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Pukkalolo:
My homie stared deeply at his lunch as if what he was about to say next was written on the food; he wasn’t feeling hungry anymore. I sat and wait for him to continue his heartbreak lamentation.

He continued,


Wow, ladies are scums my homie said. "I gave Stella money for her hair constantly. I gave her for stipend weekly...I also assisted in paying her house rent... I'm always there for her whenever she needs me..."

Then he paused a bit to let out an exhale.

"Continue… I'm listening," I said.

He continued, "Recently, we had little misunderstanding. And now, despite all I've done for Stella, she's now giving me unnecessary attitude and treating me anyhow she likes. She's now going out with different men. On chat, anything I say to her she replies with 'K, lol, 'hmm'.... I really feel frustrated and heartbroken, please I need your advice."

The advice I gave him was pretty much straightforward— just the advice Elisha gave Naaman in the Old Testament, "Go, wash yourself seven times in the Jordan, and your flesh will be restored and you will be cleansed."
But Naaman went away angry and said, "I thought that he would surely come out to me and stand and call on the name of the LORD his God, wave his hand over the spot and cure me of my leprosy. Are not Abana and Pharpar, the rivers of Damascus, better than any of the waters of Israel? Couldn't I wash in them and be cleansed?" So Naaman turned and went off in a rage.

The advice I gave my homie was similar. My advice was, "leave her alone, and go woo 10 other girls in seven days, and keep improving yourself (finance, looks, muscle, style and social life)"

And just like Naaman, he replied ruthlessly, "I thought that you'd give me a nice pickup line to say to her or you'd tell me what I will do to her that will make her instantly change her behavior towards me... What do you mean I should leave her alone and go woo 10 other ladies? Did I tell you I'm interested in other ladies? I want only Stella. I don't want any other lady."

Then he stood up and walk away in disappointment. I just smiled and as I watched him walked away.

The advice doesn’t make sense to him; same way Elisha advice didn’t make sense to Naaman. Sometimes, the advice that will probably workout for you and bring out unexpected and amazing results are the advice wouldn’t make sense to you at first.

After about 10 minutes, while I was preparing to leave, he came back and sat down with me again.

He said, "Ok I have changed my mind. I want to follow your advice. I'll leave Stella alone and go woo 10 other ladies in 7 days."

I said, "Don't just go and talk to 10 other ladies... Talk to the 10 other ladies using the Shameless Approach."

He said, "What's the Shameless Approach?"

I sent him a copy to read.

I said, "After reading it, go and talk to 10 other girls using the approach, and let me know how it went."



Few weeks later, he gave me fantastic news. He told me that now Stella desperately wants him back but now, he’s the one now playing hard to get— because now he’s busy with other ladies. And he now interact with Stella differently.
And he's now busy with his career and life.

When a guy misbehaves to lady or doesn't do what she wants him to do, what does the lady tends to do?

Yes, you guessed right!

She tends to respond by withdrawing sex and affection from him or she totally ignores him or start giving monotonous responses like "hmm" or "K"...
This is her own way of exercising her female power. This is her own way of misbehaving.

But think of it, what power does a lady have if her man can boldly go and woo 10 or more other ladies until he gets a date?

There are many fishes in the water. When a lady start misbehaving towards her man, if he can quickly leave her alone, and go woo other girls and focus on improving his life, then most of his dating issues will be solved.

That's the idea.

For ladies, the idea sound scary because she expects this dude to beg and plead when she withdraw her sex, affection or attention from him, but instead he quickly leaves her alone, and go woo 10 and more other girls in 7 days; these strips her of the power she preciously has: her sexual companionship.


For guys, this idea is both liberating and scary because it forces them to be strong enough to leave a lady alone once she starts misbehaving and be bold enough to go woo other ladies immediately.

When I give guys this advice, they are always was astonished and at the same time unimpressed. They be like, “Is that it?”
I say, “Yes, when a lady start misbehaving, just quickly leave her alone, and go talk to other 10 and more other girls using the Shameless Approach.”

They give me fearful responses like,

“Won’t she think that I don’t love her?”
Or


“Won’t think am an asshole, bad boy or player”


My response is,

“Who cares what she thinks…Be a MAN and stop acting like a simp. If a lady start misbehaving towards you, stop crying, lamenting or complaining; just leave her alone, and go woo other ladies; and keep improving yourself (finance, looks, muscle, style and social life). This will probably solve most of your dating issue in the long run."


If you are wondering what shameless Approach is, read this nairaland post
https://www.nairaland.com/6817409/how-stole-girl-guy-birthday

or check my profile.

KingOfTheDamned:
Now I understand your situation. You never completed university ypu dropped out of school and entered the streets wearing red clothes and claiming to be a viking on the streets while robbing innocent people like the petty thief you are

It's your type blackaxe use to count scores. Better go and find something to do before you are killed in your foollery

tonididdy:
... what if the generosity was staged knowing fully well how gullible nigerians can be.

jetwonder:
if for say I be gay, I for tear that your bum bum. nonsense!

Osibajo2023:
watch ur mouth, I am old enough to be ur Dad

Pastorjohn2:
1.2m for school fees when the child will still learn worldly things?

Why not offer that to God and sow seed for ever lasting salvation

Truly this generation is damned to hell.

Naijayouth:
Safe journey.
Keep on looking for the riches that is right at your backyard.

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TechNana:
I don't know why you stopped where you stopped,

But I know I couldn't help but wonder why you described me this much?

Goalsniper:
You just described my fiancee like you got her 97% of her personality and her type of woman.

compton11:
So sad

All these scammers of a pastors didn't see sign on this.

TOPCRUISE:
I don't know who will win. But all I know is that Sallah will score. That I can predict

EniHolar:
Time up!

The Egyptians you see today, you will see no more!

Akiara:
Mother and elder son have accommodated the Skull of their own innocent sibling. Is that not generational wickedness perpetuated by the most uselessly foolish set of people that claim to be suffersticated?

How can you kill someone you see everyday

someone you send on errands everyday

so, it means that the child was already condemned even in the midst of those that claim to love him!!!..Habs na...THIS IS WICKEDNESS!!

In Grave desecration...Na DEM

In Skull harvesting...Na Dem

In Human Organ trafficking ...Na Dem

In having specific price for Human Parts ...Na DEM.

and this same miscreants will come online to insult IGBO people and call them naes??...Dan Banza Afonja ...Tufiakwa!!

SultanOfAbia:
If beards are so evil
Jesus would have shaved his beards naa

shawante:
The beard made up for the loss of hair on his head na

eleojo23:
Many kids in adult bodies.

For every one marriage that crashes, there are ten other marriages doing well but they are not on social media.

when done correctly is a beautiful thing.

These celebrities will not ruin everything for us.

caesymore:
Lolz.

Mhen... Why we no go believe?

Tiwa who knows what it feels like bringing a secret to the open.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
None of my business cos I only know
Mynd44
Seun
Lalasticlala
Dominique
So that you keep screaming needs to introduce himself..

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Don't you think it's too small tho?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Cos they are coming for you..

ccollins:
hello, u looking good

Vilgax:
you're on a path that'll either send you into an abyss of existential dread or will set you free.

may your road to self actualization be rough.

BIZNess123:
Who told you am broke..

Am taking abt God blessing me
With lots of money am talking abt millions bro

FarahAideed:
You must be gay