jeanbro:

@ Lady-Ti
I like to kiss alot and I have wondering hands that needs deliverance thats for touch

@ jeanbro:

Those "wondering hands" need deliverance alright !!!  
I will pray for you next time I go to night vigil  

jeanbro:

we are talking about love languages shes talking about virtues and attributes olodooo madam Too Know ;Dlol

@ jeanbro:
We know iice may have gotten the thread a little muddled up but you should not have called her olodo now---- I think you should say "sorry" to her 

@ Poster:

There's nothing wrong with "soakis" as long as:
       - he's not offering that on every single visit
       - It's summer and the weather is warm enough
       - there's peanuts to go with it 

It may be a sign of poverty in Naija, but for me it's a delicacy so this would be sign of intimacy between us.

So, my sistahs------ CHILL!!! And enjoy his company!
As for the brovas-------- Don't take the mickey, though!!!!

jeanbro:

oh I feel close but can't get closer, "oooh my"not even a contact info on her profile ,am talk2coolme on yahoo lets chat sometimes

@ jeanbro:

Ooooooh----- Someone has been playing "detective"?!!   How flattering 

By the way, you haven't told the forum what your "languages" are---- Go on tell us! 

Short and sweet ---- and VERY FUNNY!!

Now that got me cracking, alright!!!

@ Poster:

The Bible says in Prov 18:22 - "he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obatins favour of the Lord".

Also in Prov 12: 4 - "A virtuous wife is a crowning joy to her husband"

In a nutshell---- I'm single because I'm waiting for my Prince to find me and when he does he will hear his "crown" 

I'm praying for him to do so quickly coz I'm holding his favour!!!  Mhm!! 

@ Chuxy:

Hilarious! This has got to be one of the funniest jokes on this forum!!
I literally burst into laughter on the street everytime I remember this joke!!

Waffi nor dey carry last o!!!

Funny!!

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I was rushing to work on Friday and when I was about to enter a door with a friend when I stopped to hold the door open for a lady to pass, my friend was so irritatad that he didn't hide his annoyance. He even went on to tell other guys bout what happend. i found out that most of the people that saw what i did as irrelevant were Nigerians. Even Ghanian guys were a little complacent. But are nigerian guys gentlemen. Opinion from both guys and ladies needed.
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@ Eldee:

Are you for real

I didn't want to bash my Naija brovas so I opted for the "endangered specie" option when I voted

Well, if you're truly a gentleman as you say--- as in--- you do all those nice things you listed--- then I would say keep it up! It’s refreshing to know that there are a few of you left out there. I hope you find a lady who appreciates you for it.

As for my other Naija brovas---- take a hint!! Being a gentleman doesn't emasculate you. Rather it earns you “brownie points” on the “respect and trust” score sheet!!!

jeanbro:

naija guys are getting to learn to how not be a boss in relationship,I love that password to your heart hmmmmmmm where can I log in? funny enough your BF might not know you better than I do now

@ Jeanbro:

Are you like hitting on me? 

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fidelity bank now sells delicious stew  
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@jjuummaaii (f)
hehehehehe  

My secret is:
First: Fry chopped or sliced onions in your oil to bring out the onion flavour - Before it starts getting brown, add the puree (tinned tommatoes) and stir-fry on medium heat for about 5 - 10 minutes till it's dry - stirring it continuously.

Then add your blended fresh tomato/onion/pepper mixture. As others have said, it's best to boil your blended tomatoes sparately till it's dry before you start cookingcoz it makes your stew dry and tasty. Add lots of Maggi cubes for taste.

I normally don't add meat stock coz it gives it a strong "meaty" tatse/smell by the next day.

I would say nos (1) and (3) will work very well for me [when I evetually get into a relationship, that is--- ]

1. E.g: an unexpected note, poem, letter, text, etc

3. My Man helping me do manual work around the house. E.g: helping to take out the bin, DIY/fixing things, helping to wash/service my car, etc

I received this from a friend a while back and just thought to share it. I hope it's not a double post?? Enjoy!


Former President Bill Clinton came to Nigeria for an official visit. While he was here, he started discussing with former President Obasanjo one day on a balcony at ASO Rock. Suddenly, NEPA took light all over Abuja . Bill Clinton was annoyed. He turned to Obasanjo and said: "I thought you people were making progress in this country, how come you still have power cuts? This is a big disgrace!" Obasanjo was ashamed and angry, but couldn't say anything. He just kept fuming throughout the rest of the conference.

Six months later, Obasanjo went to Washington to see Clinton . After their discussion, they went to the White House balcony to have some drinks and discuss in a relaxed manner. While they were there, Obasanjo looked around the City [It was late at night] and was surprised to see an area that was dark: there was a power cut in that part of town. Obasanjo was happy! He shouted to Bill Clinton: "You came to my country and insulted me because of our power system, see your own now? You people also have electricity shortage here in Washington ! Shame on you!" Obasanjo was very happy!

