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2dice:
funny dear..
Its not a drink..
You care to know ..what it is?

Yes please. I'm eager to know what it is!

I just hope it's not a bad thing. I once made a blunder...I thought "thunder fire you" is a cool expression. So I used it. In my mind I imagined lightning striking (when it rains) and the loud sound of thunder. My friend told me it's too strong to be used by a lady.

2dice:
hmnn
do you knw the meaning of Bajinatu?

To be honest no, though I think it's a drink.

Burnnotice:
wow what can i say... God bless

God bless you too.

LewisO:
[color=#000033] [size=14pt] Insult? Who deer insult me? Nothing is really stopping me.

I don't feel like creating thread yet, don't worry anytime i open it i will summon u. [/size][/color]

OK...am also waiting for election to be over before I can create one.

2dice:
conFam
simple and straight forward
2Bajinatu for you

I dey wait for the Bajinatu

bellong:
Why not.... HE is a man and I have nothing to hide....

Why do I find it hard to believebelieve you?

LewisO:
[color=#000033] [size=14pt]Good!

Sometimes i will wanna open a thread i will just decide not to, i was about writing "7" things about boyfriend's need to know during their girlfriend's menstrual cycle i just decided not to create it again. [/size][/color]

Why? Go ahead and open the thread. The worst thing anyone can do is to insult you. You should not worry about insults...they only make you stronger.

You are on NL to learn and teach others. Don't expect everyone to agree with you. What should make you happy is the fact that someone learnt something from your post.

You need to have a strong personality to stand the *storm* of NL (I know you can stand harsh words). So you've got all it takes to create a thread and respond to comments.

Please cc me when you post.

I think you lack confidence.

Maybe you feel that the girl you want to approach is too good for you or you don't meet her standard.

Work on your self esteem and confidence. Believe that you deserve that girl. Believe that she will see something good in you.

Don't fear rejection. Have it in mind that not every girl you will approach will accept you.

Lastly, don't be pressured to have s*x. It's perfectly normal to stay celibate/not engage in s*x. Have your values and stick to them.

Good luck

LewisO:
[color=#000033] [size=14pt] That's very trues! Don't mind them.

How u doing ladyX? How ya family? [/size][/color]

Am doing well. How are you?

bellong:
Your MIL is a woman now, she can see whatever you want to hide.....

Would you be OK with your future father in law seeing you naked?

Jackeeh:
This is kinda how my friend's engagement to his fiancee ended. He sent his soon to be wife home to spend some days with his mum. One fateful day, fiancee went to have her bath. Future mother in-law came in for inspection, discovered a surgical mark on her lower abdominal region, enquired what that was and was told the mark was left there when she had a myomectomy. All hell broke loose. My people na so relationship take end oh. @OP future MIL wants to inspect oh. Simple.

That's bad. Everyone is entitled to their privacy.

If you want to inspect me, don't ask your mum to do it. Just inform me. We go to a hospital of your choice, and then the doctor does all those tests.

I would be very offended if a would be mother in law walked in on me (bathing) to inspect me.

If it were someone young, like his sister, I would say she's a lesbian.

Maybe she wants to see whether you are physically OK for his son.

LewisO:
[color=#000033] [size=14pt]See how both of u are wasting space on FP, u ought to have leave that space for me na. [/size][/color]

imagine them exchanging biscuit on FP!

No wonder people say good advice comes from page 2 going forward.

johnsonjosbles:
but that beast will in no time comeback claiming he has realise his mistake,that goodlady should never acept him because it will be chaos and mahem if he repeat his wickedness.

True. I fail to understand why he started planning for a wedding when he wasn't sure he would marry her.

If she is a mother of 6, what else do you want? Some don't even have 1 kid not to talk of 6.

He has already made up his mind not to be with you. There is nothing you can do about it. Just forget him and move on with your life.

Europegirl24:
ok.....why u say he will leave me even if I help.him?? I just want hear reason

...one time he hit me n throw me out of house n all that was when he foind out he cant marry me coz my country is not in Europe Union nafter that he got idea that I get pregnant n deliver in germany for him to get papers..... he teling me now how he dont apreciate my love even after all I did for him I even helped him financialy...

Because of the above...despite what you did for him (financial help) he doesn't love you. What makes you think if you help him to get papers he will love you?

Bwon:
have not decided anything yet... It scary to think about losing some1 u want to spend the rest of your life with... You built d relationship to a point she is virtually everything and a family. You don't want to be in that shoes trust me . it more difficult becos she is fragile she would break... she not that strong.

