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This is part of the reasons why husbands are scarce. Men kill themselves in cult wars. Most men that travel abroad end up marrying foreigners. Men are the ones that mostly go to prison. SARS killed many men. Nigeria's economy is making things difficult for the available men to afford the exorbitant marriage rites.

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breyona65:
Three years ago, I met a man at a program. It was Christmas and we were all having fun and dancing around. This gentleman came to stand behind me and started dancing with me. I didn’t want to embarrass him so I continued dancing with him. He held my waist and I didn’t complain. I danced with him like I’d known him before the program. He looked like a decent man judging from the way he was dressed. I was walking to get a drink when he asked my name.

“My name is Ivy. You?”

“My name is Hamza.”

“Hamza? are you a Muslim?”

“No, I’m not. I’m only bearing the name.”

“Ivy, can I be your friend?”

“Why not? If only you won’t give me troubles.”

He gave me his number. I called so he could have my number too. For the rest of the night, we sat at a corner and we talked. He was in Ghana from the UK for the holiday. I asked a lot of questions and he answered. He asked a lot of questions and I answered too. When the program was over, he offered to take me home. I said, “I’m ok. I came with a friend and I would be fine going home with her so don’t worry.” He said, “Then I will call you sometime.” I said, “I would be expecting your call.”

That’s how the friendship started.

So one day he proposed. I said, “It’s been only two weeks since we met. Don’t you think we need to study each other a bit? Come to think of it, a man your age and experience, don’t you have a wife or someone you’re emotionally committed to?” He answered, “I wish I had. I’ve wasted a lot of my youth trying to get money without thinking about family. Now that the truth has dawned on me, I have to get someone before I turn forty-five.” I asked questions. A lot of questions about his life and why he didn’t have a girlfriend. He sounded convincing so two weeks after his proposal, I said yes to him.

Not too long afterward, it was time for him to return to the UK. When he was about to go, he introduced me to a friend of his, Sammy. He told him, “Take care of her for me and make sure no one snatches her from me.” We laughed about it and from that day on, Sammy became a guardian of some sort. While he was away, we talked a lot each day. We did video calls often and got naughty when we ought to be. There was one thing he kept hammering in his conversations with me; the need to have a child as soon as possible. He said, “When I come this Xmas, you have to prepare. You’ll get pregnant before I come back to the UK.”

At first, I didn’t take him seriously until he said it often for me to know he was serious. I asked, “Get pregnant before marriage?” He said, “I don’t mind getting married before the pregnancy but the pregnancy is very important. You see my age? I need a child before I turn forty-five.” The way he talked about having a child got me concerned so I spoke to his friend, Sammy. He said, “My guy has suffered and maybe wants a child to keep him calm.” His answer didn’t make sense but I took it like that.

And then he came back to Ghana. And then we got intimate—several times. During his time here, I met a lot of his friends and some people he called family. He introduced me to them as his future wife. We met his sisters. I became very close to their last born, Akos. We went out often and whenever his brother was coming to see me, she came with her. Akos didn’t know that I met his brother the year before. She thought I just met his brother so when his brother finally left for the UK she told me, “You better don’t take my brother seriously. If he gives you money, chop. When he’s in the UK and with his wife, he won’t mind you.”

I asked, “Your brother is married? She asked, “He didn’t tell you?” I said no. She said, “That’s surprising because all the ladies he normally brings home he tells them that he’s married.” I told her, “So why would he do that? He even asked me to give him a child.” When Akos realized how deep the thing goes, she stopped talking. She said, “It looks like I’m the one being the gossip. Please don’t mention to my brother that I told you this. Find your way around it.”

From further investigation, I realized he had been married for four years and lives with the wife in the UK. The wife wasn’t able to give birth due to some issue she had just a year after their marriage. That was the reason why he was going around with me, asking me to give birth for him. I was very angry, disappointed, and felt let down but I decided to play along. Just like his sister told me, “If he gives you money, chop it!” I decided to pick a fast one on him.

