Hmmm....my dear I feel for you over what you are currently experiencing emotionally but your story is one sided because you complained severally of him not apologising or feeling your cold shoulders. If I may ask, don't you offend him in anyway? Is there anytime you equally fail to apologise over sensitive issues?

My dear relationship is a two-sided situation. Learn to also give whatever you hope or anticipate to get.

Be it "RED PILL or SIMP" no man wants his ego to be messed with...please, try to build up on your expectations.

All the best...

I'll advise you to ignore and continue the work. It's a normal thing amongst employers of labour who are mostly from Nigeria. They do this to distract the management & create disunity amongst the workers so as to prevent them from uniting to fight for their right or demand for good work conditions.

Waow! Congratulations Ma'am. This reminds me of wife's situation exactly One year ago. She was 'medically' advised to take lipton & glucose so as to flush the excess sugar in her system which formed ceaseless clots of blood & make the baby come quickly but it was later discovered that her cervix opening couldn't exceed 8cm & so she was operated upon i.e C. S. Though, hers was 40Weeks & 3Days.

The truth is if the baby's head is big...delivery may take longer for first time mothers.

Above all, try to stay strong, pray at heart & take away fear....you'll be fine.

Na foolish people just dey insult or hunt themselves; crime has no religion, tribe or race...

...just imagine the syndicate

easyfem:
David was a king and a priest in the bible


bible is a balance good book

I just want to make a correction on your statement, yes! the bible is a balance book but your post is wrong...David was a 'King & a Judge' in Israel NOT a Priest; after the era of judges was abolished.

Eli was the last 'Priest and Judge' of Israel, who ordained Samuel (a Priest) who later crowned King Saul who was the 1st King of Israel and subsequently King David...

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Nigerians are the number one problems of Nigeria 🇳🇬.
God help Nigeria 🙏

Nigerians are the problems of Nigeria.......for real!


Greed and Dishonesty, the two main problems of an average Nigerian.
Read along to understand our reasons for saying so......

(N.B : If you are a fraudster and criminal on Nairaland,
Skip to the next post or you may not survive reading this)

*HOME TRUTH*

I run a manufacturing business and a trading business.
The biggest challenge in my manufacturing business is not power, or infrastructure, the biggest challenge is getting honest staff. Everyone we hire appears to be on a mission to steal as much as possible. Inflated invoices, recording less than the actual number of units produced. The worst part of it all is that all the fraud we've uncovered is not done by a single person, it's usually many staff who collude with each other, from production, to sales, to finance, even top management. There was a year I overhauled management 3 times in a year.........
But me, I've found a solution sha, I now use Indian management. So competent, so honest and so straightforward. I thought they were expensive at first with all the visa fees, accommodation, house staff, but now that losses due to staff theft have been reduced to a minimum, and efficiency increased, the Indian management has turned out to be cheaper than the previous Nigerian management. Now, all sensitive positions involving money go to Indians. Nigerians are only allowed in non-sensitive positions. I used to criticize companies like Dangote Group that hire so many Indians when there are many unemployed Nigerians, but now, I understand their decision.

My biggest challenge in the trading business is the same, getting honest staff. The form of trading occurs in the open market, and involves staff having access to huge sums of money running into a few millions. I know how much I pay to security companies to provide escorts for the staff, not to prevent robbery, but to ensure that the staff go straight to the bank to deposit the money after the day's sales and not disappear with my money. This money spent on security companies is even enough to be declared as profit. We have to spend on CCTV, biometric scanners and other things that wouldn't be needed if staff weren't looking for the slightest opportunity to steal.

It got so bad at a point that my main criteria for employing staff was no longer competency but honesty. At least, competency and skills can be learnt, but once you're dishonest, you're dishonest.

We always complain of the economy and how there are no jobs. I know people abroad who would have loved to set up job creating businesses in Nigeria but they can't because they can't get any trustworthy person to run it.

I know people in Nigeria with so much money, they want to start factories and other job-creating businesses but they can't because they are occupied elsewhere and can't get any trustworthy person to run the business. So instead of investing in the real sector and creating jobs, they'll just buy treasury bills, while the thieves are shouting no jobs.

Many big businesses would have been born in Nigeria if we could engage in partnerships, but we cant because you can't trust anyone. This is one advantage the Indians and Lebanese have over us in Nigeria. They can pull resources together and do mega-business, unlike Nigerians that because only one person must do everything since we can't partner, end up with small, tiny businesses.

