samdavjustin:


While some people might praise you I see your decision as selfish and a narcissist all you think about is yourself. Didn’t you know you were broke before you started this relationship and to top it off you want another relationship with someone with a tough skin. Something is definitely wrong with you. If you said you breaking up with her to hustle and make yourself better I would understand but no no you want another relationship. ODE

And very deceptive and manipulative. He’s trying to manipulate us into thinking he is selfless. He lied and deceived the girl of his true net worth and now that he can no longer hide his true worth any longer he wants to be the one to break up with her first, in case she’s unwilling to stick with a broke nigga. His next plan, a girl that has her own money he can leech off from.

Ivebeenbanned:

Yet you're not toxic.

Breaststroke abeg leave me

generationz:

Is the strikethrough false or true? Are women in your generation not seeking divorces more than your mother’s generation because they don’t want to suffer like their mother did and Nigerian society is becoming lax on “divorce is not an option”?

FocusedB1h:

Exactly and I love this new generation of women.
We are not our mothers who stayed back and tolerated all sorts of abuse just to answer Mrs.
What men won’t want for their sisters, they shouldn’t wish it on another woman.

You deserve a cold bottle of whatever your poison is, you’re the only (f) that didn’t quote me out of context. I will go further and say women still subscribe to the “Mrs” as the ultimate goal and title in life. You pretend what you’re not to get the ring (ultimate price) and have to live with the consequences thereby fueling the “women should be defined by marriage” concept in our culture. I am sorry to say but most Nigerian women are spineless.

lavylilly:
Say most not all

True.

lavylilly:
and men have not?

From the start of the relationship, men will tell you they’re looking for a wife material - which mostly means - good cook, manage a home, peaceful home take care of kids etc. Nigerian men don’t pretend this is what they want. Nigerian girls play this role well while dating and reverse when they get married.

bukatyne:


What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

Why not read and understand comments in context? Does it make sense for me to say women should suffer and in the next sentence say “women are not blameless tho”

Let me make it clearer to you, modern women are increasingly initiating divorces because they don’t want to suffer like their mothers. Also as it becomes less of a taboo to be a divorcee more will have the courage to seek one. Women are not blameless though, (in why marriages fall apart) they have perfected the art of getting the ring (pretending while dating and marrying people they’re not compatible with to be called “Mrs”)

Ebowo:

Ms is for divorced females

NO. Ms is the equivalent of Mr. started by feminist, they say why should women be identified by their marital status. So, they came up with Ms, which is neutral.

safarigirl:
growing up, I learnt that 'Ms' is for women who are either divorced or unmarried at an advanced age.

To be sincere, there is no difference in pronunciation between Ms and Miss

Ms is pronounced Miz

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

Nigerian women too need to grow a backbone and say F you to society and culture. It’s very pathetic seeing my smart and successful colleagues scrambling to settle for any man when they hit 35+, dumbing themselves down just to bear “Mrs” There’s only so much you can blame society on, we’re the society. What about married women that shame single ladies? Married women shaming divorced women? Nigerian women are the ones upholding patriarchy. With the Mrs title as a prize, you people turn on each other.

Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

lol

anambraamaka:
Women or competent people?

What is rude in asking you how old you were when you changed? You are the one that is rude and defensive. Simmer down, it seems you’re trying to overcompensate because your stance on this topic is not the popular one.

midnighter:


You don't need to be rude, did I quote you?

You can decide to take hold of your problems at any age, stop promoting victim mentality

If she's old enough to find a partner and maintain a relationship then she's old enough to take control of her personal issues.

If you don't know there are people with such severe social issues that they can't even interact with the opposite sex or someone they like

Don't bother quoting me again since you don't know how to talk

It seems this male child preference occurs in all cultures except the west. In China, they aborted female fetuses when they had the one child policy.

Cheating is not a mistake.

Crespostakes:
twas a mistake

I’m probably in the minority but reading the comments on this thread, it is indeed true Nigerians don’t marry for love and companionship. They ONLY marry to create children and continue their progeny. Here I see people marry even if one has an inheritable disease, they just won’t have a child together. To them marriage is about love and companionship first and if they decide to raise children they use a sperm or an egg donor.

I can never forgo an opportunity to live out the rest of my life with someone I love.

Scaremongering and demonizing sex is not an effective way to reduce abortion. Preaching and insisting on only abstinence will never work. People will always have sex, sex is natural. The only effective way is to preach safe sex. Effective in reducing STDs and unwanted pregnancies.

Loki

Between me and you, you’re the one making up stories to fit your agenda. No need for long stories, post your proof or shut up. When you have prove that supports your claim then we can engage. You just making up false claims to fit your biased agenda.

kazyhm:


You're just shifting narratives to sooth your myopic mind........you started the personal reference in the first place........

You want to make the Northern Nigeria as a case study ?

Then you should change the topic IQ ratio distributions between genders in the Northern Nigeria.


If you use the Number of president Nigeria had had as a reference for tribes in Nigerian, you will get a trivia conclusion that Fulani/Hausa as the dominant tribe.

