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Good day Romancelanders, Trust y'all are pretty good?
I need sincere and reasonable opinions about a issh going on with me. There's this girl i have known for over 1 year now though our closeness was totally off at a particular time but we got back later. I wanted to have a relationship with her then when we met afresh but she just left an abusive relationship so taking her time to heal her emotions.

So i gave her time during which period i was there and just playing the normal bf role even though we weren't dating. I knew what i was doing, it has worked over time for me not to demand express YES from girls but just start acting like bf and we kickstart things from there. But i noticed it seems there was a guy she was seeing immediately after her break up before we met . More or less like a consolation relationship. That was why i gave her space around the december last year.

We ran into each other around June or so and we've been talking again. The problem is unlike other girls she hardly call me or even message on social networks unless i initiate such. I stylishly talked to her about it while trying not to apppear i'm begging for her attention. Whenever she comes around, we relate , play and the likes like a normal gf/bf but she is not giving a yes/No to a formal dating yet though and i have tried to walk away overtime with her always acting nice again, i wouldn't call it a friendzone since there's no restriction to us. But all her ways doesn't suggest she is in love with me, in fact she didnt introduce me to her friends(Lol it is not what you think i'm not ugly) she won't say yes and won't let me go and i'm the one performing the role of a bf,while she will even upload the second guy's picture stylishly even though he wont call her for weeks. And No it is not friendzone(unless friendzone without restrictions exist).

I'm caught between just moving on or tarry and "fight" and win her over . I'm still young anyways just that the pressure to get serious is pilling daily.

Thanks in addy to your positive responses.

Nairaland is becoming something else, i have seen this picture 2 years ago.

ShobayoEmma:
This move is what an igbo man wouldn't have done; believing money worths more than live. but a sane and wise man knows live worths much more than money. Good move wise men up north though rare.

You're a disgrace to the Yoruba race with this comment, We are known for our wisdom not this tantrums throwing...ode shaa

domopps:
There should be more to this story tho......in as much station manager is not the owner of the filling station but something at least should be done ....



Let their families be responsible for the bills for now



Cheers

The way you Nigerians reason makea me feel we desrve the kind of leaders we have!. Just read your comment again and tell if you see any sense therein.

Good day here ; i think it won't be bad idea if we the prospective NLS students have a platform where we can share our vital infromation and address relevant issues about the admission process

I will be updating the thread on a daily basis, if you have any problem or inquiry please feel free to ask maybe we can address it together.

I'm a student bases in Ondo state, i have interest please add me on 09034424898

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And this people are complaining... maybe we should exchange him with Senator BORROFICE representing Ondo North.

Dr

saintandsinnerz:
Can just stop with this your wack judgement already! So, you're already condemning him based on what the NLS said about him? Have you heard his own side of the story? From the story, it is already clear that the NLS is negatively biased against him and they manifested it in their action. Ask yourself if they would have expelled another student based on the flimsy excuse of having a petty altercation with another student. Not judging anybody but I think the guy was not treated fairly and that is my major concern.

He was not expelled based on his row with his colleague but his subsequent actions. UI was biased against him when he was expelled, SRC chairman was biased against him after he walked out on them(they went to meet him in his room), The law firm that disapproved of his unruly behavior too is also biased right? I get the fact that you're trying to sympathize with him based on how Nigerian authorities trample on citizens rights but sir Kayode's case is different . Ask for first information (which I can help you with contacts) ,None of his colleagues could even advise him without him insulting them. The guy has shown himself not to be fit to called to the bar and with his anger issue he will beat up a judge one day if he makes it to the bar.

oz4real83:
I am ashamed if this is coming from a school that trains our lawyers. It is a case of victimization. Why will u give a warning letter when he hasnt committed any crime? All his crimes were done in the university environment. If the university deemed it fit to have allowed him to graduate and did all his clearance,why would the law school bring up the issue again? Why declare him already guilty in the law school when he hasnt been accused of any crime within the law school? His actions were predicated by the actions of the law school.

Dont defend what you know nothing about... Ask for first hand information from students currently at the Abuja campus of Nigerian Law school. His behavior is very unruly and the management even pampered him to have lasted this long. Do your independent findings sir. If not for his arrogance which he is mistaking for outspokenness, how did a row over seat degenerate to this? You had issue with a colleague, with the Src Chairman, Chief security officer, DG, and he even wrote a petition against the secretary of the council for legal education for her to be arrested on this issue! Learning is beyond the class room, character and civility is inclusive.

Ekykool:
I'm not surprised. I was charged 57k custom duty for a wrist watch and birthday candles I received through USPS, excluding the 100 USD the sender paid already.

They should keep on feeding fat off the masses smh.

Keypad Lord

Hello health workers and practioners in here, I really need your candid advice about my look. I eat quite often sometimes as much as 4 times per day but it is not reflecting on my body. it is like I'm even getting thinner and I'm tired of people asking me if have not been eating. I have a petite stature for my age though not that bad.

I think I'm a bad stress manager so probably it could be due to this, stress tell on my body within days. so I need you guys candid advice because I'm actually thinking of getting blood tonic and start feeding on it daily.