Start a poultry and they will be stealing your eggs. Some will even go ahead to be killing the chickens so that they'll be allowed to take them home.

Start an entertainment/viewing/game center and they'll be pocketing your money. On the days you're around at the business, the money realized will be x10 of the money realized when you're not around..... Because they're eating your money.

Lease out a vehicle to a driver to use and watch as he'll finish you.

Start a restaurant, the same thing will happen. More than half of the total food ingredients will end up in their personal kitchens.

Even ordinary provisions shop, they will find a way to steal.

You'll see them with that their evil, wicked saying "na where person dey work, na there e dey chop, na e make dem dey callam workchop/workshop"...... Just imagine, justifying theft at work.

And you'll see these people point their crooked fingers at politicians when they're not any different. I usually say the reason most Nigerians haven't stolen billions of government money, is simply lack of opportunity.

*On every level, Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria*.


If the truth wanna kill the online fraudsters and criminals we have on Nairaland,
you guys should better die now.
We will continue to hit your head as much as we can with the truth and be against your fraudulent lifestyle ALWAYS.
For all the scams you have scammed innocent people all over the world, and they end up committing suicide or becoming homeless, and y'all here thinking you are living large, kid you not, you will never enjoy that fraudulent money, it will lead you to your grave soonest. (You can keep hating honest, and hardworking members on this forum, but some of us will continue to kill you with the truth.)
Only if God doesn't exist.
Thieves, Barawos everywhere.



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GREED!!!

When we say we are our own problem they start grumbling.....

Okay listen to these examples:

1. You sell chicken and add over 40% profit ,you are happy forgetting that the person that bought the chicken sells tomatoes and pepper.

2. The tomatoes and pepper seller has to recover the excess she paid for the chicken, so she adds her own 42% profit margin.

3. Teacher will come and buy these 2 items with what? She has no other alternative than to increase lesson fees or school fees.

4. You will go and rent house from a landlord who has paid excess for cement, sand, chicken, tomatoes and pepper, lesson fees, how will he meet up if not by increasing his house rent by 60%.

And the circle continues, it is not about dollars, dollars is just an excuse, abi wetin concern garri, beans and yam with dollars.

The problem is you and I and our excessive greed.



Only a fraudster or criminal will be wailing about our above post.
We hope you ain't one of them kiddo?
If so, we understand your weeping about the honest truth.
No wonder you are your fellow children are always wailing and in serious pains reading our posts here.
The earlier, the better for you.
Advice from the elders



Sure we do get the good ones among the youths.


Only sane, honest and hardworking Nairalanders like you will definitely like our answers and comments,
Not the miserable fraudsters aka, children of hate, frustrations and perdition that abound here.
God bless your legit hustle man.
It will end in praise for you.


Addendum:
The below are screenshots from a very recent party we went to grill Barbecue for one of our clients we met on Nairaland,
And the below are the amount of meats the food caterer hired for the event stole, ready to take home with her.
After telling people at the party that beef has finished!
(After being paid close to 2 Million Naira for her catering job!!)
A picture speaks more than a thousand words.
Shame on her and her online criminals here.....

Truly, your kind of experiences are the reasons why the present generation of youths are gradually becoming jobless & losing their credibility. I pray each and everyday to meet people like you who values honesty & pays honest workers too. In our days now, honest people are been victimised by colleagues or edged out by employers with the excuse of being "too strict or disrespectful". Most employers want you to be honest to them but cunny or dubious to clients..., if you dare to deviate, you get victimised & kicked out. So how can one balance this scale of inequality?

In summary, your write up is practically on point!

GOFRONT:
The petitioner is just like our proverbial Politicians who love to amass Fleet of cars without using them and they dont want others to make use.

I think the judge should provide a Palliative for the respondent to cushion the effect of withdrawal of the car, cos it truely belong to the petitioner.

Case dismissed, my lord!
You objection is sustained...

casualobserver:
The same man you accuse of having an islamization agenda, you accuse of trying to repeal sharia law! Which is which? The truth is ElRufai is under attack for being an unconventional northern politician. El Rufai for instance is one of the few northern politicians in support of devolution of power and true federalism.

I am a Christian, he merely stated a fact, so long as Muslims are in the majority, they will continue to rule Kaduna just like we say everyday that so long as those the Ibos insult everyday are in the majority they will continue to rule Nigeria. The majority can rule forever and be fair to the minority. The minority have no divine right to blackmail the majority to power. You want power you earn it and in a democracy, so long as you are a minority your ascention to power is at the pleasure of the majority not by blackmail.

