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Sixfeetbelle:
Why visit 20 times and not bring bread even once? Who does that?

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Lol...i mean if he brings 19 times and didnt bring for once out of the 20times, everyone will complain

luminouz:
Lashist don vex

Don't take stuffs here too serious. I don't.

Vex ke...its just funny how some people think their bf money is suddenly theirs

Sixfeetbelle:
Okay. I'll do that. I'll bring gifts for everybody I visit.

You should endeavor to not take gifts with you when you visit anybody, no matter who they are to you. You don't want their entitlement mentality to manifest, do you?

You still dont get it ..e be like you are part of those naija girls that are slow and empty upstairs ..carrying gifts no be by force...i can choose to do it or not but I'll be irritated when you say i must do that or when you get angry i didnt bring bread...i read where u said carrying gifts to parent will make them know if he is stingy or caring. So by ur own standards, if he visits 20times and doesnt give una bread just once, he becomes stingy. Its poverty that is the problem here and not courtesy

WILLuKPquiet:
The Foolishness you inherited from the animals you call parents is what made you type this nonsense to me.
The lady that falls for you would think she has gotten a reasonable person until your insanity starts manifesting the day you will visit her parents.
Just make sure you take your drugs so as not to dey lick the plates used in serving you with your tongue.

Lol...oh so you have seen proof now and have decided to be stupid since nothing dey ur empty head. Imagine an elder insulting people's parents...i no go insult yours but I dont think ur parents would be proud of an idiot like you when they read how you say things without reading and understanding properly. Do your generation a favour and dont bore any child cus he will hate you as a son for wanting to pass your foolishness to him through your sperm. Udo

Sixfeetbelle:
Not to all wedding attendance, no, as I didn't know some of the people but family friends, yes. I know them.

Going by your standards, you have failed because you suppose to carry gifts to any person you visit whether neighbors, all weddings. You didn't give gifts in all your visits but you want all your visitors you give you bread...you try

WILLuKPquiet:
You must be the son of Lie Muhammed. Go back to the OP's post and point out where it was written he has been going there before with gifts. Must you lie to make a point?

The whites who says "you shouldn't have brought this" are saying it for courtesy. The same courtesy that demands he brings a gift no matter how small.

Stinginess and irresponsibility are running in your vain and I bind every such spirits in you this year.

Kid always leave matters of this kind to your elders to treat.
This matter is way too big for your reasoning.

Olodo read well next time..even for the first time, no be by force to carry biscuits there...its when you lack basic things you will start complaining that ur gf or bf didnt bring you bread and biscuits. Foolish hungry elder like you..better go and make money and stop expecting bread from visitors everytime . No elder with sense will get a moniker like yours...you are either a small broke jambite or a foolish elder that is looking for small gifts like bread and biscuits for every visit

Sixfeetbelle:
It's your perspective, finally. If you like, when you visit people, show up empty-handed. I won't do it. If the people are hungry or rich, it doesn't matter to me as my gift is what I make of it, not what they make of it.

Simple...its a thing of choice not a must...will you swear that you carried gifts in all your visits and wedding attendances in your life. Every single one of them?

WILLuKPquiet:
Will u keep quiet!

The same irresponsibility that is worrying the guy is what is worrying you.
Why do the whites go with a box of chocolate, bottle of wine or even a bunch of flowers.

You went to greet your in-laws empty handed and yet you were offered Coke and you drank it.
If I were him I would not drink that Coke. So, it would be a goalless draw.

Guys like you be calling the woman and her daughter poor. And what if they are poor? Is it a crime to be poor?
Didn't the guy see them as poor before dating the lady?
Must the poor woman use her last 100naira to entertain an irresponsible guy and he still shamelessly drank it and stood up to say goodbye ma.

Guy don't jump on my mention next time.

Read properly next time and obey your moniker. The same white people will tell you "you shouldnt have brought that box of chocolate cus they weren't expecting it. He is not their in-law yet and he has taken gifts to them before...expecting gifts every single time is entitlement mentality. So once he calls her on phone, he should quickly recharge her line cus she spoke to her

BusinessCity:
Enjoy.

Flex

Sixfeetbelle:
I can decide to not give my visitor a cup of water based on my state of mind. It's still courtesy but I know how it would be perceived. Same is applicable to the visitor coming to my house.

Madam every visitor is not suppose give you biscuits everytime they come greet you...it depicts excessive hunger....if you want to give them water to drink, your cup of tea but dont expect them to bring you bread and biscuits...Just imagine your mentality. Person wey end up with you will put up with alot of rubbish

NeoWanZaeed:
Checking the c0mments. . It shows and proves that NL consist of 98% kids and stupid adults. THIS IS NOT A MATTER OF RICH OR POOR. . this is a matter of common sense. How would u go visit ur in_law EMPTY HANDED? EVEN if ur inlaw is otedola and u go visit him empty handed. .IT SHOWS U LACK ALL RESPECT AND MANNER. . thats what it means in our land here in AFRICA. OP, ur guy needs to apologize to ur mum. . Thats if he loves u truly

You are one of the stupid adults...where did he become their in-law. When did it become a must to carry gifts when visiting your date's mum every single time. Then tell us where a parent like otedola got angry because his daughter's bf didnt bring him gifts

