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It's not a crime to be foolish. All man must exhibit according to his level of wisdom. However, the price for stupidity is the burden you have to carry alone.

Op, you have not committed a crime with this post. You have only rubbished your creator who thought He was making someone like you in His image.

You're definitely not entirely useless.
You can still serve as a bad example.
Shioooor!!!

How many soldiers do we now have left in the barracks if you give this much to retired people. Wahala dey o.

Bro, it happened to me at a time too. It was mental power or should I call it willpower that helped me. Though I was living alone I refused to tell anybody about it. I believed it could be resolved through my subconscious self and it did.

Don't ridicule yourself by telling everybody about it. You can see the annoying comments people are making. It's worse if anyone can identify you physically with the situation. The only problem is YOUR WIFE if she will understand. But I can assure you that if she cooperates with you at this level of your life(being married I mean) you may not remember it again. You won't even know how it stopped.

However, if your wife chooses to be problematic over it, then you may keep falling at night. The psychological effect would be difficult to bear and can push you over the brink. For sanity sake allow her to go if she cannot help you out of it through understanding. That is if she insists on going. But I know she won't go.

I won't talk about piritual or medical. But what I do know is that medical solutions and all the suggestions of precaution before sleep are merely speculations. The reason why people don't get over it quickly is as a result of the trauma of it's occurrence at night. Children who were not harassed have the tendency of outgrowing it more than those harassed and shamed publicly.

In your own case, you may have to cast your mind back to how you were treated when you were younger. If you grew up in the atmosphere I want to outline below, it's truama and love can easily cure it. That's why I mentioned your wife's understanding.

1) Face to face house.
2)Family house
3)Being a first child
4)Harsh parents who believe in shaming
5)Uneducated parents and other factors.

What most parents don't understand is that the human body systems vary.
I can almost bet with you that if you fall under any of the things listed above, your wife's love can just make it disappear before you guys know it. Her love can and will erase the past trauma while growing. and also the anxiety of not fumbling before her which is further triggering the childhood trauma of shame.

Show this piece to her and let her tell you genuinely that you should not worry that you will overcome it and you definitely will.
Regards.

SUPERPACK:
Could be diabetes, stress, prostrate enlargement, infection or sleep apnea. Do you notice any other symptoms and do you take alcohol?

You are great!

[quote author=lavylilly post=124076591][/quote]This is how you people use to cause trouble. If I talk my opinion now there will be trouble again and everybody will now be phoning me. Both from her family side and my own.
I have made several attempts to change moniker and she usually detects because she on Nairaland too.
Please op, I don't know whether you're a babe or guy. Leave me out of this topic. I like as our house peaceful now.

Odaaro. Orun ayo laasun o. Abeg.

My question is this: did this Ladi Adebutu send this message from overseas to journalist in Nigeria or was around to address them physically?

Because last time I checked, efcc said they had declared him wanted.

Candidlady:
Lemme sit down here with my bottle of water

Walahi I think say na wine you wan write. Funny girl.

Benwallt:
You will be surprised that some daredevils will still steal the bike

Creepy things. Don't underrate those guys, bro.

EKONGKING:
I am so upset with this news.

What happened to god Jesus or blessing water or miracles u performed , where u can cure persons of HIV or people of deaf and dumb .

Why do you need to come to a hospital ,when every miracles and treatments are available in church .

You don't like the God

I knew it. I actually came to the comments section looking for something like this from someone like you. Instinctively I was right as I found yours.

My question is this: "why did Jesus die even after He brought the dead back to life, healed the sick and set the captives free?"

Has this apostle ever declared himself God at any time? Because I know it's only God that is immuned to illness and death.
I think we should be mindful of our utterances instead of looking for just "likes" over things as sensitive as this.

JASONjnr:
How do people get sick and still take pictures and post on social media?

Perhaps he wanted to announce it himself before the bloggers make a mincemeat of the development. God knows everything.
Wishing him speedy recovery. Amen.

ghettochild:
U carry woman go abroad..put her in nursing school
She grads n starts making money more than you...then they become arrogant n disrespectful

Humans are unpredictable. More so women. It takes just a little story to change their mindset.

