ahead together as one,

Even though my aunt (My uncles ex wife) separated from my uncle, we are in very good terms with her and the children adore there nigerian roots and family.
The children come during their holidays at their own accord because they feel their German family are not real family to them,
German as much as it is moving forward in terms of racism etc,  it is stil faaaaaaaar behind compared to UK, USA etc, 
Your kids will feel it like it or not because my cousins got their fair share of insult/teasing  and crap in school and by the german society

My point is make a decision that will benefit you, your children and relationship now and for the future ahead, dont listen to enemies of progress who are probably jealous and want what you have,

tpiah:
 

really?

true story oo,
My uncle is in germany and was married to a German lady nd has 2 kids with him also, notice i said was, na past tense oooo,

And yes they do some crazy things in germany whereby the husband will have the liver to carry his 'so called sister' into their house in Germany,
Until wind blows and expose the fowls nyash, person go open eye and wonder since when do brother and sister get jiggy?

[quote author=~Bluetooth link=topic=479873.msg6395985#msg6395985 date=1279284675]have you ever seen any yoruba participating in Militancy in the niger delta region ? My folks do commit crime but we know those tribes that invented militancy and kidnapping to nigeria.[/quote]@ bluetooth

The matter of whether yorubas as a whole kidnap or not is irrelevant, ive noticed overall in any thread you are in your lack of intellect, reasoning and simple sense continues to depreciate

Pele, its sad to be you! But i disgress, in your own little world, why wouldnt yorubas be kidnapping when the root cause of this whole kidnapping thing still boils down to the main Thieving, hungry bastards!

Presidents and Politicians!!

I needn't remind you of our past Presidents who BTW are what? Thats right, Yorubas or hausas!

If there was adequete levels of jobs on the market for students do you think this kidnapping issue would even be such a big issue?
Corruption who advocated it?

is it not leaders?

These kidnappers are protesting in their own ways, its barbaric to say the least but i think for them its the only way people will HEAR and take action.!

This is why crime in nigeria is ridiculously too HIGH!

jasine:
Easy and Simple

Nigerian American

No American Nigerian, this is simple common sense.

E.g. I was born a bred in UK,
Been going back home since the age of 5 and from the age of 15 started going back home on my own without my Dads supervision.
Understand and able to speak my language to a certain degree

When people ask where I am from I say I am Nigerian.
However, I am British Nigerian, simple.

whiteroses:
^ original has a red line when it's opened its their trademark any fakes that lines it red will get in trouble.
at poster yes it tones, i was a fair person i have gone dark through the years, cause of sun and stuff but i started dudu osun and i went back to my original colour which i was in high school but its almost a year now after i went back to my normal color, it stays the same i thought its gonna continue toning but it dinnt so its sort of confusing

Hun, i dont think its toning you, i think it exfoliated all the dead cells away, hence, bringing up all the renewed natural skin colour.
When you stay in the sun too much without proper skin protection (suncream) you will get a tan/burn,
To get rid of your suntan just exfoliate lots and protect your skin, before you know it you have gone back to your normal skin tone,
That why i said dudu osun doen't tone otherwise, like you said it would have lightened you more than your original colour,

The best and recommended to prevent tanning and protect your skin is Neutrogena ultra sheer dry touch spf50 or La rochay anthelios SPF 50,
Both have either Helioplex or Mexoyl XL which are important agents to prevent and stop UVA/UVB rays - UVB rays are causing the burning/tanning.

I use la rochay and its the best,

I use sunscreen EVERYDAY without fail before i step out of my house into the heat,

The best Sunscreens to use to help prevent sun Tanning is Neutrogena ultra sheer dry touch SPF 50 and upwards I use the SPF100.

Or another excellent one is La Rochay Anthelios Posay SPF50 which has Mexoryl XL which prevents and stops UVA/UVB rays.

Either of the 2 are most recommended to prevent tanning

DuDu Osun is

I love IT!! Its amazing for the skin, a very good exfoliator, removes dead skin cells so your skin glows!!
Im kinda fair in general but this soap does not tone it just thoroughly cleanses,

The west are scouring sites for the original Black soap (dudu osun is the nigerian version and there is a ghanian version which is for sensitive skin).
There are so many fakes out on the market,

Go to your doctor immediatly, prevention is better than cure!!
It could be anything, It sounds like an STD,

erniewhez:
Anything that has to do with health issues should be freely shared so others can contribute and benefit. Why cant you give it out here for people to read and discuss?