Then Bill Clinton frowned, looked at the area and called one of his aides to ask him where that area was. The aide Whispered in Clinton ’s ear, and Clinton burst into laughter. He was laughing so hard that he began to roll on the ground, with tears coming out of his eyes. Obasanjo was puzzled, he asked Clinton : "Are you okay?" Clinton finally managed to stand up and pointed to the dark area and said between heavy laughter: "That's the Nigerian Embassy, "

@ CeeGee
Yes o----- This is very true of guys----- well, I guess most of it. Well done!!!

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I beg, 3 gbosa for the poster. You too dey
This is the truth

@Omena555----- I like the way you take "hail" the poster. Nice one!


As for all the "bad belle" boys who are obviously in denial, make una do post una own version on girls now? Abi e easy

Aaahh, this is so sweet, Thanks to all Nairalanders for all your wonderful thoughts about Nigeria. And a special thanks to Maddock who started this thread. It's about time we started confessing positive.

I pray Nigeria will continue to go from strength to strength!
I pray that God's counsel for us a great Nation will stand!
I pray that God will raise more "servant-leaders" who will effect change.
I pray that Nigeria will rise to take her place in the world!

I look forward to a Nigeria where order and dignity will be restored. Where other nations of the world will come to seek refuge, employment, etc
I look forward to the day when all Nigerians in diaspora will flock back home in their masses to contribute to the ongoing change that cannot be stopped!

God bless President Yar'Adua and all his cabinet who are committed to change!

HAPPY 47TH BIRTHDAY NIGERIA!! I am truly proud and blessed to be one of your own!

WORST:

Boy: "Did it hurt?"

Girl: "What?"

Boy: "When you fell from Heaven?"

,
BEST:

Boy: "Are you a parking ticket?"

Girl: "WHAT??!!"

Boy: "Coz you got FINE written all over you!"


,

(From: Fresh Prince of Belair)

Boy: "Somebody call the Police!!,  It's got to be a crime to be that fine, !!"

LAUNDRY - Putting the clothes in the machine, taking them out to dry, "Long ting" !!!

MAKING THE BED, What's the point!! It's only going to get rumpled again when you lie on it!!!!

Love cooking so kitchen is fine. Dont' mind bathroom coz can't stand dirty tubs and sinks,

This is absolutely HILARIOUS!!

@Vigasimple: You said it all!!

The couple are just not willing to work hard at their marriage! Period!

[quote][/quote]Hmm Our modern day ideals and way of life. May it not cause us situations we cannot handle. I'll still love to taste my wife's cooking anyday. In a situation where she can't cook, i'll patiently see her through her learning process since that's not the focal point of the marriage.
Having said that it doesn't it doesn't kill the value a cooking wife brings to the relationship or marriage. Good sex and good food and you are knocking at the door of a prosperous union.
Even the whites we all think behave differently still place value on home made food. The best romantic dinners are still those candle light dinners with home made food. You can see the pride on their faces.
Women, never miss that feeling, you feel when you see your guy enjoying your food. You can get anything from him in most cases even his DEATH!

@Tenor
Well said o,

The key here is balance.
- I beleive EVERY ONE WHO EATS should learn how to do some basic cooking - period! e.g: rice and stew.

In a marriage relationship, the couple should decide their main roles at the outset, Traditionally, cooking falls on the woman just in the same way we expect the man to go out, work and support the family. This is the ideal. However, every marriage is unique and this may not always be achieved or some roles may be switched temporarily.

This is my personal stand -
As a woman, it will be my joy to cook [healthy, finger-licking, yummy, meals] for my husband when I marry. However, once in a while, especially during pregnancy, I would appreciate him helping out or treating me to his own cooking, too even if his cooking, ahem "get as e be"  

I was opportuned to watch the swearing in ceremony live on NTA yesterday and I personally think it was a great sight to behold. I don't know much about the Nigerian system of governance or indeed Mrs Etteh's political CV so I can't comment much on whether or not she is right for the position.

But to learn that she is the FIRST FEMALE SPEAKER ever in Nigeria is something to be celebrated because it shows that our great Nation is making progress.

I really think we should give her a chance to prove herself after all no one is born with the experience for any job. We all have to learn new skills at some point in our lives.

I thought she looked fabulous!! Let's celebrate her!!

[quote][/quote]  Hello my dear age is just a number and what you should care about is love.

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@ kingss

Age is NOT just a number. That is just a reckless proverb with no depth to it, because whether you like it or not age has a strong impact on our everday activities, especially the LAW. You try having an intimate relationship with a 14 year old girl and you'll know better!!!

@ omidav
Your concern about the age difference between you and your boyfriend is normal. It is always expected that the man should be older than the woman espeacially in our culture. However, this is only an IDEAL. It is not written in stone anywhere that it should be so, not even in the Bible!

The only reason most men are older is that it helps the woman in her role of submission to the man and the man as the head.