One morning, during a video call, I told him, “My period has delayed for four days. It hasn’t happened like this before.” He said, “Hmmm should I start to jubilate?” I said, “Not yet. Maybe it’s just delayed.” He kept asking about it every day until one day I told him, “I tested and it’s positive.” He was so happy he didn’t know what to do. He started making promises. “I’ll give you this and I’ll give you that. Just take care of the baby well for me.” Every month he sent me £600. There was a car he gave to Sammy to sell. He told Sammy to give the car to me. He started shipping baby products to me. If I told him I had a headache, the next day he would send me money to go to the hospital.

Every night when we had a video call, he would say, “Let me see how my baby is doing.” I would push out my stomach and put the camera on my stomach and pretend my tummy is coming. When he’s in good mood, he would send me money the next day. When he complained that my stomach wasn’t growing up as expected, I also complained. Then told him the nurses said it was normal. At five months, I couldn’t continue the lie again so I started avoiding video calls. I gave one excuse after another until I realized he was getting uncomfortable. For three days he called and I didn’t pick. When I finally did, I told him, “I was admitted to the hospital. I miscarried the baby.”

He said calmly, “You’ve been lying to me.” I said, “Lying to you? How?” He said, “You were not pregnant.” I said, “How would you say that? How would you think that of me? That I’ve been lying about the pregnancy. How?” He cut the call. I called back he didn’t pick. The next morning, Sammy came to my house with two other guys. He said, “Hamza said we should come for the car.” I saw the other guy talking to Hamza on his phone. Hamza was screaming, “Collect everything. I made shipments of baby products to her, collect all. I sent some clothes and shoes, collect that too. Go inside her room everything there is mine.”

They took everything. Even shoes he sent that I’d worn, they took all of them. In the evening Hamza called me and started ranting, “You’re a liar and I regret the day that I saw you. God will punish you for deceiving me. In fact, I want my money back—all the money I’ve sent to you.” I said to him, “God will punish you for lying to me instead. Ain’t you married? Why didn’t you tell me? You wanted to use me as a baby-making machine, right? Do you think I’m stupid? Go to my bank and collect your money there. Idiot!”

It turned to exchanges of words until he cut the line. He took what he can take but he couldn’t collect the money from me. Every work has some benefits and those monies were my benefit.

—Ivy

I wonder how karma will act in this situation.

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Liposure:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/446730-renewable-energy-why-africa-looks-likely-to-continue-relying-on-fossil-fuels.html

@OP. You only focused on batteries. There are other renewable energy technologies such as water splitting devices, fuel cells, and metal-air batteries. In fact, Zinc-air batteries have been reported to possess higher energy density than Lithium-ion batteries. So this technology is strongly booming and the prospect is high.

If we are to talk of cost, the catalysts used in these technologies are now becoming cheap, because the precursors used in their production have been replaced with earth-abundant materials.

I think you should make further findings next time before you conclude that cost will be the challenge.

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proxitaly:
NAija girls should get this one, this should spare us that fishy smell wafting out of their orifices. Although I doubt if they will even let it air out for the few hours because some of the seems addicted to their fishy scent.

As for some naija boys, their own germs are on different level. What those ones need is self washing underwears. They needunder wears that will forcefully pour itself water in protest and even scrub itself.

You funny joor

Here in China, they snap you with their camera without your consent. The most annoying thing is that they don't do it stylishly so you don't notice. Rather, they do it to your face.

The annoying thing was that I went to my bank (diamond bank) and reported. In fact, they put a call across to their headquarters in Lagos and I spoke with them. After one week I returned to the bank, to my surprise they told me they saw that I withdrew the money, that if I wanted to follow it up, I should pay for footage. Then footage was #2000, and the money I had remaining in my account was less than 2k. To be sure of the whole thing, I went to the bank that owns the ATM I used and they confirmed an unsuccessful transaction, suggesting I returned to my bank (diamond bank). That was how I left the whole thing.

