MsJackson:
My husband of 10 years just walked out on me for a week now because he said I'm just relaxing in the house without a job. He left me with my 6 year old daughter with nothing. I had to borrow to feed and take care of her because she fell seriously sick and had to be taken to the health centre.
I'm not the type that sits at home and expect only him to fend for the family, I was actually working and earning ok and have been supporting him for years, until I lost the job. Now because I've not been able to secure another, he left me high and dry. I even told him that the year has ended and it's hard to get job placements now, until next year, besides I'm willing to take up teaching again (which I never wanted to go back into, due to my previous bad experiences teaching in schools and very low pay) just to make sure I contribute to the home, but he's still adamant. He gave me the hint that not until I'm able to secure a job, he's not coming back home.
We're not paying rent, only feeding and my daughter's school fees, which I can truthfully say I have been totally contributing to. Especially in the feeding aspect.
He has been avoiding my calls, but I tried putting a call through to him last night because our child needed earnestly to speak to him, he picked and they spoke.
My question are:
- what he did, was it right?
- when he eventually comes back, how should I handle the issue of his leaving?
Because if I allow it pass or don't handle it appropriately, he will think it's okay to always leave when the going gets tough, and will eventually do worse in future.

I am actually more worried about your closing questions.
It tells me you have not even taken a proper appraisal of your situation. Ok let me answer u.
1. What does it matter to u, if we tell u what he did is right or wrong? Does it change ur situation? Or u just want a sense of 'yes he is wrong', then wat? Money will fall down?
2. Y do u assume he will come back? Or even if he does, y assume he will stay?

Change your mindset now to the mindset of:
1. I have got this
2. I will get myself out of this situation and live my best life with or without him.

Then get to work. Cos u have work to do on urself, for u and ur baby's sake.

Im sorry u have to go through this.
Your sisters would have been better in managing this but they are far away.

You can get her another help, however there are also risks to that. They may not last, meaning u keep getting others which ultimately becomes a security risk cos all those helps coming and going know her in and out.

A good caring home for the aged may be the best option if they are available in your location.

On an unrelated note now, a general advise now to the younger. You hardly learn new habits in old age. If u re lazy now that u re young, depending on others to do the simplest of things for you, you will even be lazier and a burden in old age. If u re industrious wen younger and always trying to do ur simple stuffs ur self, u generally will become a self reliant oldie and even last longer. The less active u start becoming in old age, d faster ur body parts wither and ultimately......kapish

Kingozymandias:
He looks 51. That is the problem with Nigerians football = age falsification

Putting his pix side by side with Beckham, does he look 51 to you if Beckham is 41?

adioolayi:
All these seasonings una dey add to curry Christiano Ronaldo goals in 2023 no just cut am..

I am not taking anything away from him, but, in Goal Scored Power Ranking...For every goal scored in 1st tier European League, you will need 2 goals from Arab League to match it.

48 League Goals of Ronaldo = 24 tier 1 European League Goals.

Like he didn't score a whooping 450goals for real Madrid, abi?

You are now in charge not Emefiele. What ever the issues are, fix them. Simple.
That's what u re being paid to do, that's why u were appointed. Fix, fix, fix. Less talk

Without a source, tell me this is a skit

WIZGUY69:
A foool and his money are soon parted


The few times I tried betting/gambling all my life, I didn’t win once. The stench inside and outside gambling locations pisses me off.

Rich/potential wealthy people are not supposed to be found there

@ur last paragraph. They own the betting coys

tivta:
Hmmm

This man is really desperate oh , even though I dislike BAT, Atiku should have allowed Peter Obi carry PDP ticket, well we shall see how it ends...

What are saying? U meant allowed Wike not Obi. His contest was with Wike.

But then, y should he allow another person after winning?? It was a contest, right.

@ op, No where did I read in this write up that u discussed these concerns with your brother. But u have written almost a page to faceless people u don't know to advise u what exactly?
Based on this one sided story?

Pls go have a talk with ur brother first. Tell us exactly what u told him about your situation and food and what/how he responded. Then we can have a proper basis for good advise if any

ChisomGloria:
It is obvious that to provide the highest level of customer service, employees should pay attention to customers and show that they’re accessible and available to clients who come in the door but with a cell phones at work policy in place, employees have guidelines for when they can take breaks and check their phones for calls, texts, social media or news. This reduces distractions and makes the workplace more productive. If cell phones make your employees more productive and to the interest of your customers as below, write policies that acknowledge their use for work while requesting that they use common sense to avoid distractions instead of locking up theirs phones during working hours. This is inhumane in this generation, phone is integral part of modern people life.
How many of you people remember what lead to ENDSARS? Is just searching of phone talk more of denying someone his or her phone for 8hours. This is very sha*meful.
See as this customer lost all her savings!

