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But to my suprise this verse contradicted their teachings
Mat 6:6: But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret, and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.[/a]

Even the so called praying in tounges is a contradiction to this verse
[b]Mat 6:7: But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen [do]: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.

Today you'll see so many christians shouting:
ba ba ba ba.. Bo bo bo bo... Ray ray ray ray x100

And the last verse to prove my point;
Mat 6:8: Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.[/quote]This is right but at the same time depends on how grieved a person is that is praying and wants to call out to GOD. But it should be done in your prayer closet. Praying in your prayer closet and praying aloud is also good to be honest in chasing demons away and evil spirits. When you have been in a spiritual battle you will know this. Regardless when you plead the blood of JESUS in your mind this is still extremely effective. GOD Is mighty unstoppable he sees each tear, knows every thought. He is an awesome GOD he reigns

eagle,eye:
No be quarrel nah...

No be quarrel ohh but I vex how u come dey ask this kian question nah. Abeg in this case I think her background situation is irrelevant if u talk say she dey cheat or she abuse your mama and papa e.t.c. Abeg the girl be like say him be correct babe so move forward simples!

eagle,eye:
Why I thought so, is because when I told her that I will be some background check on her & the family she came from (as it is the norm) she became visibly agitated. I then asked her to tell me if there is any secret she thinks I may dig up if I go probing or if I later married her. She then gave me the story about her dad dying and her mum & her mum's family not wanting anything anything to do with the man's family. She bears her mum's family name.
After that I insisted on going further with the search, she said no problem but if I hear things that may change my mind it is not her fault.
Now everyone has a past, but I hope to find out from my partner rather than other people. Other than this, she is okay, character wise (I understand beauty doesn't count). She is pretty in her own right.

OP you have issues sit down and read what you wrote over and over again.so if her background is what you state she was an unwanted pregnancy that makes her unsuitable?? WOuld a girl with married parents who is spoilt and sle*ps around be a better candidate for you? This is not even a question, the stay banning my comments and allow threads like this survive. Smh so many people think marriage is a wlk in the park.

@kenyattaMoore:
People always call me my face ugly and this has made me contemplate suicide several times. .even now but everybody says that I have a beautiful no. 8 figure and some women envy it.I‘ve been dating this guy for nearly 10 years now we are in our late twenties planning to get married in less than 2 yrs but the thing is I have zero confidence left in me and I am afraid that he will a girl who has a cuter face to marry. He also never compliments me about my looks ...this situation is killing me ,I don't go out anymore ,I just stay indoors for fear of people

Dear miss low selfesteem,
Nobody is perfect we all have flaws, you have found a guy that wants to marry you, not because of your facial beauty, he must see all the beautiful things about you and loves you for them, do not fret but give thanks to GOD. The so called beautiful girls you compare yourself to don't have a man as mature as yours who understands loving someone is not just about being facial acceptable by the world. Thank GOD you have a face somepeople don't. Give thanks to GOD.

drpompay: The problem he is having now is that his wife is not admitting doing anything wrong, she claims she is innocent and only did d chatting to catch fun, only for him to discover that she travelled once to her parents place and went to see a guy she had never met b4. Now she claims, that was d only guy of d lots she met actually and that nothing happened and she was not trying out other options. The problem is, he trusted her with his life, and now he thinks he can never trust her again

Hmmmn well I guess she won't own up to what cannot be proven. But deep inside am sure she is sorry, but at the same time its best she owns up to everything if he is mature enough to handle it and forgive her. But she does not want to lose him that's why she won't own up to it.of course he cannot trust her she has to earn that back.

drpompay: Well, for d HIV story, i went with him for d confirmation test and was there when he called her. Also, b4 now he used to boast to us that he had d most faithful and trust worthy girl in d world, though he had his own short coming. All through the period of saga he never slept with any. Even told his wife then that he cannot afford to transmit it to her. Well thanks for d advice. Will invite him to nl to read dis comments and decide himself

IMO I feel that this guy, will resent her he probably already does. Because the wife he wanted was a virgin, this is the problem.he believed he took her virginity and she was perfect in his eyes.and had no other man in her life. If he knows he. Can carry on without her irritating and annoying him then they should seek help. Am sure she already irritates him now and he resents her.he either forgives her forgets it and never bring it up again or let her go so she can start afresh quickly. Am sure she is remorseful at this point in time though.

I don't even know how to advice. People should be careful. Many marry for the wrong reasons. From this post sounds like she was desperate to marry any guy with good income and her clock was ticking.virtue is not just about being a virgin, so if he thought that was his criteria for picking his wife, well.......virtue is foundation of principle and good moral being. Sounds like she just wanted a ring am not so sure this woman will be somebody that has intergrity. If u say u will stand by somebody then do so, why keep your options open. Its better to say I can't stand by you than to say I will but you are making other plans. Look if times get hard what is ur assurance that she will be by ur side 100percent. Then again I think that this HIV story about pricking needle is dodgy. The guy was not faithful to her. To each their own. You should both really go for therapy. I don't see trust in this relationship and that is a big problem if you don't want to get divorced soon.cos both of you won't be happy in this marriage. My #epistle kai

Lexusgs430: Ain't you aware most women normally have driving shoes in their cars?

