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Advise him to rent a Benz when he comes in, instead of buying one. There are car rental companies in Nigeria.

Iamajike:
I cant remember the last time i had quality of sleep and this is the reason I am awake to write this, if you can see, the is almost 2am midnight...

In 2020, I got a car as a birthday gift from my brother. At that period, it was not that I could not afford a car, but I had another priority other than a car. Yeah, the car served me well until last year, when it kept giving me problem upon problem. The reality now is that I am not financially capable of getting a new car for myself, as I have health challenges that have drained me at the moment, and I pray God comes through fast.

So I recently called my brother to inform him about the current situation, and I told him I will be selling my car, but I need 3m to add to the car money to buy a nice, standard Nigerian used car to use in the meantime. I told him I have 1m naira cash, and if he can give me 1m or 1.5m to add to it, I can talk to one of my friends to get the balance, so he promised to give me the money by the end of January; however, I have spent the 1m I kept on medical again and can't meet up with my need.

The main problem I am having now is that I told him about it, and he said I should not worry, that he'll be coming to the country soon to spend 2 months, and the car he uses he'll drop it for me to use... This is where I get the issue, or call it mixed feelings.

He wanted to get a Benz, but I advised him to buy a Corolla since he'll be dropping it for me, but he said his standard can never use a Corolla. I told him to consider me since he promised to drop the car for me as my present condition would not make me able to maintain a Benz, and those who should help me might be calling me boss, and I would not want to be calling him for help or maintenance money every time.

I can maintain a Corolla on my own now, but this man does not see from my angle.

The truth is that I can't go out without a car, I can't use public transport at the moment, and I can't maintain Benz with this condition. And I also don't want to be a burden on anyone.

Please, how can I convince him to reason in my way? I am 100 percent sure he'll help if I ask, but I don't want to be asking him every time so I don't lose the little respect I get while still alive.

Its easy to spot fiction

Na who never sell house before go think say them they use one weekend to start and consummate a house sale

izicooo:
i'm really sorry for sounding indifferent here, please pardon my mannerz; what i'm trying to understand is, how two adults having sexual relationship, how is that suppose to be an issue? if this was a case of rape or defilement it would have been understandable. Them dey always tell men, mount your guard (financially, bedroom & in several other aspect) or else person go wipe your wife.

Sexual affair with spouses of other personnel is not allowed in the military. Not just in Nigeria, also in other countries including the west

Hello all,
I'm trying to download an app for trading US stocks. I ant seem to find vest on my app store. Can someone pls share a screen shot what it looks like or recommend any other app I can use. Thanks

Good job @yok. Your posts keep this thread alive.
Yesterday was red for some good US stocks.
I do have a question for u on local naija stocks.
What app do u recommend for trading them? Easy to use, less fees etc.
Thanks

15m. When can I inspect the vehicle. There is nothing in your post about the location

ALTERNATEID:
He did not get admission with 288 last year or what?

MBBS crew maybe

Keep doing what you did to make the 20m in the first place. And when u make it again, you already know what to do cos you would have learnt from past experience.

It's alright.
I sincerely hope for the sake of our collective sanity that oga human rights activist didn't make up this story for trends.

Unbottle the legislative bottle necks, empower states and the private sector to generate and distribute what they have generated. Let the race begin between states. Let the competition begin also between power companies. Just decentralise this whole thing

buckeyemedia:
Are they not both the exclusive assets of Nduka Ogbabeina?

U tell me. Have you seen the CAC documents of the companies?

buckeyemedia:
FBNH will confiscate Arise TV & This Day Newspaper.

Doesn't work that way. These are separate entities from the oil company

Munashak:
The stress of being a corp member in nigeria for a day is like writing your name backward with ur tooes🤪🤪.

As the audio 77k they paid us finished, I just said let me go behind our Lodge where our farm is (students do farm for corpers in my ppa) to pluge spinach and pumpkin leaves. I saw this reptile (Guza in hausa) having a field day on our groundnuts 🤪🤪. I quietly went and obtained weapon and the idiot was still there. I laced the plank on my hand on his head several times and when I was sure it had died I called my room mate to slit the throat. He carried it while I followed behind incase 🤪🤪.