Sixfeetbelle:
It's not about being broke. It's about courtesy

Courtesy is about being polite not bringing gifts...one can still bring gifts and misbehave..so if ur bf brings bread and fruits and misbehaves and speaks rude to your mum, the goodies he brings covers up for everything. Bringing gifts doesnt mean you have courtesy...there are somethings you might expect but when it doesnt come, shame no suppose allow you complain about am...its courtesy to offer a visitor a cup of water or what you have(that's if you have) not for visitor to bring bread by force...even if you dont have your offer a visitor, he no suppose complain..learn this today

BusinessCity:
You'll be a parent someday or someone beneath you would accord you without honour, then you'll understand. Your promptness to abuse me without any direct attacks against you speaks about your age, formative processes and character. I wish you well.

Shut up is never an abuse...its the internet so i should not detect your age from your moniker before i say shutup. Almost everyone has been accorded without honor at some point..i have had my own share and it didn't make me feel so sad..i hope you just know that bringing gifts to your bf/gf home is never a must..i wish you well too

Sixfeetbelle:
I'm not saying quarreling for the guy was the best approach, she did wrong on that. She should have been calm and used wisdom to tell him. But the guy did wrong in coming empty-handed too. I don't visit family friends empty-handed. I wasn't raised like that and I expect my fiancé to have that at the back of his mind.

Oh..you and your fiance were not raised the same way and you should not blame him if he doesnt have entitlement mentality...you are a lady with entitlement mentality...what you have failed to know is that bringing bread is good but not by force...a bad man will bring bread and the mum will be happy but he might be beating her in private...the mum should have been looking out for his composure and other good attributes to know if the guy is a good guy or not...expecting gifts from bf visits reeks of hunger and poverty mentality...ur bf doesnt owe ur family anything cus he is dating you...if you want to give his family gifts everyday, na ur cup of tea. I won't even want my gf to want to think its a must to bring gifts since im not broke to that extent

BusinessCity:
I'm telling you. Just fruit mixtures orange, Apple, mangoes, pineapple and a bottle of non alcoholics wine 800 Naira is enough. The woman was on her own o. It was him that said he wanted to go pay homage.

Shutup...visits doesnt mean bringing gifts...cant one go and visit and greet someone without giving bread and fruits..is she sick that OP must bring mangoes for her to lick...can u swear with your life that u visits your friends everytime with fruits

Sixfeetbelle:
No, it isn't about the gift. It's the thought.

Thoughts of what if i may ask??..the OP quarrelled with her bf because the guy didn't come bearing gifts like he is part of the 3 wise men. What thought are you saying or are trying to say what the little girl and her mum did is very right??. Op should better go and shake bottom for Ned so he can give her mum cars and houses which will make her mum proud

Sixfeetbelle:
But he didn't bring #250 bread nah.

Yes...some leeches were saying he should have brought 250# bread for his gf mum...so na the 250# bread dey vex mum and daughter

Mariangeles:
Tell that to those who want your "materials"



He didn't do anything wrong, but he did something shameful according to Igbo culture. Ihe ihere.

And no, culture can not be left out when it involves your in-laws.

Bros you too lie. There is no place in igbo tribe where not bringing gifts is shameful.

Mariangeles:
I don't know about the others, but in my tribe (Igbo), that's how things are done.
You don't go to your in-laws bare handed.
It is not an act to be proud of.

Shurup bros...you are not the only igbo here...its not a must to give gifts if you dont deem it fit...and they are not yet his in-laws yet...250# bread should not make the mum angry

Id prefer to vote this one than any APC and PDP idiot

NGpatriot:
Going to the moon is of Zero relevance to me and billions of people all the world with their own day to day priorities in life.

The moon did not prevent the absurdity, the unclothedness, the violence, the primitive and embarrassing insanity broadcasted to the world yesterday.

Question or look for your own sense before saying anything about other people's sense.

Lol...you are looking for relevance in the world today?...how has naija done something relevant...mental slavery is doing you...when bubu leaves seat, you can lick his ass till u die but make sure you dey gain something valid

Eriggs:
God bless President Buhari.
When it comes to infrastructures, give it to Baba PMB.
No President in the history of Nigeria has done half of what he is doing during his tenure.
And the good thing is that Baba is doing all this all.over the country, even in the state of the people that curse him day and night with their smelly stupid mouths.

If my post pain ur papa, go jump inside lagoon,
I no say some people wey dey answer d name pig, go soon dey wail on top my genuine and true comment now.

Lol..wetin make ur comment genuine and true...so if your papa disagree with your foolishness, na also pig??

Queenslander:
what a load of crappy tale.. my dear you watch too many horror movies.. if you believe this attention seeker's story, then you can actually believe I'm Celine Dion...

Celine dion how va

Bandits wey dem no fit arrest. Why dont kaduna governor go and demolish the bandits hideouts...govt of jokes, by jokes and for jokes . As he don win 2nd tenure, he no even send citizens again including those idiots calling politicians darling daddy and licking their asses

CalliDora1:
Oh, that...

What can I say?

Say no more bro

CalliDora1:
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Well??

I mean your darling daddy bubu is indeed working hard for the poor masses right??