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[quote author=::Andrew::]No you are wrong, It has nothing to do with hereditary
rather if you choose a partner based on lust or cash.

loth was from soddom.[/quote]So, if u wanna get married and ur mother-in-law and her own mother(ur wife's granny) all had broken homes, u won't consider dat as a factor?

If her mother and grandmother had broken homes, think
again before taking her to d altar.
If his father and grandfather were polygamists and wife
beaters, think again before u agree to marry Him.

I have seen traits repeat themselves, if u have too, tell us...
If u believe what I said is wrong, give us your reasons, we are here to learn...
Gudmorning pals...

swtchicgurl: u're a joker! self-pity and self-deception hasn't helped anyone before you. you ain't an exception!



what is the current status of your life that needs a change from a boring and pathetic story?! smh

I K№ω ur type; criticize all,but wen called to do sth, u won't be able to... And u have many like u here on nairaland... I K№ω, u won't have anytin to say but spew rubbish frm ur empty head again

swtchicgurl: OP,

- From my rough estimate, you should be about 24 or 25yrs now.

- You written english is pathetic, as a graduate!

- You're not the only person from a poor background, so don't create a pity scene!

- You graduated November 2011 and you later mentioned buying textbooks! Are you studying for Masters already?

- You should be thinking of getting a job to reward your parents for their kind effort, instead you spend it on a girl.

- You claim to love, but you lack common sense. because you lack the resources (including money) to maintain a relationship!

- Oge loves you for what she thinks you are, if at all she loves you.

Summary: Don't be foooolish! Abandon that relationship, get a job, settle your family and siblings, plan your life, set a productive target, start a rewarding relationship that should lead to marriage - cos you're not getting younger!

I'll be back.

Didn't u hear him say he was writting abt his frnds n neighbours? Nawa

qualified: i responded to ur post, not other people's posts. I read it well and it sounded dumb n chauvinistic

i suspect a lady has probably turned u down n here u are whining. Truth be told, human beings have no control over many that happen to them cos God controls them all.

I ve seen 'runs-girls' marry n have kids immediately n virgins praying n fasting that some1 shld atleast say hi, and even when they finally marry n desire for kids, none is forthcoming. Mister, people like u shld stop this Hate for women

I gat no hate for women...
As for someone turning me down, u were dead wrong...
And like I said earlier, pls prove the whites dat said, 'to hide anytin from a black man,but it in writing' wrong.... Pls, for ur own gud..

GboyegaD: Why don't you mind your business and face your life rather than debating some other people's lives?

Seems I touched a nerve...

Theblessed: [size=16pt]But, when will you get over this ignorance?

When will you ever, get something doing to occupy your lazy brain and leave women, alone!

Again, when did marriage become the Eleventh commandment that must surely, be obeyed?

As for the other Ten Commandments, how many of them have you obeyed, yourself, to make marriage compulsory for women and not for men?

Again, to marry is choice and not a compulsion - so, leave women alone and get on with your lazy and hopeless life, ok!

Leave them alone, and occupy yourself with something tangible - idle.

They are not in your life, they're not eating your food and certainly, not breathing through your nose - get a life, bully!!!!![/size]

When ppl have nothing to contribute, they turn to insults... Babe, I guess u might need an IQ upgrade to be able to think out reasonable tins to say when faced with threads dat requires reasonable input

Shollypopz: Abeg, SHUT UP!!!

See d olodo calling me old hag, MUMU!!

Anuofia! Attention Seeking Chimpanzee!!

Not again

qualified: @poster, it pisses me off whenever i see immature n insecure chauvinist males like u exhibit ur insensibility to d public. So, men get married cos they are all saints or gods?

I ve alot of reasons i can give why some ladies dont marry 'early' (though i ve no definite definition of d word, early) but I'm too busy 4 that right now

D problem wt ppl like u is dat dey don't read before commenting... @least, u would have read d page1 posts before commenting...
For d names and titles u just gave me, tnx... It's not easy getting titles dis days without spending a kobo...

ehie: in the next centuary,there would be probably no use for marriage anymore...if science creates a way where people will live longer,procreate without sex,it will become an asexual society,probably...just a futuristic way of thinking
my thoughts abt marriage is that it is embarked upon with so much fear,and twisted logic with one party benefiting at the expense of another...i dont know,maybe i probably hate men,to me they are a necessary evil,if the world could do without people being unnecessarily foisted together for eternity it would be a welcome development

For d sake of ur health, snap out of d men hating realm

Shollypopz: True! My bad

Dat was kul

DailyNews: Okija_juju, I have been enjoying all your comments on this thread and I must commend your good unbiased counsels here. But then, I am suspecting that either you are on the influence of a shrine or the okija_juju itself is speaking...Lolz....but any which way, your words on this thread radiates wisdom for any wise single lady to learn from and make herself every man's dream woman! Thumbs up @okija_juju and the OP, nice thread for people who wish to learn.

Tnx

Yorisb: Those pics could well benefit from Photoshop.....Lol (No offiencee)

Guy, u wicked Oº°˚˚°

Babzilla: No thats her way of expressing her frustration. Thats what Nairaland does 2 U. 2 many crazy people. Stay 2 long and U go coo-coo

Have been here long enough... And I have realised dat d mad ones are the ones dat wanna be seen as gods, ppl who have no confidence in real life...