This is my advice:
      - Be sure that the 3 year-gap will not stop you from respecting him as your husband
      - Be sure that he is as mature as you are -mentally, emotionally, financially, etc, because women tend to mature faster
        than men their own age and this gap tends to widen even more when the man is younger
      - Be sure that he is ready for marriage.
      - Be sure that any insecurities you may have because of the age gap are dealt with before you marry
     
If you can address the above issues and similar advice given by others on this forum, then you will be fine. But if it bothers you that much then it's probably best to reconsider and wait for an older man.

It is not a good idea to hide your age from his family because they will eventually find out one day and it will create problems for both of you then. Perhaps you could inform just his immediate family and reassure them that you are both okay with it and that it will not stop you from being a good wife to him.

All the best!!!

[quote][/quote]Another thing you have to consider is the direction in which the funds were coming. She was not taking the money OUT of the US, she was bringing it in. For all those who are talking about nurses making a lot of money, that might be true, but how do you explain the direction the money was going ? So what did she do ? Get paid her salary, invested it in Nigeria and then bringing it back in ? Hmm , And those who say she put in a lot of overtime etc etc , in that case, would it not be very easy for her to prove the source of the funds ? If she used all of her salary to build a house in Nigeria, and then sold the house and decided to repatriate the funds, would that not be very easy to prove ? Would she not have gone to trial to prove that ? If the funds were really her hard earned sweat, would she not FIGHT for it ?

@MSY.
Excellent point!!!!

I'm still looking out for an explanantion from those who claim nurses make alot of money, overtime, savings, blah blah blah, How could she have possibly saved all that money with 4 kids and bills to pay

I agree with most people on the forum. This is definitely an issue of MONEY LAUNDERING or TAX EVASION.

1. If the source of the money was "clean" then she was clearly evading tax by not using bank transfer or declaring it. That being the case, all she needed to do was to prove the source was legitimate, and I'm sure she would have received a more lenient penalty, like a fine.

2. If the source was "dodgy" then it's clearly a case of money laundering - an even worse crime!!

Either way, she is clearly GREEDY and deserves to be punished! If you do the CRIME, you do the TIME!!

People like her need to stop giving [law-abiding] Nigerians a bad name!

Long distance relationships are extremely challenging but they can work if the two people involved are equally committed to its success. My advice to you are as follows:

- If She cannot get a visa to visit you, then you travel home and spend some time courting properly so you can get to know each other. You said you used to know each other from back then but neither of you should assume that you are still the same people that you were back then . Both of you would have changed a lot over the years (in good and bad ways) and there are certain things you cannot get to know over the phone!!

- Get your families involved and obtain their blessings.

- Get your pastors involved and get their blessings.

- Above all, get GOD involved and PRAY!!

I pray it goes well and err,  if it does go ahead, hope you will get back to us on the forum with the good news??   

Lady Ti

I have been away from the Nairaland Forum for many months now and I can see the discussions are still very diverse and interseting - especially the ones on relationships I was particularly inspired by the contributions made by "Consultant", "Davidylan" and "eol". And as Consultant suggested, it would be great to have people who are happily married IN GOD'S WILL share with the Forum some PRACTICAL TIPS on how to be successful in relationships.

Beauty, they say, is in the eyes of the beholder! So let's not analyze this too much!

If eneekaycee [and others] think WE are the most beautiful women in the world, then come on my "Sistas", let's encourage the "Brodas".  I think it's really sweet,   

Dear Mahi,
I agree with most of the replies so far. Long distance relationships don't work. However, they can work in EXCEPTIONAL cases...ONLY if the two people involved are totally committed to see it work and where there is also some sort of agreement in place as to WHEN you will be REUNITED.

I am assuming there is also a prior intention to share your future together.
If that's not the case, then "Sista" my word of encouragement to you is to let go the past and embrace the future. I was in a similar situation years ago (though I was a lot younger) but I had to find the strength to move on. In my case, it appears, he felt it was too good to be true that I was still interested in him even though I had left Nigeria for England.
If you feel like you're the only one trying, then it's likely to be that he has given up possibly for fear of disappointment on your part or other reasons best known to him.

Go out, make friends, socialise... and don't put your joy and happiness on hold for someone who appears to have moved on. I guess it's harder for men to cope with long distance relationships. If you are a christian, then ask God for the strength to move on and wait for His best. You may just find that it was all part of your destiny to meet "the one" you were really destined to be with.

All the best,
Lady-Ti

This will become an issue in ONLY if financial matters were not properly discussed prior to marriage. One of the benefits of marriage is SHARING and as such marriage is strictly for adults and not "babies". My stand is that if both couples are in employment, then they shoud be willing to pool their resources together. How they go about doing that is up to them.

In a situation where the husband has been a good provider, but temporarily loses his job AND IS ACTIVELY SEEKING another one, then it would be nice gesture if a woman hands over her pay cheque to her husband to help for a season.

However, where a woman is married to LAZY MAN who refuses to work, then it is not proper to expect her do so. In fact, a man who sits back and waits for his wife's monthly pay cheque is not fit to be called a man!!!! The Bible says that a man who does not provide for his home is worse than an infidel. [paraphrased]