Well not all women because I don't ave one, although I can drive with some of my flat shoes and not some, even some slippers I can't drive with so I just take off one foot. Some shoes are slippers are uncomfortable to drive with. They slip off your feet or u can barley feel the pedal, safety first. All this guy man!!

stev007: I didn't give her anyfin dis christmas boh she sen me dis gorgeous pair of prada palms/pecker #dont rily know whotcha call it in ya hood# plus dis designer perfume. Mi finking of sending ha nice flowers as new year gift with sumfin like 200naira worth of recharge card for ha calls Isinit gud?

Loooool gosh rolling on my bed in laughter

larrymoore: Pleas n please l am nt interested in ur past relationship, l only need ur true self because l ve my ugly and unmentionable past which l may nt be earnestly n honestly detailed. We all had our mistakes while growing up n the most regretable mistakes come from dating or nay relationship.

Co-sign

amdrowning: I don't know if this thread had been created before but I feel we could all have fun.Even those that didn't give anything can still comment.
As for me,I gave my girl a new phone(I do this every year though) and a New tablet(new addition) and this is what I got" woah Boo..all these for me!!God bless you and a long kiss on my lips"
Shuo!!! This girl don brag that she was saving up to get me something nice for xmas as this was our 2nd year together and she wanted to surprise me.

Lmao so you are dissapointed....me I don't celebrate christmas.so nothing.

larrymoore: l understood ur point quite well, bt u ladies pretend mostly and end up discouraging some good seekers. Surely, some Ladies are pretentious while some guys are dubious.

Yup yup I agree

larrymoore: All these games are annoying.....would be great If there was more realness going on. what do u mean here, lady T?

Well am just saying that if you like someone, don't pretend act like u don't. If u ave ever heard the saying first you play the game with ur head then your heart. I guess I just find it long. Why people pretend not to be interested when they are not and make the whole process long.why can't guys and girls just be real if u like each other go ahead.

Mynd_44: Just cos you have seperate rooms does not mean you sleep seperately babe. That is my point

My bad! Noted!

Because sometimes we are genuinely not interested. And if we give a guy a chance to get to know him and we find out there is something that really attracts us to him I.e his personality, character He treats us right E.t.c. Then there is potential of the heart being involved. I really don't think its rocket science, not all girls play hard to get is what am saying. All these games are annoying.....would be great If there was more realness going on.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]I was not in any form of disagreement with what you said earlier. . .
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Okay noted!!

Mynd_44: Where did you see anyone say "sleep in seperate rooms"? We meant you own room where you can hang out and chill

Well when you said couples are advised to have seperate bedrooms, that automatically means to me she has her room he has his own room, hence they sleep in seperate bedrooms my bad! I mean what else does that mean.

afam4eva: You guys are making it seem like marriage is a job. It's either you're married or you're not. Are you insinuating that people don't breathe in marriages?

That's not what we are saying, some people work differently we just like having time to ourselves, we need that time alone or we might feel suffocated and we work better when we are alone, we focus more with everything life has to offer.I quite agree with mynd 44 aswell. About it being a job cos u have to work at it to make it work when u are past ur honeymoon phase.in that sense its a job.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]In that case, space would refer to mobile devices, "me-time" and of course, when she is in the toilet.
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Not my own me time. If there s a spare room in the house you can always go there are rejuvinate, re-energise. But not sleeping in the same room IMHO is not a good thing and can cause distance between couples. You can always go stay with a family reason you are going to spend time with them. Am just saying if you are in the same house and you dnt stay in the same bedroom that's not good. Except you started ur marriage as you will have seperate rooms and you both felt that way from day 1.

Mynd_44: True. When you are too in one another, you will run out of things to talk about or suddenly you start getting the feeling that you are losing yourself and becoming more of the other person.

That is also why married couples are sometimes advised to have separate rooms they can retreat to to get some "me time"

I don't really know about seperate bedrooms though that is a bit much. I think there is enough space in the house or should be to get some me time. I feel couples if married should make sure they sleep in the same bedroom.

Hahaha I like this topic, cos me I always need my space.

2jideofor: Exhibit 1
Shut up... an ur type wan fvck my friend because she is a staff at one of the top banks Naija and she had the privilege of seeing his bank account.

Exhibit2
FOOL! read my initial comment... ode! where I mentioned Amadioha is not directed you but the the bank staff who tried to seduce my friend.

Exhibit3
telling me that I am poor. Your fada. Have I asked you for money and begged you for food?