All these you just typed are conjectures, you do not know what an average Nigerian boy child does, neither do I, I can only draw from my experiences. You can’t use your own experience to make a generalized statement. Until you post proof that shows that boys do more chores than girls then you’ve made a false statement. I don’t let emotions rule me, I work with facts and statistics. There are actual studies/research done by unicef that shows girls do more house chores than boys in developing countries even worse some girls are not even sent to schools because they will end up being wives anyway.

https://www.unicef.org/press-releases/girls-spend-160-million-more-hours-boys-doing-household-chores-everyday

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5860687/

kazyhm:


Wash car only on weekends ?


You know nothing then.....a boy from an average Nigeria home washes two cars every morning,
Ensure the decorder is working for your pleasure, clear the grass in the compound, fix minor plumbing and electrical issues, kills the rat and cockroaches tormenting you in your room, irons plenty cloths on weekends, ensure the Gen is serviceable, run errands etc. The kind of beaten you get if you forget to do even the work you're not sent ehn!


Stop saying what you don't know or probably was applicable during your up bringing.

We need not go too far or apply statistics....if we itemize chores in an average Nigeria home, boys are far more responsible than girls........what other things do girls do at home other than cooking, going to market and washing plates. Even the gas you use to cook the food, boys purchase it.


Itemize the chores in your home while growing up and let see how many you did on your own without any assistance and at what age you started and stop doing them.

Well, I don't blame you, the society is encouraging female in general to be lazy, make all the mistakes in this world and shouldn't be corrected but blow the trumpet in a situation they offers any little substantial gesture while the male gender should be made a slave while female folds their hand and complain about virtually everything.

You're just peddling the rhetoric of female gender's weakness

I didn’t make a claim as a fact, you did. I said from MY experience, a girl child does more housework than a boy child because she is being prepped to be a wife material. Boy children their chores are usually weekends washing the car. So again I ask can you prove the bolded?

kazyhm:


Can you prove the contrary as well......what domestic duties deprives female of using their brain ?

Male children do more tasking chores....from waking up early to prepare popman's car for work to fixing stuffs and running errands....etc are those not house chores ?

To make matter worse, some male children can even cook better than their female siblings without being taught.

kazyhm:


I understand the basis for the research. My point is this research is not substantial enough to prove your claim...


You said domestic duties deprived female to contribute to inventions and creative innovation which is false..........


And the female sample is too limited to juxtapose with the few men in your fact....

Can you prove the bolded? Without any research sef, here in Lagos from my experience, female children do more house chores than their male siblings.

That’s OK. Was just shocked at hard you went in lol.

Blackivy29:
dont know what overcame me. Started typing like an as$hole. Sorry please.

If you can afford it, you can have separate bedrooms. In fact that’s the secret to a happy marriage. Separate bedrooms.

folake4u:



Same here. I get tired easily. My family said they pity the guy that'd marry me .
I so damn love my space, my corner, my privacy!!!. I'm scared by the fact that I'd be waking up to see a man's body by my side everyday!!!! .

Your post.

Blackivy29:
regarding my silly post or my gender?

What happened to you?

Blackivy29:
straight, gay, bi, either way, i rape him.

It’s funny you just accused someone of being angry and bitter. I was civil and respectful. You are trying to cover up your mistake. So I am going to say it again, anyone that knows the school will never write it as Rutger’s it doesn’t make sense that way. You typed it too many times for it to be a typo or some spelling error, it shows you never heard of the school until you googled it. I am not ashamed in admitting my error but it seems you are too arrogant to do the same. I know you are itching for a back and forth but this is my last response to you.

missjo:

Perhaps you should not jump in on things you know nothing of, you should try that.

Yes I did because it doesn't exist as a US name, but apparently the Dutch use ”Rutger”. The school was named after Mr. Rutgers. Again, in the US “Rutger” as a human name doesn’t exist. No one that knows the school will ever type it as Rutger’s it doesn’t make sense that way.

missjo:

I see you hurriedly edited your initial comment, removed human and changed it to US.
You're not even sure of yourself,lmao.. This joke cannot be written by anyone

I edited to a US name. The name of the school is Rutgers, everyone knows that. No one that knows the school will ever type it as ”Rutger’s” doesn't make sense that way. Also, autocorrect will never give you that option. I am not interested in getting involved in you people’s war. I worked in NB briefly so decided to wade in, now I am out.

missjo:

Rutger as a human name does not exist?

You people are going to make me tear up

Actually Rutger as a US name doesn't exist. The name is Rutgers. No keyboard will give you suggestions for a correct name ”Rutgers”.

missjo:

A US keyboard?
Posing?
I have been on this same site for years and used to spend most of my time in foreign affairs having conversations with people who live in the US and all of a sudden in 2019, you from nowhere is trying to make a point with my spelling.. MY SPELLING?

Rutger is a human name, add s and whatever keyboard you're using autocorrects it with the topmost suggestion.
Why we are even having this conversation is what i don't get.
I have never met a person like you,ever. Gosh