₦airaland Forum

Kollyk11:
I left my comfort zone in this tinubu regime and came to lagos of all state so as to be with her,she never stepped her foot into my house till today.anytime i remember i dey always vex for my self

OdefaGirl:
Una well done ooo.... Nigerian online Alpha males, na una know the category of women una dey talk about because, me and some of us no send men. I make friends both genders and I present my worth even before I was married, I was too busy to double date. To go out on dates na war cz I don't wanna "eat" your money. I spoil myself in little ways I could.

I've benefited more from women, all the good jobs I have ever had were given to me by women. I won't say I haven't asked a man for favour, I do, if you want... You grant me, if you don't want, you decline... It's your choice.
I borrowed some huge amounts from 4 men last year for a business and paid back within the time I promised to, that's keeping your dignity and respect. Not feeling entitled there by bringing yourself down.

No nah, those that know me physically... knows how kind hearted and respectful I am to everyone and how strict I can be at same time.

So I marvel at the way most of you generalizes your sick experiences.

Talismann:
no woman, I repeat no woman will ever love you unconditionally. It has never and will never work that way. Even your own biological mother will dance to the tune of that child who provides the more for her. Don't allow anyone deceive you. As a man, it's better you live with that truth or die in self denial. Even God will despise you if you can't solve issues in his house or useful to him.

Now that being said, there a few real, trustworthy ladies.but the paragraph above is still engrained in their DNA regardless.

As a man what to do. You need to make money, you need to keep working hard. A man paying his bills earns serious respect from everyone.

Once you can't pay the bills, even your dog will whine and grind it's teeth at you when you can't buy it's food.

Avoid gold diggers btw, you should get a woman who is purposeful and going in the same direction with you obviously. But live with the fact that the moment you can't provide anymore, things will likely go wrong.

One love

FitCorper:
Giving my commitment too early, but I learnt d hard way, now I only show care until I Bleep u, then I’m back to lone mode, if u like call me 50 times or cry blood professing hw much u love me, I go just de look u de sip my monkey tail. If u mumu finish u go find another guy deceive. My biggest fear is that I may never love again, I just take people as they are and the biggest way to make me run is talking about love or relationship. My guy said I’m experiencing the hoe phase.

Ruke1991:
Buying expensive things for any woman or throwing cash at them is the biggest mistake any man can make in this life or in the life after. Allow women to struggle and pay their personal bills alone, so that the stress can help them break the follow-come coconut in their brain. Until that coconut is broken, women cannot know the dignity of labour and their brain can never be useful

ClassicEvilSpir:
I thought I was impressing her by giving her things, meanwhile there were bigger simps giving her more. Nowadays, I invest less, but receive more. Women do not respond to logic most times.

Swealy:
Hello People

Honest Question:
Is it ever okay to lie about your experience to get a job?

In today’s highly competitive job market, some people stretch the truth—or even fabricate experience—to land opportunities. While integrity is important, others argue that sometimes, getting your foot in the door is the only way to prove yourself.

i have a colleague who was at a final interview for a company willing to sponsor him and his family for a software engineer role but did not have the required experience in a certain area, should he have lied or spoken the truth !

"The Job That Slipped Through His Fingers"
A few months ago, I got a solid job offer for someone I know—let’s call him Tunde. It was in Owerri, at a 4-star hotel, paying ₦600,000/month, and accommodation was fully covered. The role wasn’t just a job; it was a clear career step up—structured environment, opportunity for growth, and peace of mind far away from the Lagos grind.

I reached out to him immediately. "Guy, this is your chance. A clean break. You’ve been job hunting in Lagos for over a year, and here's something solid."

But his response?

"Leave Lagos and go to Owerri? Bro, I no fit. I don’t know anybody there. What if I can’t cope? Wetin I go do for there? At least here, I sabi the environment."

I understood his fear—new environments can be intimidating, especially when you're used to the hustle and madness of Lagos. But I told him clearly:

“Fear is natural, but so is growth. You can’t stay stuck in one place just because it’s familiar.”

Unfortunately, he passed on the opportunity. I tried to nudge him again, but he kept hesitating… until the hotel moved on and hired someone else.