I stand with El Rufai. Nigerians are allergic to thee truth and forthright people.

You've said it all as a "Casual observer" that you are. The petions on El-rufai is beyond cheap black mails as you tag it; only the people who lived in Kaduna or Abuja during his tenure can relate to those 'factual' petitions.

It's one thing to be a leader and another to be a 'divisive leader' which is far from being controversial..

You're a realist...I love your advice; that is exactly what he ought to do

"...Mr Sunday Okpara and his accomplice, one Mr Rasaq Abdulrahaman Dabiri."

That statement above has proven that corruption has no tribe nor religion. This should be a lesson to those who are losing friends and winning enemies in tje name of partisan politics.

What a pity....? FRSC Officer no go school; yet im wan upgrade...No Be Juju be dat?

concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

My brother...please, let her go, in a very short time you'll bounce back. A relation of mine fell into a similar situation and after marrying her after reconciliation the lady became a disaster to him in their marital home.

charlesdinho7:
inasmuch that this story is a cooked one, it is very funny. lol. if i were you, i would have bought like 100 cups for 1k

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Dis wisdom na Zacheaus own ooh

Hmmmm....this one heavy ooh but e no hard to make amends, I don jam dis kan mata taya..

Well, it'll be best you use this opportunity to RIGHT your WRONG and equally draw her attention to her "temporary sales boy".

Kindly return her balance to her and make her know you did it intentional so as to make her realize that the little boy is not reliable and if you don't really have a conscience you won't return back to remit the balance to her directly.

The reason being that if you give her back the money tactically, you only cleared your conscience but other customers will still do worse to her using the boy's mistake as an opportunity. Honestly, you won't need to hide away from the young boy whenever you intend passing around there.

Lastly, you'll end up winning her trust and the boy's respect for correcting him and returning his sales.

Remember; 'the young shall grow'.

Hmmm..., I know it's painful but please kindly overlook until you get there. My reason is if he can still send some money down to "motherland" for your upkeep and basic bills then I must say he is responsible. If I were you, I won't even confront him even with the evidence until I get there and monitor his lifestyle.

...what if he decides he won't invite you over to join him; will you divorce him or beat him?

I'm not supporting his actions/inactions but we need to be rational in our thinking especially when family is involve.

LoveEtRomance8:
I am married to a good woman. Its not like she was a vir-g!n when we got married but we both used to enjoy cez during our courtship and after wedding. My wife matches my cezual energy, I am one of the lucky ones. There is never a time I want cez that she turn me down. In fact, our cez life was very sweet. We do it every day and anytime. She is fun and spontaneous and I loved her for it.


However, something happened when she got pregnant. Due to her pregnancy, she would urinate very frequently as most pregnant woman do. That made her have a smell around her vag-!na which repulsed me. I had to tell her that anytime she goes to urinate, she has to wash with soap before I made love to her. Which she tries to do but I still noticed a faint smell around her even when we are not making love.

My wife explained that, sometimes, a small wee can come out of her uncontrollable…this made her clothes smell. I guess I have a super sensitive nose. I could not stand it…it turned me down…I started refusing to make love…this did not go down well with my wife cos even though she was pregnant…she was also very active cezually. I noticed that even when she washed up…maybe its my thinking…I don’t last as long as before…maybe I am thinking the p-vzzy is not as clean even though she cleaned it. I find myself coming under few minutes.

This made our lovemaking quite uninteresting…I practically avoided cez , most times until my wife gave birth. I was looking forward to her giving birth ,..especially after six weeks so we can resume our active cez life cos I have missed fvkkcing my wife the way it was before the pregnancy. I was totally disappointed when we tried to make love after the six weeks after giving birth.

As we tried to make love…I discovered that due to the size of our child when my wife gave birth…her v@g!na has become loose even after some stitches were done to close up her v@g!na. But the thing is no longer as tight as before. Infact…its like a big sea and I cannot feel myself anytime I try to pen-3trate her. This is so frustrating to both of us. When I told her what the issue was, she became emotional…saying I am ungrateful…after she gave me a son, I expect her vag!na to remain the same...
Read more...
https://pbeaz.com/pregnancy-changed-everything-my-wife-can-no-longer-satisfy-me-please-advice/

Are you truly a human being?
You better ask God for mercy and accept your wife with excess love.