Same you will come online to write epistle if a customer service person attending to you in a branch keeps answering her phone.

On the topic, there are official lines for such calls that are available 24hrs, there are Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram handles as well. There's even ussd codes for blocking your acct. Familiarize yourself with your bank's emergency handles and do well to use such next time.

Ravenna:


How you go happy?!

When e be say na Yoruba matter you carry for head like Gala.


We the Ooduas are Very Happy for Tobi for her Record achievement.

Anybody wey no happy can enter Lagoon.

There are monikers u don't quote or respond to.

MisterBanny:


So I should keep mute while he enjoys power and I remain in dark?

Whatever u do, don't be going insane as u declared. Peace

wittywriter:
Welcome development ...but why announce the intent rather than practically implement to announce .SMH.


Wittyness

Good news. It's also good to announce intent, so other producer will start working on price reduction as well. All to the benefit Nigerians.

MrAgbako:

Those Igbos brains is fvcked up.
They hate tinubu
They hate dangote


Innoson is an "angel" 😂
Perhaps they would say tinubu should had visited innoson instead😂

Imagine people continually wailing because of the high price of cement and now that something had been done about it are still unhappy because tinubu was the man to get it right and not their failure Obi the Pandora thief 😂🏃

oyebanji44:
Nigerians know wella that people from divided camp will not like this good news.....

U both are even more dangerous to this country than the people u re trying to blame. Inciteful comments never helps anybody, not even u. When I see some comments online I wonder, how do u guys coexist? Don't u have friends form other tribes? Do u go about making inciteful comments to them when u guys meet up or what? How will dat relationship thrive? Abi it's only online u display this?
Some of the best friends I've heard are from other tribes, even other religions and I will always cherish those friendships.
I don't just know how u guys live this way, really. I don't.

@ op
Is this y u re going insane? Try to be calming down pls, nothing dey this life. The thing u re going insane for him to do for u is even illegal bros.

tophempire:
WE ALREADY KNOW.... THINGS ARE ABOUT TO CHANGE.

MY PRAYER IS THAT THE PH REFINERY OBASANJO SAY WON'T WORK TO BEGIN OPERATION IN DECEMBER. AND YOU WILL NO LONGER REFINE FOR US AGAIN.

ALL OUR ILLEGAL REFINERIES BOYS IN CREEKS OF N.D. NOW HAVE JOBS TO DO.

MAKE ASARI DOKUBO SEFF GET WORK😂😂😂

Y do u need to pray for PH refinery to work. Y can't it just work ?? That's the issues of our country. Things that should happen normally, don't.

Well done Presido

Bridget95:
She needs a dignified burial. Egypt 🇪🇬 air should bring her corpse to Nigeria and compensate the family.

Really, on wat basis?

TimT:
I am single... I have a friend who is married. We always hangout at least every weekend... But last weekend, he didn't come around I called but he didn't give me a tangible reason...
So yesterday, he came around my place, I noticed his mood isn't as cheerful as it used to be... I asked, what was wrong?. He said "You Neva marry you no go understand".
He wanted to say more, but I said no need, he shouldn't say anything.. till he left I kept quiet.. I didn't say anything...
So I want to ask o, if na only married person fit give advice to who don marry...

No. However for quality advice, go to an experienced person.

One should not depend on a cobbler for advice about beads.

The only politician more influential than him today is Jagaban himself

Jagaban2012:



All these Nursery school political scope Una dey play on Nairaland or social media....is not for me....I don pass all this baby comments....if you doubt ,
Ask about my Monicker from the" Politics Moderator " He monitor my comments like SSS officials...the my political.indepthness has.made me Political Iroko on so many social media. Platform.....

I wouldn't want to waste my time on you because from all.your comments, it is obvious that you need to be tutored by a political mentor....you suppose to learn how to crawl first before you start jumping like an Obo Lagido....

So what will put food on my table today like dis, is to begin to ask people about u? Pls take care of urself and enjoy the rest of your day. Good bye

Jagaban2012:
NLC is working for Obituary Peter while.NURTW is working for Tinubu Bola....NLC will soon turn to shred because Joe Ajero had turned NLC into. political organization....and we have all. kind of people and political parties affiliation as members of. Nigeria Labour Congress...

NLC will soon shred into pieces.....

Ok, but are you not suffering? Is this present economic situation sweeting you? Are u happy with the palliative collected? Do u think the govt can do better? Are u happy with what has happened to naira? Food prices nko, it's fine with you? Is the essence of strike not to force govt to care/do better?

