Okija_juju: @ Topic...

YES!! YES!!! YESSS!!!! and YESSS!!

If a woman is old/aged and not married, and its not like she opted to remain single, then its her fault..

I have come to realize that many people have the wrong idea of marriage.. They think its a fairy tale journey with beds of roses and champagne fountains.. So they meet men, instead of adjusting themselves, they expect the man to put up with some of their nasty attitudes that many men would never stand for. Then they call him unserious and break up with him because they are young and pretty.. They forget that out beauty is only for a while. I remember a woman talking about some of the great men she toyed with during her youth out of ignorance..

Same applies to many aged unmarried men as well.. They think they are all that and a woman is supposed to kiss their arse and walk on needles and pins around them because they have money.. But then they forget that there is only that much a woman can put up with. I have some friends who are in their late thirties/early fourties that are still very single and keep decieving themselves with 'A man can marry at anytime'.

O Well, as you lay your bed.. And to those saying marriage isnt all that, I pity you.. Wait till you grow old alone and lonely with no kids, Grand kids, Parents and all your siblings are too busy with their families to bother about you.. You will end up as that old, bitter and annoying aunty that nobody wants around..

My 1 Kobo!

This is d definition of ON POINT

sashaa:
that u have an angle u ar comin from is no reason to generalise

Read what I said about generalization......

Shollypopz:
I'm too young for marriage in my opinion.....besides, i don't do broke guys

Didn't dat statement just sum up d whole essence of d thread?
Don't worry, wait till u r old enough and u meet dat rich guy...

HiiiPower:

Why the unnecessary attack on the OP?
You said alot but ended up saying nothing.

The OP created an innocent thread, without bias or bashing,
but you ended up making him look like a male chauvinist pig.
That's unfair!

Why are female posters on here(including you) so standoffish and sensitive?

Tell him oo, I even put a question mark in d title of d thread as a way of saying, ' I stand to be corrected'

oluking: First it is wrong to think an aged lady has a problem, just because of her single Status.Besides whoever posted this topic don marry?

Guess u didn't take ur time to read my subsequent posts...

buJu-234:
@op i dont think so...

everyone has his or her own destiny and plans...

even the bible said not all will marry; that some will bcom eunuch.

Any way; i will advice that if a woman is lets say above 45yrs; what she needs to do is atleast b a single mother; takkia of ur kid(s) properly
face ur career or business with ur soul..

and have a man friend (if u re comfortable dating married men) or a bf ( if u re comfortable dating young guys)...

simple as ABC... and in fact keep to urself (because if u re always going 4 village meetings; u will always see those Old schools that will make u feel as if being single u have killed GOD & JESUS)...

Did u just say, ' have married male frnds?' Smh

tpia1:

that's one problem.

A big problem...

richarts: Why people dey attack op?... People no learn anything from school ni?... U only answer a question from the point it is coming from... So many unreasonable comments.

I was asked during an interview if i had eaten & I said ''I had taken water''. The answer was supposed to be yes or no. I lost the job. Take it or leave it, I was wrong.

If people no get brain enuf to comment on the angle som1 is coming from then just view & move over. He is nt talking about ''guys'' here neither is he talking about those dat ''decided to stay single'' etc. Haba!. We ar just so critical in nature.

Someone just came to save mua... *dancing*... Tnx man... ℓ☺ℓ

c.fours:
do you have a sister who is aged and unmarried? It seems like you do.

Nah... Not @ all... I have 4 sisters, 3 of which r married(and none was upto 26 before getting married). Mind u, nobody put any form of pressure on any of dem.... And d only single one is still 22..

So, don't bother abt me, I posted based on wot I see around.
No be my family problem I carry come nairaland... *tongue*

Shollypopz:
U make sense

Sense sef D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̴̴̲̣̣͡ make me... ℓ☺ℓ... Thanks though...

Shollypopz:
I wanted to bash u 4 dis thread but I saw ur come back
Quite decent I hv to admit........

I get... Many tot it was a post to condemn ladies, but nah... It wasn't...

I had a girlfrnd who I broke up with when we found out that we can neva get married... I didn't hold on to her(most guys do,which I condemn) and she didn't hold on to me(wisdom).... We r still best of friends...
Had she held on to me, hoping that things would change in future and then things don't change, it would have been a decision she would regret, cuz in d process of being wit me, she might miss many would-have-been husbands...
That's exactly my point... Ladies applying wisdom,knowing fuLly well dat d society doesn't favour dem...

freecocoa: You are clearly an a$$hole and mister,you don't tell people to "walk" here because they will only keep being in your face, i leave when i want to,bozo.