Like the necessary evil that people call them. There are still some wonderful women around. I salute them. I doff my heart for them.

donproject2:
It was a beautiful day in January 2015, there was a client of my uncle who wanted him to come and inspect some laundry equipments in Bonny Island, we were there in a hotel in P/H.

He did not really buy the idea of going, not that the machines would be sold to him. Me, out of my adventurous nature, I appealed to him to let us go, I knew we were going to take a flying boat, kind of experience I have been longing to have.

With our car duly parked in the hotel, myself, him and his son set out to Nembe water side to board a boat going to Bonny Island, I guess it was N1700 per person then.

After the payment, we were given life jackets and told to take a match into the boat. I was all excited to be experiencing my first hour-long boat ride.

Hector was the name of the boat operator to sail us to our destination, someone said beside me that Hector has been sailing for up to 17 years. Then, my mind was so at rest, knowing we were in hands of a pro. Engine started, lol and behold, we meuuuuve.

At first, we were going slowly due to reasons I don't know, the speed was later increased and I was a enjoying the whole thing. I would occasionally see rescue team also parading the ocean, I was made to believe that they do that to make sure they are a call away in case there is any accident.

I had my first cold feet when the boat started skipping like it is hitting rocks underneath, I would look at my uncle's terrified face intermittently, fear would erupt my own stone heart in return. Load of bad thoughts started crawling in to my mind, what if the boat capsizes? Is this how we are going to die, leaving our peaceful hotel room to die in the middle of nowhere here.

The whole experience got worse when we were approaching the shore of Bonny, the sea water was all over us, its waves were so enormous, everyone was drenched, it tasted so salty.

Alhamdulilah, we got there safely. The journey took us exactly 1hr7min.

The man that invited us worked with one of the oil companies there, I guess there were three different oil companies in that city alone. He later came to pick us with his car and drove us straight to where the equipments have been sitting idle for years.

Bonny is a small beautiful island in the middle of a big ocean, you can only access the city via water or better still, fly in there by air, there was actually a functioning heliport as at that time. I noticed that almost everyone there does fishing, it should be their primary occupation. There were numerous places where fishes were being placed in open air, signaling they are for sale.

We spent close to 3 hours in the city before we decided to return to P/H. On getting to the seaside, we were asked to go for payment. While on the queue to pay, someone directly behind my uncle was then narrating how boat mishap that killed 27 people happened less two weeks ago. Hearing that myself, my heart paused for few seconds, and for the first time, I was beginning to fear the wrath of the sea for real.

I was wishing I could go by air back to P/H, 27 people at a go? He would later tell my uncle some safety measures to take if the eventuality happens. Part of it is to make sure one stays put if the life jacket enables one to stay afloat, struggling to swim or so could attract the sharks in there and they could start coming to one's direction. He also said that anyone with bodily injury is at risk of inviting the sharks as the smell of the injury may draw their attentions. These and many more that I couldn't remember by the man were said. Well, if there was anything left with me then, it was my faith with God, I started praying to the most high not to do us dirty.

We got back to P/H safely, though spending longer time than we spent when we were going. On getting to the shore of P/H, I made a vow never to return to the sea again, I cannor come and die iku gbona (terrible death). Ever since then, me and sea don't get along.

Wow. My experience was quite earlier. 2002 to be precise. The sound from underneath the boat as if hitting rocks nearly "killed" me. Very scary.

One could see the water stretched so far off to the point it merged with the sky.

laurel03:
with useless portfolio self

Minister of state for local government and chieftaincy Affairs. I don't know the work of this ministry. Some states do have them. Lol.

These people won't stop at nothing to ridicule themselves. No shame anymore. And they have children growing up.

It is unthinkable how a woman in her husband's house, or one who wants to get married someday comes out publicly to announce to everyone that a certain person was sleeping with her. Shameless!

Woke generation my foot.

CandidAdmin:
When you reason with your dick, your life becomes a mess.

Question of the day - If Davido knew he still wanted to have fun, why marry chioma?

Check my siggy

Thanks bro.
This torment for Chioma is very annoying. How can a human being do this to a fellow human being?
How Davido goes to sleep peacefully at night is my own nightmare. May God help us all.

I think the governor should have stayed away from that place in the first instance. There are other ways of politicking instead of going to the Eid praying ground.