I know many people have experienced this one time or the other. Mine happened when I landed my first job of #25000 Naira monthly as a call center representative in Abeokuta as a fresh graduate. I patiently waited for the first salary to be paid after an "on the job training (OJT)" exercise. My joy knew no bounds when I went to use WEMA bank's ATM at Lafenwa Abeokuta. When it got to my turn, I tried to withdraw 5K which was not successful, but I received a debit alert. All effort to get the 5k proved abortive after I followed it up. I then managed my remaining 20k for the month. On a different occasion, I went to the same WEMA bank ATM to withdraw a life-saving 1K, the same thing happened. After then, I swore not to use that ATM again.

Please feel free to share yours

seunny4lif:
1.Family is the number one reason.
2.Germany for me is the best but I don't like to raise a family because of crazy discrimination against Black and mixed kids in school
3.USA is not me because of the lifestyle and crazy police shooting
4.Australia too far for me and my wife is not a fan of that country due to her own personal reason
5.Canada is good, but never crossed my mind
Not that Ireland is the best but just like it as I like simple thing
There are good countries out there like Finland, Holland, and Sweden for Family

I also like that country.

chukwuibuipob:
Go to ur bank and fill a form. They’ll reverse it

My brother, I went to my bank (diamond bank) and reported. In fact, they put a call across to their headquarters in Lagos and I spoke with them. After one week I returned to the bank, to my surprise they told me they saw that I withdrew the money, that if I wanted to follow it up, I should pay for footage. Then footage was #2000, and the money I had remaining in my account was less than 2k. To be sure of the whole thing, I went to the bank that owns the ATM I used and they confirmed an unsuccessful transaction, suggesting I returned to my bank (diamond bank). That was how I left the whole thing.

I know many people have experienced this one time or the other. Mine happened when I landed my first job of #25000 Naira monthly as a call center representative in Abeokuta as a fresh graduate. I patiently waited for the first salary to be paid after an "on the job training (OJT)" exercise. My joy knew no bounds when I went to use WEMA bank's ATM at Lafenwa Abeokuta. When it got to my turn, I tried to withdraw 5K which was not successful, but I received a debit alert. All effort to get the 5k proved abortive after I followed it up. I then managed my remaining 20k for the month. On a different occasion, I went to the same WEMA bank ATM to withdraw a life-saving 1K, the same thing happened. After then, I swore not to use that ATM again.

Please feel free to share yours

I know many people have experienced this one time or the other. Mine happened when I landed my first job of #25000 Naira monthly as a call center representative in Abeokuta as a fresh graduate. I patiently waited for the first salary to be paid after an "on the job training (OJT)" exercise. My joy knew no bounds when I went to use WEMA bank's ATM at Lafenwa Abeokuta. When it got to my turn, I tried to withdraw 5K which was not successful, but I received a debit alert. All effort to get the 5k proved abortive after I followed it up. I then managed my remaining 20k for the month. On a different occasion, I went to the same WEMA bank ATM to withdraw a life-saving 1K, the same thing happened. After then, I swore not to use that ATM again.

Please feel free to share yours

Please Kindly Share Any Form Of Racism You Have Faced As An African Abroad

It's not all bed of roses studying overseas for Africans, especially Nigerians. We face different forms of racism in one way or the other. Nigerian students studying overseas lets please feel free to share the various forms of racism we have faced.

I am based in China and on so many occasions, some Chinese would rather prefer to stand than to sit next to an African on a public bus. The most annoying thing is that they worship Europeans and Americans.

Send me pictures of the interior

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Thank God

yarimo:

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Oluwasaeon:
Help you push what

Push that.

Why do ladies make it a big deal of surprise when their boyfriends engage them. Are they being hypocritical or what. I believe that two mature adults dating already know the direction they are going. This whole drama has to stop. Who is with me on this?


MOD please kindly help me push this to front page.

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