Be my guest, darl....

freecocoa: That sentence is self explanatory but since you don't understand it,it tires me because the talk is mumuish in nature, comprende?

Too bad, I still don't understand... U wanna K№ω y? It's because, I will have to come down low to ur level to understand u....
If u can't say sth constructive, walk....

sanb: okay fair explanation

sanb: okay fair explanation

sexkillz: Why the unnecessary generalization and compartmentalization? Does attributing to the female gender everything negative give you guys a kick or something?

Everyone is to be blamed for the consequences of their mistakes. This has nothing to do with age or gender. If you make a choice, be ready for the resultant effects. A lady not married can be attributed to different factors, including personal choice.

I take this thread to mean you also believe all men get married and do not age, right?

Yes, I know it is generalization... But dat is allowed...
Cuz, I was taught dat there is sth called 'general truths'
Example, when u say that nigerian politicians are corrupt, dat a general truth, induced by generalization...but that doesn't mean, u won't find exceptions...

freecocoa: All these mumu talk dey sha tire me.

Maybe, u should come n tell us y d talk dey tire u...

rokiatu:

What am telling you is that I am not carrying the world trouble on my head.

I understand...but, I guess u can chip in one or two things that will help one or two ppl, including me...

To d mods, How does one request for a thread to hit the front page?
I feel some ppl will learn from this thread and from wot different people with different experiences will post on it... I put up the thread so dat I too can learn...
So pls, FRONT PAGE pls....
Or is dia sth else I should do for it to hit front page?

rokiatu:

I don't give a fu..ck.

Whetie concern me with other people's life?

I guess u can do beta dan this... Or u wanna tell my dat wot u just wrote is d best u can come up wt?

sanb: oh i would correct you. the reason that some ladies are not married is not due to the fact that they are waiting for ready made men. have you considered that some of us wants to achieve something for ourselves first i.e having a good education, a good career and job, money to spend etc. they are things that we need so that we are not looked on as gold diggers

And who said, getting married to a man dat will support her career will end dat quest to be a career woman? And have u asked some of those ladies dat pursued their careers and didn't put marriage into consideration how dey feel now?

Personally, I won't get married to a lady that won't be working or handle a business dat I will open for her(personally, I would prefer to open a business for her,so she will be d one in control of her time)
And dia are many men like that who won't want a 'housewife'

For d men dat keep housewives, woo betide u d day u will die and ur wife won't be able to look after ur children... Nor even handle ur business... Not saying dat anybody will die... But my spiritual leader will always say, Peradventure...

For old unmarried guys, irrespective of the economy, I think a man dat is unmarried @ 40 and above is a foool... Cuz, he must also have passed on some oppotunities dat came his way @ one point or the oda to make money... Some even made money,but lavished it on some stupid lifestyle...if u get married @ 40, with wot strength will u train ur kids? Do u have plans of seeing ur grand children? Those r questions guys should also ask themselves when dey r busy living d 'life' and not thinking about settling down...
But d problem is dat, we are in a crazy society where a man of even 70 can go and get married to a gurl of 17(which is crazy)...but, if a lady clocks 40yrs in our society, how many suitors does she attract @ dat age?
Wit that, ladies should be wise when dey are young and make timely correct decisions, cuz dia biological clock and our society puts dem in a 'disadvantaged' position

For all those calling me names... U should have asked my reasons first...
First of all, I A̶̲̥̅♏ not taking sides with d males folks... In fact, story about some beasts dat call themselves men is for anoda day...
As for my topic, it's not for d ladies dat decided to remain unmarried...
For every lady dat is single(and didn't decide to remain single) @ a certain 'advanced' age, dia must have been times when she said no to guy(s) dat came for her or even guys dat just wanted to be frnds with them(and most times dey do it rudely)...
My point being dat, no lady will say she is unmarried because she neva had suitors @ one point in her life or d oda...
Most times, dey say no to some guys, cuz dey r waiting for d already-made ones...
Now, dats basically d angle I A̶̲̥̅♏ coming from...
I stand corrected though....

Busy now, will be back to put down my points n explain d angle A̶̲̥̅♏ coming from

I personally believe that for every lady out there that is aged and still unmarried, that there are series of mistakes she made with respect to men when she was younger, thinking beauty and age will always be on her side...
Fellow nairalanders, what's your take on that?

Nayah:
hummm

Nayah:
hummm

sashaa:
would luv to but i have to keep my identity unknown. Maybe with another handle, tho

Would a private request for a pic be out of place?