Omo Alata: A woman was desperate to have a child for her husband. It wasn't happening. She went here and there for solution. She was taken to one babalawo who promised that she would have a child. However, there was a condition. She should choose between her having loads of children or her 1st born never having children. The woman chose the former and went on to have 5 children. Her 1st born struggled to get married. A man would come, get far with her, and suddenly disappear. This happened on and off. When the woman was 59 she went to a pastor who told her the above. She asked her aged mother who wept and confirmed it.

How is this the single lady's fault?

There is always an exception to d rule,right? And spiritual remote controller tins is surely one of dem in dis case

Shollypopz: SHUT UP JO!!
To marry na by force.....I don't give a shit about his money, I was just messing wiv him.
Oversabi!

U use SHUT UP wit reckless abandon... Is dat ur only way of showing ur perceived superiority?

Obinoscopy: @OP
Not true! Not all aged unmarried women are to be blamed for their condition.
Some ladies are not lucky with guys. I know of a lady, very nice and beautiful at heart. She's very caring and understanding but she's unlucky with guys. The guys she date either cheats on her or just disappear entirely.
She's a great girl to be with, I'd have married her straight away but she way too old for me (6 yrs older actually)
Her only misgiving is dat she's a sickler. Now tell me, is being anemic a fault of hers?

No, it's not.... Don't think I would marry a sickler though... Sentiments apart...

sashaa: true,
but what about those that wern't nasty, wern't snobbish, but just found themselves dumped. The years run fast, my friend. Lets take a scenario, a girl met n fell in love with a nice guy at 22, they date for about 3years, with the intention of getting married (..d guy already proposed during that time), dude starts acting up but still assures her of his love when she confronts him abt his attitude. Another year goes by and he outrightly dumps her. She's 26 now n so heartbroken.she starts to lick her wounds hoping to meet someone better. The years are slippn by n so far she has just been meeting unserious dudes who aint ready to settle down but ar just after fun. Next u know, she's clocks thirty still single. And someone says 'single at 30?' what has she been doin all these years when her mates were getting married.smh

If a guy proposes and takes years to walk u down d aisle, then run for ur life... That's part of wot A̶̲̥̅♏ hitting @...
If u r dating a guy who isn't serious(dey get d signs,but decide to ignore it most times), u gotta be wise.... And for ladies, while dating someone, don't be rude to oda guys cuz u fink u r 'hooked'... U aint 'hooked' until u say I DO...
And for d guys dat propose to gurls with no intentions of marrying dem... God will punish u....

sashaa: 15-20 men? Dont be too quick to have an opinion based on sheer assumptions. Fact is things dont happen for evryone the same way. Some ladies from their late teens till late 20's may get like just 3 suitors(..or less) while for some, they wouldnt even be able to count.

Then, na village remote controller tins...

[quote author=Okija_juju]A few reasons why many women are still single at old age;

1. Too Picky: You hear them make silly excuses like 'He isnt tall enough', 'He isnt handsome enough', 'He snores in his sleep', blah! blah!

2. Tribalism: 'I would have married him, but he is from ...', 'My parents will never allow me marry a ........... man'.

3. Bad Character: Yes! Many women have very terrible habits and traits that instead of them working on changing it, they expect a man to put up with it..

4. Money: YES o!! Todays women are not like our mothers who got married to our parents when they didnt even have bicycles. All you see now are girls that want a man who has already made it in life. I recently heard a story where a girl told her boyfriend that they would have to move out of his small 2 bedroom that he managed tto build and rent a more befitting house.. How sad. Sadly, most men like that already have that one girl who has been with them from the beginning and all these other women would ever be to them is a mere booty call.

5. Fast Life: Many girls want to live the glamorous fairytale lifestyle.. You know, first class trips to Dubai, weekend at the spa, shopping in milan, walking all the rad carpet events in town. So in as much as they want to be married, they are conflicted as to which life they really want to live.. In the end, they realize that they cant have it all and they have missed out on marriage which outlasts red carpets.

6. Poor Home Training: I know a girl who is so lazy, she cant cook, clean or even do her own laundry let alone another mans.. When we speak, she says she would employ a cook and househelps. I wished her goodluck as a guy like me can never be married to her.. I love my home cooked meals (like most guys), enjoy my privacy (so no househelps) and would like to know that my wife is capable of running and keeping my home in my absence..

7. Western influence and Women Liberation: Most of our girls in their bid to be Ajebutta have taken it beyond wear Brazilian hair, nails and eyelashes, speaking in western accent to imbibbing western cultures.. I heard a girl say all she wants is a guy who will impregnate her and walk away. She wants to be a single moter.. Something that in all of our various cultures remains a taboo.. Sadly, it almost never happens for them and even when it does, society is a cruel biitch as you will become the gist of town and would be avoided by many. A widoa with kids is better than a 'single mother' in the context I'm putting it.

Guys please add yours..

[/quote]Valid points... Ladies, can u disaprove these points...

sleekch1c: @@op
Who dumped you? You take this issue very serious oo!!

Dumped ke? U gotta be kidding me....

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Smh @ some ridiculous comments i am reading. . .
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Pls, don't shake it too much...

sashaa: legendp, ar u saying ladies should accept any suitor that come their way? Just for the fear of ending up aged and unmarried?

No, am saying D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̴̴̲̣̣͡ should stop being so 'picky'... And while @ it, D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̴̴̲̣̣͡ should also try not to be rude