You know her better than us. Go for what will work.
Sometimes how you present something and how it is perceived can have positive or negative results.

Bwon:
yh thnx i hope she just leaves us alone. But i don't know how to explain it to my fiancee that she should change her best lady cos i can't imagine looking at her that day... Knowing what has happened in the past. *sigh*

So you decided not to tell your fiance?

If so, I don't know how you will tell her to change the lady because you've got to give a reason.
Maybe Blackett can help you there.

cc. Blackett

Bwon:
oh! sigh

I suggest that from now, don't allow any communication with the girl. She might be planning something. In the same way she planned the dinner, she can come up with something else. She could even lie that she's sick only for you to get to her house and find her n*aked waiting for you. or she could put something like viagra or similar drugs in your food. You will be the one begging her. You get the drift?

Bwon:
yh the calls the messages the pictures ..... and all proves that.. and it scares the shii outer me

Bwon, you need to know this:

The friend knows everything about you: She knows how you treat your fiancee. She could also be knowing about your s*x life, etc. Therefore, she wants to have you to herself. She can do anything, including seducing you and getting pregnant for you just to be your wife. She knows you want to settle down and she wishes to be you wife.

If she is desperate is it your business? No! Don't allow her needness or desperation to separate you from your fiance. You are not the last man standing on earth, so she will get another man. Forget about the *love* antics she's playing on you.

Have you heard or read here about guys having done an introduction or about to it, then they discover another lady pregnant for them? That's how it happens. Then they are forced to abandon their fiancee and marry the baby mama.

Bwon:
Sadly i feel she kinda desperate. But Makes it all worse

Who is desperate? The friend?

Blackett:
[color=#150000]Bro, no matter what you do, do not tell your fiancee anything.

If you do, you'll lose her. She'll never believe that you haven't slept with her friend.

All you have to do is tell her friend off. Continue telling her off. Avoid her at all costs and do not discuss your fiancee with her.

This is all up to you. Forget these girls here asking you to tell your fiancee. If they were in her shoes, they won't believe you.

Do not tell her. Not because you do not love her, but some things are best left unsaid.[/color]

What if the girl who wants op, goes ahead to tell her fiance that they are *having an affair* though it's not true?
What if she *fixes* him...She tells the fiance "To prove that we are going out, wait here then you will see us together"

Bwon:
sigh thnx

Welcome.

If she hears it from you, it will be better because you can tell her you didn't have any motive towards the friend.
However, if she hears it from the friend she will not trust you again. No matter what you say she will ask why didn't tell her.

Block the friend so that she doesn't send you photos, texts or calls...if she calls you with another number, if you hear her voice disonnect.

Good luck!

Bwon:
I am scared to tell her because we had a thing *we kissed* and for the dinner i was wrongly informed it was suppose to be a surprise for her i wasn't supposed to call her.. Thanks for your advise either way.

Are you waiting for your friend to tell your fiancee that you kissed her?
She wants you and she will do everything to get you.

Who knows, maybe she has already started telling your fiance that you are not good enough for her (the same way she's telling you your fiance is not good). Guy, open your eyes! If you are going to marry her, you better build on your trust (both of you should be able to trust each other)

If you don't tell your fiancee now, next thing your *friend* will blackmail you by threatening to tell your fiancee. Then you will give into her. Or she will actually tell her.

About sending you pictures, calls and texts can't you block her?

Europegirl24:
Its finish with him.hm.he said he wil leave me if I dont help him about papers

One things is clear: Whether you help him or not, he will leave you.

Get pregnant, give birth, he gets papers, mission accomplised, off he goes, you remain a single mum.
You refuse to help him he leaves you.
The choice is yours.

It's just unbelievable! You go to a country and discriminate against its citizens!

We must do something.

Let someone sue them so that their license can be revoked.
They are a threat to our wildlife...they have been killing and eating our dogs, but we haven't complained. What are they doing in a country where they feel insecure?

As a human being I would say it's unacceptable.
However, there is nothing wrong with connecting with your creator when you have no food.

Op said ladies only and some guys are busy exchanging words

Op, regarding your current situation see a doctor.
For subsequent flows, you can use pain killers like brufen (don't over use it, heard long term use is bad). Or use a warm towel...Dip a towel in warm/almost hot water. Squeeze out the water and place it on your lower abdomen. It will easy the pain.

No, I would tell him my pets are scared of snakes. I'd say something like, "One day my pet was attacked and killed by a python in my backyard. Since then snakes are my worst enemy." Then I waka