Today, he’s still job hunting in Lagos. Still attending interviews, still waiting for that ‘perfect’ opportunity that fits his comfort zone.
Meanwhile, the guy who took the Owerri job has already been promoted to assistant manager.

🧠 Lesson?
Sometimes, your breakthrough won’t come from where you are—you’ll have to step into a new space, uncomfortable as it may seem.

Opportunities don’t always wait for you to feel ready.
Sometimes, you have to go scared. You have to go uncertain. But most importantly—you have to go.

Chegesnd:
How would bring the body to the morgue without dropping any hint with the attendants.
- their division
- where he was picked up
- picked up dead or alive
- how they got the info about him
- possible items found on him
etc, etc.

FriendsAndFans:
I was checking on job application portals and surfing through Google then a thought stike me.
Is it possible to become very rich working for people in private sectors or as a civil servant?
How long do you think a man can work to climb the ladder of hierarchy and attain wealth? Those were the questions that came to my mind.

Then at a point, I felt like maybe Life isn't about becoming rich but just working and fitting into the society. But if you have been through the struggles and difficulties I have passed through, you'll understand why working for money is important.

I need the money to start my own passion and business, but what happens when fund inflow comes to a halt and the business is yet to pickup?

A lot of thoughts like that keep spinning through my brain. How long do I have to work to save enough and put my life on track?
I'm not even bothered about starting a family at the moment, (that would have made my situation complicated if I already had kids).

I will be working and praying maybe one of the children will become rich so that I can be asking him for money. Yet those kids too will have their own lives/responsibility to live when they grow up.

To be honest and fair, can only become rich and comfortable on a 8am to 4pm job? Can one be able to save enough or just getting money for survival and endless owing before the end of the month

advanceDNA:
U get ICAN, or ACCA, ISO ??

because Nigerians like professional certification more than degree

I just need your assistance and advice on my career, as I’m trying to navigate it
It’s my dream to work in a well structured environment not all a one man business.

I presently work in a one man business company that happens to be a group of company always opening more subsidy companies in different industries like building construction and procurements, logistics, generating solutions and co and it’s difficult for me to maintain all of them with limited pay
As I speak I am the only accountant there and they have like 5-6 company

I’m finding it hard to land an interview with a well structured organization I don’t know if there’s something I’m not doing right I have 2 years of experience I really want to move to the next level and my financial obligations keeps growing

Vello:
May I ask what's funny here?

Confession Time: Should You Spill the AI Beans or Keep Quiet?

"I've been using AI to fake my way through a job I have zero experience in, and guess what? My bosses are OBSESSED with my 'skills'. I'm talking promotions, raises, and glowing performance reviews. But here's the thing: I'm living on borrowed time. One wrong move, and my whole facade comes crashing down.

So, here's the question: Should I keep the charade going or come clean and risk losing everything?

Share your thoughts– anonymous

Celsony:
Really, can you tell me more please because my mom no approve 2 already and she is suggesting a lady for me.

pimplucious:
Spot on. My mates we graduated together are working and are relatively okay. I think I expected too much with a foreign degree.

ufotty2001:
Marrying to a woman who is so religious and spirituality

dauntless15:
Being too nice and loosing my guard around people, almost everyone I ever trusted stabbed me in the back including those I called family, the betrayal was loud, now I don't have anyone I trust in this life.

Vello:
Marrying a daughter of Jezebel because of pity.

Never marry who your mama no approve. Forget Nollywood nonsense

Blitzking:
Buying luna at 15 dollars 100k naira worth when dollars was 570 or so


Not focusing on my laptop and phone sales business

Not accepting my first set of a Job in lagos

Investing 1800 dollars in a crypto project that was the profit I made by investing 400 dollars ..should have just cashed out and used the money to do other things

Not banging one of my ex in her office..well I didn't have cd on that fateful day before she moved to Uk

Buying a land that my mum advised me to buy..3plots in yewa ogun state that the man needed money for his child school fees he later died and his brother resold the land cos I hardly visited the area.

Selling my 168 solana at 10 dollars cos I needed to pay for wedding hall and other expenses cos everywhere been tight

pimplucious:
Leaving Nigeria for UK for my masters immediately after graduation. Mistake.

zmanto:
His location should also be stated to start with

njokuuche77:
You didn't mention his location for better coverage