Sunday meat don set. Tell us what u call it in ur native tongue

Bro meat shud be cheap in Giade na. Go to market on mkt days and get Akuya, Goat head.
No eat this thing abeg

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MsJackson:
My husband of 10 years just walked out on me for a week now because he said I'm just relaxing in the house without a job. He left me with my 6 year old daughter with nothing. I had to borrow to feed and take care of her because she fell seriously sick and had to be taken to the health centre.
I'm not the type that sits at home and expect only him to fend for the family, I was actually working and earning ok and have been supporting him for years, until I lost the job. Now because I've not been able to secure another, he left me high and dry. I even told him that the year has ended and it's hard to get job placements now, until next year, besides I'm willing to take up teaching again (which I never wanted to go back into, due to my previous bad experiences teaching in schools and very low pay) just to make sure I contribute to the home, but he's still adamant. He gave me the hint that not until I'm able to secure a job, he's not coming back home.
We're not paying rent, only feeding and my daughter's school fees, which I can truthfully say I have been totally contributing to. Especially in the feeding aspect.
He has been avoiding my calls, but I tried putting a call through to him last night because our child needed earnestly to speak to him, he picked and they spoke.
My question are:
- what he did, was it right?
- when he eventually comes back, how should I handle the issue of his leaving?
Because if I allow it pass or don't handle it appropriately, he will think it's okay to always leave when the going gets tough, and will eventually do worse in future.

I am actually more worried about your closing questions.
It tells me you have not even taken a proper appraisal of your situation. Ok let me answer u.
1. What does it matter to u, if we tell u what he did is right or wrong? Does it change ur situation? Or u just want a sense of 'yes he is wrong', then wat? Money will fall down?
2. Y do u assume he will come back? Or even if he does, y assume he will stay?

Change your mindset now to the mindset of:
1. I have got this
2. I will get myself out of this situation and live my best life with or without him.

Then get to work. Cos u have work to do on urself, for u and ur baby's sake.

Im sorry u have to go through this.
Your sisters would have been better in managing this but they are far away.

You can get her another help, however there are also risks to that. They may not last, meaning u keep getting others which ultimately becomes a security risk cos all those helps coming and going know her in and out.

A good caring home for the aged may be the best option if they are available in your location.

On an unrelated note now, a general advise now to the younger. You hardly learn new habits in old age. If u re lazy now that u re young, depending on others to do the simplest of things for you, you will even be lazier and a burden in old age. If u re industrious wen younger and always trying to do ur simple stuffs ur self, u generally will become a self reliant oldie and even last longer. The less active u start becoming in old age, d faster ur body parts wither and ultimately......kapish

Kingozymandias:
He looks 51. That is the problem with Nigerians football = age falsification

Putting his pix side by side with Beckham, does he look 51 to you if Beckham is 41?

adioolayi:
All these seasonings una dey add to curry Christiano Ronaldo goals in 2023 no just cut am..

I am not taking anything away from him, but, in Goal Scored Power Ranking...For every goal scored in 1st tier European League, you will need 2 goals from Arab League to match it.

48 League Goals of Ronaldo = 24 tier 1 European League Goals.

Like he didn't score a whooping 450goals for real Madrid, abi?

You are now in charge not Emefiele. What ever the issues are, fix them. Simple.
That's what u re being paid to do, that's why u were appointed. Fix, fix, fix. Less talk

Without a source, tell me this is a skit

WIZGUY69:
A foool and his money are soon parted


The few times I tried betting/gambling all my life, I didn’t win once. The stench inside and outside gambling locations pisses me off.

Rich/potential wealthy people are not supposed to be found there

@ur last paragraph. They own the betting coys

tivta:
Hmmm

This man is really desperate oh , even though I dislike BAT, Atiku should have allowed Peter Obi carry PDP ticket, well we shall see how it ends...