Dedicating my time to assist family members who later turned to mock me when things went wrong for me. Some even called me ritualist who was using their stars. Can you imagine?

Wasting my resources to treat a stubborn wife who was bedridden for six months. That was the "finishing" for my business funds. She left after her recovery. But not without sending me to the police cell and courts on trumped-up charges of threat to her life.

The list goes on and on.

But I am very sure there's light at the end of the tunnel despite all these. I have forgiven all but will henceforth keep to myself after this experience. They really mocked the hell out of my life.

Grayoso:
Mr.Former President, you are insincere. You never really wanted to lead Nigeria. You wanted to lead a Fulani renaissance with the wealth, offices and assets of Nigeria.

Why people still go to him for his opinion on Nigerian issues is what I don't understand.

falcon01:
He looks both ways with a single stare

That's how his Creator made him. No need to shame him for what he has no personal control over.

He has a family and has not done badly in life too.

BlueRayDick:
So my question is this ;

What message will be preached at his funeral ?

Will they say: “God gave and God took him” ?

Will the Islamic cleric that officiated at his funeral call for the wrath of God on his killers ?

Or will the preacher say : “ This is how anybody that insults the prophet will end up, Don’t be like Usman” ?

Let's not day what is in our minds on this matter. People will begin to read meanings again. God bless you.

SLOVFO:
Are well wishers and those without security clearance allowed to join the president's convoy? I don't want to believe that all those cars belong to the president's office. Like some said, the convoy most likely comprises of the convoys of the host governor and some other regional politicians.

Definitely

Ihateheadslamer:
Buhari already knew that he is not innocent

You don't want to believe what Sahara reporters are spewing.

Didn't SR informed us before the 20th that PBAT was going for medical treatment?

GeneralDae:
It's not about being confident. With just 30 days to the deadline for ministerial appointments, BAT must have reached out to all selected already.

You can't be wrong.

He must have been very confident about his selection as a minister in PBAT
government. May God help him.

Charging like a bull.

Whatever can prompt a man to kill a
fellow human being is adifficult thing for me to understand. Aside accident though.

What could it be? I simply don't know what goes on in the mind of some people. Just kill. They see blood and just don't care. The devil must really be working overtime in them. God forbid.

Doesn't pastor have a wife?
It is really painful, and I feel so bad for the poor little girl.

kingthreat:
People like you have sown the seed of wickedness in your life, hence you cannot wait to reflect it when making simple opinions. If you were a good person, you will pray help comes to her rather than look for justification of her financial condition.
Did Da Grin make that much money? And also if he made enough money and was steadily taking care of his mum then, isn't close to 10 years enough to make a his mother have financial issues after his demise?

I thank you for this observation. It's rather unfortunate the way some people respond to issues here. Sometimes I wonder if those responses are genuine or just jiving.

Either way we must be responsible and not display acts capable of ridiculing us as a person. It shows his level of maturity or understanding.

You're blessed.

In the past when my understanding was little I used to think it was wrong. Though it depends on the situation and tthe chemistry between your wife and your mum.

blesdman:
This is not about religion but about harmonious living amongst humans. Even in our villages, the wealthy ones live in the same way. Everyone under the roof or in one compound. Too much of copying the whites makes some people to lose their sens of reasoning

@blesdman, it is the whites that even engage in these kind of things more.
Some of the things we credit to the whites are actually not true. Believe me.

It is sheer selfishness and sometimes jealousy that won't allow people coexist peacefully. When these two things are out of the way, life is sweeter together.

I have only one brother. Younger to me. We had a difficult upbringing because our parents were old before we arrived. Dad had me at exactly 35 years after his first marriage. My dad was already in his 70s when I finished secondary school in the village. We found our way to Lag for o better future.

There was nothing I didn't use to beg my younger brother to let us stick together and create a future for ourselves. I went as far as telling him that we should share apartment even when married. That we can let our women to know what we have been through. Whoever couldn't cope with the arrangement shouldn't marry either of us.

Long story short, he refused. He became wayward along the line when we separated. Today my children are in the university and he has still not found a wife. I am not mocking him. He told me his regret just yesterday when he visited.

There is no harm in accomodating each other.