I'll tell you why he ant share it, its because it is absolute garbage!

Cure Diabetes? You can definetly manage it without the use of drugs by changes in lifestyle and diet.
Im sick of the garbage people sell naive, vulnerable and ill informed people,

Hmm, didnt know this thread was still alive!

jennykadry:
Its an excuse sweetheart, tell me how many times on this forum, you"ve asked for a 2 sided story?
She deserves evry insult i can come up with, why are u lot making up excuses for her? are you yourself trying to tell me that if such a situation comes up in your home, you are going to cheat on your husband? seriously call a spade a spade. She is not a child, she wasnt born yesterday, if she knew she couldnt keep up with the temptation why didnt she quit and relocate immediately? what was her husband supposed to do? go to the court to bring her back home? you can only force the horse to d stream. . . . . .

And yes you have defended her actions, do you wanna go back to your post and see where you were accusing him of not putting his manly plate down, thus the reason for her cheating? arent you trying to justify her actions? We have the wives of army officials, soldiers name it that still stay faithful even though they spend less than 2 months evry year with their partners.

If it were your brother"s wife will you be saying the same thing? NO way, and dont even bother saying you will, cos i 100% dont believe you

This is why I stress for people to read well before yabbing, I DID NOT defend the wife's action, please quote me if i did actually say its not her fault,
I simply stated that in this situation YES his wife is at fault arrangements should have been made and executed immediatly to squash the distance between them (the moving to Lagos or vice versa).
Is that where Im supposed to have defended the lady?

Wouldnt it be something if insults were REIGNED upon you and you were unable to defend it or voice your side of the story?
If it were my brother who were in this situation, I STILL would not advise Divorce, SIMPLE!

The devil you know is better than the devil you dont know,

Its OP's choice!

chillbabe:
@poster my dear dnt listen 2 people that tells u to walk out if it happens to them they will seek advice and try to work on the mariage. I know it hurts but every marriage has their challenges work it out go for counseling women go thru this on a daily base been there. Our parents that we proudly celebrate there 50 year anniversery with it nt easy dear they went through things like this. Just make sure if u want to safe ure mariage u need proper counseling.

^^^THANK YOU WELL SAID!!!

My mum calls me Daddy!
Weird seeing as im a Female!
But its because im known to behave, act and think just like my Dad,
so when his not around she consults me first on anything she wants to do,

nnemdi21:
I'M IN A VERY HORRIFYING SITUATION.
I'M AN IGBO GIRL {ABIA} BUT FOR SOME REASONS I'M ATTRACTED TO YORUBA MEN.
INFACT I COULD GO FOR ANY TRIBE EXCEPT IGBO.
DONT GET ME WRONG, I DO LOVE MY IGBO BROTHERS, BUT I JUST DONT SEE ANYTHING ATTRACTING ME TO THEM.
THE MOMENT A GUY TELLS ME HE IS IGBO, I LOSE INTEREST.
I DO HAVE THIS STEREOTYPICAL REPRESENTATION OF IGBO MEN IN MY HEAD AND IT JUST PUTS ME OFF,

MY FATHER HATES THE "TRIBE YORUBA", HE HAS TOLD ME ON DIFFERENT OCCASIONS NEVER TO BRING HOME A YORUBA MAN.
MY FATHER IS A GOOD MAN, AND HE HAS HIS REASONS; HIS TWO SISTERS WERE MARRIED TO YORUBA MEN AND THEY WERE NOT TREATED RIGHT.
MY COUSIN GOT MARRIED TO SOME YORUBA MAN FROM CANADA 4 YEARS AGO,
AFTER THE WEDDING, HE STAYED WITH HER IN NIGERIA FOR A MONTH, AFTER WHICH HE LEFT FOR CANADA. WELL BOTTOM LINE IS HE NEVER RETURNED TO HIS WIFE, AND UNFORTUNATELY FOR HER, SHE WAS PREGNANT AND NOW HAS A SET OF TWIN {BOYS} BUT NO FATHER.

WHEN my Dad FOUND OUT THAT MY LAST BF OF FOUR YEARS WAS YORUBA, HE TALKED AND TALKED AND TALKED
FRUSTRATION DROVE ME TO BREAKING UP WITH HIM.