Thanks in anticipation of your prompt positive response.

fratermathy:
I think its a "he". I also think this was informed by racism and hate more than anything else. There are too many generalisations. There are bad eggs in Nigeria, no doubts about that, but to say ALL NIGERIANS are like that? That's an overstretching of falsity!

Let's call a spade a spade. Nigeria is a f*cked country, covering it isn't patrotism and we can't really blame these foreigners for this fallacious generalisation. Myself for example if I should hear of an Afghan or Iraqi citizen, first thing that will come to my mind 8s terrorism and this doesn't mean all of them are terrorists it is just what we have been known for. Nigerians are even disgracing the whole of Africa as a whole,Corrupt government at all levels , greedy youths. This is no racism.

I have this soft spot for smart and intelligent girls, so if you have a successful career and can engage me intellectually...I'm all yours. I think I will love to get married to a Doctor,Or someone in the corporate wolrd because it seems those are the only places I can find them in a country like ours.

The day my supposed girlfriend introduced me as a very good and dependable friend publicly...To think I was dating myself and my guys have been hailing me for landing a beautiful girlfriend. I just faked a smile in acceptance. Girls eh!

david22uu:
Bumbae gooood morning
How was d night and what's good today

See how you take use side talks mess everything up....Left to me, you have your way to getting a prospective girlfriend on here already. Bn following from day 1, I can say you're the shy type.

joycesims:
Hmm, true!

But for the jurors, "could be I watch too much movies" I'd fear the litigant would come after me,lol.

This jury system can't be practiced in Nigeria of today, right?

There are basically two popular forms of legal systems; the accusatorial and the inquisitorial systems. the former is what we have in Nigeria with judge listening to argument of litigants then give his/her ruling or judgement. We can't have jury system unless there's an overhaul of our present legal system.

Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-Akoko, Ondo-state. Freshers 30-33,000 Stay lites pay between 22-27,000.

Adekunle Ajasin University, Akungba-Akoko, Ondo-state. Freshers 30-33,000 Stay lites pay between 22-27,000.

Tuham:
Maybe the time is not yet. All i could say is; Bare your heart open but do not be too eager.
And when you finally find that one, try to be confident enough to approach her even if its just starting on a normal friendship level.

Thanks

B2Spirits:
The battle is on for you in the other thread. https://www.nairaland.com/3677905/nairaland-rich-dudes-helped-here/1

Just take a chill pill and see how you successfully ruined your thread, this is a clear definition of who you're. Learn to differentiate between pride and confidence.

Safiaa:
Sometimes, when you try too hard to find something you will never find it. When you focus on other things and let it go, your blessing will surprise you.

Really?? Okay thanks

Alesandese:
Op I want you to understand that we are all destined to achieve some things at different times. You are right to feel concern about your situations but never compare your life with another. We can not all move at the same pace, who knows your partner may be in your work place and not school. You just have to keep your hope alive and await the best. If we run the race of another , we will fall in doom of another.

Thanks hun.

Tuham:
I understand your position as i've been there before (or should i say still there ) and you have the right to worry but then some things fall in place with time.
But i wanted to understand something here ooh,
"Is it that you're feeling timid to meet a girl you like" or "you haven't find the one you like?"

Lemme claim somewhere in between, I'm not that timid but the few girls I have dated on campus,it is either they just gave me outright green light or I get their numbers from friends then I kick off. The only problem i have in that aspect is meeting and approaching a girl I don't av anything to do with out rightly. And about the second one, it is more about serious relationship.

LuvSwollenPussy:
Hehehe. Over seriousness is d matter. I've been in ur shoes before. Nysc go open new chapter for ya diicck no worry. Just free yourself and don't form seriousness when meeting a girl for the first time. Forget English or bookworm. Speak pidgin, crack jokes around sex call dem funny names....like my yoriyori. Bla Bla. When you fall in love finish you go change completely. Pusssy get power to change the hardest mind.

Lol... Actually I'm not that naive, like the experience is there but the major issue is a serious relationship.

TosinDru:
lemme come back from Church

Will be waiting.

gprincead:
In your early 20s. Still a student. From your post I think you are talking of serious relationship. My friend your future must be your priority now. I'm not trying to sound like your parents or over sabi but since u do meet girls just that its either u don't love them deeply or they don't love u either, its ok. Channel other energy to building a formidable future for urself. Why I'm saying this is because, even if u fall in love now, there is a high tendency that you are going to end up with a broken heart cos the girl may not be able to wait until you are ready to settle down.

I get the point you're driving at bro, but the thing is I'm building a good career for myself already. I just feel the relationship is what's next, you will agree with me that I just have to start from somewhere.

Shossie:
She will come at the right time, besides, check yourself, your environment, there will be a girl that is attracted to you but you don't know, don't force it, the girl will come at the proposed time.
NB: Most girls love bad boys, just a tip. You know what to do with the information

Thanks dear, I'm not actually forcing but I just feel since I'm almost through with school and I have a budding career already, a good relationship is just what I need right now. Thanks.