What will finally finish this country will be politics of tribalism, it makes people blind to their own suffering and problems. More dangerous is the fact that it makes people not to hold leaders accountable simply because na our brother.

I read the statement of the nurtw chairman and I just don't understand. Oga said Nigerians are now struggling to survive and yet nlc should go and sit down because president is from sw. Ok, y are Nigerians struggling to survive now? Isnt it because of subsidy removal plus naira floating all at once
? Govt has saved trillions from this according to them, can't they do better with it to ameliorate the suffering? Can't we at least try and save the naira a bit seeing that we are majorly import dependent?? Isn't all this y people are now struggling to survive and those with means leaving the country in droves? Isn't these y monthly take home Can't take people home anymore? Can't the govt do better to aid their survival??

Politics of tribalism go kill us patapata

Paramount01:




Not 100% correct

I agree with u. Some of the points are a bit misguided.

No 2 for instance. A greater % of wives put their families (parents/siblings) over the man, not the other way round.

Then a lot of the other points- slave mentality/cat mouse, not helping out etc does that exist in modern marriages In this Tinubu economy Which man now wants his wife at home doing only chores All those points seems blown out of proportion, while a few men may still do all that, it's not the majority.

The painful part of this will be that this man may have borne all the financial obligations to make this trip happen...flights, visa/application fees, sch fees, etc and may probably have left a good job/business to join her.
Japa is very capital intensive, to lose it all this way....I can't even begin to imagine it

Well, with the improved production and removal of subsidy, NNPC should be awash with FX.
1. Why borrow FX then?
2. Most importantly, when is FG/CBN going to intervene to save the naira?

madridguy:
The best coup that can happen in Nigeria is we the citizen against the rulling class.

Gen. Sanni Abacha is dead but till today Nigeria is still going around to bring back his loot kept in different part of the world.

We Nigerians, our first mission must be against our states governors. These people are our biggest obstacles to our development. We Nigerians must wrestle the local governments full autonomy away from the states governors.

We recovering his loots till today because he died. If he was alive, he would have been a kingmaker today

AuschwitzPrefec:



Ohu, if not for a Supreme court ruling that compelled the federal govt to pay 13% oil wealth to Akwa Ibom from its offshore oil wells which you ohu bastards opposed alongside the north ,Akwa Ibom won't be recording such laudable strides.

I will also remind you how your fellow ohu legislators also opposed 25% oil revenue to oil producing states alongside same north when OBJ proposed it .

It took Yaradua as president to unanimously negotiate with the house to agree on 13%.

You bastards have always supported the north in shortchanging the SS .

Was it not your same useless senators that voted against Akpabio emerging as SP?

Was it not that convict in waiting, Urji Kalu that was campaigning for Yari as SP with him as DSP and making useless promises to scrap the ministry of Niger Delta ?

You bastards are not our friends or brothers

Better begin to understand that the useless eastern Nigeria is dead and buried.

SS is not only a distinct Geo-Politcal region but will soon be an independent nation.

You've made urself as jobless as the troll u re fighting with. Everybody knows akwa ibom is SS, so y on earth are u explaining 'Taya' to the extent of even attaching map if u have smtn serious do to? Make una kwontinue, while we dey Waka pass

AuschwitzPrefec:



Ohu, why not address your ohu troll?

Better carry your mgbeke #500 short time ass comot from my mentions.

Quoted u cos I felt u are the more intelligent and the more respectable one between u two, u just proved me wrong. Good bye

Very serious club. Doku is good.
Chelsea, man UTD be busy struggling to overpay for over hyped individuals

I am only interested in this question-

madams, who is/are your sponsor(s)?

Of all the ills bedeviling this country, a group suddenly emerges, not against the plan of govt to share 8k to citizens while sharing millions to govt officials, not against the price of fuel, not against rising inflation, not against the rising cost of food, not against the jumbo packages of govt officials (exec and Nass), not against the rising size of cabinet/cost of governance with additional cost of planned invasion of Niger when we have barely $3.7bn foreign reserves but only against 'Akpabio's comment'. And are even willing to mobilise 1m women march.

(That word, 'mobilise' ehhnnn, if u kno..lol)

Who are ur sponsors? Just tell us first.

a4cube:
The governor is a fulani so he won't listen to them.

So they simply have no case, simple. Will FG dictate to a governor how to run his state or which city to use as state capital. No

Typical Nigerian politician, trying to water flowers under the rain. Trying to take credit for what he knows nothing about

JohnnA1:
Good suggestion.

But the state is under the state governor not FG. I think the state HOA and the governor should do this if that's what they want and simply inform the FG. Not the other way round.