AFTER TWO YEARS OF SEARCHING FOR THE PERFECT IGBO GUY, I MET AN AWESOME YORUBA GUY "again" lol
HE IS THE SWEETEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME
HE MAKES ME HAPPY IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE AND "YES" I DO LOVE HIM
RECENTLY HE HAS BEEN TALKING ABOUT RINGS, ASKING ME WHAT TYPE OF RING I like, TAKING ME TO JEWLERY STORES TO LOOK AROUND, I SUSPECT A PROPOSAL


BUT I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE THE LOVE OF MY FAMILY
AND AT THE SAME TIME I DO LOVE THIS GUY,,,
I CANT SIT AROUND WAITING FOR THE PERFECT IGBO GUY

i need some advise

ps:and please i do love every tribe,
and so does my dad,
but i am just not attracted to igbo men

Hmmmm, as an igbo girl also from Abia state recently married to an igbo man,
I reserve my comments,

Ja4naija:
Pls doctor in the house can u help me wit a strong medication to add weight pls i really need it my frnds mock me nw and then i need a really strong and active medicine that will show result in a week or so thanks.

Sorry to hijack your thread Dr Balogun, but i saw this and had to answer,

@Ja4naija, Are you a male or female?

There is no drugs that will give you such results in such a tight timeframe unfortunatly, however, have you reviewed your eating habits?
How active are you?

The resolution to Weight management with respect to both Gaining or Loosing is the same concept,
If you increase your calorie intake and decrease your activity/exercise you will GAIN weight.

Its important to have a healthy but varied diet.

Have you considered you may be of the correct and most importantly 'healthy' weight for your height and age?

[quote author=LOVE.4BUG link=topic=472033.msg6318445#msg6318445 date=1278056476]potatoe, yam, bread are the things he likes eating and then there will be no blood in his stool. each time he eats things like Golden morn, Beans, Tea. he will always complain of stomach pains in the process of eating.

pls what are the fibers plsssssssssssssss [/quote]OP it may be an idea to stop giving him certain foods such as the golden morn and beans, monitor his eating habits and bowel movements to see if it stops, then gradually you can reintroduce certain foods but moderatly.
Beans is high in protein which is causing the stomach pains and constipation,

aieromon:
@whiteroses
I see no reason why the kid should be given regular dosage of mild antibiotics when a test wasn't carried out to identify any underlying infection.Afterall,the bloody stool seems to be diet-related.
This is poor child care management since it has been occurring for more than two years now.

I completely agree with you, this is poor child care management and misuse ofr antibiotics,
Even if he has an infection, the antibiotics will be useless now since the virus/bacteria is already multiplied into a more resistant strain,

@ OP try and encourage him to eat more fruit and vegetables e.g. orange, banana, carrots and for more fibrous foods give hime weetabix (whole grain wheats cereal)

this should keep him regular and help his bowel movements, his stools will be much easier to pass and much softer

Retin a is used to reduce stretch marks, it is a form of vitamin a (acidic) and increases skin cells shedding, therefore, removing layers of dead skin.
Stretch marks are caused by loss of collagen in the skin caused by skin expanding and decreasing at a fast rate in a short period of time usually,

Retin A increases the collagen in skin, hence, reducing stretch marks and eliminating it in the long run and if used properly.

I use it and it works very well, the stretch marks I had are completely gone,
So i can vouch for it, it is also used for fine lines and wrinkles to smooth them out,

If he has developed piles as you stated i advise you vary his diet.
The piles have formed in the first place from a high protein/carb diet and very low fibre intake causing constipation.

Try and reduce his carbohydrate and protein intake e.g. potatoe, yam, bread etc and increase his fibre intake.
This will help his bowl movements and his stools will be much softer which will help in reducing the blood in his stools.

Blood in his stools are usually due to him straining causing the blood vessels in the haemmorroids to rupture and bleed.

If the bleeding persists please take him to a doctor who can offer alternative treatment e.g. suppositoriies or oral medication,

mutter:
I hope this isn`t a case of the man pimping his wife. I have heard that it sometimes happens in Europe.

Its very possible, since it was in cyprus whpo knows

jennykadry:
A slut will always be a slut, and enuff of all them one sided story, if so pls go and bring the partners of all the thread starters on this forum to talk their own side of the story, thats just an excuse, when it comes to a woman being the guilty one, some of us jump to her defence and thats when we ask for 2 sided story, na today?

Prevention even when the other person sint ready to get off it is as much worst even more terrible than cure.