What are saying? U meant allowed Wike not Obi. His contest was with Wike.

But then, y should he allow another person after winning?? It was a contest, right.

@ op, No where did I read in this write up that u discussed these concerns with your brother. But u have written almost a page to faceless people u don't know to advise u what exactly?
Based on this one sided story?

Pls go have a talk with ur brother first. Tell us exactly what u told him about your situation and food and what/how he responded. Then we can have a proper basis for good advise if any

ChisomGloria:
It is obvious that to provide the highest level of customer service, employees should pay attention to customers and show that they’re accessible and available to clients who come in the door but with a cell phones at work policy in place, employees have guidelines for when they can take breaks and check their phones for calls, texts, social media or news. This reduces distractions and makes the workplace more productive. If cell phones make your employees more productive and to the interest of your customers as below, write policies that acknowledge their use for work while requesting that they use common sense to avoid distractions instead of locking up theirs phones during working hours. This is inhumane in this generation, phone is integral part of modern people life.
How many of you people remember what lead to ENDSARS? Is just searching of phone talk more of denying someone his or her phone for 8hours. This is very sha*meful.
See as this customer lost all her savings!

Same you will come online to write epistle if a customer service person attending to you in a branch keeps answering her phone.

On the topic, there are official lines for such calls that are available 24hrs, there are Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram handles as well. There's even ussd codes for blocking your acct. Familiarize yourself with your bank's emergency handles and do well to use such next time.

Ravenna:
How you go happy?!

When e be say na Yoruba matter you carry for head like Gala.


We the Ooduas are Very Happy for Tobi for her Record achievement.

Anybody wey no happy can enter Lagoon.

There are monikers u don't quote or respond to.

MisterBanny:
So I should keep mute while he enjoys power and I remain in dark?

Whatever u do, don't be going insane as u declared. Peace

wittywriter:
Welcome development ...but why announce the intent rather than practically implement to announce .SMH.


Wittyness

Good news. It's also good to announce intent, so other producer will start working on price reduction as well. All to the benefit Nigerians.

MrAgbako:
Those ipobs brains is fvcked up.
They hate tinubu
They hate dangote


Innoson is an "angel" 😂
Perhaps they would say tinubu should had visited innoson instead😂

Imagine people continually wailing because of the high price of cement and now that something had been done about it are still unhappy because tinubu was the man to get it right and not their failure Obi the Pandora thief 😂🏃

oyebanji44:
Nigerians know wella that people from divided camp will not like this good news.....

U both are even more dangerous to this country than the people u re trying to blame. Inciteful comments never helps anybody, not even u. When I see some comments online I wonder, how do u guys coexist? Don't u have friends form other tribes? Do u go about making inciteful comments to them when u guys meet up or what? How will dat relationship thrive? Abi it's only online u display this?
Some of the best friends I've heard are from other tribes, even other religions and I will always cherish those friendships.
I don't just know how u guys live this way, really. I don't.

@ op
Is this y u re going insane? Try to be calming down pls, nothing dey this life. The thing u re going insane for him to do for u is even illegal bros.

tophempire:
WE ALREADY KNOW.... THINGS ARE ABOUT TO CHANGE.

MY PRAYER IS THAT THE PH REFINERY OBASANJO SAY WON'T WORK TO BEGIN OPERATION IN DECEMBER. AND YOU WILL NO LONGER REFINE FOR US AGAIN.

ALL OUR ILLEGAL REFINERIES BOYS IN CREEKS OF N.D. NOW HAVE JOBS TO DO.

MAKE ASARI DOKUBO SEFF GET WORK😂😂😂

Y do u need to pray for PH refinery to work. Y can't it just work ?? That's the issues of our country. Things that should happen normally, don't.

Well done Presido

Bridget95:
She needs a dignified burial. Egypt 🇪🇬 air should bring her corpse to Nigeria and compensate the family.

Really, on wat basis?