Exhibit 4
You wil wroth in hell. e-diot. if you make me angry, they will lock this thread because of you

This was written by this specie. I am clearly spelling this out 4 d ppl on dis thread. I can't argue with ppl whose intelligence level is below par.i have more success talking to my dog

Due to IT's intelligence level amadioha is the only curse word in IT's sentences. IT can't have an intelligent conversation/ argument without cursing. Notice how i never said IT is poor i said i guess IT is poor, due to IT's evil intent and ITsaying IT cant wait to bleep girls around the place.also notice how it digresses and tells a tale about IT's friend smh.
I ave had 3 hours sleep and I can still read all the garbage it wrote.i wonder who the fool is like I said before I reverse every curse sent back to the sender and I seal it with the blood of JESUS

mee42: @ LadyTC
i think u should have your breakfast and go through my post again, she is an undergraduate, and i check on her almost daily, we hang out often together before this incident took place, and i take her friends out alongside too. so she is not a love peddler. and i dont want to date her cos of sex, i like her as an individual, i was still ready t be friends with her after the incident, until she deleted me on bbm, i just cant pass the nite with a lady in the hotel with some restriction, i may end up not sleeping with her after all, but i want FREEDOM OF ROMANCE IN THE ROOM.

Honestly I schemed through your post and its still what h have rewritten she is a friend. And u also know she is not a wh**re. Well it's good you put her in a cab home becos you know your strength. And no I can't lodge in a hotel with a guy in the same room. And that maybe becos I am lucky I will just get my own room if am in a place where I have no house to go to. And yes I can stay at my bf's residence does not mean we have sex or have to have sex. Bt that's me this has nothing to do with me. I feel she thinks u just want her for sex and if all she wanted Was to use u then she deleted u cos she has no use for u.

luvmijeje: Op I pray say u no use girlfriend do wife and use wife do girlfriend.
So u ve 2 kids,dat means u re irresponsible enough nt to use protectn and 2 ve kids with some1 u really do nt luv.I pray say u no catch dieases way no get medcine o.SO U RE WRONG

Thank you my sister I can't even believe the effrontery he is actually defending his actions. Smh btw 2jideofor since u know me and am a type. I guess I know I have a business with a job ontop of tht and my account is fat right?? Smh I wonder why am responding to a child but its all good. If you want come and drink breast milk should make you feel better.

mee42: @ladyTC,
so while driving along the road, i will see a girl on the road, park, allight and talk to her, then afterwards get her phone number, and i will do all this cos i want to be her friend?? like WTF, which planet did u migrate from, i have loads of friends both males and females, i believe i did what i did in her own best interest, but i aint gonna drop a female friend in Lagos and plan spending the night with her in a hotel,if i am not dating her, just a thought, can u lodge with a male friend in a hotel and who da heck told u having 2 kids without being formerly married makes one a loser.
abegi just park well make i pass...

You called yourself a loser. I said look at ur life lmaoo you have children you are philandering and proud to come write that here smh. Where did u say u picked her up from the road in ur first post or maybe that's what you do. You said a friend called you and asked for help. My thing is if you don't want to help her do not help her stop asking for sex and calling it you want to date her. This separates the men from grown boys, you MR are just a grown boy. Get wisdom! I never said the girl was right or wrong yes she used you because she was not interested but you assumed in ur head she will open he legs for you. It's because of Nigerian men like you a lot of good girls can't stand the sight of Nigerian men vomit! Someone called to ask for help instead of saying am sorry I CNT u think well I can get sex. So u r not a friend then. because she needed a place to sleep at night and u booked a hotel automatically she is a wh**eYou think there is pride in having no self control. Smh

2jideofor: Shut up... na ur type wan fvck my friend because she is a staff at one of the top banks Naija and she had the privilege of seeing his bank account.

This someone who probably wouldnt even shake the guy talk less of wanting him to sleep with her. This is not a made up story and I dont give a fvck if you dont believe it.

Where was the banker when we were together in school, jacking day and night just to become someone in the future? Were was the banker when an innocent soul with pure heart was sending this my friend 3k, 5k while he was in school. May Amadioha strike her seductive OBO...

My friend declined. Who know knows what charm she has rubbed on her toto...

telling me that I am poor. Your fada. Have I asked you for money and begged you for food? You wil wroth in hell. e-diot. if you make me angry, they will lock this thread because of you an i.

Do me a favour and lock the thread. I definitely hit a nerve you are already angry. and you know me so well that i am a type. see how you reason.that demon that is speaking inside you i plead the blood if JESUS against it. You wrote yourself you where poor in not so many words bt then again I am responding to someone whose intelligence level is below par it's not if close to that of a monkeys. Every curse u sent I reverse and return it back to the send and seal it with the blood of JESUS.

190:

u know u like it stop embarrassing me like this

190: But I dint say anything
Stop flirting with me

2jideofor: who made him bad? The you hear him.

The thing is that women made him so. It is only in this fvcking country that you cant date a woman you like if you have no moNey. Don't you see where he said when he had nothing no lady took him serious? But when he has managed to upgrade his status, they are almost suffocating him.

Make them girls hear, when I am ready, I will fvck as much as I want. They too will get recycled through my factory...

Abeg free the guy joor...

Why are you attacking her she said the truth. So because of his past he must be the devil incarnate. And I guess u wish to become one once you make ur so called money, I guess u are poor now cry us a river boo hoo. Just know that actions have consequences. Instead if you to focus on your life find a good girl that doesn't care about all of that. Bt no all you have are evil intentions in your heart. I pray for your soul. Self pity smh

190:

I know you are just a joker!

2jideofor: Who let all this termites out of the woods? I knew they were asleep early this morning.

By their fruits you shall know them smh