LMAO! Not an excuse, just a FAIR observation, like I said if the story is true, you throwing INSULTS with regard to someone wife is not on.
Furthermore, I HATE assumptions and people who talk carelessly, I have not defended his wifes actions at all,

jennykadry:
Settle off in abuja i said , meaning get herself a transfer.

Distance especially for a short while shouldnt be a barrier, not when the other person is constantly visiting or keeping intouch. Him not bringing her or puting his manly plate like you said isnt even an excue, have you forgotten that this people have dated even b4 getting married and she's been in abuja half of the time before marriage? There is nothing like preventing un necessary evil, she was loose, she is a love-peddler and as far as i am concerned distance isnt the cause of it, for all we care this relationship might have been going on even before they got married

She def cant eat her cake and have it, what else did she want? how else did she want it that she couldnt teach her husband, how did she feel opening her legs for another man?

Goodness this man has no blame, if they have been married for 2 yrs or even a year, ehen then i will ask him why he allowed her stay so far away, but this is just a few months married life

Like i said before, we heard one side of the story but not the other so cant even start with the name calling toward to OP's Wife.
Im sure if we knew the other side, opinions may change,
In every situation you got to look at both sides, I still dont agree he has absolutly no blame at all,

There is nothing like preventing un necessary evil,

oh really,
prevention is NOT better than cure then, ?

jennykadry:
Lady dee are you for real? seriously?

What do you mean he would have put his foot on the ground, we have alot of married couples living afar from each other and still stay faithful to eachother, how does his not bringing or forcing her to come over justify her cheating habits?
I am not an advocate for divorce but if it happens in this case, the dude is 100% on the track, why even stay married to this person when you know this image isnt going to leave your mind? why stay married when the trust is gone? Infact it takes God to make this man enjoy intimacy with this woman again, cos the first thing that creeps up his mind is "I wonder how this man gave it to her"

Is having a husband who is very understanding a crime? this man obviously gave his wife time to settle herself off in abuja before coming to lagos, they have been married only for a couple of months, what is his fault here?


I can't see it, show me

@those saying forgive and talk to her , its easier said than done, this is infidelity for heavens sake, this is adultery, opening your legs to another man whilst married and also treating your husband like sh.it, seriously we are all human beings, i wouldnt even look at my husband without giving him a knock over with my 6inches heel not to talk of sitting down and talking about it, goodness I am feeling very irritated right now

You dont understand why i said that?
They were a NEWLY WEDDED COUPLE a time you cant get enough of each other!! if she was pussy footing around the idea of moving to him or vice versa, he as her HUSBAND should have taken the MANLY PLATE and taken immediate action,

he was being understanding by doing what? waiting for her to settle in Abuja? Why the hell should she be settling in abuja if her husband is in LAGOS,
Im not trying to imply if your separated its ok to cheat, NOT AT ALL!
Im saying to prevent unnecessary evils and avoid possible trouble ahead he should have put his foot down!
From experience and wise words from my Popsy living apart is NEVER a good idea especially with newly weds, thats straight walking into danger zone!!

mutter:
Lady Dee
My father was a typical ibo man too. I remember him bathing me as a little kid and helping in the house. He used to and still cooks occassionally because he loves it and he is over 70. He even washed the dishes sometimes. He was the one who taught me how to cook and do everything as a woman. But no matter how much he did, my mother always knew that it was her duty.
My husband helps me sometimes with the housework or cooks. I always thank him for evrything he does. He asks me sometimes why and I tell him because it is my duty and he is helpiing me. I love him so much for it because I know he only does it to relieve me. He does it happily because he knows I appreciate it and don`t take it for granted. However there are certain things I would never let him do.
Very often I really spoil him, tidy up real good the house, cook him something special and serve him his food in the real traditional way, help him take off his cloths and prepare for his bath. He loves that too and always asks me what is the special - I tell him I am prepariiing him for night duty
The more she submits to her husband and tries to please him the more the man loves her and has the urge to protect her and make her happy.

You know what, ?
I understand you perfectly but i think theres just a couple of things we may disagree on, so lets just agree to disagree, 
Your quite right with respect to submission and knowing how to please her husband and overall simple respect!
Overall, yes the OP's wife was straight wrong in her actions and it some how is more frowned upon when a woman does it,
since men are more likely and expected to stray and misbehave,

However, I will not dismiss her completely because of the mistake she made, 
Their may be underlying issues none of us know off, which could completely sway opinions on the issue,