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TDstarr:
SO AM A WIFE BEATER?? WHAT WILL I DO?? :' :'

You will need to change your mindset about beating women. First, you need to recognise that it's not right. Then seek professional help.

LewisO:
Ladyx well put and nice post, u must be a very intelligent lady, i deduce to your post, why can't u go into cancelling? U can make it there.

*Thumb up*

Thanks LewisO.
I Haven't thought about counselling as a profession, though I counsel some of my friends and acquaintances when they have issues.
I wouldn't even know where to start as a professional counsellor.

MrCork:
.. which wrong?? how?....Sweery don't gerrrit. Its the man that slaps and not other way round....do I make sence?

No you don't make sense! Don't encourage guys to slap their partners!

johnjon:
Any signs of a potential husband beater?

I don't know any. Most ladies are timid, they won't beat their husbands.

TDstarr:
see your ideology, the talkative men talk their mind out to reduce anger, but the quiet ones can do what will make the wife to be shocked cos you dont know his mind. am the quiet type with very hurt temper and am working on myself, thats how my dad also is, when him and my mum is arguing he will just leave the house cos if he loses his temper, the whole house will explode........ i sometime do things i dont expect myself to do cos of resentment thats been building inside due to not talking......righ now when my girl offend me i just tell her straight up .......and ignore her....

I've heard that quite guys are *dangerous* but I didn't believe it. Nice sharing with us.

MrCork:
...notin wrong with slapin woman...serrriously...how else are a real man sopose to get respect except u g@y....and acordin to opion poll....all men belifs all women shud be kept in line...pirrriod!!!! (no oofeinse)

it's wrong. Who slaps the man when he makes a mistake?

Dammytrager:
11. if he is a Chelsea fan

Why?

MrCork:

Hello Mr Cork What's your contribution?

Droidbot:
Can't I fit have a girlfriend? What is worse about it?

Then why are you complaining that your wife is sleeping with your gateman? You sef *chop* outside

Enegod:


well, Some women think that's the way he
shows love. I had a friend that told me she liked it when she got abused [/b]because that was the only time he gave her any attention.
She said [b]they would have sex after the
abuse...I was dumbfounded

Some women like it... Those that don't like being abused, I think they should quit the relationship.. But again, some are too scared to leave. They think they have no other options.

Her motivation for liking to be beaten was s*x.

alberto2k:
First you gotta ask why

If u sense he's getting upset
Then tryna calm him down

Every man, has "mumu button" and every lady should learn how to use it to calm him down

P.S: someone who truely loves you won't be asking you to do something outrageous

Thanks jare

Droidbot which kain of lie be this!
You created a thread earlier today about your girlfriend eating all your *is it biscuit?* when you entad bathroom to baff.
Now you have a wife of 10 months?

alberto2k:
It depends on the type of person the lady is

If the lady is someone who is careless with her words, like to get in an arguement over little things(the fast, running mouth types) she better stay off from guyz that are potentially abusive

I'd advice they learn to be carefull with their words, avoid arguements, they should try to be gentle with their partners (like if he says he doesn't like this, don't ask why, just get it done first and after that u can ask him why he doesn't like that)

Very useful advice.
I only have a problem with the bolded. What if he's asking you to do something outrageous?

brito:
If he talks too much, ladies listen if the guy you're dating is talking too much pls be careful. women naturally talks a lot that's how God created us but if a guy talks like a woman there is a problem. If you both are arguing he may want to shut you up by beating. Every man want his gf or wife to respect him by keeping quiet when he's talking, that seems impossible if he's talking . LewisO hope you don't talk too much cos its a no, no for me.

That's so true! The 2 of you will compete in talking. Now imagine a situation where he's on the wrong and you're trying to tell him he's wrong. He'll try to be defensive and next, na slap you go get for face

Lol @ LewisO...He'll skin you alive today

Enegod:
to go and learn kung-fu or tai-chi to contain the situation

Chai! You wan kill person? If I practice kung-fu on you how will you react?
Abeg give me something realistic.

Enegod:
madness

What advice can you give ladies who are beaten by their partners?

brito:
Nice one ladyX

Thanks!

Enegod:
love indeed!

Some people get seriously beaten but they choose to stay because they are 'in love'. What would you call that?