I understand how you feel but sometimes you can't help it especially when your man is the ambitious type or goal-setting kind of person.

Please, try and iron out this issue with him. Communication in marriage is one essential tool that couples frown at but it really matters...

FreeSpirited:
Yes I understand....
She's right
The doll is merely a container or dwelling place for the demon she actually shares relationship with...
And what do you expect a demon to do than to make her life miserable....
..
These things are not ordinary. Inanimate objects are usually the best container for demon to reside and exercise influence on who ever have attachment with it....
.
Look closely and critically at the doll again, what does your discernment tell you about it....it's not different from the deity and idols we, Africans, worship in shrine and secret places...
Difference is that she uses our modern language to call it a doll

I agree with you 100%, there is truly more in the spiritual than the physical in her condition

This heartless woman deserves a similar treatment too.

Rest In Peace young girl...humanity failed you

....this is just a future tense; there is no cause for tantrumsor arguements from anybody "to have dollar..." the situation has not happened yet.

Let's learn to understand certain things not engage in political aarguements

Hello,

Your story is quite pathetic but the only way out is 'personal prayers and determination'. I have been in similar shoes as yours before and one thing I used in consoling myself then was 'I rather don't get the employment than get one that will claim my life, steal my peace or mare my body or image for life.'

I lost friends who made it to N.D.A to become officers at Maiduguri all in their prime, a few custom officers who happened to be my peers gone too...then, it looked as if I was never going to be employed but God has been faithful.

With so many disappointments, yet the ones I later got gave me bases to be recommended for another job on referral and they have enabled me build more contacts.

Please, if you believe in God kindly remind Him in your prayers to give you not just any job but one that won't steal your peace.

Kindly dust yourself up and don't let depression hold the best part of you (your thoughts) down. I bet you one day you will come here to tell us your success stories

What a shame?
..., just imagine the statement of an elder stateman
"not one of them (hostages) hurt..." what about those we lost during the attack? This government is truly insensitive to the plight of the common masses.

I pray and hope our generation gets it's right whenever and in whatever capacity the mantle leadership beckons on us.

Did you give them vitamins before and after the Lasota Vaccine administration?

Did you strictly follow the dosage of the administration?

Did you validate the chlorine concentration in the water so as to know the quantity of milk to use?

I don't know who you are but, may God bless you for this statement and as a woman that you are...MAY YOUR CHILDREN OR HUSBAND NEVER BE REMINDED TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU OR GIVE YOU THAT BENEFITS WHICH YOU DESERVE. AMEN

Honestly, not every woman can reason and comment like this.

This is practically a cross breed between LAHSA and FOX TERRIER. You can verify on google for their behaviourial instincts.

Hmmm....I can relate to what you're currently facing because I've been in similar shoes before, but I don't know why all this 'Hospitality Managers' like living fake life. A few of them even get to abuse their complimentary priviledge.

The truth is just make up your mind to pay because if you press him too much, he may get to pay but at the end still look for a means to set you up on the job..., no matter how hard working or smart you may be.

I'll advise you to meet him & tell him you've realised your mistake but he should kindly break the bill in instalments for you so that there will be something left from your salary.

Sorry about that....kindly see this as a practical lesson for the future.

engdickson@gmail.com

Please, the link to apply

...it's like you know of someone who has fallen victim of their gimmicks before.

Nothing wey man no go hear for Naija

This News is very real..., these villages are about 6Km from my work place & 3Km to 4Km from Kaduna International Airport . This operation took place between friday & saturday. We were hearing gun shots and bomb blasts during the day barely 4 hours after NA troops passed.

Kudos to Nigerian Army!
Thank God!

Rest In Peace young lady.

Your lecturers failed you
Our leaders failed you
Your statesmen who were supposed to encourage you; murdered you in cold blood

Nigerians, we need a revival in our land

Sorry Ma'am, this reminds me of my cousin brother during his teen days. Kindly trick them to a police station (Divisional) to be precise & detain them for 48 Hours with the police cooperation & when you're ready to bail them; let the DPO force them to write an undertaking of '2 copies' with all your conditions stated. 1 copy for you & the other to be filed in the station. I bet you, they will regain their senses back after this experience & you'll realize why police is 'truly' your friend.

It has been my aunty's practice as a widow of 3 years then & it really worked for her till they all grew up and became responsible men in the society.

Hahaha...

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Flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you. Thou hast received the gift of foresight, go ye therefore and prophesy to the world.

This I have seen.

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