Sarimah:
very true

nice list op

Thanks

alberto2k:
Op Your list makes alota sense


I remember the day I slapped a girl in high school (though she caused it)
I took ill hours later, it was like a near death experience...
Somehow I got a little strength the next day, I hurriedly went to this girl and begged her... She was crying and she told me she has forgiven me

Mehn, I started feeling better and hale from that moment...

Since that day I learnt my Lessons the hard way and I vowed to my self never to hit any girl again.

That's nice. What would you advice ladies with potentially abusive partners?

kentochi:
Guys ma plus 1 year today.
Can somebody wish me happy birthday!.
Am so happy.

Happy birthday!

Enegod:
It seems like women have all the answers about abusive relationships/marriage and know all the warning signs but seem to always be in abusive relationships.
Maybe if you all keep reminding yourselves of the signs, you will eventually get it right....

The signs are there, but sometimes we are blinded by love.

1. If he's not proud of you
He might feel like you are some kind of *embarrassment* to him. He might also resent you because he'll feel that people look down upon him because of you.

2. If he's possessive
He sees you as one of his belongings, so if feels threatened (like someone might snatch you away from him) he might beat to protect his territory.

3. If he's a mama's boy
He might beat because his mum comes first & he'll see you as trying to break that bond.

4. If he's a flirt
He'll beat because you'll try to put him in line and he'll take it for you trying to control his life.

5. If he's insecure
He feels that he might lose you any time, so you'll find yourselves quarreling over "Who called you?", "Who did you stop to greet?" etc. This might lead to beating.

6. If he's a drunk
When he knocks and you go to open the door, you might receive a punch...Alcohol has a way of interferring with someone's reasoning capacity. That's why when someone is drunk, they can give even their deepest secret.

7. If he uses drugs (Cocaine, heroine, etc). The explanation is same as above.

8. If he gets angry easily/he's highly temperamental
When you are angry you can do crazy things, which include beating. Some people know how to control their anger, but others don't.

9. If he's a chauvinist
He has prejudice against women. He sees them as inferior beings who have no say. If you try to challenge his beliefs/the status quo, he might beat you.

10. If he's a masochist
A masochist is someone who obtains pleasure from receiving punishment. He might transfer that to you thinking that you'll also like it.

These guys are our brothers and will marry one day. What advice can you give to a lady whose partner is apotential *beater* (especially when leaving is not an option)?

Wow!

oloworulz:
wanna knw u better than dis. Can i ve ur # ?

No problem

oloworulz:
ok. Am sorry. I guess we are cool.

It's ok. We are cool.

oloworulz:
I love ur question . It's d best I've gotten. Well, I can only say I have my reasons .

You have your reasons, but rape is not funny.

oloworulz:
I know she enjoyed it. Most naija babes enjoy rape sex than real sex. D truth is bitter. Thunder fire anybody that quote me. God bless whoever likes my comment

How do you know they enjoy rape sex?
Do you specialize in that?

AlpineSnow:
Poa sana. Thanks. Zanzibar is a nice place. The beaches there are magnificent and so are the ones in Kenya. If you go to Zanzibar cross over to Kenya, you'll like it too.

Mimi ni Kenya.
Can't wait to go there.

50calibre:
Why?? If something as big as a baby can pass there, why not that?

Besides I thought women like big coc*ks.... one that properly stretches you out & hits all the right spots?

No comment to point 1.
Point 2 ...individual preferences

AlpineSnow:
"No homo" is not a uniquely Nigerian phrase. It's American actually.

Sasa? Welcome to NL. It's interesting & u'll learn alot about naija. Being on NL makes you feel like you've been to Nigeria already.

Your write up reminded me of my desire to visit Zanzibar. I read stories about hidden treasures & the Sultans. I'll definitely visit it someday.
As for plan to visit naija go for it. It's your happiness so go for it. Goodluck.

50calibre:
Lol so you're even going to stay for that day? That gives him ample time to try and get you to spread you legs.

You're free to run away the next day after he must have pulverised your puss*y with that thing

Lol. It's in a restaurant, so he can't do that. What I meant is I'll continue chatting coz i can't stand up & start running.

I can't allow such a humunguos thing in me. Abeg u wan me to die?